I took today off, partly because I'm still trying to be optimistic that the seller's will fix the lien issue with the house we are under contract for and we will need to be ready to move at the end of the month.... but the reason I picked today over any other day this week was because I had a couple of meetings I really didn't want to go to.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Oooooo yikes, I got hammered for something like that once... I bought a candy bar for myself, and at the checkout line I was informed I could get another one 1/2 off, so instead of buying my husband one, I just got another one I like and hid the evidence-------- NO RAGRETS!! also I think I'm going to watch that movie tonight because I like it so much and you guys keep reminding me of it.
I'm wearing flannel to work today, because casual Friday. Sorry flannel haters.
Also, I fully intend to leave early today as soon as all of our work is delivered. These newbs at work have killed me all week, mama needs some time off! I dare somebody to ask why I'm leaving early.
My FFFC is that you are all much nicer people than me and I have no intention of letting ANYONE stay at our place overnight for at least six months after the baby is born. For my FIL, who is on a tight budget, I'd happily get him a hotel right nearby, but the idea of overnight guests makes me want to panic inside. I may have a smaller house and/or higher need for personal space than most people but I just feel like I can't do that while getting used to parenting.
I agree. You know who looks good in a crop top? Nobody.
I'll disagree. Ive seen women who look amazing in them. And women who have asses I could only dream of having.....but I still don't want to see it. I'm weird about skin.
My FFFC is that you are all much nicer people than me and I have no intention of letting ANYONE stay at our place overnight for at least six months after the baby is born. For my FIL, who is on a tight budget, I'd happily get him a hotel right nearby, but the idea of overnight guests makes me want to panic inside. I may have a smaller house and/or higher need for personal space than most people but I just feel like I can't do that while getting used to parenting.
Oh I am SO with you. For me, the newborn stage is overwhelming and dealing with guests is just not on my radar!
My FFFC: I like where I work, I love my students, and I love the work that I do, but I have NO desire to be a "leader in my field," or some such garbage. I have faculty status at my university (I'm a librarian), so there is a lot of pressure to join lots of organizations, do lots of presentations, etc....and, uh, I just don't wanna. I'll work my buns off to serve my students, but after that, I'm just gonna take a nap, snuggle my dog, eat some snacks with my husband, raise a baby...just be lazy and unmotivated, I guess!
Edited because words.
Me: 34 Husband: 35 Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17 BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
I despise overnight guests....we technically have a full, large spare bedroom in our lower level beyond what we'll ever need for kidlet(s) and we're turning it into a workout room. I feel like having a "guest bedroom" just invites people to overstay their welcome. We've already gotten backlash from MIL, and it makes me stabby. She already moved 5 hours away from her home to be closer to her grandbaby, and now she lives 1.5 miles away because she has no concept of giving anyone space. Wtf does she need a bedroom at our house for?! No.
My FFFC- we just got some hand me down furniture for our bedroom from a relative, it's waaaaaay nicer than we'd ever be able to afford. The set has one of those long lowboy dressers and it was supposed to sit in our garage until our neighbor got home to help DH move it later today. I get out of the shower and DH had decided to move the damn thing himself, and he absolutely chipped up the two front corners BIG time. Like raw wood and large splinters hanging off the top and large gashes across the top too. I'm fucking FUMING!!! I can't even be in the room with him right now, we had a beautiful piece of furniture on our property for 20 whole mins and now it looks like a thriftstore piece that's been used and abused to hell. We don't have a lot of money, and I was really proud to have "matching" furniture. Now I'm so fucking disappointed and annoyed to heck that DH couldn't wait 2 measly hours to make sure everything stayed in good condition. AGGHH pbbbbtpalzmaofnrbwkaozjxnnckgg
I love overnight guests! (Excluding my own parents.) Usually it's my in-laws and they always entertain my kid and buy us stuff so that probably helps. It might be from being a SAHM in a place where there's nothing to do... I look forward to visitors coming to mix it up a bit.
@Xstatic3333 : i am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO there with you! i don't want any houseguests until at least 3 months. DH thinks i'm being mean but i think he's clueless and will be grateful for my "meanness" in the future when the baby is here.
FFFC: my food choices this week have consisted primarily of candy. baked goods, and french fries.
I handle none of our finances, and am pretty clueless about investments and taxes etc. Math is not my forte and I don't even like talking about numbers.
I also don't want any visitors staying in our house and have no problem telling that to our families! I'm glad I'm not the only one! There are hotels for a reason and I'm happy to pay for that, but I cannot deal with people in my personal space regularly, let alone after having a baby. Luckily we have a small house so people get it and we haven't gotten much push back.
I handle none of our finances, and am pretty clueless about investments and taxes etc. Math is not my forte and I don't even like talking about numbers.
Me either, when people ask me budget questions, I am like what is the point of marrying an accountant if I have to worry about budget. He takes care of that end which is good because I suck at numbers.
@Spicyweiner that's fair! I actually don't mind skin, I just find the look aesthetically displeasing. I think it's because most people look uncomfortable and spend the whole day fidgeting/pulling them down. Maybe I'm just jealous that after pregnancy I'm guessing my days of having a crop top option are behind me
I handle none of our finances, and am pretty clueless about investments and taxes etc. Math is not my forte and I don't even like talking about numbers.
This makes me nervous for you! I get that you are happy to have it that way and I'm sure it works fine for you, but I just think that it is super important to know the full picture of your finances! Not to sound fatalist but you never know what could happen. I'm just super type A and can't imagine not having all the info or being in control of it - even though I completely trust my husband to always do the right thing for us.
FFFC: I just got irrationally angry at our work cafeteria just because they did not have the food they had put on the published menu. My coworkers probably think I'm insane but food disappointment is so real right now
+1 to no overnight guests (unless by some miracle my Texan cousin braves the trip to Montana in February...) and +1 to no midriff/ass showing unless it's at a pool... or a BBQ maybe. My FFFC: I am turning into the same passive aggressive monster I was as a teenager and I am kind of loving it. There's something very satisfying about a well-placed and well-deserved jab when people don't respond to my normal direct approach. Bad neighbors are bearing the brunt of it
Examples include changing our wifi SSID to shame loud parties and late-night drunken fights and buying cutesy orange flags to decorate the dog piles from the neighbor's dog around our main door. #notpickingitupanymore
I handle none of our finances, and am pretty clueless about investments and taxes etc. Math is not my forte and I don't even like talking about numbers.
This makes me nervous for you! I get that you are happy to have it that way and I'm sure it works fine for you, but I just think that it is super important to know the full picture of your finances! Not to sound fatalist but you never know what could happen. I'm just super type A and can't imagine not having all the info or being in control of it - even though I completely trust my husband to always do the right thing for us.
I get that. I am just admittedly awful with money, and he is much better at saving and allowing. I know what we have, where it is etc....and I have my own 401k and bank account. But I do trust him to make the majority of our financial moves.
I handle none of our finances, and am pretty clueless about investments and taxes etc. Math is not my forte and I don't even like talking about numbers.
Money in particular stresses me out. Probably because finances were always tight growing up with a single mom and multiple siblings, so I learned that spending money unnecessarily = bad, bad, bad... I am a pretty frugal person because of this, whereas H is a little more spend-happy (as he came from a family where money was never an issue). Luckily, H is very good with math, likes spreadsheets, and doesn't mind making sure bills get paid. I have access to all of our accounts, and I do check to see what we have in our checking (and I check credit card bills and whatnot). We don't have a TON of extra money, but we're doing fine. But once in a while, when H brings up debt (we have a little credit card debt, I have a few thousand left of student loan debt, he has a LOT of student loan debt), it sends me into a panic spiral where I feel like we're basically homeless. I have anxiety problems, clearly.
Also, +1 to not liking house guests, ever, with the exception of my MIL, because she is really low maintenance, she cleans, and she cooks for us. I don't have to entertain her. I also don't mind H's brothers coming for a couple of days, or a few of his other family members for no more than two nights. But I REALLY don't like any of my family staying over, at all They just stress me out and I feel like I have to entertain them. Luckily, my mom and one of my sisters both live within a mile of me, so when other family comes to visit the baby, they can stay with one of them. Or get an AirBnB, which is what my dad and step-mom always do anyway.
+1 to no overnight guests. I have no idea what I'm doing and I will have 3 humans and a dog to keep alive. Just let me do it. I don't need to entertain you as well.
I hate dealing with finances but I'm way better at it than H. So I'm constantly worried we're making the wrong moves but I feel like if we can pay our bills, save some money and have retirement/ life insurance we're doing better than the majority of Americans.
I agree. You know who looks good in a crop top? Nobody.
I'll disagree. Ive seen women who look amazing in them. And women who have asses I could only dream of having.....but I still don't want to see it. I'm weird about skin.
Agreeing with my ex GF here. My students are not allowed to wear crop tops, but I don't care if they do. They're 16 and when in your life are you going to look good in a crop top again? NEVER, that's when. And I'll take it a step further with my own FFFC: I don't believe that it should be on girls to police their wardrobe in an effort to avoid "distracting" boys. I think most school wardrobe policies are sexist as fuck and I refuse to enforce parts of the policy that I think are sexist. I'll stop a kid from walking into my room wearing a tshirt with curse words or pictures of weed all day, and you're not coming through my door wearing a hat or headphones, but twelve centimeters of midriff never hindered anyone's learning.
+1 to no overnight guests. I was talking to my MIL the other day and she casually mentions how she's so excited to visit us after the baby is born. WHAT. THE. ACTUAL. FUCK. I never invited or even suggested she come over. She lives in Atlanta right now with her daughter. No thank you. We live in a 1 bedroom apartment, we're struggling financially, and by no means am I going to give up my peace to entertain you right after giving birth. Plus also, breastfeeding. I dont need you watching me breastfeed. And oh my God she talks sooooo much! I dint understand how people talk a lot. Husband and I got into an argument after I got off the phone with her. The issue still has not been resolved.
My FFFC is that Im 100% judging my FB friend for the name of his kid. I try not to judge but man, this made me laugh out loud #loledatwork
I say judge away! I have some friends who have chosen some doozies of names and I have no shame in silently shaking my head and commiserating with my husband on how ridiculous they are!
+1 to no overnight guests. I was talking to my MIL the other day and she casually mentions how she's so excited to visit us after the baby is born. WHAT. THE. ACTUAL. FUCK. I never invited or even suggested she come over. She lives in Atlanta right now with her daughter. No thank you. We live in a 1 bedroom apartment, we're struggling financially, and by no means am I going to give up my peace to entertain you right after giving birth. Plus also, breastfeeding. I dont need you watching me breastfeed. And oh my God she talks sooooo much! I dint understand how people talk a lot. Husband and I got into an argument after I got off the phone with her. The issue still has not been resolved.
Hasn't this come up a few times before with her? Did she not listen the first time?
As a FTM, house guests are definitely more work. I was stressed about having a clean house when our visitors came. And nobody really provides much help because there's not much they can do. Stay strong with your wishes for post baby!
@NiceyMeany PREACH! Dress codes are bullshit. It is not my or any other woman's fault if you can't concentrate or are thinking about sex. I think about sex all the time but I'm not blaming it on the people around me or their clothes.
Andplusalso, dress codes against things like leggings and tank tops are sexist garbage.
+1 to no overnight guests. I was talking to my MIL the other day and she casually mentions how she's so excited to visit us after the baby is born. WHAT. THE. ACTUAL. FUCK. I never invited or even suggested she come over. She lives in Atlanta right now with her daughter. No thank you. We live in a 1 bedroom apartment, we're struggling financially, and by no means am I going to give up my peace to entertain you right after giving birth. Plus also, breastfeeding. I dont need you watching me breastfeed. And oh my God she talks sooooo much! I dint understand how people talk a lot. Husband and I got into an argument after I got off the phone with her. The issue still has not been resolved.
Hasn't this come up a few times before with her? Did she not listen the first time?
She. Does. NOT. Listen. She doesn't know how to do it. It's like not in her vocabulary.
I agree with sexist dress codes! I have always had big boobs and I remember one time in high school I was reprimanded for a "low cut" shirt, when in reality it probably would have been normal on a smaller chested person. I've always tried to dress on the conservative side, but sometimes it's difficult to find appropriate clothing that covers my chest. That's not my fault, so why should I be reprimanded for my natural body type?
Dress codes were hard for me in school because I was allllll legs. Shorts that looked normal length on my friends were looking like hot pants on me because I'm tall and I would get told to change into my PE shorts. Maybe that's why I'm weird about them lol
I bet I'm also touchy about dress codes because I am long-legged and big-boobed. Like, sorry not sorry that my body is bangin' and you can't function around me. Get your shit together.
I will admit that as a teacher, I'm psychotic about making sure my cleavage is covered, but that's because teenagers stare at me all day as part of my job, and it's well-established that they are gross little creatures who will take any cue to become distracted and not do their work.
Re: FFFC 10/14
I don't want to see your butt or your belly, thankyouverymuch.
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Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Also, I fully intend to leave early today as soon as all of our work is delivered. These newbs at work have killed me all week, mama needs some time off! I dare somebody to ask why I'm leaving early.
Ive seen women who look amazing in them.
And women who have asses I could only dream of having.....but I still don't want to see it.
I'm weird about skin.
Edited because words.
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
I despise overnight guests....we technically have a full, large spare bedroom in our lower level beyond what we'll ever need for kidlet(s) and we're turning it into a workout room. I feel like having a "guest bedroom" just invites people to overstay their welcome. We've already gotten backlash from MIL, and it makes me stabby. She already moved 5 hours away from her home to be closer to her grandbaby, and now she lives 1.5 miles away because she has no concept of giving anyone space. Wtf does she need a bedroom at our house for?! No.
My FFFC- we just got some hand me down furniture for our bedroom from a relative, it's waaaaaay nicer than we'd ever be able to afford. The set has one of those long lowboy dressers and it was supposed to sit in our garage until our neighbor got home to help DH move it later today. I get out of the shower and DH had decided to move the damn thing himself, and he absolutely chipped up the two front corners BIG time. Like raw wood and large splinters hanging off the top and large gashes across the top too. I'm fucking FUMING!!! I can't even be in the room with him right now, we had a beautiful piece of furniture on our property for 20 whole mins and now it looks like a thriftstore piece that's been used and abused to hell. We don't have a lot of money, and I was really proud to have "matching" furniture. Now I'm so fucking disappointed and annoyed to heck that DH couldn't wait 2 measly hours to make sure everything stayed in good condition. AGGHH pbbbbtpalzmaofnrbwkaozjxnnckgg
FFFC: my food choices this week have consisted primarily of candy. baked goods, and french fries.
Math is not my forte and I don't even like talking about numbers.
Married to my Soul Mate since 09/06/09
My FFFC: I am turning into the same passive aggressive monster I was as a teenager and I am kind of loving it. There's something very satisfying about a well-placed and well-deserved jab when people don't respond to my normal direct approach. Bad neighbors are bearing the brunt of it
Examples include changing our wifi SSID to shame loud parties and late-night drunken fights and buying cutesy orange flags to decorate the dog piles from the neighbor's dog around our main door. #notpickingitupanymore
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
I am just admittedly awful with money, and he is much better at saving and allowing.
I know what we have, where it is etc....and I have my own 401k and bank account.
But I do trust him to make the majority of our financial moves.
Also, +1 to not liking house guests, ever, with the exception of my MIL, because she is really low maintenance, she cleans, and she cooks for us. I don't have to entertain her. I also don't mind H's brothers coming for a couple of days, or a few of his other family members for no more than two nights. But I REALLY don't like any of my family staying over, at all They just stress me out and I feel like I have to entertain them. Luckily, my mom and one of my sisters both live within a mile of me, so when other family comes to visit the baby, they can stay with one of them. Or get an AirBnB, which is what my dad and step-mom always do anyway.
I hate dealing with finances but I'm way better at it than H. So I'm constantly worried we're making the wrong moves but I feel like if we can pay our bills, save some money and have retirement/ life insurance we're doing better than the majority of Americans.
I was talking to my MIL the other day and she casually mentions how she's so excited to visit us after the baby is born. WHAT. THE. ACTUAL. FUCK. I never invited or even suggested she come over. She lives in Atlanta right now with her daughter. No thank you. We live in a 1 bedroom apartment, we're struggling financially, and by no means am I going to give up my peace to entertain you right after giving birth. Plus also, breastfeeding. I dont need you watching me breastfeed. And oh my God she talks sooooo much! I dint understand how people talk a lot. Husband and I got into an argument after I got off the phone with her. The issue still has not been resolved.
Andplusalso, dress codes against things like leggings and tank tops are sexist garbage.
She doesn't know how to do it. It's like not in her vocabulary.
Maybe that's why I'm weird about them lol
I will admit that as a teacher, I'm psychotic about making sure my cleavage is covered, but that's because teenagers stare at me all day as part of my job, and it's well-established that they are gross little creatures who will take any cue to become distracted and not do their work.