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May 2017 Moms
Jens_Hoes
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UO Thursday
Jens_Hoes
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My favorite thread of the week....
Re: UO Thursday
11.2011 - DS1
02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
May17 Siggy Challenge
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Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
I feel like there's such a fine line when commenting on stuff like that. Like, I would hate like anything for her kid to be hurt!! But, I haven't actually talked to this friend in a couple of years (FB friend, so we catch up that way, but not really close) and I am really awkward about telling other parents what to do, because it comes off so judgey!
I've personally messages okay friends on fb after seeing cringe worthy pictures of poor kids with their chest clips at their belly and the straps being way too loose. I usually start off with something positive then point out safety stuff then end with a nice sweet have a great day. I've seen improvements from a couple mamas so far just because I reached out. I rather deal with that awkwardness than for their kids to get severly hurt just because the mamas didn't know. I didn't know either when I first had DD.
May17 Siggy Challenge
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23 y/o;
[05/06/17]
First time mommy
90% of the way there
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
My UO is that I prefer Parmesan flavored goldfish to Cheddar flavored Goldfish. I know, crazy!
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
I always share articles about car seat safety and still, SO many friends post pics of their kid so improperly buckled (chest clip too low, chest clip not fastened!, buckle not fastened!, 1 year olds ff-ing, etc).
I actually got called out for being "baby crazy" and that since I "don't have kids I really cant say anything". I didn't realize I had to give birth to know anything about seat belt safety, but mmmk. Really considering posting now and being like "Well, since I am now pregnant and am "allowed" to know anything..."
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
May '17 labor memes
But carseat safety is pretty easy to do properly and is completely and totally verified (i.e. there is a right way and a wrong way; no trade-off or judgment call.) Sure, you can keep your kid rear-facing for extended time or turn them on the early side, but an infant needs to be rear-facing, period. And sure, there is a sliding scale on how puffy the clothes can be under the carseat (or how feasible it is to get your kid into the car without a coat in 0 degree temps), but there is still a right place to put the chest clip and appropriate tightness to achieve.
And along that lines, here's my UO. I don't like when people document everything about their child on Facebook. It's not that I don't like seeing it. For me, it's just too public. Once you put all that out there, it's out there, and they have no say in it. I don't feel right about making that decision for my child before they can express their opinions about it. To me, there's a big difference between sharing pictures on Facebook and showing people you know a photo album. I can't say I won't post a pic here or there, but it feels like an invasion of privacy to publish my kid's whole childhood.
This came up in my news feed today on facebook and I think it is kind of a UO so I will post it here. It's from a vox article.
I think that "benevolent sexism" is a thing, and I don't like it. Did you guys see Louis C.K.'s endorsement of Hillary Clinton on Conan O'Brien? If you're a Clinton fan there was a lot to like in what he said and overall it was very sensible/reasonable. From the vox article:
"Louis C.K. is supporting Hillary Clinton in next week’s presidential election, and it’s not just because she’s a woman. It’s because she’s a mom.
“A mother’s just got it,” C.K. told Conan O’Brien on Conan Tuesday night. “She feeds you and teaches you, she protects you, she takes care of shit.”
Mothers, C.K. says, make better presidents than fathers. We’ve had fathers as presidents for the past 240 years, but “a great father can give a kid 40 percent of his needs, tops. Tops out at 40 percent. Any mother, just a shitty mother, a not-even-trying mother? Two hundred percent.”"
This made me feel uncomfortable, and the vox article really expressed my feeling on it. I give my kids a lot and try to do a good job but I don't think it's 200 percent. Also, my husband is an amazing father and gives them as much as I do. Women aren't "naturally" better at certain things than men. Can't Clinton just make a good president for regular reasons? Must we incorporate her gender? And I'm sure she's been a great mom and all, but honestly I think it's the least of her accomplishments, especially among those pertaining to the presidency.
The article closes with the following:
"Women are not intrinsically morally superior to men. Mothers are not inherently more virtuous than fathers. When we tell that story, we are returning to the idea that women are pure angels who are responsible for molding the moral fiber of the nation.
We should not have a woman as president because women are pure and virtuous and angelic. We should have a woman as president because women are people who make up more than half of the US population, and because women deserve to see themselves represented in our representative government."
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Perhaps it's my UO that I only feel strongly or judge parents on 3 things: car seat safety, vaccines (get them), and safe sleep practices (don't bedshare). To be clear, I'm not judging anyone for turning their kid to front facing at 2.
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*no slight to SAHMs. You guys rock.
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EDD: 06/25/2006 M/C: 11/03/2005
EDD: 04/08/2012 M/C: 09/03/2011
EDD: 12/27/2012 Born Sleeping: 07/19/2012
EDD: 12/07/2013 M/C 05/30/2013 & 05/31/2013
EDD: 07/01/2016 Born sleeping: 03/02/2016
@RainyDays86 I completely agree. I understand a post here & there. Maybe even a post every few weeks with a somewhat long caption once in a while. BUT NOT a every few days pic along with a paragraph caption. I believe those who do that either try to convince themselves they are happy or they try to convince others that they are.
I mostly prefer to give SO letters or crafts that I make for him.
23 y/o;
[05/06/17]
First time mommy
90% of the way there
My neighbors dogs are SO annoying. The are some type of German Shepard mix (or maybe pure idk) and they NEVER shut up. The bark all the time. She leaves the window open when she leaves and they bark at anything the whole time she is gone.
Also she just posted a video on Facebook of her dogs playing/fighting on the sofa saying "this is why we can't have nice things, and why I wouldn't be able to handle children." UM NO. Train your freaking dogs!
Just to clarify we have to large dogs and we spent the money and the time to train them. I'm not a dog hater. Just a crappy dog owner hater. Ha.
Edited to add we also have a totally crazy dog who was a major jumper when we adopted him but we put a ton of time and effort into getting him not to jump on people. He still likes to jump up next to people which is unsettling so we hold him when people come to the door until he calms down. It's annoying, but necessary.
Re: sharenting, this article from last month was pretty interesting: https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2016/10/babies-everywhere/502757/