@hartmich Thanks, it's very kind of you. Honestly I haven't thought a ton about it but you're completely right -- if I am fortunate enough to get pregnant before we move then any number of things could happen that we don't get the timeline we want. But I can say for sure that there's no way we're going to wait until after we move to start again.
I don't let myself think much about being pregnant because I'm scared of jinxing myself. But you're completely right that 40 weeks is not a guarantee. We should think more about it.
Also I agree that the "before I'm 30" drive by was awful but the pee stick drive by woman was so much worse! So nasty to everyone and the "you don't know my story" when @lulu1180 looked at her posting history and saw she'd been like three months max and had a less than one year old... Ugh I just can't. I cried when I saw her pee stick (which is on me because I shouldn't have clicked the thread) but eventually I just came to disdain her and her idiocy.
I feel like the first sentence of the newbie guide should be "If you expect a red carpet rolled out for you here, move your whiny ass right along."
@adirat I started TTC in May (no temping etc until June) in hopes for a spring/summer baby because H is a teacher. I think the pressure of all that really got to me, and now that we're past that window... it's kind of taken the pressure off. I really, really hope that you'll feel the same soon, whether it's now or in a couple of months. I didn't even realize how much that "timeline" was getting to me.
@adirat I have been lucky to get to those pee stick posts when the image had been removed, but they are still hurtful. I really love how this community is protective of its members' feelings and struggles, it's the most respectful place for TTC discussions on the internet that I found Also I love when a drive-by is turned into a gif-fest, you ladies have a great talent to make a shitty situation fun!
Me: 31 | DH: 33 TTC #1 since May 2016 MFI – Low Morph (0-5%) IUI #1 Aug '17 BFN IUI #2 Oct '17 BFN IUI #3 Dec '17 BFN IVF April/May 2018
@hartmich I really connected with what you wrote about timelines. Thank you again friend.
@sbarluccico Yeah it's just bad when you're having a bad day. I appreciate that, too. And your love of gifs and disdain for drive bys makes me certain you'll have a great experience here Welcome.
@vflux33 Wow, we're creepily similar! DH lost his job a little later (spring of 13) but it also resulted in a few-states-over move and a total crash of our income (he went back to school and I waited tables until I found full time work). Now we're in another new state, and finally feel relatively stable. We'll see what happens!
@wabash15 Thank you for the optimism! I'm usually that person, but today I'm just feeling on edge. I'll pull myself out of this funk!
I've significantly decreased the amount of time I spend on Facebook. I used to be a serial checker. Now I check maybe once per day. Somehow I've managed to see a new pregnancy announcement every time I've signed in for the past week. As of about 10 minutes ago, the streak is still alive.
Me: 32 H: 32 Married: October 2009 TTC#1: August 2016
*TW* my bff from 2nd grade is ku with #5 and baby daddy #5. I love her and her children but damn it I want to smack her! She currently doesn't work and when is working she has minimum wage jobs. She lives with baby daddy #2 God bless him because he's willing to raise and support 4 children who are not his own. He works as a fork lift driver so better than minimum wage but not enough to support a family of 7. They are constantly at risk of being evicted or going hungry. We've talked about BC but she says that she doesn't have time for it. Her relationship with baby daddy #2 is tenuous at best (as evidenced by baby daddies 3-5). I have no idea how she would make it work if they ever broke up for good. I want to support her and be happy for her but my heart's just not in it.
My rant is that I'm getting slightly annoyed with a friend of mine complaining every cycle about not getting KU when she's doing literally nothing to try to make it happen other than trying to have sex when her app says she might be ovulating I've suggested temping, opks, reading TCOYF, tracking cm/cp...really anything lol But she won't. Also her SO thinks he might be infertile but won't get tested. Like, I feel for her because I want badly to get KU and get very upset every cycle I'm not but I mean, come on.....she doesn't even have any idea when she's ovulating. She's a great friend and I care about her but I'm just getting frustrated. Especially when I'm doing all the things. I'm just like grrrr if you want it so badly you might have to make a little effort before you get to say you think it's never going to happen etc etc. It's still no guarantee, obviously, but man... PS: I totally feel shitty for thinking this lol
@rainbowturtles that would annoy the crap out of me too. I have very little patience for people who won't do anything to help themselves and then complain.
Besides my crazy SS these last couple of days my day was going pretty well. Then ...
**TW** My best friend thought it would be nice to message me and say "It's a boy!" and invite me to the baby shower. I know I should be happy for the newlyweds but it pisses me off because they didn't want this ! And I guess because it "accidentally" happened they don't understand how emotionally difficult it is to have to try. I just don't know if I can go to the shower. **End TW**
As for the 1/1s - I am a 1/1 and if some miracle happened and I did get a BFP I would not be adding to grad week. I am sure you ladies struggle enough !
Me 27 DF 44 TTC post VR Sept 21/16 SA 6 weeks post op 50.7 mil count 40% motility
@MommytoM13 I did the same thing this month. Had a cold and convinced myself every symptom was a sign of pregnancy. And started spotting this morning with cramps so clearly not the case. Not pleased with myself. The internet obsessions needs to stop for me...I cringe at what is in my search history. I am in awe of you ladies who have been going through this longer than I have. Kudos for maintaining your sanity.
@rainbowturtles My bff is that way too. She has been "trying" since June and hasn't used any of my suggestions. Hopefully I get KU first and then she will listen. @KariAnn323 Girl, you are a saint. I couldn't handle that in a friend. @sglen3 and @RunRestRepeat and @vflux33 Fingers crossed all goes well with the jobs. I was laid off four times and had no choice but to dust myself off and find another job because no one else could help financially. It's scary and I probably took some less than ideal positions, but I learned something each time. I am in my best overall job now, but it isn't my dream situation. Sometimes forced change is good.
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
32 years old (both H and I) Dating 7/2008 Married 7/2014 H Type I Diabetic TTC 1/2016
12/2016
mental break from TTC-NTNP
1/10/2017 initial appt with RE (all BW results WNL) 1/17/2017
SA DX Virtual Azoo (3 sperm 0%morph 0%motility) 1/18/2017
STP tubes clear 2/1/2017 initial appt with Urologist
2/15/2017 DX H Robertsonian Translocation H is on clomid and Theralogix Supplements 6/26/17 repeat SA: 47 sperm 0% morph 13% motility 7/26/17 IVF Consult, repeat SA (4 sperm) 8/21/17 Starting IVF cycle with Donor Sperm backup 9/1/17 ER ICSI PGS: only 2 donor embryos made it to freeze 9/13/17 Started cycle for IUI with donor and clomid 9/27/17 IUI canceled for overstim October Plan IUI with donor and low dose clomid
1. I am super jealous of all the TTGPers on the June BMB. It better be awesome. 2. I don't like the easy BFPs, but what I really hate is people who start out in TWW and then post their positive a week or two later. I wouldn't dream of coming into a board just to kill time after I already ovulated. 3. Many of them wouldn't have gotten PG so quickly without the expertise and support of the women on this board. I'm gonna look at it as you have all been their great teachers. 4. Gonna play devil's advocate. If it was us, we would all do the beauty queen goodbye thank you speech and hope we wouldn't ever have to come back. I keep reminding myself that them getting their BFP doesn't affect my chances and I don't know their circumstances before TTC. Maybe one of the 1/1 is in their 40s and had to wait years before being able to even try. Maybe they had a medical issue that benched them for years. Maybe they lost a partner and waited to find a new one years later. Maybe they are just lucky. I am trying not to take it personal even when my hormones are raging. 5. Big hugs to everyone today!
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
I'm bitter, too. TTA this month plus feeling bitter that apparently everyone in last week's tww EXCEPT ME got pregnant is making me insane. I told my husband to watch out for any Girl on the Train behavior.
This is exactly how I felt during my last TWW. It seemed like everyone who tested the same week I did all got bfps.
@bswishe4 My parents just got a divorce this month after being married for 24 years. Apparently my dad has already gone out to dinner with someone (home by 9 though haha) and my mom went out with a friend who set her up on a blind date, but my mom didn't know it was happening (according to her, my mom lies a lot. Hence divorce). I have a feeling my mom may end up like that too.
@KariAnn323 Well shit, I thought my friends/Facebook friends were bad with getting KU with no job/money/support/etc. It's women like that that make me believe there should be a test to have a baby and forced BC if you're incompetent. That's probably an UO.
I also got upset at all the 1 or 2 month BFPs. Like @adirat we're about to TTA for various reasons. @NYTino24 you said that very well and that actually makes me feel a bit better.
@JulesDP I hear ya on the barely using Facebook anymore! Over half my friends are hidden because I can't take seeing constant announcements and photos. It's not that I'm not happy for them, just tired of constant baby posts.
Re: Monday Bitchfest
I don't let myself think much about being pregnant because I'm scared of jinxing myself. But you're completely right that 40 weeks is not a guarantee. We should think more about it.
Thank you. I appreciate it.
I feel like the first sentence of the newbie guide should be "If you expect a red carpet rolled out for you here, move your whiny ass right along."
Also I love when a drive-by is turned into a gif-fest, you ladies have a great talent to make a shitty situation fun!
TTC #1 since May 2016
MFI – Low Morph (0-5%)
IUI #1 Aug '17 BFN
IUI #2 Oct '17 BFN
IUI #3 Dec '17 BFN
IVF April/May 2018
@sbarluccico Yeah it's just bad when you're having a bad day. I appreciate that, too. And your love of gifs and disdain for drive bys makes me certain you'll have a great experience here
@wabash15 Thank you for the optimism! I'm usually that person, but today I'm just feeling on edge. I'll pull myself out of this funk!
Dating: 12/21/2001
Married: 09/08/2012
BFP: 11/16/2016 EDD: 07/27/2017
Baby Fish born: 08/01/2017
Married: October 2009
TTC#1: August 2016
DD Born 10/20/17
Dating: 2/2007 Married: 4/2011
TTC #1: 9/2016
*TW*
BFP #2: 3/9/2017 - CP: 3/10/2017
08/2017: DH's SA = normal
08/2017: Low progesterone (4.6) all other BW normal
11/2017: HSG Clear; Pelvic Ultrasound Normal; and AMH, FSH, and Estradiol normal
12/2017: 1,000mg Metformin
12/2017: 50mg Clomid + TI = BFN
01/2018: 100mg Clomid + TI = BFN
01/2018: RE Consult
03/2018: 5mg Letrozole + 50 units Gonal-F + 500 μg Ovidrel + IUI = BFP #3: 4/1/2018 - CP: 4/4/2018
04/2018: 5mg Letrozole + Gonal-F + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP #4: 5/2/18
Married: 2/1/2012
TTC #1 since August 2016
DH SA Dec 2016: Low count (11.7 mil total motile), 5% morphology, 73% motility
Blood work June 2017: AMH 1.1 (ugh), FSH 8.4, LH: 5.2, estradiol 28 pg/ML, progesterone 7.4
HSG July 2017: tubes clear
BFP 7/24/17 - EDD 4/5/2018
**TW**
My best friend thought it would be nice to message me and say "It's a boy!" and invite me to the baby shower. I know I should be happy for the newlyweds but it pisses me off because they didn't want this ! And I guess because it "accidentally" happened they don't understand how emotionally difficult it is to have to try. I just don't know if I can go to the shower.
**End TW**
As for the 1/1s - I am a 1/1 and if some miracle happened and I did get a BFP I would not be adding to grad week. I am sure you ladies struggle enough !
Me 27
DF 44
TTC post VR Sept 21/16
SA 6 weeks post op 50.7 mil count 40% motility
@KariAnn323 Girl, you are a saint. I couldn't handle that in a friend.
@sglen3 and @RunRestRepeat and @vflux33 Fingers crossed all goes well with the jobs. I was laid off four times and had no choice but to dust myself off and find another job because no one else could help financially. It's scary and I probably took some less than ideal positions, but I learned something each time. I am in my best overall job now, but it isn't my dream situation. Sometimes forced change is good.
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
edited for name
Dating 7/2008
Married 7/2014
H Type I Diabetic
TTC 1/2016
1/10/2017 initial appt with RE (all BW results WNL)
1/17/2017 SA DX Virtual Azoo (3 sperm 0%morph 0%motility)
1/18/2017 STP tubes clear
2/1/2017 initial appt with Urologist
2/15/2017 DX H Robertsonian Translocation
H is on clomid and Theralogix Supplements
6/26/17 repeat SA: 47 sperm 0% morph 13% motility
7/26/17 IVF Consult, repeat SA (4 sperm)
8/21/17 Starting IVF cycle with Donor Sperm backup
9/1/17 ER ICSI PGS: only 2 donor embryos made it to freeze
9/13/17 Started cycle for IUI with donor and clomid
9/27/17 IUI canceled for overstim
October Plan IUI with donor and low dose clomid
2. I don't like the easy BFPs, but what I really hate is people who start out in TWW and then post their positive a week or two later. I wouldn't dream of coming into a board just to kill time after I already ovulated.
3. Many of them wouldn't have gotten PG so quickly without the expertise and support of the women on this board. I'm gonna look at it as you have all been their great teachers.
4. Gonna play devil's advocate. If it was us, we would all do the beauty queen goodbye thank you speech and hope we wouldn't ever have to come back. I keep reminding myself that them getting their BFP doesn't affect my chances and I don't know their circumstances before TTC. Maybe one of the 1/1 is in their 40s and had to wait years before being able to even try. Maybe they had a medical issue that benched them for years. Maybe they lost a partner and waited to find a new one years later. Maybe they are just lucky. I am trying not to take it personal even when my hormones are raging.
5. Big hugs to everyone today!
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
Me 27
DF 44
TTC post VR Sept 21/16
SA 6 weeks post op 50.7 mil count 40% motility
@RunRestRepeat FX your H gets good news about his job.
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
@bswishe4 My parents just got a divorce this month after being married for 24 years. Apparently my dad has already gone out to dinner with someone (home by 9 though haha) and my mom went out with a friend who set her up on a blind date, but my mom didn't know it was happening (according to her, my mom lies a lot. Hence divorce). I have a feeling my mom may end up like that too.
@KariAnn323 Well shit, I thought my friends/Facebook friends were bad with getting KU with no job/money/support/etc. It's women like that that make me believe there should be a test to have a baby and forced BC if you're incompetent. That's probably an UO.
I also got upset at all the 1 or 2 month BFPs. Like @adirat we're about to TTA for various reasons. @NYTino24 you said that very well and that actually makes me feel a bit better.
TTC since August 2018
Married: 6/10/11
*TW BFP: 12/4/16 EDD: 8/12/17
I'll just leave this here in the hopes of brightening your day.
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
Married 9/26/15
TTC 2/10/17 - BFP 5/5/17 - EDD 1/11/18