Uhm It is 2016. You can have a shower when you want, invite who you want, ask for all the gifts your heart desires. You CAN plan your own shower or wait for someone else to do it. Just be grateful that you are able to carry a Child and enjoy the company of others before the arrival of such a Blessing at a shower/sprinkle/ Sip and See. I have had 3 Baby Showers in the past 16 years I have 3 sons, I along with my Husband and 3 Sons will be Planning a Super Bowl Theme Sparkle for our baby due 3/15, because we have Super Bowl Parties every year. Who is making these rules you guys are living under.
Gators&BoSox if you have Pinterest look up Gender Reveal Super Bowl Party. There are so many ideas there.
::looks around::
I'm sorry but what does the year have to do with anything? Etiquette never goes out of style. The only thing that HAS changed is what people choose to adhere to. And when someone is obviously so self-absorbed that all they can think about is themselves and what THEY want, they are probably too far gone down the Tacky Train.
Sure, you can do whatever you want. It doesn't mean you should and it doesn't mean that your sense of entitlement isn't rude. And it doesn't mean your friends and family aren't talking about your greediness behind your backs.
Etiquette is about making your guests feel comfortable and accommodated. When you invite people to an event, you take their comfort into consideration above your own, not the size of their wallet or your desire to stock up on the items you want.
If you want something for your baby, go out and buy it yourself. No one is obligated to buy you anything and you'd think that after having 3 kids and 3 showers, 1) you'd have everything you'd need and 2) you'd stop taking advantage of others' generosity.
I agree with @MoreLove4. It may be regional thing or generational thing but l think people should do or plan however they want to.
Idk. I am in my mid 30s and after raising children for most of my adult life, I am not too concerned about what people think about me, that's why I would only have positive love and good vibes around myself and family especially at my Baby Blessing/Sparkle. @McDonald-bailey I live in NJ, I am not sure if it's regional?
In the history of all the years I have attended bridal/baby showers- I have never once seen someone throw a shower for themselves. And if I did, they would definitely be getting the side eye.
@MoreLove4 idk I'm 29 and from LA. I dont think anyone I know even cares about hosts. We just throw a party. The details that I look for is when and where. I'm still debating having one but if I did there probably wouldn't be a host listed as 2 of my friends would be helping me, including myself, because I am very particular when it comes to party planning in general.
In the history of all the years I have attended bridal/baby showers- I have never once seen someone throw a shower for themselves. And if I did, they would definitely be getting the side eye.
I went to one last year under the guise of someone else hosting, but when I got there it was clear that it was the MTB who was actually hosting. It was so awkward. She ran the games while the "hostess" just sat there and watched. I wouldn't have gone if I'd have known it was the MTB actually throwing it.
Uhm It is 2016. You can have a shower when you want, invite who you want, ask for all the gifts your heart desires. You CAN plan your own shower or wait for someone else to do it. Just be grateful that you are able to carry a Child and enjoy the company of others before the arrival of such a Blessing at a shower/sprinkle/ Sip and See. I have had 3 Baby Showers in the past 16 years I have 3 sons, I along with my Husband and 3 Sons will be Planning a Super Bowl Theme Sparkle for our baby due 3/15, because we have Super Bowl Parties every year. Who is making these rules you guys are living under.
Gators&BoSox if you have Pinterest look up Gender Reveal Super Bowl Party. There are so many ideas there.
::looks around::
I'm sorry but what does the year have to do with anything? Etiquette never goes out of style. The only thing that HAS changed is what people choose to adhere to. And when someone is obviously so self-absorbed that all they can think about is themselves and what THEY want, they are probably too far gone down the Tacky Train.
Sure, you can do whatever you want. It doesn't mean you should and it doesn't mean that your sense of entitlement isn't rude. And it doesn't mean your friends and family aren't talking about your greediness behind your backs.
Etiquette is about making your guests feel comfortable and accommodated. When you invite people to an event, you take their comfort into consideration above your own, not the size of their wallet or your desire to stock up on the items you want.
If you want something for your baby, go out and buy it yourself. No one is obligated to buy you anything and you'd think that after having 3 kids and 3 showers, 1) you'd have everything you'd need and 2) you'd stop taking advantage of others' generosity.
But hey, you do you.
Did I quote anyone, so why the attack...? this post was about Shower dates in relation to due dates. So please take several seats with the lengthy reply to me. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and this was unnecessary.
Most of the items MY Baby needs will come from me and my husband anyway. Anything else that others choose to give is a Blessing.
Did I quote anyone, so why the attack...? this post was about Shower dates in relation to due dates. So please take several seats with the lengthy reply to me. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and this was unnecessary.
Most of the items MY Baby needs will come from me and my husband anyway. Anything else that others choose to give is a Blessing.
Have a Blessed Day.
She quoted you because that's how we know who the reply is to and you're the one who stated that etiquette doesn't matter since it's 2016. The rest of her thought, I'm sure, was just in response to the other entitlement she's seen on here. And the fact that you've had 3 welcomes to motherhood......
@MoreLove4 idk I'm 29 and from LA. I dont think anyone I know even cares about hosts. We just throw a party. The details that I look for is when and where. I'm still debating having one but if I did there probably wouldn't be a host listed as 2 of my friends would be helping me, including myself, because I am very particular when it comes to party planning in general.
Me too @McDonald-bailey , I am very particular about the party planning plus it's going to be more of a Gender Reveal Diaper Raffle Party anyway. I just want to have a good time, before the baby's arrival date, it will be very inclusive and relaxed . Everyone is going to help out anyway (food, drinks, décor etc....) I am just looking forward to another reason to celebrate with my closest family and and of course EAT!!!! That's all!
Did I quote anyone, so why the attack...? this post was about Shower dates in relation to due dates. So please take several seats with the lengthy reply to me. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and this was unnecessary.
Most of the items MY Baby needs will come from me and my husband anyway. Anything else that others choose to give is a Blessing.
Have a Blessed Day.
She quoted you because that's how we know who the reply is to and you're the one who stated that etiquette doesn't matter since it's 2016. The rest of her thought, I'm sure, was just in response to the other entitlement she's seen on here. And the fact that you've had 3 welcomes to motherhood......
TAG TEAM!!!! Okay okay Ladies! Please, it's not that serious. Enjoy your day. sending Good Vibes to all on a Happy Healthy Pregnancy. I am looking forward to hearing more about all future Shower Plans and dates as the months progress.
@MoreLove4 yea people usually have showers for every baby around here. They were asking me when my shower was with baby #2 and I ended up not having one because I got most of the items myself. *TW* That sadly ended in a late stillbirth last year so I'm thinking of doing things differently and actually having a baby shower. I already have most of my baby stuff since we were prepared for the last one but it will be nice just to have all my family and friends together to help celebrate life. I will probably only do a diaper raffle. I don't even want gifts. It's more of a mental thing for me and support that things won't end up the same as last year.
@MoreLove4 yea people usually have showers for every baby around here. They were asking me when my shower was with baby #2 and I ended up not having one because I got most of the items myself. *TW* That sadly ended in a late stillbirth last year so I'm thinking of doing things differently and actually having a baby shower. I already have most of my baby stuff since we were prepared for the last one but it will be nice just to have all my family and friends together to help celebrate life. I will probably only do a diaper raffle. I don't even want gifts. It's more of a mental thing for me and support that things won't end up the same as last year.
I am so sorry to hear about your loss @McDonald-bailey. This will definitely be a GREAT Event for you and your family. I suffered a MC in January so Yes to have my friends and family who I love and appreciate around to celebrate life will be awesome. I don't want gifts either. I really want diapers and the reveal of the Gender of our baby is going to be the biggest hit! I will continue to keep you in my thoughts. When is you Due Date?
Uhm It is 2016. You can have a shower when you want, invite who you want, ask for all the gifts your heart desires. You CAN plan your own shower or wait for someone else to do it. Just be grateful that you are able to carry a Child and enjoy the company of others before the arrival of such a Blessing at a shower/sprinkle/ Sip and See. I have had 3 Baby Showers in the past 16 years I have 3 sons, I along with my Husband and 3 Sons will be Planning a Super Bowl Theme Sparkle for our baby due 3/15, because we have Super Bowl Parties every year. Who is making these rules you guys are living under.
Gators&BoSox if you have Pinterest look up Gender Reveal Super Bowl Party. There are so many ideas there.
::looks around::
I'm sorry but what does the year have to do with anything? Etiquette never goes out of style. The only thing that HAS changed is what people choose to adhere to. And when someone is obviously so self-absorbed that all they can think about is themselves and what THEY want, they are probably too far gone down the Tacky Train.
Sure, you can do whatever you want. It doesn't mean you should and it doesn't mean that your sense of entitlement isn't rude. And it doesn't mean your friends and family aren't talking about your greediness behind your backs.
Etiquette is about making your guests feel comfortable and accommodated. When you invite people to an event, you take their comfort into consideration above your own, not the size of their wallet or your desire to stock up on the items you want.
If you want something for your baby, go out and buy it yourself. No one is obligated to buy you anything and you'd think that after having 3 kids and 3 showers, 1) you'd have everything you'd need and 2) you'd stop taking advantage of others' generosity.
But hey, you do you.
Did I quote anyone, so why the attack...? this post was about Shower dates in relation to due dates. So please take several seats with the lengthy reply to me. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and this was unnecessary.
Most of the items MY Baby needs will come from me and my husband anyway. Anything else that others choose to give is a Blessing.
Have a Blessed Day.
First, I quoted you because my post was directed to you.
Second, I did not attack you. I was merely responding to your post with my own thoughts and if you took it as an attack, that's on you. You might want to have a seat yourself.
Third, my statements on people being self-absorbed and entitlement was in the general sense, not for you specifically. I've been around TB for awhile and it shocks me how many people feel that they are extra special and shouldn't have to show their loved ones any tact.
As for the last part about your own showers, well, it does come off as being pretty greedy. It's my opinion based on the information you provided.
@MoreLove4 March 2nd. Doctor is pushing for scheduled c-section early. Baby 1 was c-section. Baby 2 was vbac. But they said I have a risk of ruptured uterus if I go natural since pregnancies so close and want to do another c-section so I don't have any problems.
Uhm It is 2016. You can have a shower when you want, invite who you want, ask for all the gifts your heart desires. You CAN plan your own shower or wait for someone else to do it. Just be grateful that you are able to carry a Child and enjoy the company of others before the arrival of such a Blessing at a shower/sprinkle/ Sip and See. I have had 3 Baby Showers in the past 16 years I have 3 sons, I along with my Husband and 3 Sons will be Planning a Super Bowl Theme Sparkle for our baby due 3/15, because we have Super Bowl Parties every year. Who is making these rules you guys are living under.
Gators&BoSox if you have Pinterest look up Gender Reveal Super Bowl Party. There are so many ideas there.
::looks around::
I'm sorry but what does the year have to do with anything? Etiquette never goes out of style. The only thing that HAS changed is what people choose to adhere to. And when someone is obviously so self-absorbed that all they can think about is themselves and what THEY want, they are probably too far gone down the Tacky Train.
Sure, you can do whatever you want. It doesn't mean you should and it doesn't mean that your sense of entitlement isn't rude. And it doesn't mean your friends and family aren't talking about your greediness behind your backs.
Etiquette is about making your guests feel comfortable and accommodated. When you invite people to an event, you take their comfort into consideration above your own, not the size of their wallet or your desire to stock up on the items you want.
If you want something for your baby, go out and buy it yourself. No one is obligated to buy you anything and you'd think that after having 3 kids and 3 showers, 1) you'd have everything you'd need and 2) you'd stop taking advantage of others' generosity.
But hey, you do you.
Did I quote anyone, so why the attack...? this post was about Shower dates in relation to due dates. So please take several seats with the lengthy reply to me. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and this was unnecessary.
Most of the items MY Baby needs will come from me and my husband anyway. Anything else that others choose to give is a Blessing.
Have a Blessed Day.
First, I quoted you because my post was directed to you.
Second, I did not attack you. I was merely responding to your post with my own thoughts and if you took it as an attack, that's on you. You might want to have a seat yourself.
Third, my statements on people being self-absorbed and entitlement was in the general sense, not for you specifically. I've been around TB for awhile and it shocks me how many people feel that they are extra special and shouldn't have to show their loved ones any tact.
As for the last part about your own showers, well, it does come off as being pretty greedy. It's my opinion based on the information you provided.
Okay no problem. My sons are 16, 9 and 7 so it's been awhile since my last shower. With so many other things going on in this world, that last burden I will put on anyone is the expectation that they have to plan me a shower or they have to buy me a gift. That's why we are planning our own and requesting their presence. If people want to bring a gift they can, it's not a requirement for attendance.
So again, there was no need for the attack, if you were unsure of anything I wrote or comment you could of asked.
I am so sorry to hear about your loss @McDonald-bailey. This will definitely be a GREAT Event for you and your family. I suffered a MC in January so Yes to have my friends and family who I love and appreciate around to celebrate life will be awesome. I don't want gifts either. I really want diapers and the reveal of the Gender of our baby is going to be the biggest hit! I will continue to keep you in my thoughts. When is you Due Date?
@MoreLove4 March 2nd. Doctor is pushing for scheduled c-section early. Baby 1 was c-section. Baby 2 was vbac. But they said I have a risk of ruptured uterus if I go natural since pregnancies so close and want to do another c-section so I don't have any problems.
Okay, I am due 3/15. Which is also my anniversary, go figure, I think it may be earlier, my sons didn't come on either of their due dates.
First, I quoted you because my post was directed to you.
Second, I did not attack you. I was merely responding to your post with my own thoughts and if you took it as an attack, that's on you. You might want to have a seat yourself.
Third, my statements on people being self-absorbed and entitlement was in the general sense, not for you specifically. I've been around TB for awhile and it shocks me how many people feel that they are extra special and shouldn't have to show their loved ones any tact.
As for the last part about your own showers, well, it does come off as being pretty greedy. It's my opinion based on the information you provided.
Okay no problem. My sons are 16, 9 and 7 so it's been awhile since my last shower. With so many other things going on in this world, that last burden I will put on anyone is the expectation that they have to plan me a shower or they have to buy me a gift. That's why we are planning our own and requesting their presence. If people want to bring a gift they can, it's not a requirement for attendance.
So again, there was no need for the attack, if you were unsure of anything I wrote or comment you could of asked.
Then I guess I'm confused. A shower of any kind, by definition, is a gift giving event. So if there will be no gifts, why call it a shower? Wouldn't it then just be a party?
Okay no problem. My sons are 16, 9 and 7 so it's been awhile since my last shower. With so many other things going on in this world, that last burden I will put on anyone is the expectation that they have to plan me a shower or they have to buy me a gift. That's why we are planning our own and requesting their presence. If people want to bring a gift they can, it's not a requirement for attendance.
So again, there was no need for the attack, if you were unsure of anything I wrote or comment you could of asked.
A shower is literally a party to "shower" the honoree with gifts. You can't throw a shower (or sparkle party whatever the hell that is) and think people aren't going to give you gifts.
First, I quoted you because my post was directed to you.
Second, I did not attack you. I was merely responding to your post with my own thoughts and if you took it as an attack, that's on you. You might want to have a seat yourself.
Third, my statements on people being self-absorbed and entitlement was in the general sense, not for you specifically. I've been around TB for awhile and it shocks me how many people feel that they are extra special and shouldn't have to show their loved ones any tact.
As for the last part about your own showers, well, it does come off as being pretty greedy. It's my opinion based on the information you provided.
Okay no problem. My sons are 16, 9 and 7 so it's been awhile since my last shower. With so many other things going on in this world, that last burden I will put on anyone is the expectation that they have to plan me a shower or they have to buy me a gift. That's why we are planning our own and requesting their presence. If people want to bring a gift they can, it's not a requirement for attendance.
So again, there was no need for the attack, if you were unsure of anything I wrote or comment you could of asked.
Then I guess I'm confused. A shower of any kind, by definition, is a gift giving event. So if there will be no gifts, why call it a shower? Wouldn't it then just be a party?
I never said it was a Shower... I said It's a Gender Reveal Party Super Bowl Themed
First, I quoted you because my post was directed to you.
Second, I did not attack you. I was merely responding to your post with my own thoughts and if you took it as an attack, that's on you. You might want to have a seat yourself.
Third, my statements on people being self-absorbed and entitlement was in the general sense, not for you specifically. I've been around TB for awhile and it shocks me how many people feel that they are extra special and shouldn't have to show their loved ones any tact.
As for the last part about your own showers, well, it does come off as being pretty greedy. It's my opinion based on the information you provided.
Okay no problem. My sons are 16, 9 and 7 so it's been awhile since my last shower. With so many other things going on in this world, that last burden I will put on anyone is the expectation that they have to plan me a shower or they have to buy me a gift. That's why we are planning our own and requesting their presence. If people want to bring a gift they can, it's not a requirement for attendance.
So again, there was no need for the attack, if you were unsure of anything I wrote or comment you could of asked.
Then I guess I'm confused. A shower of any kind, by definition, is a gift giving event. So if there will be no gifts, why call it a shower? Wouldn't it then just be a party?
I never said it was a Shower... I said It's a Gender Reveal Party Super Bowl Themed
So why the diaper raffle? You know, diapers are gifts as well.
I guess I just don't see why the need to ask for gifts. If someone wants to give you diapers or gifts of any kind, they can do so on their own.
Okay no problem. My sons are 16, 9 and 7 so it's been awhile since my last shower. With so many other things going on in this world, that last burden I will put on anyone is the expectation that they have to plan me a shower or they have to buy me a gift. That's why we are planning our own and requesting their presence. If people want to bring a gift they can, it's not a requirement for attendance.
So again, there was no need for the attack, if you were unsure of anything I wrote or comment you could of asked.
A shower is literally a party to "shower" the honoree with gifts. You can't throw a shower (or sparkle party whatever the hell that is) and think people aren't going to give you gifts.
I can throw a Sparkle and Party or Shower and expect people to come have a good time.. That's what you don't expect. And you are entitled to your own opinion. If they bring gifts, great! But it's not a requirement for attendance
@DrillSergeantCat yes ma'am! Can we both have a laugh at how your username is so fitting right now lol. You won't change my mind. I won't change your mind. Agree to disagree on the subject.
@DrillSergeantCat yes ma'am! Can we both have a laugh at how your username is so fitting right now lol. You won't change my mind. I won't change your mind. Agree to disagree on the subject.
BS like this is exactly how I got my username. I'm okay with it. I'm not trying to change your mind, because you're going to do whatever you want to do no matter what anyone says and without regard to how it might make your guests feel. You should just know that some people will feel offended and used if you throw your own shower. I think you said your sisters and yourself were planning it? Just leave your name off the invitation, when you go to the shower, sit back and act like the honoree and not the hostess.
How 'bout you ladies come join us in the "Unpopular Opinion" thread - we can all argue together about shower etiquette? And we can leave this thread for moms trying to figure out their shower dates?
My husband and I are a bit nontraditional. This sounds terrible, but I really don't enjoy baby showers and cringe at the thought of having one myself and receiving gifts from people. SO- we are having a cocktails and cookies party, leveraging Christmastime and family and friends already being home for the holidays. We are having it the week between Christmas and New Years and it will be an evening get together with friends and family. Everyone is to bring a pack of diapers and a plate of cookies (hopefully a good opportunity to get rid of those leftovers from Christmas!). Our son's (on the way!) name is Cutter so we're hashtagging it #CookieCutter
I just really want something relaxed and not baby themey.
@DrillSergeantCat I think you missed the part where I said people were asking me to have one and no hosts will be listed. So MY guests won't be offended. You seem really upset about how someone else is going about their shower. Someone you don't even know. Relax.
@DrillSergeantCat I think you missed the part where I said people were asking me to have one and no hosts will be listed. So MY guests won't be offended. You seem really upset about how someone else is going about their shower. Someone you don't even know. Relax.
Obviously I did which is why I said " I think you said your sisters and yourself were planning it?" I'm not upset about it at all, I'm just wanting people to see what etiquette says.
Also, to the comment about a shower without gifts. I was invited to one and it was the weirdest thing ever. I brought a gift anyway because I felt super awkward and didn't know what to do. I've had to reveals with our immediate families and I feed them and no one brings gifts. I think that's acceptable.
Re: Shower dates?
I'm sorry but what does the year have to do with anything? Etiquette never goes out of style. The only thing that HAS changed is what people choose to adhere to. And when someone is obviously so self-absorbed that all they can think about is themselves and what THEY want, they are probably too far gone down the Tacky Train.
Sure, you can do whatever you want. It doesn't mean you should and it doesn't mean that your sense of entitlement isn't rude. And it doesn't mean your friends and family aren't talking about your greediness behind your backs.
Etiquette is about making your guests feel comfortable and accommodated. When you invite people to an event, you take their comfort into consideration above your own, not the size of their wallet or your desire to stock up on the items you want.
If you want something for your baby, go out and buy it yourself. No one is obligated to buy you anything and you'd think that after having 3 kids and 3 showers, 1) you'd have everything you'd need and 2) you'd stop taking advantage of others' generosity.
But hey, you do you.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
Idk. I am in my mid 30s and after raising children for most of my adult life, I am not too concerned about what people think about me, that's why I would only have positive love and good vibes around myself and family especially at my Baby Blessing/Sparkle. @McDonald-bailey I live in NJ, I am not sure if it's regional?
Did I quote anyone, so why the attack...? this post was about Shower dates in relation to due dates. So please take several seats with the lengthy reply to me. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and this was unnecessary.
Most of the items MY Baby needs will come from me and my husband anyway. Anything else that others choose to give is a Blessing.
Have a Blessed Day.
TAG TEAM!!!! Okay okay Ladies! Please, it's not that serious. Enjoy your day. sending Good Vibes to all on a Happy Healthy Pregnancy. I am looking forward to hearing more about all future Shower Plans and dates as the months progress.
Have a Cup of Tea. And Enjoy your day!
Second, I did not attack you. I was merely responding to your post with my own thoughts and if you took it as an attack, that's on you. You might want to have a seat yourself.
Third, my statements on people being self-absorbed and entitlement was in the general sense, not for you specifically. I've been around TB for awhile and it shocks me how many people feel that they are extra special and shouldn't have to show their loved ones any tact.
As for the last part about your own showers, well, it does come off as being pretty greedy. It's my opinion based on the information you provided.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
Okay no problem. My sons are 16, 9 and 7 so it's been awhile since my last shower. With so many other things going on in this world, that last burden I will put on anyone is the expectation that they have to plan me a shower or they have to buy me a gift. That's why we are planning our own and requesting their presence. If people want to bring a gift they can, it's not a requirement for attendance.
So again, there was no need for the attack, if you were unsure of anything I wrote or comment you could of asked.
Okay, I am due 3/15. Which is also my anniversary, go figure, I think it may be earlier, my sons didn't come on either of their due dates.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
I never said it was a Shower... I said It's a Gender Reveal Party Super Bowl Themed
I guess I just don't see why the need to ask for gifts. If someone wants to give you diapers or gifts of any kind, they can do so on their own.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
I can throw a Sparkle and Party or Shower and expect people to come have a good time.. That's what you don't expect. And you are entitled to your own opinion. If they bring gifts, great! But it's not a requirement for attendance
I just really want something relaxed and not baby themey.
Also, to the comment about a shower without gifts. I was invited to one and it was the weirdest thing ever. I brought a gift anyway because I felt super awkward and didn't know what to do. I've had to reveals with our immediate families and I feed them and no one brings gifts. I think that's acceptable.