More of an Anxiety Fest that I hope doesn't turn into a Bitch Fest next week: I'm visiting my sister this weekend, she's having her bridal shower. I'm due the weekend of her wedding (obviously, not planned AT ALL). This caused a lot of angst when we first announced that we were expecting, and I'm afraid that it will cause real damage to our relationship. We used to be very close, but for the past several months the tone of our conversations has really changed. This weekend is the first time we are seeing each other in person since I got pregnant, i really hope it goes ok. From what I've heard, her fiance's family can be really passive aggressive, I hope this doesn't turn into "the weekend of shaming the shitty sister who purposefully ruined the wedding by getting knocked up."
@marynog I'm sorry you're going through that. Don't let other people get into your head with their comments. Just try to be there as a supporting sister & proud soon to be mom.
@marynog There are so many things to stress about for a wedding so you may just be sensing her stress and internalizing it. There are also so many people to be annoyed with when you plan for a wedding but a sister getting pregnant isn't something anyone can really control. The people she should be annoyed with are people who don't RSVP, the photographer, the caterer, the people altering her dress, and basically anyone participating in the wedding who can't read the bride's mind. :P
Mine is another MIL BF. So she began texting me on Monday about my shower- is it still Nov 13? Are you registered anywhere? etc. I answered and she then goes: "Ok let me know if you need my sister's address." I was like UMMM.... *flashback to wedding time* Basically to give a little back story, my husband is really only close to 2 aunts in his entire extended family. The rest have mostly been outsiders his whole life. So with the wedding we wrestled with who to invite since our venue was so tight and had so many problems with her family being "left out." So now with the baby shower I'm just like WHY would I invite your sister who I've met ONCE to my baby shower and I don't even know her?! It ended up being a back and forth and then my husband called her and she cried and hung up on him and then she called me the next morning and I guess we have it worked out? I dunno I'm just so sick of her trying to stick herself into everything. Im not throwing this shower for myself- my sister is and she's in charge. Talk to her! Ugh.
@shlecka my MIL threw a FIT when her sister and mother (who I am not close to and have seen maybe 5 times in my whole marriage) were not invited to my baby shower last time which was being held in my tiny townhome because my SIL never booked a venue and basically pregnant SIL and my pregnant self ended up sitting on the floor to accommodate all these older people I didn't even know who came.
Totally first world problems here but DH ate all the skittles out of the bag of Halloween candy and I just really wanted some skittles
This made me giggle. Skittles are sacred in our house. DD LOVES them! She gets a Skittle each time she goes potty on the potty and she gets so excited every single time.
Just a small MBF to add, for the life of me I can't figure out how to add my tickers to my signature and make them work! ugh.
The codes you have showing up look like they aren't complete. Should end with a "</a>"
Also, make sure where you put the codes, you click the "</>" to toggle the html view. Its the last button on the bar where you can select bold, italic etc. Otherwise if you save it'll just look like the code you have now
I want to start by saying I'm so grateful that we get to renovate our kitchen and bathroom and that we have family nearby who will take us in during the process.
But holy eff, I just want to go home. I want to sleep shittily in my own bed, the big park near my house for walks, my dogs back on their regular routine, my own fridge and kitchen to cook healthy meals, and I wanna effing nest the crap out of the baby's room. I've passed the two week mark (with about a month prior to that with our house out of sorts!) and am starting to lose my mind. Babymoon is next week and then we are so close to going home. Patience! Thanks for letting me bitch
I was SO excited when my best friend told me she was pregnant and now I'm... not. She's being ridiculous. Anytime I try to vent about my symptoms or how I'm feeling (she's a STM), she goes on and on about how great she feels and how much she loves pregnancy. It's even worse because her husband tells my husband how miserable/sick/tired she is this pregnancy. It was almost comedic at first, but now DH is getting upset because he sees how it's hurting my feelings. I just don't understand why she's acting this way. Be my best friend and bitch about pregnancy with me! Don't make me feel like a terrible person because I'm still nauseous or I ate two bowls of ice cream last night.
Also I mentioned a few weeks ago how she talked to her lactation consultant about me, without speaking to me first, and I thought it was weird/awkward (you all agreed). Well she text me today that she talked to her again to update her on my new symptoms and she would love to set up a consultation with me. She then went on about how they talked about my milk supply and possible surgery complications. Basically they had a whole consultation - without me.
Wtf. Seriously. I'm over it. Sorry for the rant! Anyone else have friends acting weird lately?
@shlecka I am having flashbacks to my wedding while dealing with my MIL, too. She invited so many people. I didn't show her my guest list for the shower and I've already gotten one voicemail asking if I remembered to include her sister in law's twin. I'm trying to ignore it and hope she will leave me alone haha.
Just a small MBF to add, for the life of me I can't figure out how to add my tickers to my signature and make them work! ugh.
The codes you have showing up look like they aren't complete. Should end with a "</a>"
Also, make sure where you put the codes, you click the "</>" to toggle the html view. Its the last button on the bar where you can select bold, italic etc. Otherwise if you save it'll just look like the code you have now
Genius! I was missing part of the code, I'll just go ahead put myself in the corner now I do believe it's fixed now! THANK YOU
I don't know how much more I can take with this pregnancy. My dog must be sensing baby is coming and have to pull all this shit, I'm to the point I just want to give up and drive far far away from everything.
When I was 14 weeks that really just started it off, I had a surprise ultrasound only because I had a bad visit and they wanted to make it up to me. They diagnosis me with Placenta Previa and Low fluid. Doom and gloom for the next 4 weeks until my AS where everything looked good. At about 16 weeks my old dog had some funny looking rash that they thought was ringworm so they put him on anti-fungal and told me not to be close to him. When I was about 18 weeks my baby nephew was diagnoses with this super rare disease, that attacks the body like a cancer. About 19 weeks old dog jumps off couch wrong and gets a slipped disk. He is on strict crate rest and can only walk little bits, a week later he gets pneumonia and we end up with a hefty emergency vet bill. 2 weeks ago my husband's uncle suddenly died. Last week we had a hurricane that threatened my house/dogs. This week old dog goes in for his follow up appointment for his back and they now think his hernia (that he has had for 4 years, and my parents refused to fix) is growing and/or it is some type of growth.
I'm just fed up. I can't even be excited about baby or prepare for baby because I am too worried about every other shitastic thing that has happened during this pregnancy. I'm not to the point of depression, but I don't know how much more I can take before I am there.
I am so annoyed with the lack of sleep business. Between needing to pee every hour/hour and a half and H rolling over and punching me I'm just done. Pretty close to telling him to F off and sleep downstairs for the next 11-13 weeks. There is zero reason for him to touch me when we sleep, it's a king size bed, stay on your own fricken half. God! It's making me extra grumpy with him even though I know he's not doing it intentionally but fuck I'm going to punch him in his stupid face soon. Also then his condescending tone when he asks why I'm even tired when I did zero things during the day.....like I will actually murder you if you don't shut up right now.
Alright I'm partially joking about murdering him but I'm getting close I think
@AmRe214 I'm so sorry for everything you've had to deal with. I think you've definitely earned some me-time, whether that's a massage, buying something you've been oogling, or just some alone time with a book away from the rest of the world. I personally feel a lot better about things falling apart around me when I remind myself it's totally fine to not be jumping for joy about this pregnancy, and then I take a bit of time to be a little selfish. Hang in there!
@mudderbear my DH has started hogging the bed "accidentally" as well and I have gotten to a point where I just shove him back to his half or wake him up and make a big deal out of it. In the beginning it didn't bother me so much but now that I wake up multiple times a night to change position and/or pee I need every minute of sleep I can get.
@ladysaceb trying to get him to move is near impossible. He is 200 lbs of dead weight and he fights it. Plus when I finally manage to hit him hard enough or push him I end up with insane rlp that it's not even worth it. I'd sleep downstairs but what a pain if toddler decides to wake up in the night.
@AmRe214 thats really tough, and a lot to go through in a short period of time. Maybe it's a good thing all this isn't happening when the baby is here? Just hang in there, and I agree with @moosette113 you definitely deserve something real good!
@mudderbear I feel ya, same thing is happening to me. My DH is now starting to snore too. I will lay there awake, trying to sleep, and after 20 minutes of his snoring, I gently wake him up "baby can you please turn on your side so you stop snoring?" and he says he's not snoring and continues to lay there in the same position. Snoring starts again less than a minute later. This cycle repeats 2 more times until he finally moves FML I start crying sometimes. I want to order him to sleep on the couch lol but then I can't sleep without him there
Ugh... so my husband is tired of our 2yo sneaking into our bed at night. We put him to bed in his own room and wake up to him snuggled beside me. My dear, dear husband's idea? Lock our bedroom door so he can't get in. Which sounds like a decent plan in theory, except that when my son starts screaming for us, which he will, who will be the one to get up and deal with it in the middle of the night? Not the guy whose idea it is! Um... I'm pregnant and am losing sleep as it is. I need my sleep to be able to wake up and deal with 8 year olds! If he wants to try this, then he needs to be the one who deals!
@AmRe214 thats really tough, and a lot to go through in a short period of time. Maybe it's a good thing all this isn't happening when the baby is here? Just hang in there, and I agree with @moosette113 you definitely deserve something real good!
@mudderbear I feel ya, same thing is happening to me. My DH is now starting to snore too. I will lay there awake, trying to sleep, and after 20 minutes of his snoring, I gently wake him up "baby can you please turn on your side so you stop snoring?" and he says he's not snoring and continues to lay there in the same position. Snoring starts again less than a minute later. This cycle repeats 2 more times until he finally moves FML I start crying sometimes. I want to order him to sleep on the couch lol but then I can't sleep without him there
This happens several times a night in my bed. Sometimes my husband gets sick of me yelling at him and he goes to sleep in the guest bed, and even though I'd rather have him next to me, it's usually a huge relief.
My husband will wake me up putting his hand on my back. He says he's always done this during the night. I have never noticed it before, but now when I wake up I can't go back to sleep. I'm like, stop touching me! You should never wake a sleeping pregnant woman.
I posted about this in the weekly appointment thread too, but at my 28 week check up yesterday the nurse was so baffled by my large weight gain in the last month that she actually got on the scale herself to make sure it wasn't broken. Cue slight embarrassment.
To be fair I gained almost nothing for the first 20 weeks and now at 28 weeks I'm up 20 pounds, but ugh.
We're out for date night tonight and decided to try a new place. I watched three pregnant women, myself included, be sat at high top tables with chairs that had no back (there were plenty of tables and maybe 5 high tops). I might be picky here but really? DH even gave up his high back chair at the bar because he felt so bad for the woman closest to us. When I said something to our waitress, she told me I could wait another 45 minutes (after already waiting an hour) for a possible table. BUT she couldn't promise anything. I don't think we'll be back there.
I'm also extra bitter because they offered a GF menu online and then had no GF items in the restaurant. So not cool.
Ugh. To get the cheap insurance plan (same exact coverage just lower premiums) we have to do yearly exams and blood work. I have to fast for 12 hours to get my lipid levels. I really think they should exempt pregnant ladies from that blood test. I'm not even hungry for dinner yet but I have to eat now because my appointment is for 7 AM >:(
I already don't like the new monitor we got for DD1 and the nursery. It's too zoomed in and doesn't pan down far enough so we have to mount both of them. Ugh
Our RainbowBaby H arrived at 37 weeks on 12/20/16!
Baby E arrived at 37 weeks on 01/31/15!
Married my Marine 05.23.14
*TW* TWIN LOSS 7.2.15 BFP 9.7.15 CP BFP 12.31.15 MC 2.28.16 BFP 10.14.17 CP BFP 3.10.18 D&C 4.13.18
Re: Weekly Bitch Fest 10/10-10/15
Also, make sure where you put the codes, you click the "</>" to toggle the html view. Its the last button on the bar where you can select bold, italic etc. Otherwise if you save it'll just look like the code you have now
But holy eff, I just want to go home. I want to sleep shittily in my own bed, the big park near my house for walks, my dogs back on their regular routine, my own fridge and kitchen to cook healthy meals, and I wanna effing nest the crap out of the baby's room. I've passed the two week mark (with about a month prior to that with our house out of sorts!) and am starting to lose my mind. Babymoon is next week and then we are so close to going home. Patience! Thanks for letting me bitch
Also I mentioned a few weeks ago how she talked to her lactation consultant about me, without speaking to me first, and I thought it was weird/awkward (you all agreed). Well she text me today that she talked to her again to update her on my new symptoms and she would love to set up a consultation with me. She then went on about how they talked about my milk supply and possible surgery complications. Basically they had a whole consultation - without me.
Wtf. Seriously. I'm over it. Sorry for the rant! Anyone else have friends acting weird lately?
When I was 14 weeks that really just started it off, I had a surprise ultrasound only because I had a bad visit and they wanted to make it up to me. They diagnosis me with Placenta Previa and Low fluid. Doom and gloom for the next 4 weeks until my AS where everything looked good.
At about 16 weeks my old dog had some funny looking rash that they thought was ringworm so they put him on anti-fungal and told me not to be close to him.
When I was about 18 weeks my baby nephew was diagnoses with this super rare disease, that attacks the body like a cancer.
About 19 weeks old dog jumps off couch wrong and gets a slipped disk. He is on strict crate rest and can only walk little bits, a week later he gets pneumonia and we end up with a hefty emergency vet bill.
2 weeks ago my husband's uncle suddenly died.
Last week we had a hurricane that threatened my house/dogs.
This week old dog goes in for his follow up appointment for his back and they now think his hernia (that he has had for 4 years, and my parents refused to fix) is growing and/or it is some type of growth.
I'm just fed up. I can't even be excited about baby or prepare for baby because I am too worried about every other shitastic thing that has happened during this pregnancy. I'm not to the point of depression, but I don't know how much more I can take before I am there.
Alright I'm partially joking about murdering him but I'm getting close I think
BFP#5 5/22/17 EDD:1/27/17 It's a GIRL!!!!
@mudderbear I feel ya, same thing is happening to me. My DH is now starting to snore too. I will lay there awake, trying to sleep, and after 20 minutes of his snoring, I gently wake him up "baby can you please turn on your side so you stop snoring?" and he says he's not snoring and continues to lay there in the same position. Snoring starts again less than a minute later. This cycle repeats 2 more times until he finally moves FML I start crying sometimes. I want to order him to sleep on the couch lol but then I can't sleep without him there
This happens several times a night in my bed. Sometimes my husband gets sick of me yelling at him and he goes to sleep in the guest bed, and even though I'd rather have him next to me, it's usually a huge relief.
To be fair I gained almost nothing for the first 20 weeks and now at 28 weeks I'm up 20 pounds, but ugh.
I'm also extra bitter because they offered a GF menu online and then had no GF items in the restaurant. So not cool.
BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
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Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
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BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
*TW*
TWIN LOSS 7.2.15
BFP 9.7.15 CP
BFP 12.31.15 MC 2.28.16
BFP 10.14.17 CP
BFP 3.10.18 D&C 4.13.18