@cjt121413 yep, we do need to protect and advocate for our children. The shock factor for me was that the parents of the kids chose to focus on the word choices instead of acting apologetic and embarrassed. From the story I read, the parents of the kids who vandalized the home acted like it wasn't a big deal which I greatly disagree with. That was the point of their post. Yes, discipline isn't the only job of a parent, but it's absolutely crucial at times and wasn't seeming to be apparent in this particular situation.
This is what I took from the story too. You might not like that someone referred to your child using a derogatory term, but I would be so beyond livid at the vandalism caused by my child that I wouldn't even think to be upset about what he was called. None of us were there, but if the initial reaction was to be upset about a name versus the actions of their child, that tells the kid that maybe this isn't such a big deal. And if it's not a big deal, it's more likely to happen again (that's where my jail comment came from, obviously no kid is going to jail for a first time, minor offense).
And sorry, some kids are little f*cks. My younger brother was a perfect example (I'm sure he would agree). He's grown up into a great person, but he's lucky that his crappy behavior never got him killed or arrested.
@temmetime I got lots of those co sleeping "just wait" comments when I was pregnant with dd1 and she when she was little. She never slept in bed with us until she was almost 2 and I forgot her pack n play for an overnight out of town. It's only happened on vacation if she can't sleep and/or we didn't bring the pnp. I hate sleeping with her!
And sorry, some kids are little f*cks. My younger brother was a perfect example (I'm sure he would agree). He's grown up into a great person, but he's lucky that his crappy behavior never got him killed or arrested.
Then the discipline at home needed to be changed.
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@cjt121413 yep, we do need to protect and advocate for our children. The shock factor for me was that the parents of the kids chose to focus on the word choices instead of acting apologetic and embarrassed. From the story I read, the parents of the kids who vandalized the home acted like it wasn't a big deal which I greatly disagree with. That was the point of their post. Yes, discipline isn't the only job of a parent, but it's absolutely crucial at times and wasn't seeming to be apparent in this particular situation.
This is what I took from the story too. You might not like that someone referred to your child using a derogatory term, but I would be so beyond livid at the vandalism caused by my child that I wouldn't even think to be upset about what he was called. None of us were there, but if the initial reaction was to be upset about a name versus the actions of their child, that tells the kid that maybe this isn't such a big deal. And if it's not a big deal, it's more likely to happen again (that's where my jail comment came from, obviously no kid is going to jail for a first time, minor offense).
And sorry, some kids are little f*cks. My younger brother was a perfect example (I'm sure he would agree). He's grown up into a great person, but he's lucky that his crappy behavior never got him killed or arrested.
I see what both of you are saying. I think this is a situation where personal experience colors how we are imaging the scenario to have played out.
Some kids can be little fucks, for sure. I still think as adults we have a responsibility to model good behavior versus name-calling. Of course, we're also humans and sometimes we lose our tempers.
I very rarely bitch about DH but ohhhh tonight.... So I call him this afternoon telling him about my failed glucose test and how I have to fast tonight and yada yada.. He's sympathetic and concerned but then.. He asks me to make slutty brownies tonight for his coworkers. Like really dude? I just told you I can't eat and then you want me to make dessert that I can't even enjoy?!
Halfway prepared slutty brownies, this is nonsense.
@sourlemon isn't that how it always goes?! DH works as a medical administrator and often covers for other administrators at other clinics when they are out- it never fails, he spends the entire time putting out fires at their clinics!
TW today goes to DSD's mom and me, for ignoring my intuition (this has been a crazy week for coparenting!). DH had to rush 2 hours away to the ER where DSD was taken by her mom this afternoon after she found 3 tablets in DSD's milk cup. The provider said they were teething tablets...but DSD isn't teething and shouldn't be. And no licensed provider gives kids meds without permission...DS's center wouldn't even put sunscreen on him without a signed slip!
My gut told me the provider she goes to isn't licensed (a requirement of their custody agreement, she also hasn't provided DH with the info on the provider, also part of the agreement, and she's been going there for 8 months) and that DSD wasn't getting the best care while there (she always comes to us filthy, in overly wet diapers, and not herself on days we get her straight from there) but DH and I quieted the inner voices and trusted DSD's mom was doing things right.
So basically, her mom is a TW for not following the rules of their agreement and doing her due diligence in finding her quality childcare, and I'm a TW for not being firmer with DH about confronting her about the situation.
Weeks like this I wish all the kids were just mine and DH's and we didn't have to deal with the exes.
@mrsmerc2015 ugh. Hugs to you. Coparenting is no fun. We had it rough long ago when his kiddos were younger (I've been with DH for over 10 years now). Those were some trying times with their mom for sure, but it does get better, and the trying times become fewer and farther between. Hang in there
I have a TW for today and didn't see a WTF Wednesday thread....sooooo...
DH is responsible for coffee in the mornings but hasn't cleaned the coffee maker for so long that we discovered mold on it. EW! So - even though I'm just psychosomatically drinking decaf - I've had to fend for myself the last couple of days. I pulled into a busy starbucks on my way to work, where they managed to take 15 minutes (after I waited 8 minutes in line) to get me a decaf coffee and unheated croissant (they actually just left the croissant behind the counter while they waited on everyone behind me). Then I discovered that the traffic light at the starbucks to get back out onto the heavily trafficked road was one-way in the other direction. SO I had to figure out random backroads that set me back another 20 minutes. I have two OB appts this week (US and midwife), so I'm already having to stay late and arrive super early to make up that work time. I'm not pleased about losing so much extra time on this crappy coffee. It wasn't worth it.
@cayaylonglegs I just got a call that I failed my 1 hour glucose test too! So super stressing about it! Did you do the 3 hour yet? I go on Friday. Bright and early, after 10 hours of fasting. (I'm assuming I'll die before then.) anyone else have experience w this?
Also, you have my sympathies w the brownies, tomorrow is my husbands bday and I promised him weeks ago his favorite Reese cookies. Guess he won't have to share!
@mforinger - I had it today. It wasn't pleasant. The drink is double the sugar and I felt the effects double. I had brought a crochet project to work on but couldn't concentrate on it. Make sure to bring a snack for afterwards and maybe reading material? My lab didn't have a tv or anything so I just kinda sat in a chair adapted fetal position. Fingers crossed you have a better experience than I!
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@cayaylonglegs it just sounds like to me that they're giving you diabetes by making you drink this stuff. If it makes you feel so awful, I don't understand why they'd want to do that to someone. Something about it doesn't sit right with me.
@austenista and @cayaylonglegs- I failed my 2 hour test (didn't do a 3 hour) but I failed it so spectacularly that they didn't feel the need to do a repeat test, so I was diagnosed with GD. I've been doing it for all of less than 24 hours now and honestly, outside of cutting out my very favorite foods (anything sweet or carbs) the actual testing yourself part isn't that bad. However with that said, I really hope you both pass your 3 hour tests. While it's not that bad, I wouldn't wish it on anyone- even if I had company in the GD December club!
If for whatever reason you don't pass, we can start a club! This is my first time to have it and I'm on child #3. So it's all new to me!
@cayaylonglegs& @mforinger I failed my 1 hour with DD last pregnancy- passed the 3 hour no problem (and she was small, so clearly no GD). The 3 hour is much more accurate than the 1 hour- and it's really not all that bad so long as they use butterfly needles and you have a fully charged phone/computer
I kinda wanna skip the test all together this time.. I mean, the twins will come early anyways- might as well fatten them up right?? plus if I get told I can't have my daily large cookie- I don't think I'll make it to the end of this!!
@austenista (did I tell you it took me a good 3-4 days to figure out who you were Casey?) FOR REAL I think this test is just giving me GD. The sugar is ridic.
@phoebecar - should I fail today's test I will certainly join your diabeetus club. Lord knows I'll need some accountability help because I'm addicted to fruit juices and that's the first thing I'll need to drop.
@toller - your daily cookie is like my daily apple cider. I will be one pissed momma without it.
@cayaylonglegs yeah, sorry for switching the names up on everyone. I mean I just feel like this is something I would never agree to consume in any other scenario. I'm very weird about oils and sugar being mixed together in general. It just seems kind of backward, like there's not a better test than to make me drink a harmful chemical drink?
yeah. I mean couldn't they have taken a fasting sample and given me a milk shake or quesadilla burger with equal the amount of glucose? I'd be a much more willing participant for that.
also they could have just put an IV port in my arm instead of sticking me 4 different time like I am a pregnant voodoo doll.
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@austenista (did I tell you it took me a good 3-4 days to figure out who you were Casey?) FOR REAL I think this test is just giving me GD. The sugar is ridic.
WAIT!!!!! You are Casey? No wonder I'm lost.
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I am allowed to eat 50g of sugar worth of jelly beans instead of drinking glucola. Is no one else?
The midwife at my OBs office mentioned that a doctor she used to work for did this. Apparently it's not too common since it's one flavor, of one brand, and an exact amount of beans that need to be eaten within a set amount of time. Still sounds better to me...
@cayaylonglegs@zubenescamali@Kate08Young I changed my name a bit ago, as explained here in this thread. I thought it was a good idea because a. it was my full name and b. my mother is stalking me online. Thanks for understanding.
My body is craving sweets so bad. I think I just downed 50 grams of sugar worth of lifesaver gummies. This sugar challenge test is something we should "practice" for right?
@cayaylonglegs it just sounds like to me that they're giving you diabetes by making you drink this stuff. If it makes you feel so awful, I don't understand why they'd want to do that to someone. Something about it doesn't sit right with me.
Seriously. It's because the test is for pregnant women, it's ancient. I bet if it were a test for men, or something that more doctors had to do (excluding awesome women drs) it'd be updated real quick...
for my DS my OB at the time let me eat a full sized snickers bar and drink a can of real coke. It was heavenly compared to the glucola- which is horrendous.
Re: TW Tuesday 9.6.16
And sorry, some kids are little f*cks. My younger brother was a perfect example (I'm sure he would agree). He's grown up into a great person, but he's lucky that his crappy behavior never got him killed or arrested.
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
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TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
Some kids can be little fucks, for sure. I still think as adults we have a responsibility to model good behavior versus name-calling. Of course, we're also humans and sometimes we lose our tempers.
Me: 33 H: 36
Married: 12/14/13 DS: 1/29/09
BFP2: 10/9/15 MMC: 11/12/15
BFP3: 4/6/16 DD: 12/12/16
Halfway prepared slutty brownies, this is nonsense.
Me:27 H:30
Till death do us part: 7.2.2011
Trying to conceive since 01.2014
Low AFC and azoospermia
IVF #1 03.2016 - BFP 03.28.2016
Due: 12.05.2016
Me:27 H:30
Till death do us part: 7.2.2011
Trying to conceive since 01.2014
Low AFC and azoospermia
IVF #1 03.2016 - BFP 03.28.2016
Due: 12.05.2016
TW today goes to DSD's mom and me, for ignoring my intuition (this has been a crazy week for coparenting!). DH had to rush 2 hours away to the ER where DSD was taken by her mom this afternoon after she found 3 tablets in DSD's milk cup. The provider said they were teething tablets...but DSD isn't teething and shouldn't be. And no licensed provider gives kids meds without permission...DS's center wouldn't even put sunscreen on him without a signed slip!
My gut told me the provider she goes to isn't licensed (a requirement of their custody agreement, she also hasn't provided DH with the info on the provider, also part of the agreement, and she's been going there for 8 months) and that DSD wasn't getting the best care while there (she always comes to us filthy, in overly wet diapers, and not herself on days we get her straight from there) but DH and I quieted the inner voices and trusted DSD's mom was doing things right.
So basically, her mom is a TW for not following the rules of their agreement and doing her due diligence in finding her quality childcare, and I'm a TW for not being firmer with DH about confronting her about the situation.
Weeks like this I wish all the kids were just mine and DH's and we didn't have to deal with the exes.
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August '18 Siggy April Showers:
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TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
I have a TW for today and didn't see a WTF Wednesday thread....sooooo...
DH is responsible for coffee in the mornings but hasn't cleaned the coffee maker for so long that we discovered mold on it. EW! So - even though I'm just psychosomatically drinking decaf - I've had to fend for myself the last couple of days. I pulled into a busy starbucks on my way to work, where they managed to take 15 minutes (after I waited 8 minutes in line) to get me a decaf coffee and unheated croissant (they actually just left the croissant behind the counter while they waited on everyone behind me). Then I discovered that the traffic light at the starbucks to get back out onto the heavily trafficked road was one-way in the other direction. SO I had to figure out random backroads that set me back another 20 minutes. I have two OB appts this week (US and midwife), so I'm already having to stay late and arrive super early to make up that work time. I'm not pleased about losing so much extra time on this crappy coffee. It wasn't worth it.
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Also, you have my sympathies w the brownies, tomorrow is my husbands bday and I promised him weeks ago his favorite Reese cookies. Guess he won't have to share!
Me:27 H:30
Till death do us part: 7.2.2011
Trying to conceive since 01.2014
Low AFC and azoospermia
IVF #1 03.2016 - BFP 03.28.2016
Due: 12.05.2016
@austenista and @cayaylonglegs- I failed my 2 hour test (didn't do a 3 hour) but I failed it so spectacularly that they didn't feel the need to do a repeat test, so I was diagnosed with GD. I've been doing it for all of less than 24 hours now and honestly, outside of cutting out my very favorite foods (anything sweet or carbs) the actual testing yourself part isn't that bad. However with that said, I really hope you both pass your 3 hour tests. While it's not that bad, I wouldn't wish it on anyone- even if I had company in the GD December club!
If for whatever reason you don't pass, we can start a club! This is my first time to have it and I'm on child #3. So it's all new to me!
I kinda wanna skip the test all together this time.. I mean, the twins will come early anyways- might as well fatten them up right??
@phoebecar - should I fail today's test I will certainly join your diabeetus club. Lord knows I'll need some accountability help because I'm addicted to fruit juices and that's the first thing I'll need to drop.
@toller - your daily cookie is like my daily apple cider. I will be one pissed momma without it.
Me:27 H:30
Till death do us part: 7.2.2011
Trying to conceive since 01.2014
Low AFC and azoospermia
IVF #1 03.2016 - BFP 03.28.2016
Due: 12.05.2016
also they could have just put an IV port in my arm instead of sticking me 4 different time like I am a pregnant voodoo doll.
Me:27 H:30
Till death do us part: 7.2.2011
Trying to conceive since 01.2014
Low AFC and azoospermia
IVF #1 03.2016 - BFP 03.28.2016
Due: 12.05.2016
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Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
Me:27 H:30
Till death do us part: 7.2.2011
Trying to conceive since 01.2014
Low AFC and azoospermia
IVF #1 03.2016 - BFP 03.28.2016
Due: 12.05.2016
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Me:27 H:30
Till death do us part: 7.2.2011
Trying to conceive since 01.2014
Low AFC and azoospermia
IVF #1 03.2016 - BFP 03.28.2016
Due: 12.05.2016
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
I'd rather eat a snickers, but the process wasn't too terrible.