Poor ladies. I'm just getting over the morning sickness hump and had a bout of stomach flu this weekend. Cool.
Also, does anyone else have extreme acid reflux only when they lay on their left side? Any clue why? It's horrible for me and since we can't really lay flat on backs, laying on my right all the time is starting to take a toll on my back.
@Ivorytower2 that's odd because the gastric juices (that sounds so gross) are supposed to stay in the stomach better when you're on the left. I keep a bottle of Tums by the bed and have them for a midnight snack quite often.
@Ivorytower2, yes to acid reflux, but all the time. I'm trying to figure out what is triggering it, because it's none of the usual foods. I know we are prone to heartburn in pregnancy anyway, but it would be nice to prevent it as much as possible.
TMI, probably, but my other new symptom is crazy gas. Poor DH! Again, looking for the trigger, if there is one. Ideas?
Finally, I'm starting to feel this little one stretch and dig into my organs and ribs. It's great to feel her, but ouch! A preview of the next four months, I'm afraid.
@MyDG620 witch hazel pads to clean and preparation H. @Ivorytower2 yup, the way the stomach lies in the abdomen, if you're on your right it can flow up into your esophagus. Go get you some berry tums, they're pretty tasty.
I came down with a head cold today, and my doctor told me I can't take sudafed. I can't breathe and it's making me super cranky. other than that, mostly okay. Just having a hard time finding a comfortable position when sleeping.
Is anyone else struggling with depression? I thought second tri was supposed to be the best part, but I'm miserable. I've cried more in the last two weeks than I have in a long time. Some of it I think is related to me feeling pressured by my husband to be "normal". Before I got pregnant, I was energetic and would go to the gym multiple times a week, and could get things done around the house.....now I need a nap after going to the grocery store and I wake up nauseous every morning. I feel guilty for not being able to do what I used to. DH is insanely type A and a huge perfectionist, so i feel terrible for not keeping up with his standards. I feel like I'm just a huge disappointment. I lost it yesterday, and was sobbing on the bed, I feel like he doesn't understand how I feel at all. I hate feeling this way!
Married: 7/9/15 Me: 37, DH: 36 Started TTC #1: 9/2015 Preliminary labs/testing @ 6 months: TSH, A1c, progesterone, prolactin, SA, HSG all normal BFP: 5/19/2016, M/C: 5/29/2016 BFP: 6/22/2016 EDD 3//6/2017
@PattersRN I think I am struggling with depression. A big part of it is that I really don't like being pregnant. All the bodily changes and the rules and regulations on what you can eat or drink. I don't like the extra attention people give me and all the questions they ask. Time is going by so slow for me.
@mcdonald-bailey as much as I don't want to admit it, I think that's part of my problem too. I feel horrible for saying it, especially since I struggled to get pregnant and then went through a loss. I actually told DH yesterday in the midst of my breakdown that I don't want to be pregnant anymore. Of course, there's no option at this point and I felt awful for saying it. I just don't know what the heck is wrong with me.
Married: 7/9/15 Me: 37, DH: 36 Started TTC #1: 9/2015 Preliminary labs/testing @ 6 months: TSH, A1c, progesterone, prolactin, SA, HSG all normal BFP: 5/19/2016, M/C: 5/29/2016 BFP: 6/22/2016 EDD 3//6/2017
@PattersRN same here. I know I wouldn't be pregnant now if I didn't lose my daughter last year so I struggle with having to be pregnant all over again and if this too will end tragically. I have had those exact same thoughts but I haven't said them out loud to my husband. I feel guilty about it.
@PattersRN I'm really sorry you're dealing with depression during your pregnancy. I had what was the darkest time in my life during my second trimester with my daughter. I spent days just laying in bed crying, over everything and nothing. I had no idea how to handle the emotions and my OB was no help at all. My SO had no clue what to do.. at all.. he was patient at least. Have you brought it up to your OB? Some extra outside support would likely be a big help. My depression did taper off in the 3rd trimester and I was so fearful of it coming back postpartum but it didn't. I thought for sure it would.. those hormones can do some pretty crazy things, just hang in there.
@PattersRN and @mcdonald-bailey, I've struggled a bit too. I hate how foggy my brain is and how little I can get done in a day. I'm getting behind at work, and I just don't have the energy to change anything--put in the overtime to catch up. I read last week that depression at this point is really common. Our bodies have been taken over, and our old way of life is going. Between all the hormones, and all the changes, pregnancy is a major life event with all the associated complex emotions. When I read that, I could be gentler on myself. I can accept that those feelings are valid and ok. I can mourn the loss of my old self, and reclaim some of it on the days that I physically feel better. You guys on this board really help too! It helps to see that the exhaustion and symptoms are normal, that it's not just me. And it's nice to have a community to be excited with too.
I like second trimester so much better than first, so I still don't have much to complain about in comparison. It seems like I'm getting away with light symptoms: gas, constipation, exhaustion, waking up to pee all the time, crying easily, the beginnings of stretch marks, being forgetful. It's such a honeymoon period and I keep thinking "oh, I can do this again! I can have more babies!" BUT then I remember that I have to push this little fellow out and I start to panic. So I will keep enjoying second trimester and take everything one day at a time.
*TW* - BFP & MC in March 2016. BFP in June 2016; EDD March 2017. Samuel born February 2017!
Prenatal depression is super common in pregnancy, but sadly not something that's talked about too widely. It's so hard to have huge changes physically, mentally, emotionally/hormonally and yet expect to be the "same old you." you need to show yourself grace!! (preaching to myself too!) when I just lay on the couch instead of going for a walk... or leave the pile of dishes I should do : I need to remind myself I'm growing a human being. It's a job in and of itself, anything you get done above that is extra bonus. ; ) it's hard when SOs have expectations of you... but harder that you have those expectations on yourself. Let them go! The guilt of not being as good as you once were is dibilitating. I find that's the hardest part for me. Set small goals for the day-even if it's just : shower & put on a cute outfit. Write out a list of things you are going to accomplish. I have some great days other days I don't leave my house ((SAHM)) and throw myself giant pity parties with junk food and Netflix binge watching. One thing I have going for me is that this is my second pregnancy and I remember feeling this way last time too. So I know-this too shall pass. Promise! -force yourself to do things you love even when you don't want to. Read a book, listen to some music, workout -force yourself to open up to others: a close friend, and your SO. It's annoying boys don't understand, but they love you and want to understand.
We're all here (even though we're creepy internet strangers) so keep sharing here too!! Just venting and being reminded it's normal and others feel this way is helpful. Always feel free to PM me too if you want
@Happyhiker I'm behind at work too. I keep saying to myself that I'm going to go in early or stay late or go in on weekends but when it comes down to it I'm just too tired of being at work to actually do that. It doesn't help that my emails were down for the last 3 days which put me even more behind and I have 2 appointments this week. Wish there was a non pregnant clone of myself that could go to work for me while relax at home all day
Weird back pain. Usually I can really feel a knot in the muscle and feel it pulling another muscle or two, and I get them specifically in my shoulders/neck or lower back, occasionally shoulder blades, but this is mostly while I'm lying down and it will pop up in random parts of my back. Seriously impeding my binge-watching relaxation plans.
I think my morning sickness is finally on it's way out ::knock on wood:: but I think i'm having some issues regulating blood sugar which is still making me throw up sometimes in the afternoon/evening. Working on figuring that out. My vagina feels like someone kicked it with steel toed boots and now it's going to rip in half! My husband is giving me crap because I didn't bring it up to the doc yesterday. I figured he would just tell me it's a pregnancy thing, but it turns out it could be a real thing I could get help with. Going to have to look into that. I swear it's just one thing after the other so I'm glad I have this group to talk to because I don't want to just seem like I'm complaining all the time in "real life".
@howdthathappen lol no problem! I actually just scared the shit out of myself (not literally, well kind of) I wiped and the TP was covered in bright red blood. I kept checking to be sure it was from the back and not the front. I have a feeling, I'm going to end up needing surgery on these things at some point in my life.
I know I'm snoring because DH kindly pokes me...and one night he's yelled out "OH MY GOD!" I kindly told him if he doesn't like it there's a couch and right now there's another bed in the guest room. But really, I think I just need better pillows. I am usually awake every 3 hours tossing and turning.
Just got back from the dentist and I have pregnancy induced gingivitis which I had last time too.
I'm ecstatic that I have no cavities, after throwing up for 4 months I was convinced my teeth would be shot to hell. Last time I was pregnant I opted out of x-rays and then I was super close to needing a root canal after DD was born (after numerous rounds of antibiotics and now using sensidyne, my tooth is finally ok). This time I asked them to please do the x-rays, because I didn't want to deal with that again!
My pelvis hurts so bad I can barely walk and (TMI warning) I now have bleeding hemorrhoids. Yay.
I hate hemorrhoids. I never had one until my first pregnancy. They are truly the gift tgatckeeps giving. Just when I forget about them, I have a bad poop or something and >pop< oh there you are! It is totally worse this time. To add to your TMI, i can't even have sex in missionary position without feeling them.
Ugh I tried to work out yesterday- just walking on the treadmill and elliptical and I had this stretching pain in my groin area, lower abdomen- it hurt so much I had to stop. I went on the exercise bike and sitting seemed to help it. Was just frustrated- trying to be healthy and my body is just not cooperating
@DrillSergeantCat I guess the hemorrhoid thing must be pretty common? I've never had them until now and I literally cry when I use the bathroom these days! I've been taking Colace and use those medicated wipe things but it's pretty terrible!
I hate it for all of you other moms dealing with them too! No fun.
I've been getting headaches that randomly come and go lately. It seems like if don't focus on them there gone before I know it, but it's weird. I've never had this before, but then again in the past when I would get a headache I would immediately pop a few ibuprofen (I miss those!).
@DrillSergeantCat I guess the hemorrhoid thing must be pretty common? I've never had them until now and I literally cry when I use the bathroom these days! I've been taking Colace and use those medicated wipe things but it's pretty terrible!
I hate it for all of you other moms dealing with them too! No fun.
My tailbone is friggin killing me. I sit at a desk all day and now, every time I stand up, I have to do so extremely slowly... As though I'm elderly. Ouch.
Re: Symptoms - 10/24
Other than that, lots of SI pain, and some heartburn.
Also, does anyone else have extreme acid reflux only when they lay on their left side? Any clue why? It's horrible for me and since we can't really lay flat on backs, laying on my right all the time is starting to take a toll on my back.
TMI, probably, but my other new symptom is crazy gas. Poor DH! Again, looking for the trigger, if there is one. Ideas?
Finally, I'm starting to feel this little one stretch and dig into my organs and ribs. It's great to feel her, but ouch! A preview of the next four months, I'm afraid.
Married: 04/14/12
DS: 10/15/13
BFP #2: 7/22/16 EDD 3/25/17
Married: 04/14/12
DS: 10/15/13
BFP #2: 7/22/16 EDD 3/25/17
@Ivorytower2 yup, the way the stomach lies in the abdomen, if you're on your right it can flow up into your esophagus. Go get you some berry tums, they're pretty tasty.
Me 28 DH 28 Married 2012
TTC #1 since March 2015
Metformin + Femara + Gonal F + Trigger = BFP 6/24/16
EDD 3/3/17
Found out it's a girl! 9/23/16
married to M since 6.13.09
T - 3.3.14
A - 2.24.17
Me: 37, DH: 36
Started TTC #1: 9/2015
Preliminary labs/testing @ 6 months: TSH, A1c, progesterone, prolactin, SA, HSG all normal
BFP: 5/19/2016, M/C: 5/29/2016
BFP: 6/22/2016 EDD 3//6/2017
Me: 37, DH: 36
Started TTC #1: 9/2015
Preliminary labs/testing @ 6 months: TSH, A1c, progesterone, prolactin, SA, HSG all normal
BFP: 5/19/2016, M/C: 5/29/2016
BFP: 6/22/2016 EDD 3//6/2017
BUT
then I remember that I have to push this little fellow out and I start to panic.
So I will keep enjoying second trimester and take everything one day at a time.
*TW* - BFP & MC in March 2016.
BFP in June 2016; EDD March 2017.
Samuel born February 2017!
Prenatal depression is super common in pregnancy, but sadly not something that's talked about too widely. It's so hard to have huge changes physically, mentally, emotionally/hormonally and yet expect to be the "same old you." you need to show yourself grace!! (preaching to myself too!) when I just lay on the couch instead of going for a walk... or leave the pile of dishes I should do : I need to remind myself I'm growing a human being. It's a job in and of itself, anything you get done above that is extra bonus. ; ) it's hard when SOs have expectations of you... but harder that you have those expectations on yourself. Let them go! The guilt of not being as good as you once were is dibilitating. I find that's the hardest part for me. Set small goals for the day-even if it's just : shower & put on a cute outfit. Write out a list of things you are going to accomplish.
I have some great days other days I don't leave my house ((SAHM)) and throw myself giant pity parties with junk food and Netflix binge watching. One thing I have going for me is that this is my second pregnancy and I remember feeling this way last time too. So I know-this too shall pass. Promise!
-force yourself to do things you love even when you don't want to. Read a book, listen to some music, workout -force yourself to open up to others: a close friend, and your SO. It's annoying boys don't understand, but they love you and want to understand.
We're all here (even though we're creepy internet strangers) so keep sharing here too!! Just venting and being reminded it's normal and others feel this way is helpful. Always feel free to PM me too if you want
For those of you struggling with depression, please talk to your OB. Hugs to you all.
My vagina feels like someone kicked it with steel toed boots and now it's going to rip in half! My husband is giving me crap because I didn't bring it up to the doc yesterday. I figured he would just tell me it's a pregnancy thing, but it turns out it could be a real thing I could get help with. Going to have to look into that.
I swear it's just one thing after the other so I'm glad I have this group to talk to because I don't want to just seem like I'm complaining all the time in "real life".
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
Me 28 DH 28 Married 2012
TTC #1 since March 2015
Metformin + Femara + Gonal F + Trigger = BFP 6/24/16
EDD 3/3/17
Found out it's a girl! 9/23/16
I'm ecstatic that I have no cavities, after throwing up for 4 months I was convinced my teeth would be shot to hell. Last time I was pregnant I opted out of x-rays and then I was super close to needing a root canal after DD was born (after numerous rounds of antibiotics and now using sensidyne, my tooth is finally ok). This time I asked them to please do the x-rays, because I didn't want to deal with that again!
I hate it for all of you other moms dealing with them too!