UO or maybe PO I'm not sure, I can't stand santimommies that tell me not to put my crying kid on Santa's lap. They are fine, it's cute, it's a keepsake they will love when they get older. No I'm not traumatizing them by making them sit 15 feet away from me for 30 seconds.
UO or maybe PO I'm not sure, I can't stand santimommies that tell me not to put my crying kid on Santa's lap. They are fine, it's cute, it's a keepsake they will love when they get older. No I'm not traumatizing them by making them sit 15 feet away from me for 30 seconds.
We circumcised DS to look like daddy, we are not his friend, we bought him way too many presents, and I enjoy other people's drama. Oh and I don't get fake Christmas trees.
As in you don't understand them, or you don't personally purchase them? Because I will say Christmas would suck in my house without a fake tree.
What happened to @Assiram42??? Did I miss something??
I don't know. But I'm shocked. I think she might have participated in closed the thread from July but I can't remember what she said. I did too and now I'm worried the Bump gods are going to get me. Also we got a thread closed.
What happened to @Assiram42??? Did I miss something??
I don't know. But I'm shocked. I think she might have participated in closed the thread from July but I can't remember what she said. I did too and now I'm worried the Bump gods are going to get me. Also we got a thread closed.
We circumcised DS to look like daddy, we are not his friend, we bought him way too many presents, and I enjoy other people's drama. Oh and I don't get fake Christmas trees.
As in you don't understand them, or you don't personally purchase them? Because I will say Christmas would suck in my house without a fake tree.
Fake trees are the best! I grew up with nowhere to cut a tree. So if you wanted one you had to buy it and it had to be shipped in. Which means it has an even shorter time in your house because of the extra time since being cut. Much cheaper in the long run to buy one fake tree than real ones every year. Plus, fake trees can stay up longer. Ours went up the weekend after thanksgiving and would stay up until a week or so after New Years. Plus, they don't shed needles everywhere.
This year, we have a real one because h and I live somewhere we can cut our one. I like it. But I'm still a fan of the ease of fake ones.
@sls@delujm0 penises are super easy. If you get a circumcision they require about a week or two of care to keep them clean but after that just wipe them off. No rules, girls are the tricky ones.
Me: 34 DH: 35 Married: July 2009 BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013 Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016 3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3 First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
@lovesclimbing Fake trees are the only option I have, as I'm deathly allergic to real Christmas trees. Almost all varieties of evergreens, really. Sucks because Christmas is my favorite holiday and I'd love to experience a real tree again.
In my original BMB we had a Trollin' Tuesdays thread where we hunted for and posted links to different drama threads from anywhere on TB. It was wonderful. Trollin' Tuesdays were my favorite.
I actually had a friend loose a baby girl in the late second trimester to listeria. Sent her spiraling into a deep depression. So...I'm pretty cautious. But I see what you mean.
I just want to applaud those who are using sex properly and not using gender interchangeably. Stay woke, June Moms!
This. Also sorry if you're sad that your kid pees standing up instead of sitting down or vice versa. Gtf over your petty bs. I'm just happy to be pregnant after a devestating loss recently.
I'm looking forward to the fb page being created. It tends to, although not immediately, weed out the crazy. My 11 group is awesome and it would be nice to have another group of moms going through the same things at the same time. I haven't been on the bump for 5 years and it's a completely different world now so it's been harder to connect.
I'm looking forward to the fb page being created. It tends to, although not immediately, weed out the crazy. My 11 group is awesome and it would be nice to have another group of moms going through the same things at the same time. I haven't been on the bump for 5 years and it's a completely different world now so it's been harder to connect.
Me too. I am so close to my O13 group. It still took some "adjustments", but I love these women with all my heart. I feel lost among so many people.
For those of you that have been a part of a fb group in the past, was the group completely private? If you are not technically "friends" with all of the members, how big are the security concerns if their access to your info is limited?
For those of you that have been a part of a fb group in the past, was the group completely private? If you are not technically "friends" with all of the members, how big are the security concerns if their access to your info is limited?
Yes completely private and secret. As long as your Facebook is locked down tight security-wise, you should be relatively fine.
What they said about security. Only decided to friend a few of the women that I really connected with. Otherwise, the members only have access to whatever FB info you have set for public. Also, as we have gotten close we have summoned the courage to meet in person. Some really great women!!
I was in a dark place after I had DD and couldn't handle some of the arguments so I left... Still regret that decision. I am still FB friends with a handful of my O14 mamas
For those of you that have been a part of a fb group in the past, was the group completely private? If you are not technically "friends" with all of the members, how big are the security concerns if their access to your info is limited?
Yep secret group. Some people choose to become actual fb friends but that's usually over time. There are still of ladies that I'm not personally fb friends with but we are still super close in the group. Some people connect and have playdates, meetup when visiting other areas, Birthday/Christmas exchanges etc. It isn't a "forced" type of space either. For example I participate in exchanges sometimes but not always, I've never met up with anyone, but can honestly say that there are ladies that would be there for me if I needed it. Like I said it's been 5 years of building (and not always drama free), but it is nice.
i don't think you should be having kids if you're going to be truly disappointed by the outcome of their sex. having a mild preference as a fleeting thought is fine, but having actual angst is selfish and gross. i think people who circumcise their kids are assholes and i'm 100% not interested in hearing the reasoning OR debating it even a tiny bit. i don't think there's such a thing as "too PC". people who complain about 'PC' are usually just not wanting to acknowledge/challenge their own privileges or biases. i'm not interested in being friends with any woman who doesn't identify as feminist. i'm not interested in being friends with or 'agreeing to disagree' with people who identify as conservative. especially on social issues.
@xath yeah because in my mind "being PC" isn't about being nice. most things people label as ~too PC~ are human rights issues... but i'm also fine with you thinking i'm a hypocrite because you don't care for my opinions.
@xath yeah because in my mind "being PC" isn't about being nice. most things people label as ~too PC~ are human rights issues... but i'm also fine with you thinking i'm a hypocrite because you don't care for my opinions.
?? I'll bite. I don't think you're a hypocrite; I was laughing at the juxtaposition in your post. I think you're clearly opinionated, and I question the wisdom of calling a good chunk of the population assholes because of decisions they make that have 0% to do with you or yours.
I also think it's a bit unfortunate that you want to isolate yourself from others because they have different viewpoints. That's how echo chambers have become so prevalent. IMO I'd rather engage with people from all viewpoints, widen my perspective, learn some things, and maybe sway some others' views.
Why are you here then, bar? Legit question. We aren't all like-minded women, if you only surround yourself with liberal feminists, what do you hope to get here? You know there's women you're likely not going to agree with.
I understand the common denominator is pregnancy, but we don't only discuss babies.
FWIW, I consider myself a fairly liberal feminist, but I don't only surround myself with like-minded people. Gah, what a circle jerk that would be.
i'm glad there are people like you out there, @xath, but i obviously do not feel like it is anybody else's obligation to educate others or try and change their minds...again...i am glad there are people who ARE willing to do that, but it isn't me. i personally don't feel isolated at all....there are plenty people in my immediate life and peripheral who i love and get along with well and who DO have extremely diverse backgrounds and opinions....i just tend to gravitate towards more towards relationships with new people that already have a similar foundation of beliefs (regarding social/political issues).
@Stankonia2014 because only like two of the community of women i am a part of are pregnant at the moment and none are due at the same time and its nice to have a place to compare symptoms?
also, its almost like i thought this was an 'unpopular opinions' thread or something before posting in it.... apparently its a 'sell yourself as everyone's new BFF' thread and i just misread.
@xath yeah because in my mind "being PC" isn't about being nice. most things people label as ~too PC~ are human rights issues... but i'm also fine with you thinking i'm a hypocrite because you don't care for my opinions.
Interesting... So me saying "merry Christmas" is a human rights issue and my labeling it as being "too pc" (based purely on people telling me I'm not being PC for saying it) is just a misrepresentation of the real issue. You are a fascinating indivual (especially all that other nonsense that I'm 99% confident you merely posted to stir shit up).
I can't even be mad at that insanity. It is far too amusing. Maybe if you had picked one hot button people would bite more? Ah well... Merry Christmas bar Italia!
i'm glad there are people like you out there, @xath, but i obviously do not feel like it is anybody else's obligation to educate others or try and change their minds...again...i am glad there are people who ARE willing to do that, but it isn't me. i personally don't feel isolated at all....there are plenty people in my immediate life and peripheral who i love and get along with well and who DO have extremely diverse backgrounds and opinions....i just tend to gravitate towards more towards relationships with new people that already have a similar foundation of beliefs (regarding social/political issues).
Perhaps babycenter is a better fit for you. Jusssayin'
@Stankonia2014 because only like two of the community of women i am a part of are pregnant at the moment and none are due at the same time and its nice to have a place to compare symptoms?
also, its almost like i thought this was an 'unpopular opinions' thread or something before posting in it.... apparently its a 'sell yourself as everyone's new BFF' thread and i just misread.
@ bar italia why are you bringing up the whole gender/sex disappointment thing again? Have we not beat that horse so dead he's in a bottle of elmers glue now? If you're not interesting in being friends with others who are different from you why are you here? You're not contributing to the esprit de corps with one sided views and posts that only seem to create hate and discontent. That is the beauty of this board, there is a plethora of knowledge here for our learning.
@Stankonia2014 because only like two of the community of women i am a part of are pregnant at the moment and none are due at the same time and its nice to have a place to compare symptoms?
also, its almost like i thought this was an 'unpopular opinions' thread or something before posting in it.... apparently its a 'sell yourself as everyone's new BFF' thread and i just misread.
Ummm, wow.
So many thoughts but I will just say: Did I miss where it said that no one was allowed to comment on your post? You knew you had some unpopular opinions and that's why you posted here - can you just not handle hearing that they actually are unpopular?
Me: 36; DH: 38 DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17! **TW** MMC & D&C Aug 2016
Re: Opinions of the Unpopular Variety
seconds.
This year, we have a real one because h and I live somewhere we can cut our one. I like it. But I'm still a fan of the ease of fake ones.
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: July 2009
BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013
Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016
3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3
First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
~Declare it..Claim it..It will be!!~
5/9/09
Here We Go Again!!
Also, as we have gotten close we have summoned the courage to meet in person. Some really great women!!
I was in a dark place after I had DD and couldn't handle some of the arguments so I left... Still regret that decision. I am still FB friends with a handful of my O14 mamas
~Declare it..Claim it..It will be!!~
5/9/09
Here We Go Again!!
i don't think you should be having kids if you're going to be truly disappointed by the outcome of their sex. having a mild preference as a fleeting thought is fine, but having actual angst is selfish and gross.
i think people who circumcise their kids are assholes and i'm 100% not interested in hearing the reasoning OR debating it even a tiny bit.
i don't think there's such a thing as "too PC". people who complain about 'PC' are usually just not wanting to acknowledge/challenge their own privileges or biases.
i'm not interested in being friends with any woman who doesn't identify as feminist.
i'm not interested in being friends with or 'agreeing to disagree' with people who identify as conservative. especially on social issues.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
I also think it's a bit unfortunate that you want to isolate yourself from others because they have different viewpoints. That's how echo chambers have become so prevalent. IMO I'd rather engage with people from all viewpoints, widen my perspective, learn some things, and maybe sway some others' views.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
I understand the common denominator is pregnancy, but we don't only discuss babies.
FWIW, I consider myself a fairly liberal feminist, but I don't only surround myself with like-minded people. Gah, what a circle jerk that would be.
also, its almost like i thought this was an 'unpopular opinions' thread or something before posting in it.... apparently its a 'sell yourself as everyone's new BFF' thread and i just misread.
I can't even be mad at that insanity. It is far too amusing. Maybe if you had picked one hot button people would bite more? Ah well... Merry Christmas bar Italia!
@bar Italia isn't PC or a feminist so she doesn't even like herself?!? It's so sad!
@ bar italia why are you bringing up the whole gender/sex disappointment thing again? Have we not beat that horse so dead he's in a bottle of elmers glue now? If you're not interesting in being friends with others who are different from you why are you here? You're not contributing to the esprit de corps with one sided views and posts that only seem to create hate and discontent. That is the beauty of this board, there is a plethora of knowledge here for our learning.
So many thoughts but I will just say: Did I miss where it said that no one was allowed to comment on your post? You knew you had some unpopular opinions and that's why you posted here - can you just not handle hearing that they actually are unpopular?
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016