“I’m adopting!” and "I'm fostering"
Are you thinking about adopting/fostering or are you in the process of adopting/fostering? If so, please tell us more about yourself and your experiences so far.
-What route (Foster Care adoption, domestic, international)?
-Where are you in the process right now (just thinking, home study, waiting for match, etc.)
-How are you feeling about the process right now?
-Any questions?
-Any tips for the steps you’ve passed?
-Anything else to add?
-GTKY: What is your favorite Thanksgiving food?
Re: November - "I'm Adopting!" and "I'm Fostering!"
-What route (Foster Care adoption, domestic, international)? We'll consider domestic adoption, but right now we're looking into foster care
-Where are you in the process right now (just thinking, home study, waiting for match, etc.) Just started contact. Apparently in my state all foster care is not through DCFS - there are a bunch of private agencies that do foster care. So today I've been talking with someone to help figure out the best agency to go with (it seems different agencies have different specialties - bilingual, special needs, etc.). Once we've got that figured out, I'll get more info, possibly by H and I going to an informational presentation.
-How are you feeling about the process right now? I'm not sure. H definitely seems more on board, which is great, but I'm getting nervous. I'm also worried we're going to seem too picky. The first agency suggested to me turned out to be one that only works with children with high level disabilities, which we are not comfortable with for first-time parenting. So I asked for an agency without that focus (I'm waiting to hear back). H and I both feel that it's one thing if we get a placement for a child with a disability, but it's another to pick an agency that guarantees that. Hopefully that doesn't make us seem too picky.
-Any questions? I have a ton, but they are state-specific, so I'll just have to ask once I get hooked up with an agency.
-Any tips for the steps you’ve passed? For anyone else in a state with multiple agencies, start thinking about your preferences right away. I didn't think we would have to discuss our comfort level with disabilities this soon and H and I hadn't discussed it before it came up. Luckily we were already on the same page, so we were able to move on, but it would have sucked to have to wait longer to get started in order to think about it.
-Anything else to add? I think I covered everything so far. I'll give an update if anything exciting happens.
-GTKY: What is your favorite Thanksgiving food? Rolls, with stuffing as a close second. Basically I just like bread
Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
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BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo.
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two!
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
-What route (Foster Care adoption, domestic, international)? - We are in the middle of our wait for a domestic, infant adoption.
-Where are you in the process right now (just thinking, home study, waiting for match, etc.) - 6.5 months into our wait for a match.
-How are you feeling about the process right now? - Honestly, lately I've been feeling like it's never going to happen and we're never going to get matched.
-Any questions? - Anyone else in Indiana?
-Any tips for the steps you’ve passed? - Don't stress the home study. It really wasn't nearly as big of a deal as I made it out in my head.
-Anything else to add? - Not much.
-GTKY: What is your favorite Thanksgiving food? - HAM!!!! And we always have brussel sprouts...LOVE those!
Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
Check out my Infertility blog
Check out my Infertility Instagram
BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo.
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two!
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
Thanks so much! I hope so too, but it appears that this all works on it's own timeline, not mine. LOL
ETA: I just saw your post on another thread where you said it's 18-24 months. That's a long time - hopefully you don't have to wait that long!