Stop telling me that I won't know how hard things are until my son is home. My child is in the hospital, away from us. That is hard, painful, and breaks our hearts he can't be home. So fuck off.
Stop telling me that I am lucky I get a chance to sleep, or that I should sleep while I can. I'm pumping, and when I'm not pumping I get restless sleep because I miss my son.
Stop minimizing my birth experience. Stop telling me to get over it, be thankful, to focus my energies on the positive, or whatever. Let me grieve. I'm NOT over it. Just because you are uncomfortable with my experience doesn't mean that ignoring it will make my feelings go away.
Stop telling me Ashton "looks fine." You don't know how hard we are working to help him gain weight. You haven't seen the wires, blood draws, bilirubin lights, the isolettes, none of it. He may look "fine," but rest assured he is a preemie and vulnerable.
Stop trying to be an expert of MY child when you haven't walked in my shoes.
Stop telling me how lucky I am I didn't have to experience the entire third trimester. I have definitely felt a sense of loss I couldn't carry to term.
Feeling angsty right now.
This. 10000000% this. So many hugs to you @dmontgo
I know I'm a later due date in this group but anyone getting the "I bet you hope he's early for that tax deduction" EDD 12/30. I don't really care about the money. A week early would be nice bc DH will have more time off with me in December than January. It would be nice to not be hungry all the time (GD), but the tax deduction... least of my concerns.
I have told people at work at work who ask every single day how I'm feeling. If I go one day without throwing up I will come in and tell EVERYONE! You won't even have to ask.
When i told FIL that baby is head down, "well let's hope he doesn't pull a DH and flip at the last minute". Thanks, first thing that is actually going right in this pregnancy, let's just make it negative. Again talking to FIL about GD and he says we didn't know all of this before and babies were perfectly healthy. What about those babies that were lost at/after birth from "unknown causes". I'm miserable, and I'm doing this all for your grandson. Could you please shut up about the negativity!
@BenNSarah yes!! but I always come back with that it doesn't matter because if they're born in 2016- tax deduction, but if born in 2017- free medical deductible for the year which is almost the same!! Ha. ( I actually would be better off to have mine in 2017 as put maternity leave policy is better then, but since it's twins, that won't happen)
I joke he needs to be here before the 1st for the deduction. Not that I'd actually do anything to force it (even if I could). But FIL likes to remind us it doesn't matter. You get the same number of years either way. You're just taking it now instead of in 18 or so years.
@tinattt23 I would imagine we'd have some pretty significant educational credits in 18 years anyway I think you can continue to take the deduction while they are in college? who knows the tax code could be completely different by then!
Me: 38, DH: 36 Married Jan 2008 DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18" so in love Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
Re: What you really want to say...
Sorry. I've had that in my arsenal since August and have been dying to use it.
Me:27 H:30
Till death do us part: 7.2.2011
Trying to conceive since 01.2014
Low AFC and azoospermia
IVF #1 03.2016 - BFP 03.28.2016
Due: 12.05.2016
I have told people at work at work who ask every single day how I'm feeling. If I go one day without throwing up I will come in and tell EVERYONE! You won't even have to ask.
When i told FIL that baby is head down, "well let's hope he doesn't pull a DH and flip at the last minute". Thanks, first thing that is actually going right in this pregnancy, let's just make it negative. Again talking to FIL about GD and he says we didn't know all of this before and babies were perfectly healthy. What about those babies that were lost at/after birth from "unknown causes". I'm miserable, and I'm doing this all for your grandson. Could you please shut up about the negativity!
Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18"
Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18"
Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020