Haha yep, I was just thinking about how anxious I am. This will be the first child of the next generation in our family... so I'm interested to see reactions.
Lurking from May, but I'm on the cusp of groups with a due date of May 29th. I've already told a lot of people, but I'm excited to tell my grandparents who live in Florida today! *TW loss mentioned* I waited to tell them because we had 2 prior losses and I didn't want them to get their hopes up. But being at week 13 and hearing the heartbeat yesterday, I'm feeling really confident that this will be our take home baby! *end TW*
I'm considering announcing on facebook, but I'm not sure. On the one hand, it was hard for me to see facebook announcements when I was going through my TTC struggles, but I also get excited to see people's big life events (engagements, babies, moving, etc).
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
We told our family and close friends when I hit 12 weeks last weekend. But please tell me... I don't know this stuff since this is my first pregnancy, but how many weeks along do people usually go public? I've never been pregnant, or had a loss before, so I don't really know how all this works. I'm reading that some of you are announcing publicly as early as 10 weeks? But I thought it was safer to wait until 16+ weeks though? I thought I should wait until my 18 week anatomy scan but maybe I'm being too overly cautious?
***BFP & Child Warning***
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014 IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17 FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
It all depends on how you feel this is my first as well and I have ready a lot of people just wait until around 13 weeks after the first trimester it just depends on the person but what you want!
@wifeinraleigh28 My sister announced on fb at about 6 weeks or so I believe. She lives her life on there, so ymmv. I also know people who seemed to suddenly have infants. I personally want to wait a while, but I'm8+4 so who knows how I'll feel later!
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
@wifeinraleigh28 I think week 12 is traditionally "show and tell week". Your uterus starts to pop over your pubic bone creating a little bump and you tell friends/family. I waited until 12 weeks with my first. I'll be 13 weeks on Saturday and am announcing to my family today. But really, it's just a personal choice like PP said.
We told our kids this morning and DD, who is 6, was SO excited! Being PGAL I have had a hard time getting excited and her reaction made it so much more real! All day she kept coming over to my belly and patting it saying, "hi baby!!" DS was excited but he doesn't get it quite the same as DD. Then we knew that we could just let DD loose with the news as people arrived and she didn't disappoint. As each person arrive she would say, MY MOMMY IS HAVING A BABY!!!! And then the person would round the corner like "what?! Was she serious?!" It was great. The perfect way to share the news this time around!
Me: 36; DH: 38 DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17! **TW** MMC & D&C Aug 2016
@JAGinMI - Thats adorable. We told the family and have talked about it openly but haven't really told our 4yr old or 2yr old (they are pretty clueless, bless their hearts) yet because we want to "publicly" announce in a couple weeks and I know they both will totally blow up our spot.
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DS #1 born 05/25/2012 BFP#2: 06/12/2013 ---- loss DS #2 born 4/08/2014 BPF#4: 2/1/2016 --- 2/23/2016 suspected molar pregnancy--- 3/15/2016 D&E - diagnosis MM BFP#5 - 9/22/2016 * formally bornmommy
Announced at my family's big dinner. Put DD in her Big Sister shirt after a diaper change and told my sister to come in to help us. At first she didn't notice the wardrobe change so my Mr asks "do you think this shirt fits her?" my sister realized, got super excited, and started sobbing with joy. It was a perfect moment!
Then my sis took DD out to show the whole family right before we sat down to eat. So much love and joy!! And so many tears. It was wonderful!
Now we do it all over for the Mr's side on Saturday.
We posted yesterday on fb. I was so anxious afterward though thinking I was jinxing something. PGAL brain is crazy. We are telling the last set of grandparents today (they have zero Facebook so haven't seen it yet). I just made this picture to post.
My announcement was full of tears it was great. We played a game for my parents and they had no idea what was going on until we finished so everything went as planned.
@wifeinraleigh28 we only told our parents being not even 10 weeks. I do feel very nervous as I haven't seen LO in two weeks and have my next u/s monday. The plan is to tell everyone for Christmas and I will be 14 weeks at that point.
@Elizabethsbp I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious daughter. I cannot even imagine how difficult that must have been. Which did you end up using to announce? I loved the blanket and the photo of your daughter next to the text of her announcing she's going to be a big sister. I'm sure whatever you did was wonderful.
Me: 28 Husband: 31 TTC#1: January 2015- September 2016 Infertility, Recurrent Pregnancy Loss Rainbow baby born June 6, 2017 ❤️
@rmarble23 I get so nervous in between scans too, and my next ultrasound won't even be until I'm 18 weeks! (anatomy scan). My last scan was at 11 weeks, so that's a really big gap. On Wednesday we get to listen to the heartbeat at my prenatal appointment though at least. I know I'm probably safe at this point (13 weeks) but I still get nervous about letting the world know.
***BFP & Child Warning***
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014 IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17 FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
Loving all the pics/stories. Due to our history we won't be announcing until/unless we get good news back from our NIPT. Hoping we'll be able to do a Christmas announcement. In the meantime, keep these stories coming please!
Me: 38 l DH: 41 Gavin - 8/27/10 *TW* Gabriel - 2nd tri loss 5/17/16 Trisomy 18 & 21 Hope - 2nd tri loss 12/7/16 complications from pneumonia
@wifeinraleigh28, I think the right time to announce is really individual. Having gone through a loss that very public due to how far along i was, I think of it like this- anyone I would want know if I had a miscarriage, I tell early. We told one of my brothers the weekend we found out, my parents shortly after that, and a few friends around seven or eight weeks. We know that those are the people whose support we would want if anything went wrong. Obviously something tragic can happen later in a pregnancy, but it is most likely before 10-12 weeks. If we have a healthy heartbeat at my 13 week appointment, and knowing that NIPT came back clear, we will tell the rest of the family after that. My dh is a pastor, and concerned church people really annoy me during a pregnancy, so I will wait to go totally public until I am showing too much to hide it, but that is just personal circumstance lol.
We're telling extended family at Thanksgiving and then will probably go ahead and throw it on Facebook as well. We'll be 10 wks on Friday, but after hearing the heartbeat and seeing baby move around last Friday, I feel like we can go ahead and tell everyone.
Please tell me you're from NE? (Not to be super creepy or anything, but I felt like the lone Nebraskan.)
I totally missed this @Assiram42! Yes! We're lifelong Nebraskans!! Glad to have someone else from The Good Life here!
Our families were sooooo excited when they saw DS's shirt! A lot of our family members said they've been wondering for a while now when we were going to add to our clan. My dad's side took a whole hour and a half before someone noticed the shirt so my parents and brothers were cracking up. It was so fun.
We told our extended families on Thanksgiving and just announced on FB today. It does make me nervous to have it out there in the world now. I had an 11 week ultrasound that went great but I still can't help but worry. My next ultrasound isn't until January 25th. So that's a long stretch of not seeing what's going on in there!
We told my siblings, grandparents, and aunts & uncles on Thanksgiving (our parents already knew). I'll probably wait til 12 weeks to announce on social media, if I do that at all.
We announced to family while playing a hilarious game called "Speak Out."
Today we announced on FB with this picture and the caption, "We are officially upgrading to the six person ornament from here on out, and we couldn't be more thrilled!
We didn't announce on Thanksgiving because we wanted to tell DH's family in person. However we traveled to NJ and were able to share the news on Black Friday. So on Sunday we nervously shared with the world.
Re: Announcing on Thanksgiving?
I'm considering announcing on facebook, but I'm not sure. On the one hand, it was hard for me to see facebook announcements when I was going through my TTC struggles, but I also get excited to see people's big life events (engagements, babies, moving, etc).
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
DS #1 born 05/25/2012
BFP#2: 06/12/2013 ---- loss
DS #2 born 4/08/2014
BPF#4: 2/1/2016 --- 2/23/2016 suspected molar pregnancy--- 3/15/2016 D&E - diagnosis MM
BFP#5 - 9/22/2016
* formally bornmommy
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
BFP: 9/29
I also know people who seemed to suddenly have infants.
I personally want to wait a while, but I'm8+4 so who knows how I'll feel later!
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
DS #1 born 05/25/2012
BFP#2: 06/12/2013 ---- loss
DS #2 born 4/08/2014
BPF#4: 2/1/2016 --- 2/23/2016 suspected molar pregnancy--- 3/15/2016 D&E - diagnosis MM
BFP#5 - 9/22/2016
* formally bornmommy
my sister realized, got super excited, and started sobbing with joy. It was a perfect moment!
Then my sis took DD out to show the whole family right before we sat down to eat. So much love and joy!! And so many tears. It was wonderful!
Now we do it all over for the Mr's side on Saturday.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
@wifeinraleigh28 we only told our parents being not even 10 weeks. I do feel very nervous as I haven't seen LO in two weeks and have my next u/s monday. The plan is to tell everyone for Christmas and I will be 14 weeks at that point.
@Elizabethsbp I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious daughter. I cannot even imagine how difficult that must have been. Which did you end up using to announce? I loved the blanket and the photo of your daughter next to the text of her announcing she's going to be a big sister. I'm sure whatever you did was wonderful.
TTC#1: January 2015- September 2016
Infertility, Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
Rainbow baby born June 6, 2017 ❤️
Baby #2 due June 12, 2018
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
Gavin - 8/27/10
*TW*
Gabriel - 2nd tri loss 5/17/16 Trisomy 18 & 21
Hope - 2nd tri loss 12/7/16 complications from pneumonia
Gavin - 8/27/10
*TW*
Gabriel - 2nd tri loss 5/17/16 Trisomy 18 & 21
Hope - 2nd tri loss 12/7/16 complications from pneumonia
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
Married: June 2014
DS Born 6/22/17
Today we announced on FB with this picture and the caption, "We are officially upgrading to the six person ornament from here on out, and we couldn't be more thrilled!
Married 7/11/09 TTC #1 Since 05/10
BFP #1 09/20/10 Natural m/c 10/05/10
BFP! #2 04/21/11... Beta 16 DPO: 437, 18 DPO:1446 Ultrasound 6w6d TWINS!
Annabel & Sophia Born 11/28/11 at 34w6d
BFP #3 10/4/16... Beta 13 DPO: 145, 15 DPO: 367 12/1/16 It's a GIRL!
This is was our social media announcement.
ETA: words
DH: 35 | Me: 29
BFP #1- 07.25.12, EDD: 03.24.13, DD born 03.26.13
Surprised BFP #2- 02.25.15, EDD: 10/29/15 |*m/c 7w4d, D&C 04.02.2015
BFP #3- 01.21.16, EDD: 09.29.26 |*m/c-blighted ovum 2.19.16 8w1d, D&C 03.04.16
BFP #4- 05.24.16, EDD: 02.04.17 |*natural m/c- 07.08.16, 9w1d
BFP #5- 09/25/16, EDD: 06.07.17 GROW, BABY, GROW!
MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks)
DD: Born 8/22/14
Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17
And my other love: writing