When servers use the word "we" for no good reason, it makes my skin crawl. "Are WE getting dessert this evening?" We aren't getting shit. Now bring me my cheesecake.
Note: I was a server for more of my life than not.
I got coffee and donuts this morning from Dunkin' Donuts and my decaf caramel latte was terrible. I told my husband I had to run out to target to grab last minute Christmas things, but it was really to get a Starbucks coffee without having him roll his eyes at me and tell me I am ridiculous. Walked around Target sipping my delicious beverage and he was none the wiser.
Married 12/17/2011 K born 8/31/12 C born 1/11/14 BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015 BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
My office is closed today in observance of the weekend (Christmas and Hanukkah). I figured "I'll send the kids to daycare for a 1/2 day so I can get last minute gift wrapping, holiday errands and shopping done". Well here I am... an hour before I told myself I need to leave for daycare pickup with just about nothing done. My pathetic ass is still sitting on the cough in my PJs, watching crap daytime TV, eating holiday cookies, bumping and just now starting to hit panic mode. 1 gift is wrapped of the 8 or so I had remaining. I didn't hit the grocery store or the retail store (damn Babies R Us never removed the magnetic tags from the clothing I bought my kids last week). I didn't finish the gifts for the teachers at daycare. I'm just so pathetic...
My daycare is closed today and so is DH's office, and I didn't have much going on yesterday afternoon, so I was like i'll "work" from home today and then take a half day because we need to pack for an early morning flight tomorrow. And then my boss's boss called me at 7am, the second I signed on, with 3 different fire drill scenarios that needed to be dealt with immediately, and my boss is on PTO this week. Sigh.
I may have told him that these fire drills would take longer than they actually did, because I spent an hour with DD this morning opening gifts (Santa had to come for her last night since we'll be gone starting tomorrow).
As a result, I have done zero packing for myself of DD for a week away. I did recently start the laundry so I guess that's good? Tonight is going to be stressful. Especially since I didn't do my morning workout in favor of an extra hour of sleep. Need to fit that in too. Ugh.
I just started Christmas shopping yesterday. I also loathe spending my hard earned cash on family members that annoy me. Like "here aunt Karen have a crappy chia pet because you can't quit running your mouth. Love you."
My FFFC is tame. But here it goes: I'm seriously considering buying the leachco back 'n belly maternity pillow even though I already have a snoogle mini and the back 'n belly is $90. Plus the whole thing where my husband and I sleep in a queen sized bed and it would probably take up half or more of the bed. But the snoogle mini just isn't cutting it.
My other FFFC is that my mother keeps insisting I "need" to tell my older brother and his wife that I'm pregnant and I have no intentions of doing so. They'll figure it out at some point. My SIL made some nasty comments to me while I was TTC like how she hoped I never had children because my children would steal attention from her children. Or how she really hoped that if I did get pregnant at some point it would be after she'd had #2 (even though I started TTC#1 before she started TTC#2) because it would be SO AWFUL for us to be pregnant at the time time because I'd steal all her attention. Oh OK thanks for wishing infertility on me. Really sweet of you. But whatever as long as I don't take your attention, right? She's pregnant with #2 at the moment with her EDD the second week of January. And there is NO WAY I'm telling her I'm pregnant at least until she has her baby and probably not even after that. And I totally don't even feel bad about it.
Me: 28 Husband: 31 TTC#1: January 2015- September 2016 Infertility, Recurrent Pregnancy Loss Rainbow baby born June 6, 2017 ❤️
@namelessaria your SIL...sounds like THE WORST. Ugh.
I don't know anything about the Leacho pregnancy pillow, but I will post a shout out to the Leacho Infant Lounger pillow. it is like $60+ compared to the Boppy Lounger at half the price, but it's the best thing we owned when DD was small. And it is adjustable and deep enough that she couldn't figure out how to roll out of it for 8 months. That Boppy Lounger didn't even last 3 - as soon as she was rolling back to belly, it was over. Highly recommend Leacho Infant Lounger for registry purposes...we're considering getting a second one so we'll have one on each floor now that we'll be spending more time upstairs (we have a reno project going on where we are creating a bonus/playroom up there, and DD's big girl bedroom will be up there as well).
@kassyfry Yes! I feel like I'm texting with 13 year olds and I have to keep checking Urban Dictionary or something.
My confession is that I have no motivation and have done no work this morning. If I didn't have to hoard vacation time for my maternity leave, I would not be here.
T-2 hours until the end of the school day and I feel like I am getting nothing done today (although I have actually been fairly productive in short spurts). Whoever's brilliant idea it was to schedule a full day of school on the last day before Christmas vacation (when that last day is a Friday and 2 days before Christmas) should be shot. We are getting out super early this year (as long as we have no snow days - which I'm sure there will be a few at least, I work in the Worcester hills in MA, and we always get a ton of snow). We should've had today off too.
I hate the abbreviations used on here. I just type all the words out. Hated them when I was in October 15 too.
Oh goodness, yes! I haven't looked it up on here, but on TK, the hardest acronyms to guess are the ones that aren't on the list. MOH, MIL, WP are pretty easy to guess. PPD is NOT, and if course, it's not on the list.
I wish that the husband wouldn't come home for lunch. It stresses me out and he always chooses to come home for lunch on days that I choose to order take out and then I get a lecture.
This is probably not flame-worthy here, but it definitely will be to others in my life. My husband is the pastor of our church, and I have zero intention of going to church on Christmas eve. It starts around dd's bedtime, and I do not compromise on bedtime, even for baby Jesus.
Saw this had been brought up on a different BMB, but I don't see the point in propagating the Santa Claus lie to my DS or any of my future children. I was PISSED when I found out, at 7, that Santa wasn't real. I just couldn't understand why adults I trusted would lie to me for so long and with such relish!
My DH adamantly wants to keep the tradition of Santa alive by teaching our kiddos about the North Pole, elves, reindeer, writing letters, leaving out cookies, etc., but I am having a hard time. I'd like to tell my kids from the jump that none of this is real, just like the Easter Bunny, but they should be respectful of other kids' belief in the jolly, gift giving man.
Andplusalso, as a Christian, I'm developing a growing concern over the focus at Christmastime in general. This forced gift giving seems to cause more stress and selfishness than is really called for.
ETA: I love Christmas! In case my content and tone suggest otherwise.
@Mtnmommy we are the same person! I never eat vegetables when my husband isn't home. He'll come home for lunch sometimes and offer me some carrots our something when he gets them out for himself, and I'm like.... ok, I guess I'll eat one or two.
my MIL is annoying at times but truly is a very good/generous person who is also extremely accomplished in her life. her biggest problem is that she has a super dysfunctional relationship with her twin sister who is.......not very well liked by me or my husband (or my FIL or my SIL...). she's somehow convinced my MIL that she (my MIL) is inferior and it really sucks to see the warped dynamic and how much my MIL does for her sister/her sister's kids and grandkids and how little (aka NOTHING) her sister does for my MIL's kids/grandkid. anyway, the sister has been a grandmother for many years now and my 1st is my MIL's first/only grandchild. my confession is that i am glad that our family is expanding and my MIL's world is revolving less around her sister's family/grandchildren and that i know that her sister is secretly seething that she isn't the sun and stars to my MIL anymore and its only going to get 'worse' for her when my second child is born.
We ordered pizza for dinner tonight. My FFFC is that I let my kids watch Paw Patrol with dinner because I know they take their time and don't eat as much overall when the TV is on, so there will be more pizza for me.
Spoke too soon; totally backfired. I turned off Paw Patrol and they both realized they are still hungry and want more pizza. So now not only do I not get extra pizza, but bedtime is going to be delayed so they don't go to bed hungry...
@MrsCaliRN Our daughter is only a toddler, so this is untested, but we have started to tell her about Santa as a fun Christmas story - like "On Christmas, we pretend that Santa comes down the chimney to leave gifts for everyone. Santa bring so generous reminds us that God is generous and loving to all the people in the world and that we can be generous and loving, too." We don't plan to hide talk of buying stocking stuffers from her and will clarify that it is just a fun pretend story if she asks, but we do plan to do stockings and read some stories about Santa and all that. I funny remember ever truly believing in Santa, but I still loved the tradition. We will also only do small things as Santa gifts, so the emphasis will hopefully not be so much on what she gets but on the fun of pretending and on trying to be generous ourselves. This year she is getting jumbo crayons, an orange, a new sippy cup, and a couple bath toys in her stocking. Maybe you and your husband could compromise to something similar?
@ellie111227 yes! Bedtime and nap time are sacred, and are not to be disturbed or compromised. My wrath is more fierce than God if they are!
My stupid confession. I don't think I've eaten a vegetable since Sunday.
Agreed. And I support your bedtime rules as well @ellie111227. My son has the same nap schedule and bedtime every day. I have had to have multiple discussions with my parents on why it is the way it is and why I won't adjust it. Not even for holidays. Not my fault you didn't parent my brother and I so I'm parenting my own son and you don't get it.
@NamelessAria My SIL is no gem either although better than yours. She has two boys, we have a boy, and her brother is having a little boy. This whole pregnancy all I have heard is "you'll never have a girl. We don't have girls in this family etc" She even saw an 9 week u/s and decided it was a boy because it looked like her son's u/s. By the way, I didn't really care one way or another. I thought it might be fun to experience a girl but was 100% cool with a boy again. Well, we are having a girl and a small part of me is like "YES, in your face it's a girl" just because I want her to be wrong, which is super petty.
Me: 34 DH: 35 Married: July 2009 BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013 Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016 3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3 First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
@NamelessAria My SIL is no gem either although better than yours. She has two boys, we have a boy, and her brother is having a little boy. This whole pregnancy all I have heard is "you'll never have a girl. We don't have girls in this family etc" She even saw an 9 week u/s and decided it was a boy because it looked like her son's u/s. By the way, I didn't really care one way or another. I thought it might be fun to experience a girl but was 100% cool with a boy again. Well, we are having a girl and a small part of me is like "YES, in your face it's a girl" just because I want her to be wrong, which is super petty.
I'd feel the same way!
When my mom was pregnant with me, there had already been several grandchildren, including my older sister, born into the family, and all had coincidentally been given first names that start with the same letter. My parents were at a party and someone started going on about how ALL the grandchildren are going to have x letter names and it's a TRADITION and OF COURSE all the grandchildren MUST HAVE x letter names. To which my dad responded "this child will NOT have an x name."
It broke the cycle (after all, it had been pure coincidence). My parents had an x letter name tentatively picked out for me, but they didn't use it. No grandchildren since have had names beginning with that letter.
@namelessaria The back n body pillow is massive. My poor hubs had to hold onto the edge of the bed he was left with last pregnancy. And sorry about your SIL. She sounds like a real peach!
@ellie111227 I love ALL of this! Defiently worth bringing up to DH because we'll need a game plan come Christmas 2017. DS is too young now to really know the difference (18 months).
Ugggggh... complicated families who are being dicks are so complicated!!! All I want is a damn drink and I can't have one. I'll just mow down this plate of Christmas cookies instead.
eta - this should have probably gone on the bitchfest link......
Re: FFFC time!!
We aren't getting shit. Now bring me my cheesecake.
Note: I was a server for more of my life than not.
My FFFC is very tame, but I work from home and have a lot of family here...I plan on doing the bare minimum to get through the day.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
My daycare is closed today and so is DH's office, and I didn't have much going on yesterday afternoon, so I was like i'll "work" from home today and then take a half day because we need to pack for an early morning flight tomorrow. And then my boss's boss called me at 7am, the second I signed on, with 3 different fire drill scenarios that needed to be dealt with immediately, and my boss is on PTO this week. Sigh.
I may have told him that these fire drills would take longer than they actually did, because I spent an hour with DD this morning opening gifts (Santa had to come for her last night since we'll be gone starting tomorrow).
As a result, I have done zero packing for myself of DD for a week away. I did recently start the laundry so I guess that's good? Tonight is going to be stressful. Especially since I didn't do my morning workout in favor of an extra hour of sleep. Need to fit that in too. Ugh.
My other FFFC is that my mother keeps insisting I "need" to tell my older brother and his wife that I'm pregnant and I have no intentions of doing so. They'll figure it out at some point. My SIL made some nasty comments to me while I was TTC like how she hoped I never had children because my children would steal attention from her children. Or how she really hoped that if I did get pregnant at some point it would be after she'd had #2 (even though I started TTC#1 before she started TTC#2) because it would be SO AWFUL for us to be pregnant at the time time because I'd steal all her attention. Oh OK thanks for wishing infertility on me. Really sweet of you. But whatever as long as I don't take your attention, right? She's pregnant with #2 at the moment with her EDD the second week of January. And there is NO WAY I'm telling her I'm pregnant at least until she has her baby and probably not even after that. And I totally don't even feel bad about it.
TTC#1: January 2015- September 2016
Infertility, Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
Rainbow baby born June 6, 2017 ❤️
Baby #2 due June 12, 2018
@namelessaria your SIL...sounds like THE WORST. Ugh.
I don't know anything about the Leacho pregnancy pillow, but I will post a shout out to the Leacho Infant Lounger pillow. it is like $60+ compared to the Boppy Lounger at half the price, but it's the best thing we owned when DD was small. And it is adjustable and deep enough that she couldn't figure out how to roll out of it for 8 months. That Boppy Lounger didn't even last 3 - as soon as she was rolling back to belly, it was over. Highly recommend Leacho Infant Lounger for registry purposes...we're considering getting a second one so we'll have one on each floor now that we'll be spending more time upstairs (we have a reno project going on where we are creating a bonus/playroom up there, and DD's big girl bedroom will be up there as well).
My confession is that I have no motivation and have done no work this morning. If I didn't have to hoard vacation time for my maternity leave, I would not be here.
#sorrynotsorry
hahahaha
I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one running low on motivation today.
My stupid confession. I don't think I've eaten a vegetable since Sunday.
My DH adamantly wants to keep the tradition of Santa alive by teaching our kiddos about the North Pole, elves, reindeer, writing letters, leaving out cookies, etc., but I am having a hard time. I'd like to tell my kids from the jump that none of this is real, just like the Easter Bunny, but they should be respectful of other kids' belief in the jolly, gift giving man.
Andplusalso, as a Christian, I'm developing a growing concern over the focus at Christmastime in general. This forced gift giving seems to cause more stress and selfishness than is really called for.
ETA: I love Christmas! In case my content and tone suggest otherwise.
Flame away!
Me: 31 DH: 34
Married 11/09/2013
LO#1: LMP 09/14/2014 BFP 10/15/2014 EDD 06/24/2015 DS Born 06/14/2015
LO#2: LMP 09/18/2016 BFP 10/19/2016 EDD 06/27/2017 DD Born 06/27/2017
LO#3: LMP 05/16/2018 BFP 06/18/2018 EDD 02/20/2019
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
*sigh* FAIL
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: July 2009
BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013
Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016
3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3
First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
When my mom was pregnant with me, there had already been several grandchildren, including my older sister, born into the family, and all had coincidentally been given first names that start with the same letter. My parents were at a party and someone started going on about how ALL the grandchildren are going to have x letter names and it's a TRADITION and OF COURSE all the grandchildren MUST HAVE x letter names. To which my dad responded "this child will NOT have an x name."
It broke the cycle (after all, it had been pure coincidence). My parents had an x letter name tentatively picked out for me, but they didn't use it. No grandchildren since have had names beginning with that letter.
Me: 31 DH: 34
Married 11/09/2013
LO#1: LMP 09/14/2014 BFP 10/15/2014 EDD 06/24/2015 DS Born 06/14/2015
LO#2: LMP 09/18/2016 BFP 10/19/2016 EDD 06/27/2017 DD Born 06/27/2017
LO#3: LMP 05/16/2018 BFP 06/18/2018 EDD 02/20/2019
All I want to say is....
Ugggggh... complicated families who are being dicks are so complicated!!! All I want is a damn drink and I can't have one. I'll just mow down this plate of Christmas cookies instead.
eta - this should have probably gone on the bitchfest link......