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dubcompanion · October 2016

Share the UOs, ladies!

sarahbobby · October 2016

Not wanting to share any pictures of my LO on social media after they are born.

chrlyr · October 2016

I went to a networking event the other day and the key note speaker was talking about the "culture" of his business and how they have developed their office environment to cater to millennials. They have game tables, catered lunches, zen rooms, massage chairs, etc. That sounds great and all, but going to work shouldn't be like going to freaking summer camp. I feel like you do these kids no favors by going way over the top with making work a fun place. I think you should enjoy what you do and have a positive environment to work in, but that kind of this just rubs me entirely the wrong way.

Finallyhismrs07 · October 2016

sarahbobby said:

Not wanting to share any pictures of my LO on social media after they are born.

We will be very very minimal in what we share for pictures online of the babies. It is definitely an UO in our families....they don't understand why I can't just "be okay" with letting everyone post whatever they would like..........

Gators&BoSox · October 2016

I hate showering. I mean, I do it, but I dread it every time. There is so much more I'd rather do with my half hour of free time than shave and fight my long hair and try to get all of my conditioner out of it. If I could snap my fingers and be clean oh I would. Same thing with getting my hair done. Besides the one amazing hair stylist I had in Orlando and always went to with a girlfriend, I really hate sitting in the chair and waiting for my hair to process and getting my hair wash and dried. It's tedious.

jenny0228 · October 2016

sarahbobby said:

Not wanting to share any pictures of my LO on social media after they are born.

We will be very minimal on social media. I stopped using Facebook recently, DH doesn't use it, and my family and friends are so annoyed with us that we don't see their updates, and say "how are we going to see pictures if you don't have Facebook?" Um.. we will send them to you?? DH and I do use Instagram, but we have a very edited and private group we allow, basically only close friends and family. But much of my family doesn't use Instagram. Maybe it's just because of the election, but there is so much hostility and negativity on Facebook, I have been much happier not using it. I have no problems with people that do use it, I just choose not to.

Gators&BoSox · October 2016

@jenny0228 DH and I don't do FB either and haven't for a while. We just text pictures out. It's not like you're telling them you won't share photos lol. plus now you can personalize the texts with "Hi Grandma!" and stuff. I'm sure they'll get over it

kiyamurph · October 2016

chrlyr said:

I went to a networking event the other day and the key note speaker was talking about the "culture" of his business and how they have developed their office environment to cater to millennials. They have game tables, catered lunches, zen rooms, massage chairs, etc. That sounds great and all, but going to work shouldn't be like going to freaking summer camp. I feel like you do these kids no favors by going way over the top with making work a fun place. I think you should enjoy what you do and have a positive environment to work in, but that kind of this just rubs me entirely the wrong way.

I am so in agreement with you on this and I get why Millennials are considered to be the entitled generation. I'm not saying that all millennials feel entitled. Of course not. But a lot of them do and it drives me batty. Me and a coworker were recently eating lunch next to a group of nurses who haven't been out of nursing school for that long. It was clear that they were newbies. They were talking about their schedule that just came out and saying that they were going to have to talk to the manager about changing dates because they needed weekends off for this and that. They expressed how they were going to refuse to work any major holidays and blah blah blah. I was floored. I really wanted to turn to those spoiled brats and tell them that if they wanted all holidays and weekends off then they're in the wrong damn industry. You work in a hospital for chrissakes! It's a 24/7 operation. It does not shut down for you. And furthermore, when you're the new person on the job, you can't expect to come in and get a cushy schedule. Everyone knows that the people that are low on the totem pole get a shit schedule. It's the way the world works! Rant over!

sunshine507 · October 2016

chrlyr said:

I went to a networking event the other day and the key note speaker was talking about the "culture" of his business and how they have developed their office environment to cater to millennials. They have game tables, catered lunches, zen rooms, massage chairs, etc. That sounds great and all, but going to work shouldn't be like going to freaking summer camp. I feel like you do these kids no favors by going way over the top with making work a fun place. I think you should enjoy what you do and have a positive environment to work in, but that kind of this just rubs me entirely the wrong way.

I'm 31 and have been told I'm a millennial... I guess I was right at the beginning of the wave? Had no social media through high school or college (thank goodness) and had the joys of graduating undergrad RIGHT before the recession hit. This whole 'vacation at work' thing so often comes with the expectation that you basically move in at work, 9-5 becomes a joke as does work-life balance. It's just not healthy or sustainable as you get older. Bring in food sometimes, have office-wide recycling, let people have at least some flexible scheduling options and leave it at that. I'll take dental over a massage chair in the break room any day, and so would my younger siblings.

cluckymama · October 2016

Gators&BoSox said:

I hate showering. I mean, I do it, but I dread it every time. There is so much more I'd rather do with my half hour of free time than shave and fight my long hair and try to get all of my conditioner out of it. If I could snap my fingers and be clean oh I would. Same thing with getting my hair done. Besides the one amazing hair stylist I had in Orlando and always went to with a girlfriend, I really hate sitting in the chair and waiting for my hair to process and getting my hair wash and dried. It's tedious.

And blow drying hair... that is the worst part cause there goes another 10 - 15 minutes!

dubcompanion · October 2016

Why do people still write checks at the grocery store? And why do some businesses still only accept checks or cash as payment? #smalltownproblems My UO is that the use of checks should be completely eradicated. Just, like, why. The only exception would be a certified check for large sums of money like making a down payment on a house - and even that might able to be handled in a 21st century manner.

Spartanrd4 · October 2016

I agree @dubcompanion- I hate when I go somewhere and they only accept cash....I never carry cash. Like wtf?? Get with the times people!! I mean obviously most of the people that still use checks are older people- I mean my parents still have a land line lol so as time goes on I'm hoping the usage of checks will just die off.

dubcompanion · October 2016

@Spartanrd4 I live in a small town, and I can't tell you how often I'm stuck waiting in line as someone (100% of the time someone older) writes a check and logs it into their checkbook. Meanwhile, hangry me is fuming and thinking, "I'm going to gnaw off my arm and then go for theirs for seconds."

DrillSergeantCat · October 2016

sunshine507 said:

chrlyr said:

I went to a networking event the other day and the key note speaker was talking about the "culture" of his business and how they have developed their office environment to cater to millennials. They have game tables, catered lunches, zen rooms, massage chairs, etc. That sounds great and all, but going to work shouldn't be like going to freaking summer camp. I feel like you do these kids no favors by going way over the top with making work a fun place. I think you should enjoy what you do and have a positive environment to work in, but that kind of this just rubs me entirely the wrong way.

I'm 31 and have been told I'm a millennial... I guess I was right at the beginning of the wave? Had no social media through high school or college (thank goodness) and had the joys of graduating undergrad RIGHT before the recession hit. This whole 'vacation at work' thing so often comes with the expectation that you basically move in at work, 9-5 becomes a joke as does work-life balance. It's just not healthy or sustainable as you get older. Bring in food sometimes, have office-wide recycling, let people have at least some flexible scheduling options and leave it at that. I'll take dental over a massage chair in the break room any day, and so would my younger siblings.

Those things make employees feel appreciated and, in turn, they are more productive. https://www.techrepublic.com/article/how-having-fun-at-work-can-make-employees-more-productive/

Spartanrd4 · October 2016

@dubcompanion that reminds me of the time I was craving chinese food and I went to panda express and I was waiting in line and thankfully before I got to the front of the line they announced that their credit card machine was broken. At least half the line left the restaurant and went somewhere else because they didn't have cash. I was soooo hangry and had to have chinese food so I had to figure out another place to go- I was super annoyed.

kjd291 · October 2016

Not a fan of kissing on lips with kids.

I get upset when ppl kiss my kid on the lips. If you need to force a kiss on my toddler, cheek or forehead only please.

littleSkittle14 · October 2016

kjd291 said:

Not a fan of kissing on lips with kids.

I get upset when ppl kiss my kid on the lips. If you need to force a kiss on my toddler, cheek or forehead only please.

Ew. I would never be ok with someone kissing my kid on the lips! It's not something we do in our family so I'm sure not going to be ok with other extended family members or friends doing it!

Also, I am in the group of minimalist posting on facebook. Too many creepers. Why should a random kid I went to high school with or a girl who I was friends with for a few semesters in college have access to pictures of my kid?? I email grandparents about 1-2x a month with pics and will text my siblings. I don't hoard my pictures, but I don't broadcast them.

I also feel like my child has a right to privacy, so until she's old enough to say that she's even ok with her picture on the internet, I don't put it there. I have posted ones of the back of her head on rare occasion, but not her face.

hippiemama-2 · October 2016

kjd291 said:

Not a fan of kissing on lips with kids.

I get upset when ppl kiss my kid on the lips. If you need to force a kiss on my toddler, cheek or forehead only please.

THIS. It drives me insane. Honestly, I'm probably a little extreme because even when DH's parents do it, it pisses me off. If you did not participate in birthing that child, please don't feel like its your right to kiss them - anywhere - let alone on their lips!

kiyamurph · October 2016

@dubcompanion I guess I'm in the minority since I still write checks! I only use them for certain bills, like our water, gas, and electric. Other stuff I pay online. But yeah, it is annoying when you go into a business and they only want cash. Like for real? If I had cash on me it's literally like $2 in quarters.

dubcompanion · October 2016

@kjd291 I'm not even going to be kissing my own kids on the lips, but I was raised in a family where kissing on the lips was romantic only. I respect different cultural and familial values on this. However, OTHER people's kids? No. Again, if it's a cultural or familial thing, that's one thing, but in your case, it doesn't not sound like it. Don't blame you for how much you dislike it, and I would be vocal about it.

@littleSkittle14 The ultimate creepiest thing I have seen parents on my FB do is create their child's Facebook page - when that child can't even read yet. WTF?

@Spartanrd4 I would be super annoyed too! I'm sure the employees weren't happy either though - they had to spend the rest of their shift telling people that. Bad time all around!

CanadianintheSouth · October 2016

For those not wanting to share on social media - if you have iPhones/iPads in your family like mine, you can just start an iCloud sharing stream, and that's where I post pictures for my family (both mine and DH's). This way I can easily post a photo or video that I want all of my family to see, but not something I would post on FB. They can "like" the picture and post comments as well, it works really well for my family.

I'm on the opposite side of the kissing on lips (not sure if you guys are talking just other family/friends, or yourselves), my daughter and I give each other peck on the lips multiple times in the day (before bed, when saying goodbye etc). I don't think I'd care if extended family did it either as long as my daughter initiated it or was willing.

littleSkittle14 · October 2016

@dubcompanion yikes! I haven't seen that!! My cousin does have a Facebook account for her dog, but she's a weirdo. My SIL and husband set up a private Facebook group where they post pics of their baby for friends and family they've pre-selected to be in the group. I thought that a clever way to add some extra protection to their child's photos.

@CanadianintheSouth I thought it was about non-immediate family members. I sont think there's anything wrong with peckingyour kid on the lips- it's your kid! But it would be weird if my parents or close family friends did it. (Especially since dh and I don't do it with our kids)

DrillSergeantCat · October 2016

I flipped my shit when a teacher at my son's daycare kissed him on the cheek. She was new and very aggressive so I was already put off by her. Then we walk in one day and she runs up to him and kissed him on the cheek then asked me if it was okay. I told her it wasn't because he's been sick and having a hard time getting over it, to which she replied, "Yeah...I think I caught his cold." I almost slapped her right then.

librarymom917 · October 2016

I hate watching videos in class. I'm not paying for college to get put to sleep watching videos in class for three hours, if I have to be there freaking teach me something.

kjd291 · October 2016

CanadianintheSouth said:

I'm on the opposite side of the kissing on lips (not sure if you guys are talking just other family/friends, or yourselves), my daughter and I give each other peck on the lips multiple times in the day (before bed, when saying goodbye etc). I don't think I'd care if extended family did it either as long as my daughter initiated it or was willing.

Initiating on the kids part it is totally different!! If a kid wants to give someone a kiss, and plants one on their lips = so cute. An adult forcing a kiss on the lips = uncomfortable.

sarahbobby · October 2016

@littleskittle14 I couldn't agree more. I want my LO to have a say on what I put on social media. I want them to carve out their own identity in life and on social media. I also don't want them to be judged so early in life on social media.

wintersong · October 2016

kiyamurph said:

chrlyr said:

I went to a networking event the other day and the key note speaker was talking about the "culture" of his business and how they have developed their office environment to cater to millennials. They have game tables, catered lunches, zen rooms, massage chairs, etc. That sounds great and all, but going to work shouldn't be like going to freaking summer camp. I feel like you do these kids no favors by going way over the top with making work a fun place. I think you should enjoy what you do and have a positive environment to work in, but that kind of this just rubs me entirely the wrong way.

I am so in agreement with you on this and I get why Millennials are considered to be the entitled generation. I'm not saying that all millennials feel entitled. Of course not. But a lot of them do and it drives me batty. Me and a coworker were recently eating lunch next to a group of nurses who haven't been out of nursing school for that long. It was clear that they were newbies. They were talking about their schedule that just came out and saying that they were going to have to talk to the manager about changing dates because they needed weekends off for this and that. They expressed how they were going to refuse to work any major holidays and blah blah blah. I was floored. I really wanted to turn to those spoiled brats and tell them that if they wanted all holidays and weekends off then they're in the wrong damn industry. You work in a hospital for chrissakes! It's a 24/7 operation. It does not shut down for you. And furthermore, when you're the new person on the job, you can't expect to come in and get a cushy schedule. Everyone knows that the people that are low on the totem pole get a shit schedule. It's the way the world works! Rant over!

As a 31 year old I'm a millenial, and I totally agree with you. All my work friends are in their forties and fifties, lol.

DrillSergeantCat · October 2016

My UO is I think many millennials get a bad rap.

disneybaby84 · October 2016

On the topic of millennials, I think there should be a separation of those born in the 90s versus the 80s. The decade really does separate you. As a 32 year old, I don't identify with the whiny, need to be coddled, lack of ambition population. I do recognize that there are some born in the 90s that don't fall into that and am grateful for those that do exist. I just wish more did exist.

kiyamurph · October 2016

@DrillSergeantCat I agree, they do get a bad wrap because the really obnoxious ones ruin it for everyone else. The nurses that I spoke about earlier are the type that I can't stand. I don't know how they think they can enter the workforce and work along other RNs who've put in the work and paid their dues, and then expect to be off of holidays and weekends and to make demands. Nope. This is not how this works. If you want to work a 9-5, then go work in a clinic, not a hospital for crying out loud.

babyspice · October 2016

I don't want any family or friends visiting us at the hospital when baby is born. I want to wait until we're home and settled.. am I weird?

kiyamurph · October 2016

babyspice said:

I don't want any family or friends visiting us at the hospital when baby is born. I want to wait until we're home and settled.. am I weird?

Not at all! Those couple of days in the hospital are spent with you trying to breastfeed (if that's what you want), resting and recuperating, and bonding with the baby. Family may be disappointed with your choice but it's not about them and they'll get over it.

jmacd22 · October 2016

babyspice said:

I don't want any family or friends visiting us at the hospital when baby is born. I want to wait until we're home and settled.. am I weird?

Nope. Same here.

dubcompanion · October 2016

@babyspice I don't think so. I can only imagine we'll be exhausted and sore for several days. I am not the type who'd be cool with everyone and their cousin in my hospital room. I'd probably scream.

I'd be okay with just parents visiting. Everyone else will have to wait until we're home and settled. But I respect those who'd prefer not even parents at the hospital. I just know my parents and IL's would be very good about not hovering or overstaying their welcome. If they were the nosy, overbearing type, I'd be asking that they wait to visit too.

MsTurney · October 2016

I am with you on having people other than the parents of the child kiss them. I cringe multiple times when I see my mil and fil kiss my new nephew. I am petrified of cold sores and I know for a fact that my DH's dad gets them. If he has one when the child is born - can I not let him near the baby? I've heard it can cause neurological problems in young babies.

datalover13 · October 2016

I guess I'm on the other side of social media posting. One of the cool things with fb is that they have a "Scrapbook" feature, so if you see people tagging their kids, it might be for that. It's basically just a photo album of pictures you tag your kids in. I love being able to go to one place to look at how he's changed. I have my facebook friends locked down, but I do post quite a bit to keep up with extended family/friends. My mom and MIL will take pictures and videos through any social media as much as they can get it. I dunno.

Another millennial here who thinks we get a bad rap, too. Don't get me wrong, some are whiny, lazy, nonsense people, but we're not all that way. (Though I do complain about things like my student loan debt. I worked through (public) college and graduated with an engineering degree and I still owe a ton of money.)

lilies5/28/06 · October 2016

@disneybaby84 I agree with you as well. I'm in my mid 30's not sure if that would be considered a milenial but if it is I am far from it.

@kiyamurph I totally agree with you I'm a nurse as well and work in a hospital and you have a lot of the young ones or newbies complain about having to work the holidays or weekends (they even complain about working on a Monday and or Friday )or that they had to be rotated to nights. Its like really everyone else here had to put in their time.
I also teach clinical for nursing students on the side and its nothing like when I went to nursing school some of them they are passive agressive not respectful, hand things in late, dont do the work or if they do its last minute not prepared at all and then turn around and expect me to write them a glowing recommendation for a job. They dont realize how serious nursing is and how in an instant you can be faced in a life or death situation. And if they dont like what you have to say they are off to the dean or give you a bad evaluation.

EnglishTeacherMama · October 2016

@babyspice Same here! DH's family is into immediate visiting, and I haven't told them yet that I don't really want that... I'm not sure if I'll put my foot down or not. I want to feel supported but I also want alone time to recover and bond with my newborn. I guess I'd rather have people visit me in the hospital though, where there are curfews and limitations and a nurse I can sneakily ask to kick people out for me, rather than at our house where they might try to hang out forever.

mecoats · October 2016

babyspice said:

I don't want any family or friends visiting us at the hospital when baby is born. I want to wait until we're home and settled.. am I weird?

Nope you aren't weird at all. I too would rather have them visit after a couple weeks home adjusting. That being said....I wouldn't mind our parents being there. But friends......it's hit or miss. I visited my friend in the hospital when she had her baby at 26 weeks a couple years ago. That was an exception to this rule for me. It was a heart wrenching experience in the NICU. But my BFF's baby was released 77 days later and is thriving! It was good to see the transition.

chrlyr · October 2016

I'm 35, so on the border between Gen X and Millennials. Obviously not all people of that age group are stereotypical millennials, but they're definitely out there. I don't entirely blame millennials for the entitlement problem. I think helicopter parenting plays a huge part in enabling it. But the employees we've gotten right out of school seem to think that they should be given only the very best cases to work on and will be making tons of money immediately. Not how it works, folks.

catrb89 · October 2016

kjd291 said:

Not a fan of kissing on lips with kids.

I get upset when ppl kiss my kid on the lips. If you need to force a kiss on my toddler, cheek or forehead only please.

Ew no. Since we have a little girl on board, I want to teach her about consent early. I don't like the forced hugging/kissing, it's too much.

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