So even though I'm eschewing etiquette, I do have a question. There's a group of 5 of us from college who are really close--they were in my wedding, etc. Should I invite the two who live far away and won't come (the other two live an hour away from the shower location)? I don't want to seem gift grabby (though they will probably get me a gift regardless of shower attendance) but I also don't want them to feel like they weren't invited, because if they chose to come I'd be thrilled (one definitely won't, she lives across the country). Thoughts?
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@kitkat8387 My cousins-in-law (is that a thing?), claws... anyway.... they moved from NJ to FL around the time they were planning their wedding. They had their shower up in NJ but asked people to give them gift cards instead of gifts since it would be a bear to ship it home. Just come to Jersey for a party!
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I had friends who lived out of town/state and I still chose to send them an invite. To me, its less "gift grabby" and more of "i'm thinking about you, wish you were here". If my gf from Colorado didn't send me an invite for her shower, I'd feel excluded. I'd rather have an invitation and have the option of sending a gift, rather than feeling excluded.
@catem07 Invite them anyway. A baby shower isn't a summons, and it would be a nice surprise if they were able to attend. I've never felt obligated to send a gift to a baby shower that I couldn't attend, but it is definitely nice to feel remembered/included even if it's pretty obvious that you won't be able to attend.
@catem07 I'm with everyone else - go ahead and invite! When I get an invite and I know I can't attend the shower I'm just flattered that they thought of me and they wished I could be there. I will do the same for some friends that live several hours away - totally not expecting them to make the trip, but it would be a wonderful surprise if they did!
@catem07 I agree to just invite rather than have them feel left out when they see pics later...you can always text or write and just tell them you know they probably can't come but wanted them to share in your journey.
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@catem07 Yes, just like everyone else said invite them. My best friend and the MOH from my wedding moved clear across the country a few years ago (we're talking an 8 hour flight and at least one layover because there are no direct flights). We still invited her because she is one of the most important people in my life and I would have loved for her to be there. She couldn't attend (which was expected) but she told me that it meant the world for her to be invited and if she could have made the trip work she would have been there in a heartbeat.
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I had friends who lived out of town/state and I still chose to send them an invite. To me, its less "gift grabby" and more of "i'm thinking about you, wish you were here". If my gf from Colorado didn't send me an invite for her shower, I'd feel excluded. I'd rather have an invitation and have the option of sending a gift, rather than feeling excluded.
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17