I was dreaming about having a miscarriage when I woke up I was spotting blood I went to the ER I was freaking out I even told the nurse everything from my dream every detail even the nurse was the same from my dream it was a male nurse he looked at me like I was crazy I told him everything they were going to do I even described the doctor that was gana see me the nurse was in shock cause everything I told him happen down to the doctor name I never even met the doctor before
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Re: Weekly Randoms 12.05.2016
@wegme27 ::hugs:: Sorry mama
H is getting annoyed with me I think because I'm kind of hogging the LO. I know he doesn't get to spend a ton of time with her during the week and it makes him sad when I don't let him help more with soothing her or with getting her to bed. I do feel bad about it, but I wish he would see where I'm coming from. I never get a break, I'm with her 24/7, he doesn't get up at night with her or anything. I'm not complaining, but come the end of the day I just want to solve the issue as quickly as possible... if he can't get her to calm down then I'm 20 mins behind on getting her to sleep or settled so I can make dinner, etc. I appreciate where he's coming from... I just hope he does the same. I'm not trying to be mean! Anyone else had/have a similar issue?
With this LO, FI didn't really bond with him until fairly recently, so I've been having the opposite problem until about a week ago. He didn't want to hold Johnny or anything. He would change his diaper if I asked and what not, but if it wasn't reauested, he didn't go out of his way to help out or hold him. He's started holding him and playing with him now that he is bigger, smiles, and coos. I think before he was just scared, Johnny had some health issues after delivery for a while and I think that made him extra fragile in FI's eyes.
DS #1 11/08/10
DS #2 due 10/20/16
SS has a fractured wrist- He fell out of a tree while playing with my 13-year-old sister, and 10 and 12-year-old nephews, and my sister-in-law witnessed the incident. SS claims that FI "got drunk and broke his arm". Despite witnesses, caseworkers are IGNORING the EVIDENCE we have of that statement being false.
It took 3 days for him to go to the doctor for his wrist- after he fell out of the tree, there was no bruising, no swelling, after he iced it for 20 minutes he asked to go back outside to play, and did. We had NO reason to believe it was anything more than sore from the fall. Bio-mom picked him up the next day, SS seemed fine until he slept with his arm behind his back and woke up in pain. Bio-mom took him to doctor, we have her messages from when she said she was doing so.
Bio-mom has a longer list of allegations against her, but those above are the two that affect our household, and all the ones in the documents are bold faced lies. We don't understand why he is doing this- he has been in trouble many times for lying and 'telling stories' and stealing. He has a diagnosed impulse disorder, where he KNOW when he is lying and stealing and knows that it's wrong, but he "can't help it". This is just the most severe extent he has gone to, and his disorder is also being ignored... they won't let any of see him or talk to him because "he gets physically ill when they discuss visitation and he is terrified of his parents". I know this boy, I know he is an actor and a manipulator and he cares more about his own feelings and image than anything else (not unlike many children, but to extremes), I can tell he has dug himself too deep into this lie to admit the truth because I've been in this situation with him before, just under different circumstances. FI and bii-mom are hurt. Bio-mom isn't evenough fighting for custody back and thinks he needs to put back under our care, with his counselors from last year who know him and know how he is.
I know it's a crappy situation, and I'm not trying to overlook that at all. I'm just trying to find a bright side here.
I love FI and I love SS- I have researched the most effective course of action, am implementing it, and I am confident the leg work I am currently putting in will get SS put back in our care (I say "I" because while FI is at work, I come up with plans, discuss them with him while he's home, then execute them because due to his work hours he simply CAN'T put in the time that I can.)
That being said- after all of the lies SS has told about my family, risking our other children children being taken away from us, and even getting my ex-husband involved with this case too, I am haboring some resentment towards him now. I realize he has a condition and that he can't control himself (allegedly), but I am kind of on the same page as his bio-mom in that since he is the oldest child in our household, he is the example my other children have to look up to and quite frankly, that scares the shit out of me now...
I am and will continue to fight CPS for this child because I love him and FI (at this point it's mostly for FI's sake though) and ultimately he belongs HERE with us, we have the structure, stability, and resources that he NEEDS and furthermore his counselors who know him, but I think it will take time to shake this resentment. I won't act on, he is only a child- but I can't help that I feel it. When we DO get him back, because I'm confident we will, I think he needs extra counseling to work on his 'impulses'.
I would never treat him differently than my own biological children, and I DO love him. I feel so guilty for having negative feelings towards him right now, but it hurts... He broke his father's heart and betrayed our family, how am I supposed to feel? I feel really torn. I feel like this is wrong of me, but at the same time that it's not. We all certainly need family counseling to deal with this once it's said and done, and I'm am actually thankful it will without doubt be court ordered. I don't even have anybody else to talk to about this aside from you all, my Internet friends
I'm going to see if CPS will let his old counselor talk to him and see if she can let him know he won't be punished if he tells the truth, and get him to talk. We all just want to move on and get over this.
@AllyTheKid I'm so sorry you are dealing with such a difficult situation. I have no good advice, but am sending good thoughts to you and your family.
Any suggestions would help .
P.S. none of kids were this big at 2 months