@MrsDramaK Wowww what a bitch. But I'm not surprised, though. This is exactly why I secretly don't want to go back to work. I hate these kinds of things and I get so stressed out. And I'm just not someone who brown noses. I work very hard and don't play games. Ughhhh. You totally take the cake (at least in my opinion) for MBF.
@MrsDramaK Wowww what a bitch. But I'm not surprised, though. This is exactly why I secretly don't want to go back to work. I hate these kinds of things and I get so stressed out. And I'm just not someone who brown noses. I work very hard and don't play games. Ughhhh. You totally take the cake (at least in my opinion) for MBF.
Yeah, she definitely hates pregnant women (she has no desire for children herself cause she's very career focused). But I know of one women who left to have her baby and was not hired back, one who was hired back, but two weeks later was fired when she called out because her newborn was sick, and a third who's offer was rescinded when she disclosed she was pregnant. So, I've saved all their contact information because I knew at some point I was going to get pregnant, so if it comes to it I can prove there's a pattern with pregnant women and new moms company wide.
I'm a really hard worker and I really enjoy the work I do just not where I do it for and a year ago I wasn't having any of these issues with my supervisor (she loved me). The issues really started around the time she forced me to tell her I miscarried (she literally would not drop it when I told her I was dealing with medical stuff and basically backed me in a corner so I'd have to tell her). So because of that it's hard to assume this is related to anything but my desire to procreate.
@MrsDramaK She basically forced you into telling her your medical issue. That is a complete violation of privacy! There's so much shit on her you could go to HR with. But with my experiences, I've stopped putting faith in HR, too. They are there to protect the company, not you. Fuck these kinds of people, man!!
Also, I'd like to add that I've been working since I was 14 years old. I've seen too much of this shit. I could deal with it then because I was young and single. But now that I'm going to have the added stress of kids....I just can't handle it. It's just too much. The culture for women at work still needs a lot of improvement. It makes me sad. And when it's another woman doing it, it's so much worse.
@MrsDramaK I'm sorry that you have to deal with this woman's attitude and conduct. So inappropriate and disappointing. I'm glad that you are taking some time before contacting HR and also tapping into your Dad's experience. I mean you sound like a very reasonable and coherent individual on here, so I'm sure you weren't planning to fly off the handle anyway. But a bit of breathing space and someone to be a sounding board can't hurt.
Oh my gosh @MrsDramaK I am so sorry you have to deal with that and am so livid on your behalf! And especially her asking you to delete it? Sorry bitch, too late!
Im glad you're formulating a plan but I'd actually let them know that you know and have a meeting. Hell, knowing her record with previous employees, I'd even bring in my own attorney to sit in on the meeting so they can't try to pull any shit.
Today was a rough day at work so I'm on edge and apologize if my response is a little harsh. It just makes me sick that this kind of discriminating bullshit happens.
My bfest is also job related. I do a lot of freelance event work between my passion projects, which is filmmaking.
I have done a giant project for the past two years that's starts around now and goes through the end of January. It requires travel and being on-site in Las Vegas for at least a week the first week of January. I spoke with the company that hires me for this and has hired me for other events as well, letting them know that I was pregnant, but that I would love to come back, but that's I couldn't guarantee my travel.
The position that I have is very high level and pretty much makes everything else work. When I first took the job I had no one train me, but thankfully I figured it out and everything went well. Apparently the year before was a complete disaster. My having the experience to do the job is a huge plus. I gave them a few solutions provided I cant travel, but did tell them my goal was to still make the trip.
I got an email on Friday saying, they aren't sure if they will have room for me, and even if I can travel they don't want me to travel. Why isn't that my decision to make?
I am now pissed for even disclosing the pregnancy. I should have just taken the job, shown up on day one and been like "deal with it."
Me: 36, H: 37 FTM, 2 Furbabies married 03/17/07 lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC due: 2/15/17
@MrsDramaK Hearing stories like yours really makes me mad. I hate it when companies trounce on the little guy like that, but I know about bitchy, uncaring bosses for sure. Not in the same situation, but certainly people you feel you can't go to for help and who are not on your side. I really hope you and your dad can set up a response that will get the higher ups to listen, you deserve to be treated fairly and not slandered.
My only bitchfest today only happened like half an hour ago when I invited my dad to the Thanksgiving dinner we're having tomorrow(I'm Canadian). He said he wouldn't be making it because there's some meeting he really wants to go to at 6:30. I basically snapped at him a little and told him reasons like that won't fly when the grandbaby's born. We barely see each other as it is these days, he's not backing out of family gatherings damn it.
@MrsDramaK I have no other advice, just want to +1 what some PPs have said, go to HR. Document EVERYTHING. Can you prove you dis the work attributed to someone else? Meet with your boss and her bos (es) bring a lawyer if you have no HR. They need to know that you will not tolerate discrimination based on your pregnancy.
Frankly, your boss sounds like an idiot. That should have never gone in an email in the 1st place. She just opened up herself and the company to a lawsuit.
@krob That is bullshit. They can't tell you that you can't do your job just because you are pregnant. I hope this gets resolved.
@MrsDramaK I have no other advice, just want to +1 what some PPs have said, go to HR. Document EVERYTHING. Can you prove you dis the work attributed to someone else? Meet with your boss and her bos (es) bring a lawyer if you have no HR. They need to know that you will not tolerate discrimination based on your pregnancy.
Frankly, your boss sounds like an idiot. That should have never gone in an email in the 1st place. She just opened up herself and the company to a lawsuit.
@krob That is bullshit. They can't tell you that you can't do your job just because you are pregnant. I hope this gets resolved.
Yeah, I have been putting everything in writing and CC'ing her boss on it since I announced my pregnancy cause I know my boss's track record with pregnancy. I'm holding off on an in-person meeting because I want as much stuff in writing as possible. She has a tendency to say things and deny it later. We do have HR, but they're an outsourced HR company who has no interaction with the day to day staff in our office.
My boss is an idiot. I have the same first name as the person who handles payroll at our parent company just spelled differently. She backed herself into a corner. My boss' bosses all happen to be based in a different state, so unfortunately I'm limited to dealing with her in a face to face basis, which is why I'm doing everything in emails that CC her bosses for now.
Re: Monday B*fest
I'm a really hard worker and I really enjoy the work I do just not where I do it for and a year ago I wasn't having any of these issues with my supervisor (she loved me). The issues really started around the time she forced me to tell her I miscarried (she literally would not drop it when I told her I was dealing with medical stuff and basically backed me in a corner so I'd have to tell her). So because of that it's hard to assume this is related to anything but my desire to procreate.
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
Im glad you're formulating a plan but I'd actually let them know that you know and have a meeting. Hell, knowing her record with previous employees, I'd even bring in my own attorney to sit in on the meeting so they can't try to pull any shit.
Today was a rough day at work so I'm on edge and apologize if my response is a little harsh. It just makes me sick that this kind of discriminating bullshit happens.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
I have done a giant project for the past two years that's starts around now and goes through the end of January. It requires travel and being on-site in Las Vegas for at least a week the first week of January. I spoke with the company that hires me for this and has hired me for other events as well, letting them know that I was pregnant, but that I would love to come back, but that's I couldn't guarantee my travel.
The position that I have is very high level and pretty much makes everything else work. When I first took the job I had no one train me, but thankfully I figured it out and everything went well. Apparently the year before was a complete disaster. My having the experience to do the job is a huge plus. I gave them a few solutions provided I cant travel, but did tell them my goal was to still make the trip.
I got an email on Friday saying, they aren't sure if they will have room for me, and even if I can travel they don't want me to travel. Why isn't that my decision to make?
I am now pissed for even disclosing the pregnancy. I should have just taken the job, shown up on day one and been like "deal with it."
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17
@MrsDramaK Hearing stories like yours really makes me mad. I hate it when companies trounce on the little guy like that, but I know about bitchy, uncaring bosses for sure. Not in the same situation, but certainly people you feel you can't go to for help and who are not on your side. I really hope you and your dad can set up a response that will get the higher ups to listen, you deserve to be treated fairly and not slandered.
My only bitchfest today only happened like half an hour ago when I invited my dad to the Thanksgiving dinner we're having tomorrow(I'm Canadian). He said he wouldn't be making it because there's some meeting he really wants to go to at 6:30. I basically snapped at him a little and told him reasons like that won't fly when the grandbaby's born. We barely see each other as it is these days, he's not backing out of family gatherings damn it.
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17
Frankly, your boss sounds like an idiot. That should have never gone in an email in the 1st place. She just opened up herself and the company to a lawsuit.
@krob That is bullshit. They can't tell you that you can't do your job just because you are pregnant. I hope this gets resolved.
My boss is an idiot. I have the same first name as the person who handles payroll at our parent company just spelled differently. She backed herself into a corner. My boss' bosses all happen to be based in a different state, so unfortunately I'm limited to dealing with her in a face to face basis, which is why I'm doing everything in emails that CC her bosses for now.
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16