UO Thursday

Xstatic3333 · September 2016

Sorry whoever normally starts this, I'm in the office early and politely requesting something juicy to get me through to A/S time.

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Xstatic3333 · September 2016

Nothing guys? Ok. I'm kicking this off.

Steve Winwood's "The Finer Things" is one of the greatest songs of all time. Discuss.

PerraSucia · September 2016

Xstatic3333 said:

Nothing guys? Ok. I'm kicking this off.

Steve Winwood's "The Finer Things" is one of the greatest songs of all time. Discuss.

I don't even know this song.. but Robbie Williams "Rock DJ" is the best music video of all time.

varimama · September 2016

Got this from the randoms thread: I don't think it's ok to make your SO sleep on the couch. It's DH's bed as much as it is mine so if I'm too angry to be able to share a bed with him then I feel like it's up to me to go sleep on the couch or suck it up and just share the bed. If he's upset too and chooses to sleep on the couch that's another thing but I would never tell him he had to sleep on the couch, that would just be disrespectful in my opinion.

I feel like this is one of those awful double standards where if a guy made his wife sleep on the couch people would say he's being an insensitive jerk or a bad husband but wives seem to get away with that crap all the time.

Gretchypoo · September 2016

I've never been so mad at Hubs that I made him sleep anywhere. Mostly because we don't let stuff get that big. If we're upset we talk. I don't understand women who view the silent treatment as "punishment" or as a plot to get their way -- just freaking tell him what has you upset! It is so easy!

PerraSucia · September 2016

@Gretchypoo when I'm pissed at H I stop talking to him because I will say something I can't take back. Also, I need space to cool down. I hate being forced into confrontation when I'm not prepared for it.

BlondePeanut · September 2016

@PerraSucia - totally same boat. If I am really pissed...I have said some regretful things in the past and it only fuels the fire, so I usually give a look and go find my own space. I need it or I feel like a caged Tiger ready to scratch and bite the crap out of someone

tishb · September 2016

Just get a king size bed... You can sleep in the same bed but still have your separate space

MLRocha · September 2016

DH and I both go into silent treatment mode when we fight because we both 1. suck at confrontations and 2. hate to admit we're wrong. After a sleeping for the night or being apart for work, we are usually ready to talk it out with cooler heads.

Xstatic3333 · September 2016

Gretchypoo said:

I've never been so mad at Hubs that I made him sleep anywhere. Mostly because we don't let stuff get that big. If we're upset we talk. I don't understand women who view the silent treatment as "punishment" or as a plot to get their way -- just freaking tell him what has you upset! It is so easy!

This is sort of how things tend to go for us. Like I said in Randoms, H is a total saint, and I hate to say it but he probably just backs down to what I want a lot of the time. At the same time, I try to always tell him when I'm mad or need something instead of letting things build to the point of yelling. Every marriage is different though, so I try really hard not to judge how other couples handle things unless it's a really extreme situation.

srscott3 · September 2016

I agree with PP. I don't believe in banishing H to the couch. It's obviously fine if he chooses to go sleep out there and wants to cool off/calm down, but telling him he has to just feels bitchy.

In the past few months, I think we've only had 1 argument where I was mad enough to not want to look at him (and of course now I don't remember what that argument was about). But instead of either of us leaving the bed, I just took my snoogle and put it between us. And then we both ended up laughing about how ridiculous we were. Good times

Spicyweiner · September 2016

My H takes himself to the couch when he doesn't want to talk (argue) anymore. Which usually makes me more pissed.

pickle-chips · September 2016

My UO: I don't like themed nurseries. And I don't understand the logic behind sharks if it's a boy, seahorses if it's a girl (random example). I want the room to be a space that I enjoy, since I'll be the one doing more than just sleeping in it. Once the kiddo has likes and dislikes I'm happy to go nuts with a cutesy kid theme; I'll even put a decal up if thats what they want!

Maybe this is a FFFC...

Spicyweiner · September 2016

I don't like PDA.
I don't do it, and I don't like seeing it.
Barf. Save that shit for your home.

WinchesterGirl · September 2016

I know gender stereotyping of babies is controversial these days, but my UO is sort of related.

I hate when people gender neutral dress their tiny babies in public, not because I care, but because it's really awkward not to know what to say. "Awww, what an adorable little... baby!" If it's pink/purple, I can safely guess girl, blue/green I can safely guess boy.

I'm an extremely awkward person at times, and I can see myself being one of those people who accidentally lets slip the wrong guess and then ticks off the parents. This is another situation in which I over think, in case you hadn't noticed.

JulesFo · September 2016

@Spicyweiner PDA makes me super uncomfortable. In any situation.

Xstatic3333 · September 2016

Oh no @WinchesterGirl you're not going to love the comment I just left on your dino clothes! LOL.

@floatingelephy I'm with you on the sharks vs. seahorses stuff. I know you were giving a general example, but I LOVE sharks. I've already bought some shark themed clothing that I will proudly put on a girl. Why can't girls be into sharks? Grrrr.

MLRocha · September 2016

@floatingelephy - I've taken to telling people that the nursery theme will be... Baby!

Gretchypoo · September 2016

PerraSucia said:

@Gretchypoo when I'm pissed at H I stop talking to him because I will say something I can't take back. Also, I need space to cool down. I hate being forced into confrontation when I'm not prepared for it.

That is different than giving the silent treatment. I think it is important to take space to calm down because no one needs a screaming fight. And I agree, if I'm not ready to talk, don't make me. That is another form of aggression. But I have a friend who will literally not talk to her H for 3 days to punish him for some little thing. That passive aggressive crap drives me crazy.

peachesnbean · September 2016

@WinchesterGirl best trick I ever heard was to address the baby directly, "and what's YOUR name?" I mean there's a chance you'll get a gender neutral name too, but it usually helps

PerraSucia · September 2016

@WinchesterGirl you should just be comfortable with the term "tiny person" :P

Spicyweiner · September 2016

peachesnbean said:

@WinchesterGirl best trick I ever heard was to address the baby directly, "and what's YOUR name?" I mean there's a chance you'll get a gender neutral name too, but it usually helps

I've done this at work and the parents are like "Jordan!" I'm like shiiiiiiitttt....
"Well aren't you a cutie!"

tishb · September 2016

Honestly, my 5 year old was very insightful on this topic. He picked out a fire truck onsie one day, not knowing yet if we have a boy or a girl. When I told him it was for a boy, he said, "Mommy, a girl might like it too. Just put a dress on her too!" Then I thought about all the cute tutus I could pair with a fire truck onsie!

Gretchypoo · September 2016

+1 for no PDAs. I used to work in customer service in HS and college -- people make out in public and put their hands in each other's pants-- ew!!

Spicyweiner · September 2016

WinchesterGirl said:

I know gender stereotyping of babies is controversial these days, but my UO is sort of related.

I hate when people gender neutral dress their tiny babies in public, not because I care, but because it's really awkward not to know what to say. "Awww, what an adorable little... baby!" If it's pink/purple, I can safely guess girl, blue/green I can safely guess boy.

I'm an extremely awkward person at times, and I can see myself being one of those people who accidentally lets slip the wrong guess and then ticks off the parents. This is another situation in which I over think, in case you hadn't noticed.

My first niece (who is now a gorgeous 8 year old stunner) was not a particularly pretty baby.
My sis would have her decked out in ruffles and pink and she always got "awww what a sweet little BOY"

lfrank12 · September 2016

I actually love gender neutral baby clothes! That is all I have been buying so far

poofwok · September 2016

i'll admit that this is an UO I've had for a while...

I find it unnecessary to have thread dedicated to ranting about our in laws. It makes me cringe when I see it. I totally get that some have bad experiences with their in-laws (I've had my share) and it's nice to have a place to rant about it but I feel like that's what Twatwaffle Tuesday is for and that's the place to rant about all the folks in your life.
Not that I'm suggesting for the thread to stop but I find the topic itself quite petty.

BlondePeanut · September 2016

+1 to loving sharks....I so love them. I want to order these cute baby leggings with sharks...and I will put them on a boy or girl..don't care! I have a shark bracelet on right now that hubby bought me when it was Shark Week. It has shark beads going around that are different colors, and I was like a happy kid when we went to the aquarium and I got to pet a shark....yes totally pet it while smiling ear to ear, and hubby filmed it on his phone. What an awesome bday that was

foxrosy · September 2016

I've never made my SO sleep on the couch because I don't feel like I'm a shot caller in our shared space. I'll take my salty self to the couch. But I'm all having space when I get super irritated.

ladyoriza · September 2016

Usually if we see an argument isn't going anywhere, one of us will say, "I guess someone needs to sleep downstairs if we're going to get any sleep tonight." Then someone volunteers. Lately, it's been me. I love couch sleeping while pregnant. I'm just more comfortable. I've been choosing to sleep there even when we aren't arguing. I don't think I've ever "made" him to sleep down there though. Suggested it, sure.

PerraSucia · September 2016

who has a shark nursery? that's awesome.

varimama · September 2016

concreteangell said:

i'll admit that this is an UO I've had for a while...

I find it unnecessary to have thread dedicated to ranting about our in laws. It makes me cringe when I see it. I totally get that some have bad experiences with their in-laws (I've had my share) and it's nice to have a place to rant about it but I feel like that's what Twatwaffle Tuesday is for and that's the place to rant about all the folks in your life.
Not that I'm suggesting for the thread to stop but I find the topic itself quite petty.

For me my ILs are amazing people and I'm so happy to be part of their family now. All my issues are with my own family!

Xstatic3333 · September 2016

PerraSucia said:

who has a shark nursery? that's awesome.

I gave it serious consideration. Various ocean themes were all in the running, until I realized that I already had a yellow room that I didn't feel like painting and forcing ocean into yellow walls was just too hard. There will be some ocean art in my nature nursery, however, since the ocean is part of nature.

PerraSucia · September 2016

Xstatic3333 said:

PerraSucia said:

who has a shark nursery? that's awesome.

I gave it serious consideration. Various ocean themes were all in the running, until I realized that I already had a yellow room that I didn't feel like painting and forcing ocean into yellow walls was just too hard. There will be some ocean art in my nature nursery, however, since the ocean is part of nature.

my kid was given this as a handmedown from a coworker and wore it for like a month

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foxrosy · September 2016

@PerraSucia initially I read that as who has a SNARK nursery. I'm just so used to seeing that word here. Haha!

poofwok · September 2016

OMG @PerraSucia that costume is AMAZING.

Xstatic3333 · September 2016

LOVE IT!

WinchesterGirl · September 2016

You guys are cracking me up! Stupid work is keeping me really busy today so I'm slow popping back in.

I actually agree on the fact that girls can totally be into all the different thing, or boys/ vice versa. I just wish there was a get out of jail free card for these awkward situations!

Asking the name is genius though, @peachesnbean! I might have to steal it.

peachesnbean · September 2016

Okay, this might not be "controversial" but I think changing tables are the bee's knees. When i was a FTM everyone was like "you'll never use it! you just change the baby on the floor or the bed or the couch!" No way, we rarely changed a diaper anywhere but the table , all your junk is there, if you get poo on it isn't a huge deal to clean, its awesome.

PerraSucia · September 2016

@concreteangell shockingly I also have an opinion about this. My ILs are a fucking huge pain in the ass, but bitching about them puts you in the head space not to get over shit. I try not to bitch about everything all the time to not be a negative nancy.

which will be my new name if I ever get booted.

poofwok · September 2016

PerraSucia said:

@concreteangell shockingly I also have an opinion about this. My ILs are a fucking huge pain in the ass, but bitching about them puts you in the head space not to get over shit. I try not to bitch about everything all the time to not be a negative nancy.

which will be my new name if I ever get booted.

---- forever stuck in a box---

Agreed. I think it's perfectly fine to vent sometimes when it comes to our family & friends and we have a weekly thread for it. It just seems a little excessive to have a weekly thread dedicated to rant on family members. Was just the point I was making.

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