@lindsladle15 that's really sweet of you to consider that option! But to be honest, the surprise at delivery is special to you too! I would totally disregard what anyone else thinks (mom & sis) - this is YOUR moment! If you think it's more important to your husband or your relationship to find out than it is to you to wait, then let him know about the envelope and talk it out. Just don't give up on your plan to readily out of guilt! and I agree- it would be too hard to have one of you know- if my H found out, I'd need to know too!!
Thanks, @sarag! I really appreciate the different angles to consider. You too, @LastMango! Update: I brought up the envelope to DH and we had a long discussion about the pro's and cons and if we would tell others if we knew, etc. I also told him that if we weren't finding out, that envelope needed destroyed because I couldn't have it sitting around! Anyway, we decided to open it (and I am not disappointed, because I feel like we made our own surprise, just the two of us, on our own time, and it was kind of like a sweet date night right there in our living room after our DD's went to bed). The look on DH's face was priceless, too, and I wouldn't want to miss all of the anticipation and discussions with him the rest of the pregnancy now that we do know. Anyway, we are not telling a soul and have discussed how to keep it from people without blatantly lying to their faces. Also, I knew DH needed the time to prepare and mentally think about everything, especially if this happened to be our third girl.....which it IS! We laughed so much when we opened the envelope, because literally EVERYONE around us (even us) thinks/thought it is a boy!
I have a team green vent: A friend is always saying how she knows the sex of the baby by the heart rate and that she is 7 for 7 with her friends who have had babies and it is basically an exact science. So I told her I'm not going to tell her what Baby's HR is (I did give her the range that the 4 HRs have fallen in, which is 135-160). Now she's mad at me for not telling her. But she really takes the fun out of wanting it to be a guessing game and surprise! If you sit there and say it's 90+% accurate and you always get it right by the HR and that obviously it's a (insert sex), I'm not going to tell you so you can steal my fun! And if she's right, she'll be even more adamant. I secretly hope Baby is whatever the opposite of the HR myth says just so she can be 7-1 *insert evil laugh*
Me: 33 DH: 38 Married: 1/10/15
1st Pregnancy EDD: 1/1/17 Born 1/10/17 Team Green turned Blue!
2nd Pregnancy EDD: 11/6/18 Born 11/09/18 Baby Boy!
3rd Pregnancy EDD: 12/?/21
Children are like casseroles; it takes a lot to mess them up.
I have a team green vent: A friend is always saying how she knows the sex of the baby by the heart rate and that she is 7 for 7 with her friends who have had babies and it is basically an exact science. So I told her I'm not going to tell her what Baby's HR is (I did give her the range that the 4 HRs have fallen in, which is 135-160). Now she's mad at me for not telling her. But she really takes the fun out of wanting it to be a guessing game and surprise! If you sit there and say it's 90+% accurate and you always get it right by the HR and that obviously it's a (insert sex), I'm not going to tell you so you can steal my fun! And if she's right, she'll be even more adamant. I secretly hope Baby is whatever the opposite of the HR myth says just so she can be 7-1 *insert evil laugh*
This is how I am with my dad right now. He just "knows" baby is a girl because he "has a feeling" and "he's my dad" and "he just knows." It doesn't help that he was right about my first DD. And he won't quit referring to baby as his granddaughter.
Although I have no preference on the sex of this baby, it would be a small bonus for him to be wrong.
Re: Team Green!
But to be honest, the surprise at delivery is special to you too! I would totally disregard what anyone else thinks (mom & sis) - this is YOUR moment!
If you think it's more important to your husband or your relationship to find out than it is to you to wait, then let him know about the envelope and talk it out.
Just don't give up on your plan to readily out of guilt!
and I agree- it would be too hard to have one of you know- if my H found out, I'd need to know too!!
Update: I brought up the envelope to DH and we had a long discussion about the pro's and cons and if we would tell others if we knew, etc. I also told him that if we weren't finding out, that envelope needed destroyed because I couldn't have it sitting around!
Anyway, we decided to open it (and I am not disappointed, because I feel like we made our own surprise, just the two of us, on our own time, and it was kind of like a sweet date night right there in our living room after our DD's went to bed). The look on DH's face was priceless, too, and I wouldn't want to miss all of the anticipation and discussions with him the rest of the pregnancy now that we do know.
Anyway, we are not telling a soul and have discussed how to keep it from people without blatantly lying to their faces. Also, I knew DH needed the time to prepare and mentally think about everything, especially if this happened to be our third girl.....which it IS! We laughed so much when we opened the envelope, because literally EVERYONE around us (even us) thinks/thought it is a boy!
Me: 33 DH: 38 Married: 1/10/15
1st Pregnancy EDD: 1/1/17 Born 1/10/17 Team Green turned Blue!
2nd Pregnancy EDD: 11/6/18 Born 11/09/18 Baby Boy!
3rd Pregnancy EDD: 12/?/21
Children are like casseroles; it takes a lot to mess them up.
Me: 33 DH: 38 Married: 1/10/15
1st Pregnancy EDD: 1/1/17 Born 1/10/17 Team Green turned Blue!
2nd Pregnancy EDD: 11/6/18 Born 11/09/18 Baby Boy!
3rd Pregnancy EDD: 12/?/21
Children are like casseroles; it takes a lot to mess them up.
Although I have no preference on the sex of this baby, it would be a small bonus for him to be wrong.