First Trimester Check-in Week of 11/7

BWhitta · November 2016

Hey, everyone! I am 9-10 weeks depending on which doctor you ask, haha. My EDD is 6/14 for now! I have been having pretty bad morning sickness and exhaustion...I seem to get a break from the nausea every couple days but the exhaustion is non-stop! I'm really struggling with it and feel as though I've fallen behind on everything in my life! (The hormones/moods may be making me a tad dramatic, too...)

My next appointment is next Monday (yay!) and I will get an ultrasound to help nail down that due date! I'm feeling really nervous about it since I haven't seen the little dude in a few weeks! Anybody else wish we could just jump ahead to 24 weeks? Or just skip right to the healthy baby part?

DH and I are headed to NYC this week though so that will be a great distraction! He's going on business so I get to go visit my BFF who lives there!

alaaronson · November 2016

@Colleen0516 @wifeinraleigh28 @Nellin
I so far have had 2 episodes of super light brown spotting but my OB is very conservative and made me go in both times to ensure everything was ok (it was). Once was right after I stopped my endometrin, the other was during a very bad cold where I was coughing my head off. It was scary, but since both times were big nothings I've actually sort of decided on my own what your OBs have said and am holding off on calling again unless theres more blood or its red, before I spend 100s of dollars in medical copays (tho fortunately havent had another episode of bleeding). The other thing she said, which in one way was reassuring and in another way was... well... not... is that before 16 weeks or so there's not a whole lot they can do for you either way - things will declare themselves one way or another; and early in pregnancy they cant stop a bad thing once it starts. That's probably why OBs normally say you dont need to come in unless things look bad, like 90% of the time its nothing, but if goodness forbid it was something, catching it early wouldnt really make a difference.

Colleen0516 · November 2016

My spotting has been all day. It's brown which is supposedly a good thing. But I wish it wasn't there at all. I've been laying low all day and relaxing. I had a sono on Wednesday morning, I'm wondering if that irritated my cervix, I bleed, and now it is making it's way out? It's torture!

I wanna skip to the part where I can feel them moving and know they aren't okay and be reassured by their movements that they are still in there. Buttttt I have a LONG way til then so I better buckle down lol

wifeinraleigh28 · November 2016

@Colleen0516 Yes brown spotting means it's just old blood and could absolutely be from the sono. I still have a little bit of spotting as well and I'm just trying to calm myself and think positive thoughts. First tri is so rough. We can only get through it by remaining hopeful and positive!

kelrauh · November 2016

@wifeinraleigh28 and @Colleen0516 - I hope your spotting stops soon to reassure you that everything is okay. Its amazing how much we worry about our little ones already.

We went for our first ob appointment today. I wasn't expecting an ultrasound but the doctor said with two it would be hard to get seperate heart beats. We saw both babies snuggled close to one another. One was sucking its thumb and the other waved and then moved away. This was my first ultrasound where they were moving and looked like babies. It was so exciting and a huge wave of relief. The ob told me i need to have an idea if I want to have an elective c-section by my next appointment, as we will have to schedule it at 20 weeks. She made it sound like she was leaning toward a c-section for their safety. Any suggestions or thoughts?

wifeinraleigh28 · November 2016

@kelrauh I'm so glad to hear that all is going well with your little ones! I do think though that this seems awfully soon to make the c-section decision. What if everything is perfectly normal and okay at time of delivery? I feel like doctors often push c-sections even when they aren't needed. I think I personally would want to wait until it gets close to delivery to see if it is even warranted. I'd be interested to hear what other mamas of multiples' experiences have been like though.

AandDM2014 · November 2016

*lurking* @kelrauh First tri is WAY too early to be making a c-section decision, unless you know for sure you don't even want to attempt vaginal birth. You should definitely be able to wait until much closer to delivery time and see how the babies positioning is before deciding how to deliver. If both or the lower one is head down, you can absolutely attempt vaginal delivery, and then if second baby needs to be turned s/he can easily be. You'd still do it in an OR, just in case of distress, but lots of ladies do just fine with vaginal births. I've thought about trying with my triplets, which is also sometimes done, so no need to make plans this early. I'd suggest doing a bit of research, then telling your OB that you'd like to wait until they get into their final position before deciding anything. Women do emergency c-sections every day, so it doesn't really need to be scheduled.

janejane-2 · November 2016

@kelrauh I just had my first "OB" appointment too although it was with a NP. The actual OB will see me next week. I'm also pregnant with twins, EDD 06/14/17 but the NP told me it could be as early as 05/05/17 so to be prepared. She too brought up a c-section as it was a definite. I asked her if I could have a vagina delivery and she pretty much said no b/c its my first delivery. That kinda didn't make sense to me. I'd prefer vaginal if possible. I'll talk to my OB about it next week. I won't be pushed to a c-section unless its necessary. A friend of mine had twins last year (IUI) and she gave birth naturally, I think I need to chat with her b/c originally she was to have a c-section. Don't know what changed.

Definitely do your research and think it over, IMO. I agree with @wifeinraleigh28 , doctor's are a bit too quick to push a c-section. I believe I've read stories online (possibly studies) how the # of unnecessary c-sections are rising. More and more they are scheduled for the convenience of the dr or patients schedule then actual medical necessity which isn't good considering it is in fact a surgery w/ possible additional complications.

nellin-2 · November 2016

Isn't an elective c section is one opted for without medical reason? Personally I wouldn't opt for one voluntarily after seeing friends struggle with the extra recovery. As long as there will be room if you need to for any medical reason then I would relax and plan for a natural birth. C sections are much easier for hospitals, they are fast, can be scheduled, and there is no uncertainty around how it will proceed. But childbirth isn't supposed to be convenient for doctors it's about what is best for you and your baby/s.

@JaneJane I find that really interesting about the first delivery thing because I thought it was harder to deliver naturally after a c section.

Sorry bit of a rant!

wifeinraleigh28 · November 2016

My personal belief is that c-sections should only be used as a last resort. Women are meant to have vaginal births, after which your body gets back to normal pretty quickly. But that is just my own opinion, and you have to do whatever you feel comfortable with.

kelrauh · November 2016

Thanks ladies it kind of threw me off to make a decision by 20 weeks. Like @JaneJane mine said since it is my first birth she is hesitant. She said this is because she would be more okay with someone delivering a baby breach for a second or third birth but not first. The chances of having both head down is not the greatest. She said if I am completely opposed to having one naturally and one c-section she would suggest a c-section. Or if I don't have my mind set on vaginally she would suggest c-section. I will do my research and come with questions in 4 weeks. We need to schedule c-section by 20 weeks if I elect to do that.

nellin-2 · November 2016

I should make it clear my rant was my own opinion too!

kelrauh · November 2016

@Nellin - no offense was taken. I appreciate it. I posted to get opinions because that's a very large decision to make and I wanted opinions. I guess with the infertility journey I wasn't focused on my dream birth I was focused on being able to get pregnant. So, I haven't put much thought in it and wanted to know others feelings and thoughts.

kdanjou · November 2016

I just wanted to chime in because I had a scheduled c-section for my first baby. She was breech and wouldn't turn on her own. I had a very easy recovery and the whole experience was fine. I actually left the hospital a day early. We didn't have any trouble breastfeeding and the only bad thing was that I had to take it real easy for two weeks and not get in and out of bed too many times. All that being said - I would still have preferred a vaginal birth. I am planning to try for a VBAC this time around assuming everything goes normally. I just want you to know that a planned c-section can be a very different experience than an emergency one, and it doesn't have to be a bad thing. Just IMHO.

nellin-2 · November 2016

kelrauh It sounds like it might work differently to here. Where I live you can opt in if you don't want a natural birth or it's clear early on that there will be a medical reason why csection is necessary. But you can also schedule a c section late if there is a medical need (ie a breach). Definitely do your research and make sure you know what's possible in your area! Maybe get a second opinion from someone else?

On a side note I've just started reading a fascinating book called 'Let them eat dirt'. It's about the importance of getting healthy microbes early in life and the impact that can have long term (on things like allergies, IBS, asthma).
Apparently babies born by c section miss out on a bunch microbes (from you know where) which can be beneficial in a range of ways (kick-starting the immune system and helping the baby to be able to digest milk). As a way to counter that people have started what he called seeding, but basically manually transferring some microbes from you to baby when they have a c section.

Science is amazing and crazy!

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