What's your family doing this week to make you wish you lived in a galaxy far, far away?
Bonus: If you're a FTM, what are 3 things you think you'll be kick-ass at once baby gets here? If you're a STM+ what are 3 things you know you're kick-ass at when it comes to being a Mama?
Re: [ OLD THREAD] Why My Family is Driving Me Crazy 10.25
Bonus:
1. I think I'll be a funny mom that can cheer up my kiddo when he's having a bad day. Well, at least I'll think I'm funny.
2. I hope to be the kind of mom that Ashton feels comfortable talking to about things that bother him.
3. I think I will be the mom that will make accomplishments, birthdays, holidays, or even some regular days feel extra special for Ash. I really enjoy going all out for the ones I love and care for.
Bonus:
1. My child knowing I'm always there for them and I always have their back. Whether it's being their biggest fan during the good times, their strongest advocate during the tough times, or just a listening ear or advice giver.
2. I think I'll be good at still maintaining a level of sanity and schedule in life. I've known far too many parents that let the kids run the show and their life is constant chaos. Yes, I know life won't always be as scheduled (especially with a newborn), but for everyone's sake, I will try to maintain a sense or normalcy in the day-to-day.
3. Most importantly, my child will be loved and they will know that.
TTC since November 2015
BFP #1 12/17/15 - MC 1/28/16
BFP #2 4/22/16 - EDD 12/30/16
Or pull the pregnancy card. What is it good for if not in times like this? Tell her you don't think you are going to be up to it, and would like to see her another day.
Im glad I'm not the only HP fav who's family (in part) thinks it's the devil! It just made me laugh. I hope you share some photos of your shower! What a fun theme!
Due December 27th with baby #7
I will for sure! I just hope MIL isn't a party pooper. Her mom definitely would have been, lol.
Due December 27th with baby #7
ETA: 3 things
1) I hope to be fun, like my mom was (dancing around and singing while cooking and cleaning, making fun things for us- like a play house in the backyard)
2) I hope to be involved in the activities in my daughter's life (go to her sports or other activities, her school functions)
3) I hope we can always communicate even we disagree
DD- 11/2016
TTC since November 2015
BFP #1 12/17/15 - MC 1/28/16
BFP #2 4/22/16 - EDD 12/30/16
Drop it on her doorstep. MUAH HAHA
But if anyone is wanting a detailed blog on how to fry it up into steak, let me know, I can forward it to you...
LOL! Drop it on her doorstep for sure!
I get that people are trying to get back to nature, but if I'm not going to eat my own boogers, I'm sure as hell not going to eat a bloody mass of tissue that was in my uterus for nine months. Disgusting! I'm glad I'm not the only person not grabbing onto this trend!
DD- 11/2016
I don't want to seem ungrateful but she has just so poorly planned this and I feel very disappointed. Sort of doubly burns because they were supposed to come over this past weekend to finish painting and clean the carpet (they got white paint all over the floor) and bailed. I ended up doing all the work myself.
My gripe is along the same lines. IL's insisted on a "virtual shower" this weekend. Said they'd send decor and have everyone send gifts by a certain date, then we'd awkwardly skype with the family while opening gifts. It's been planned for probably two months at this point and nothing has been said to relatives, we've received nothing in the mail. Part of me is kind of glad it's looking like it will fall through, but another part of me is super frustrated because it was made into a big deal and I've been waiting to purchase off the registry the rest of what we'd like to have. I know they mean well and am genuinely thankful they care...but can I get some follow-through?! That's not even mentioning the friends who said they are throwing me a shower....3 weeks from my due date.
Bonus:
1. I think I'll be good at nurturing, but not be a helicopter parent.
2. I'm pretty sure I'll be good at b-day parties and other events, since I love a good crafty challenge.
3. I hope I'm good at being open with my kids, and making them feel comfortable with being themselves. I never want them to tiptoe around me and worry that I may not accept something about them. I hope I'm good at being the mom who they can approach about anything without FEAR.
TTC since November 2015
BFP #1 12/17/15 - MC 1/28/16
BFP #2 4/22/16 - EDD 12/30/16
I'm glad you are going to get to relax with DH alone that night, but just make sure if she keeps inviting herself over that you eventually address that issue too. I know, easier said than done.
With my MIL, she will text one of us saying she's going to drop something off or pick something up, and literally she will already be on the road to our house and there before we can respond and tell her no. It drives me crazy. What is it about in-laws where they think they have the right? My parents never do that!
But on the flip side of that, I have a hard time saying no to people. MIL will text DH about something and he will say no, then she'll text me, and i say yes, not knowing that she has already talked to him. And it's not because I want to say yes, but because I feel obligated to. And then I stress out about whatever it is I've just agreed to. It's not a good pattern, and I am working on saying no more.
It's going to be really challenging now that we are relying on her to watch the boys for half a day during the week. I have to have a talk with her, and make sure she isn't expecting anything in return, and if she is, that it is realistic. I am also trying to figure out a way to not have her need a house key during this time too. Ugh, I wish people just respected other peoples space!
It's good that you're gearing up to have that talk with her!
Don't worry- with 2 babies and eventual toddlers running around- you'll get good at saying NO! hehe
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
haha, right! (Except in my case where my dr has said no to sex and orgasms i literally cried about it last night) Family, can't live with them, can't live without them!
Also, MIL has asked in the past if we're getting a baby nurse. Why? I don't know but the answer was no. Then DH told her that the baby is breech and we may end up scheduling a c-section. Now she thinks we should reconsider a baby nurse if I'll have a C-section. I don't want to say that will NEVER happen and end up eating my words, but I really can't fathom it happening. My mom lives an hour away and DH could take off more time if needed. It's not like I'll be desperately without help. Also, does she think we're not capable of caring for a baby? (By us I obviously mean me).
Anyway, gusers gradually left and so I was sat with MIL and 3 SIL'S and they couldn't resist showing me their gifts (which is fine) and mil pipes up that she bought me a mobile for the cot that matches a bedding set I'd already got. I told her one came with the set and she was really pissed. she actually said that it annoyed her as she had told me she wanted to buy it for me (I didn't think she was bothering as this was discussed in July!) and when I explained that I had priced up all items from my set separately (there was a sale on) and it worked out more expensive even with he discount off each thing minus the mobile and a sleep suit (which I also already had) so I decided to get the set even though it meant duplicating on the sleeps it she basically looked like I'd disregarded all her feelings and she said "well I'll take it back tomorrow" and then made a fuss about fishing through all my gift bags to find hers so she could return said mobile. I'm pretty miffed. i try not to get miffed about much but that has done my crust in.
I find her quite overbearing at times. love her to bits but she is just too much sometimes.
So there's my rant. please tell me if I've been out of order. x
And tbh, I'm a December 15th baby and I don't want my son born on my birthday. I want my own birthday.
A few of my aunts came (who we didn't expect to), and we took a family photo after everyone else left, and I posted it on Facebook with the word 'Family'. So yesterday (Sunday) I get a text from my aunt (who lives 3000 miles away) about how i hurt her so badly, and how could i be so inconsiderate and not invite her to the shower, that i made her feel awful, and that she feels so hurt, and how i should consider her feelings.
First it is important to note that my moms sisters are crazy, each in their own way, but each crazy and in some weird competition with each other and they get a little silly about stuff sometimes. One wouldn't come to my wedding because another was going to be there. Another is a crazy right wing conservative that doesn't get along with the crazy family liberal. Lots of years of jealousy, competition, and who knows what have led to all of these women loving each other, but not being able to stand each other too long at the same time. And all three think they are my moms favorite. Why can't they grow up and realize that none of this crap matters? And that she doesn't have to have a favorite!
So I am mad at first and don't respond, because:
- I did not host the shower
- I did not create the guest list
- I did not send out the invites
- My aunt lives 3000 miles away, and expecting someone to spend hundreds of dollars on a plane ticket to come for a baby shower, when they can barely afford to come for New Years (which she is) is just silly. The other aunts are closer, i'm sorry, i did not make you move to where you did
- The picture I posted on Facebook said 'family'. It didn't say, 'All the family', or 'the best of the family', it simply said 'family'.
- My mom, having "chemo brain" forgot to send you an invite, get over it! I do not need this shit! You are a 72 year old woman, who does not need validation from me or my mother, get control of yourself and stop sending snarky text messages
Finally, after i cool down and think about it I send this:"I think this is all a misunderstanding. There was no malicious intent. I'm sorry you feel left out, but that was not anyone's intention. If I posted a picture of [DH], the dogs, and I, I would also write 'Family'. It was not an exclusive comment, only a picture of who was there at the moment. I also think that there are so many other things going on right now, and emotions and reactions surrounding my mom and seeing or not seeing her might be at their peak. We love you."
No response back. (And I doubt I will get one) I get it, my mom forgot to invite her, but it was an honest mistake. I also get that she might be jealous of time that other siblings get to spend with my mom right now because she is so far away, but that doesn't make it okay to text your niece and put the blame on her to somehow vent your anger or sadness.
I am barely keeping my shit together with my full-time job, two boys on the way, and my mom, and I am not going to let other peoples craziness be added to that list. My moms sisters better get their acts together, because if the chemo doesn't work, or she has to go through another round and it gets worse, and my mom gets sicker, I am not going to let them bring any of their drama around her and ruin whatever time and peace she has left. They all need to take a moment and grow up fast!
Okay, thanks for letting me vent, rant over!
I'm glad the shower was nice, though!