I spent two hours at the OB's yesterday to get my tdap booster, do my GD test, and see a doc. TWO HOURS. Someone had scheduled my appointments wonky. Everyone was apologetic (front desk/nursing staff) but the doc was STILL an hour late to see me. For 2 minutes.
And millennial employee is still causing a ruckus. We're having a come-to-Jesus talk today because she has now pissed off my boss and my boss's boss (the next level is the freaking CEO) and completely irritated the HR folks. The biggest issue with that is I have ZERO gray area right now. I either want to punch you in the face or hug you. This conversation may not go as smoothly as we'd all like, something I forewarned EVERYONE about yesterday...HR may get another call. Or a resignation letter. Meh.
Deer are eating all of my crops and I feel helpless to stop them. It's going to cost me in money and customer satisfaction, and it makes me feel like a failure. But at this point in the year, they are starving and my fence is useless. If we weren't on rented land we would be out there protecting our stuff with firepower, but that's not allowed.
Ugh. I know in the big picture it's not a big deal and I can take better steps to ward them off next year, but it just feels so crappy, like getting a bad performance review. I had a big old ugly cry about it last night and now I have to go check for more damage.
4 more weeks and I can stop stressing so much. About this, I mean, I'll still find plenty to stress over.
@mysteryship That sounds so frustrating. I garden just for my own enjoyment and to supplement our veggie intake in the summers, and it is beyond frustrating when my plants get eaten. This summer was especially bad with cucumber, squash, and japanese beetles, tomato fruitworms, some kind of fungal infection on my tomatoes, and various small furry animals getting through the chicken wire & netting I spent hours putting up. It made me want to cry, just because of the sheer amount of effort I put in (while also working full time and not having a lot of energy). I can't imagine the frustration and disappointment if I were relying on the crops for income. We have deer too, but they don't seem to come through our yard in the summer time (thankfully). In winter and early spring we see a small group come through at least a few times a week, and they eat every plant in sight (including tulips...sigh).
Is anyone else getting any protective feelings yet? in a childlike "this baby is MINE, not yours" ? For some reason, MIL has really been annoying me lately. No one in that family has really showed too much effort or caring when I have appointments etc (Max will be the 10th grandchild). All of the sudden, at 29 weeks when we're getting a 3D, everyone is freaking out and wants pictures. So, MIL stops over several times over the weekend and we just brushed it off. She calls Monday morning on our way to the hospital wishing us luck etc etc. Then, she texts DH right after we got home to see if we were done with our appointment. He hesitantly texts back, yes, everything's great I will stop over after a bit as wife and I are currently eating lunch together. About 3 minutes later she calls and then stops over because "She's just SO EXCITED and can't wait to see the pictures!!?" I hate visitors during my lunch time.. I'm pregnant and hungry.. I take that 30 minutes of quiet time very seriously. She takes a few pictures with her and shows them to everyone else. Sure, I wouldn't have minded sharing them myself, but it was just the cherry on top. I don't like an abundance of attention as it is, but I kind of want to say "It's our child.. let us just freaking enjoy a few minutes!" I wish someone else would get pregnant so the attention could shift.. FFFC?
@temmetime - come join us on the "Reasons my family is driving me crazy" thread. Our family has been excited from day 1, but not intrusive. Then, a few weeks ago, MIL announced that she wants us to call as soon as I'm in labor so that she can get here (she lives 4 hours away) to meet the baby "within an hour of when he's born". Umm, what? You can visit when I'm ready for you to visit. I'm not adhering to time rules, thanks.
Since then, I've been praying that I give birth at like 2am.
I'm late to the party, but I need this rant. Maybe this is TW Tuesday? Anyway, I feel like my depression and anxiety has come back full swing since third trimester hit. Work is not helping, what with my boss openly showing her resentment about me going on leave and punishing me by getting pretty inappropriately personal in our meetings and giving overly harsh feedback. Some of my coworkers have joined in too, and I've morphed into the office scapegoat. So that has been sucking,bad. I told my OB that my anxiety and depression are getting out of control, that I'm crying most days, having increased panic attacks, and she did nothing. I felt totally dismissed by her, especially since she knows me and my family have a history of depression and anxiety. Is anyone going through anything similar? Ugh I'm really mad at my OB. I feel like prenatal depression is really serious and it can be a strong prediction of post partum and I can't believe she didn't even give me a pamphlet or ask how I was feeling in the next meeting. It's like she's completely trying to avoid the topic.
@sararose83 yep me. I had an awful week last week that culminated in taking home a prescription from my OB. She gave me Buspirone which is safe for pregnancy - I double checked with her, my pharmacist, and the internet before taking it. Yes, I had anxiety about the anxiety medication, lol. I was prescribed it on Wednesday and didn't get up the nerve to take it until Saturday. So glad I did though.
I take it twice a day and so far no real side effects but I'm feeling MUCH better already. It might have helped mine make the decision considering I had an anxiety meltdown in her office, but I would directly ask your doctor about it since they didn't offer themselves. Determining I needed help and that I was pretty much non-functional last week was what helped me take back control.
@SaraRose83 I've been dealing with it, too - I went off my medication for the 3rd tri and it has been rough. I feel somewhat reassured knowing I can go back on right after the birth, which should help with PPD/PPA. If you've taken meds before, can you get someone other than your OB to write a prescription so you have them on hand for after the birth?
Also, sometimes yoga/meditation helps. I hate reading advice like "Antidepressants maybe aren't safe in pregnancy, so just do yoga instead", because it is NOT the same at all, but it makes me feel like I'm at least doing something in the face of overwhelming emotions.
I hope that something changes and you're able to feel better soon.
@gowenc Yeah, it was such a bad year all around for pests, everyone I know is struggling too. I can only hope it's a better season next year.
@Toller We have 2 dogs of our own who would love to help out, but we don't live on the farm so it's hard to let them spend enough time there to make a difference
@SaraRose83 it's time to be direct and ask your doctor for what you need. It's unfortunate that she dismissed you because your mental health is super important ALL the time, especially now. My OB did not take me off of my anti-anxiety/depression meds as she said it is safe, but recently I've felt a huge surge in anxiety and just really emotional. When I told her, she slightly increased the dosage AND gave me something for night time since I'm not sleeping and it's contributing to the daytime emotions/panic.
There are a lot of safe options for treating this stuff during pregnancy, and if your doctor isn't responding to your concerns, ask why. Tell her you feel dismissed. You are 100% right that anxiety/depression now can be an indicator of things to come. I hope she listens if you're more direct! You're not alone!
@sararose83 I also have been having issues. My OB literally did nothing about it, showed no concern at all, so I went to see the psychiatrist that I had previously worked with. She worked with my OB to put me on a very low dose of zoloft (which I had previously been on). Weirdly for me it exaggerated my symptoms and induced further anxiety attacks. So bad that I ended up in labor and delivery for IV therapy because I couldn't eat or drink. She pulled me off it immediately and a week later out me on prosaic. I'm like a whole new person now (read: back to my old self). I've had people actually come up to me and tell me that I seem completely different. Most assume that it's just that my morning sickness has eased up, not knowing that I also was experiencing 2-3 panic attacks every day. I'd say if your OB isn't respecting your concerns then see if you can get a second opinion from another medical professional. It's not good for our bodies to be under that much stress!
@Austenista@mystership@aevan011@ajstevenson Thanks so much for your advice and support. It's really a struggle and I'm sorry some of you have been going through this, too. I went off my anti anxiety/depression medication before we started trying and my first doc seemed to take my anxiety more seriously. She told me about the risks and said she'd prefer me not on them until my third trimester because the medication I've been on is associated with risks during pregnancy.
I switched practices as that one was over an hour away and this doctor literally told me that my stress levels wouldn't affect my baby unless I was in a war zone or something similar, which I know is complete crap. Really I think the best thing would be to get signed out as early as possible. She said she didn't want to sign me out for depression and anxiety because she didn't think those things necessarily warranted a sign out, so the earliest I can get out is a month before my due date (state law). I might see if there are safer meds I can take as I did research on what I used to take and I'm not comfortable with the risks. Maybe I'll try a new doc in the practice, too. It might just be this doc has different view on mental health.
Re: MONDAY BF!!! 9/26
I spent two hours at the OB's yesterday to get my tdap booster, do my GD test, and see a doc. TWO HOURS. Someone had scheduled my appointments wonky. Everyone was apologetic (front desk/nursing staff) but the doc was STILL an hour late to see me. For 2 minutes.
And millennial employee is still causing a ruckus. We're having a come-to-Jesus talk today because she has now pissed off my boss and my boss's boss (the next level is the freaking CEO) and completely irritated the HR folks. The biggest issue with that is I have ZERO gray area right now. I either want to punch you in the face or hug you. This conversation may not go as smoothly as we'd all like, something I forewarned EVERYONE about yesterday...HR may get another call. Or a resignation letter. Meh.
Ugh. I know in the big picture it's not a big deal and I can take better steps to ward them off next year, but it just feels so crappy, like getting a bad performance review. I had a big old ugly cry about it last night and now I have to go check for more damage.
4 more weeks and I can stop stressing so much. About this, I mean, I'll still find plenty to stress over.
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
Since then, I've been praying that I give birth at like 2am.
@penelope4612 very good point! Somewhere in the back of my foggy mind I knew this wasn't quite where this belongs.
I kind of don't want to tell anyone when we go to the hospital... So, I wouldn't mind it being 2am either.
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
I take it twice a day and so far no real side effects but I'm feeling MUCH better already. It might have helped mine make the decision considering I had an anxiety meltdown in her office, but I would directly ask your doctor about it since they didn't offer themselves. Determining I needed help and that I was pretty much non-functional last week was what helped me take back control.
Also, sometimes yoga/meditation helps. I hate reading advice like "Antidepressants maybe aren't safe in pregnancy, so just do yoga instead", because it is NOT the same at all, but it makes me feel like I'm at least doing something in the face of overwhelming emotions.
I hope that something changes and you're able to feel better soon.
@Toller We have 2 dogs of our own who would love to help out, but we don't live on the farm so it's hard to let them spend enough time there to make a difference
There are a lot of safe options for treating this stuff during pregnancy, and if your doctor isn't responding to your concerns, ask why. Tell her you feel dismissed. You are 100% right that anxiety/depression now can be an indicator of things to come. I hope she listens if you're more direct! You're not alone!
I switched practices as that one was over an hour away and this doctor literally told me that my stress levels wouldn't affect my baby unless I was in a war zone or something similar, which I know is complete crap. Really I think the best thing would be to get signed out as early as possible. She said she didn't want to sign me out for depression and anxiety because she didn't think those things necessarily warranted a sign out, so the earliest I can get out is a month before my due date (state law). I might see if there are safer meds I can take as I did research on what I used to take and I'm not comfortable with the risks. Maybe I'll try a new doc in the practice, too. It might just be this doc has different view on mental health.