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First baby! 4 weeks pregnant! I can't tell anyone yet!

megan3456megan3456 member
in August 2017 Moms
Hi guys!



So, I'm officially 4 weeks along, missed AF today, have had loads of symptoms the past week or so, had BFPs 3 days in a row now.


I'm too nervous to tell anyone I know yet, because I want to make sure my bean sticks in there long enough. Even my boyfriend doesn't know. I seriously still temp and check for AF so often throughout the day bc I'm scared of MC/chem 

BUT I'M SO EXCITED! And backachey, tired, dizzy, painful boobs, confused bladder, horribly constipated, headaches, and MOOD SWINGS. 

^ Seriously, I cried in the grocery store over a shitty looking cake while saying "it's so beautiful". Man, do I wake up angry from some vivid dreams, I am touchy.

This is only day 3 of knowing and I don't feel comfortable telling people I know yet! Internet gals, chat with me! Laugh, cry, complain, whatever you want just TALK to me, I need to relate to someone!
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Re: First baby! 4 weeks pregnant! I can't tell anyone yet!

  • chayamoskochayamosko member
    Congrats momma! Not sure what your relationship is like, but I would tell your BF if I were you... 
    I am also really early 4w3d and it is really hard to keep it in! This is my second, my son is 12 months old and the cutest and most hyperactive kid on the planet! 
    I try not to say anything until 13 weeks, but it was obvious with me last pregnancy because I had severe HG :'( 
    I hope you have an easy pregnancy! 
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  • merrypottermerrypotter member
    I definitely understand you not wanting to tell anyone just yet, I'm the same way. I want to wait until I at least start showing before announcing. I'd at the very least tell your bf though! Just having someone to talk to about it out loud and vent about any anxieties or symptoms may help :) I know having someone to talk to helps me. 
    Congratultions on the pregnancy and I wish a happy and healthy one for you! 
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  • megan3456megan3456 member
    Just worried about telling him, because this was a surprise, and he is already so stressed about his finances. So, I don't want to freak him out if it's a MC or chem.

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  • megan3456megan3456 member
    Thank you <3
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  • merrypottermerrypotter member
    My husband gets like that, too. Before we started trying for this baby, I had to actually list out all of our bills and what we bring in each month just to show him that we can do this. It helped for him to see a "plan". Maybe you and your bf can come up with a plan together. I sincerely hope you have a healthy and full term baby, but in the very unfortunate event of a MC/Chemical pregnancy I would hate for you to have to go through that hurt alone. :( it is totally your choice, do what's best for you :)  <3
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  • megan3456megan3456 member
    "made up drama" Excuse me? That's rude.
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  • megan3456megan3456 member
    You're all being very rude. Yes, /he/ doesn't think it will happen right away.

    And like you've never cried over something stupid.

    If someone, especially someone new to this, asks for comfort and you all turn "real house wives of thebump" on her, that's messed up. Hopefully no one was that mean to you during your first.
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  • knottiee689565f63838b35knottiee689565f63838b35 member
    I think we're all just confused because you say you were temping like you were ttc but then you say it was a surprise and make it seem like your bf won't be happy about this. What if it does end in an MC and you didn't tell him and you'll have to tell him why you're upset? 
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  • megan3456megan3456 member
    Because of his current financial situation, he's stressed right now. Which makes me worry that now he won't want this baby. Hence why I'm talking to strangers on the internet, because I can't tell anyone else. If I do MC, I still won't tell him, and talk to women online who've had one as well.
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  • megan3456megan3456 member
    So I'm supposed to pretend I don't have certain symptoms just because some of you don't have them? There's no point in me doing that. I already said I'm here to relate to women, not get your sympathy. I just wanted to talk to someone who's been there and mutually agree "that sucks, maybe here's a tip for preg-safe back pain relief".
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  • jacksonbearsjacksonbears member
    from someone who had a chemical/early MC - i would advise you to tell our BF either way. If the unfortunate event of a MC happens, and lets say it continues to happen, you'll need fertility assistance and not sure how your bf would feel if thats how he found out.

    but let's hope that's not the case, congrats on your bfp...
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  • megan3456megan3456 member
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  • megan3456megan3456 member
    Why does it matter if someone starts a new thread....? Isn't that better than hijacking someone else's thread?

    I JUST found out and joined a couple days ago, sorry if I haven't had much time to comment on other posts yet.

    Nah, I think I'm good on that one, although this group seems so welcoming! *eyeroll*

    Hope everyone has healthy pregnancies, and happy holidays.
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  • NxyNxy member
    edited December 2016
    I tried so hard to gif the troll in the dungeon gif..
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  • FeliciosityFeliciosity member
    I'm am deeply concerned at the rudeness and judgement happening here.

    I would hope that since a lot of you are mothers-to-be, or mothers already, that you would be aware of the dangerous increase in bullying via chat boards and social media.

    I had gathered that this was a support board. If people don't have something nice or supportive to say, don't say anything at all. There is no need for some of these responses.

    @chayamosko @toniherdt @jacksonbears Thank you for your kind words.

    @megan3456 I agree that you should probably find a way to tell your bf. Pregnancy is a highly emotional thing and it helps SO MUCH to have someone to relate to face-to-face. This is my first pregnancy and I tried holding off from telling my husband initially, but my symptoms started getting hard to deal with, so I ended up telling him sooner and it was such a help to me. Congrats! I wish you health and happiness! :smile:
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  • CaitS07CaitS07 member
    Feliciosity said:
    I'm am deeply concerned at the rudeness and judgement happening here.

    I would hope that since a lot of you are mothers-to-be, or mothers already, that you would be aware of the dangerous increase in bullying via chat boards and social media.

    I had gathered that this was a support board. If people don't have something nice or supportive to say, don't say anything at all. There is no need for some of these responses.

    @chayamosko @toniherdt @jacksonbears Thank you for your kind words.

    @megan3456 I agree that you should probably find a way to tell your bf. Pregnancy is a highly emotional thing and it helps SO MUCH to have someone to relate to face-to-face. This is my first pregnancy and I tried holding off from telling my husband initially, but my symptoms started getting hard to deal with, so I ended up telling him sooner and it was such a help to me. Congrats! I wish you health and happiness! :smile:
    Did you not yourself add fuel to this fire by calling it MUD in the first place?
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  • CaitS07CaitS07 member
    Sorry, called out the wrong person. 
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