Fight during 7th month

jenny_ · November 2016

Hi everyone I am 24 years old and pregnant to my 1st. I had a very intense fight earlier today with my husband and now I feel very anxious..
Could anybody tell me if and how this affects my baby? Thanks

Gretchypoo · November 2016

Hi Jenny, Did someone hit or push you? Are you somewhere safe now?

varimama · November 2016

If you were physically harmed then please seek out medical attention and get somewhere safe if you aren't already. If it was just verbal then try to relax (I know easier said than done). While I've read that stress and anxiety aren't good for babies it's just a fact of life that stressful things happen when you are pregnant and babies are quite resilient so your baby will be OK. Do you have someone you can talk to? Many employers offer EAP (Employee assistance programs) which often offer free counselling sessions or a hotline number you can call to talk to a counselor.

Spicyweiner · November 2016

jenny_ said:

Hi everyone I am 24 years old and pregnant to my 1st. I had a very intense fight earlier today with my husband and now I feel very anxious..
Could anybody tell me if and how this affects my baby? Thanks

Like an argument?

jenny_ · November 2016

Well, yes it was more like an argument. My husband just grabed my hand, nothing more. He wouldn't hit me of course. I 'm mostly asking because it was pretty intense we were both yelling and my heart was beating too fast.

Gretchypoo · November 2016

@jenny_ I've never seen you on here before and don't recognize your sn. So I don't know if your husband would or wouldn't hit you. That being said, if you are concerned about the effects of your argument talk to your dr. No one here can answer that question for you.

Also, know that the time a woman is most at risk for domestic violence is when she is pregnant. If you need someone to talk to or if you and H are fighting a lot, here is a number to the national domestic violence hotline. 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

Here are signs of abuse:

Telling you that you can never do anything right
Showing jealousy of your friends and time spent away
Keeping you or discouraging you from seeing friends or family members
Insulting, demeaning or shaming you with put-downs
Controlling every penny spent in the household
Taking your money or refusing to give you money for expenses
Looking at you or acting in ways that scare you
Controlling who you see, where you go, or what you do
Preventing you from making your own decisions
Telling you that you are a bad parent or threatening to harm or take away your children
Preventing you from working or attending school
Destroying your property or threatening to hurt or kill your pets
Intimidating you with guns, knives or other weapons
Pressuring you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with
Pressuring you to use drugs or alcohol

kswiger06 · November 2016

I think @Gretchypoo nailed it. Sure some of us may have experienced stressful verbal and/or physical altercations, however you are the only one who knows the truth and depth. In the end you are the only one who can help yourself if it is a bad situation. I do wish you luck.

fourPsinapod · November 2016

+1 to everything PPs said. OP, are you in a safe place now?

jenny_ · November 2016

Yes, fourPsinapod thank you for your interest. I ll definately talk with my dr about the incident. Hope everybody stays cool and relaxed from now on. Anxienty and stress don't really fit situations like this. We 've got to do our best for our babies first! Thanks everybody for your help!

kswiger06 · November 2016

jenny_ said:

Yes, fourPsinapod thank you for your interest. I ll definately talk with my dr about the incident. Hope everybody stays cool and relaxed from now on. Anxienty and stress don't really fit situations like this. We 've got to do our best for our babies first! Thanks everybody for your help!

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