Threatened MC - Hoping for the best

MaideMarian · November 2016

I have only been a lurker on this board, so forgive me that I haven’t done any intros or told you ladies anything about myself. DH and I are stuck in the horrible limbo of wait-and-see until next week, and I don’t feel that I have many places to turn to as not many people know we are pregnant right now.

LMP 9/9/16, BFP 10/10/16

Light spotting on Sunday and Monday turned into active bleeding on Tuesday. A panicked phone call to my OB at 5:45 am lead us to HCG testing and an emergency u/s later in the day. Day of the u/s, I should have been 7w4d according to LMP. Tech could see a sac, firmly attached to my uterus, but it is only measuring 4w3d, and too small to see anything meaningful. Doctor has given us two scenarios: 1. We are ok, and baby is measuring small because I ovulated late (but unlikely given the date of BFP); 2. baby is not developing and this is MC.

I have been advised to monitor my symptoms and schedule a follow-up u/s for next week. The waiting is awful. I feel like I’m pretending to be pregnant so they can tell me next week that we’re not. Still having some bleeding on and off. Last pregnancy ended in MC at 9w, so I’m not feeling particularly hopeful. DH is trying to be hopeful for all of us.

JessyKV · November 2016

So sorry you Are going through this. Sending prayers.

n0soup4u · November 2016

shit mama. Im hoping for some positive news next week for you. I cant imagine how your feeling. Be kind to yourself.

Assiram42 · November 2016

So sorry you are in limbo. FX you are just off on your dates and baby is fine!

Wino0920 · November 2016

So sorry! Prayers to just off on dates!!!

halfthetree · November 2016

Oh I am so incredibly sorry! How stressful! Prayers for just a late ovulation and baby is growing well in there!!

tosh24 · November 2016

I'm sorry

I know what it feels like to be in limbo and it's incredibly stressful. It helped me to take a couple days off work, go to walmart and clean them out of all their movies, and lay in bed watching them all to take my mind off of everything. Hoping for the best outcome for you.

mirdamae03 · November 2016

Pregnancy limbo is the absolute worst. FX everything works out and thinking of you during this stressful time.

JAGinMI · November 2016

Oh I am so sorry you are going through this. The wait is unbearable so terribly stressful. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs!

ChrisLipstick · November 2016

Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

sprkls8506 · November 2016

So sorry. We are playing the waiting game too

thankfully · November 2016

I am so sorry. The waiting sucks, the whole thing sucks. I don't want to give you false hope and say everything's fine, but I really really hope you don't have to go through another loss.

NamelessAria · November 2016

I'm so sorry. Limbo is probably the worst part. I know with my first MC the waiting around trying to hold on the shreds to hope and then feeling a bit delusional for thinking it may work out but also feeling super guilty for "giving up on my baby" when I started to lose hope was just the worst. At least when I had a clear answer that it was a MC I could start the grieving process. It was completely heart breaking and soul crushing, of course, but for me it was better than being in limbo somehow. Maybe not for the first day or two but definitely after that.

I really hope everything works out OK. I know there have been a couple of other ladies here who were measuring behind, told it was probably a MC and they're back now with everything looking OK. @MKRLTX and @tosh24 were in a similar situation if I remember correctly. Correct me if I'm wrong ladies. I'm having horrible pregnancy brain today so I could be confused.

Sending you positive vibes and good thoughts!

Praying41 · November 2016

I'm so sorry you are in limbo. That's so hard to get through! Hoping for you it's late ovulation!

berg · November 2016

All my thoughts and love are with you! I hope that it's just a late ovulation and you get answers quickly.

kdanjou · November 2016

Thoughts are with you.

mkrel · November 2016

@NamelessAria is correct. There was nothing visible aside from the gestational sac and we were given very very low odds. I also didn't think my timing could be too far off. 9 days later we went back and there was baby measuring about 5 days behind and a strong heartbeat. Waiting is the worst and I'm sorry you're going through this but don't give up yet!

MaideMarian · November 2016

Thank you ladies for your kind words and support.

BellaO21 · November 2016

Sorry you're going through this! The wait and see game is absolutely horrible, I hate that process. Did they do any b/w to measure your HCG Levels?? Hopefully they're rising and your dates are just off a bit. My 1st ultrasound this pregnancy I measured 2 full weeks behind- my levels matched up to the measurements, turns out even though I tracked I just had a super late O.

Praying that you get good news!

email2ash · November 2016

Sending you positive vibes for a healthy baby!

sjohns908 · November 2016

I'm so sorry you're in such a stressful place. Sending lots of positive vibes that you receive good news at your next appointmenr

LilLee11 · November 2016

I'm sorry you're going through this. Sending you positive vibes! Keep us posted!

Maksim's Mom · November 2016

Ugh, this is exactly what was happening to us a few months ago. I read so many successful stories on here but each of us is different and I can't compare! Hang in there and will be sending positive thoughts your way. I like the suggestion to take time off if you can, watch movies, cook, read a book, do anything at all to stay distracted from the only thing that is on your mind

I totally understand this awful torture of waiting...I also felt like I wasn't "really" preggers and that i should not show any signs of it. It's a hard time in your life but you will get thru it! Hoping for great news for you guys!