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heatherlynn321heatherlynn321 member
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I'm 5 weeks pregnant today and don't want to tell even family until 12 weeks. However my mother is a hair dresser and is insisting I need my hair colored soon, she says since I'm her daughter, it's making her look bad as a hair dresser, she's about half joking, but half serious when she says that. I really don't feel comfortable getting my hair colored, especially during the 1st trimester. She's very persistent and has already penciled me down for a day pretty much without my permission. I really don't want her to know I'm pregnant though till 12 weeks. Any advice on avoiding it until I can tell her? My mother and I pretty much have the same relationship as Lorelai and Emily on Gilmore Girls.
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  • ekw832001ekw832001 member
    You could just tell her your giving your hair a rest....looking for a more natural style?  It's kind of a hard one.  A select few know we are expecting....I have pressure from the few that do know at work to tell the rest but to me it seems ridiculous to rush a pregnant woman to tell others your pregnant when you haven't even had the first appointment yet.  People and opinions.  Ugh.  
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  • ShadeofGreen816ShadeofGreen816 member
    I don't know what kind of color she uses but I had a conversation about this with my doctor and my hairdresser before I even got pregnant. Basically highlights are ok - anything where the color isn't in direct contact with the scalp for an extended period. Maybe an ombré/bayalage style? My hair dresser said she obviously worked through her entire pregnancy and was in contact with dye every day and they said no big deal. Hair color is much less chemical-y (terrible wording - it's too early for me!) than it used to be. 

    That being said, if you're really uncomfortable with it then you may need to come up with a different excuse. Sorry your mom is being so pushy!
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  • sarah0985sarah0985 member
    I understand not wanting to tell people till you're ready. Have you done some more research on hair dye? The general research and consensus is that it's safe now. The main concern is ventilation and that you're not in a cramped closed in space. 

    If if you're still uncomfortable getting it done, I'd just let her keep it and then call and say you're ill or you had something come up you couldn't get out of. 
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  • KipperooKipperoo member
    Totally understood not wanting to tell people before you are ready! If you WANT to get your hair colored, do a little research...it's not considered dangerous unless they use super aggressive dye or keep you in an area with low ventilation. I just went in and totally changed hair colors last weekend. :-) 

    Or maybe just get a few highlights...because they don't come in direct contact with your scalp, there is no ambiguity on the safeness and you are in the clear! 
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  • jatwal128jatwal128 member
    Do people know you're trying? I was asked the other day why i wasn't drinking, and i've just been telling people that i'm in that gray area (aka TWW) and I'd rather not just in case.
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  • CherryBananasCherryBananas member
    "That's not going to work for me. Bean dip?"

    No is not a four letter word! I'm sorry your mom is trying to bulldoze you into doing something you aren't comfortable with. 
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