@dmontgo I am sandwiched between boys...I totally get the boy piss stench! I think my mom got so tired of it she actually didn't even tell my younger brother about the whole standing to pee thing until he was 10! If I have a boy next time I'd probably be tempted to wait too hahaha.
I'm now doing some existential pondering about "boy mom"-ness.
My UO: Ok, I finally have one for this week. I see a lot of planning type conversations and I was just sitting here thinking about it, and I really don't like plans. They actually stress me out. I think the deal is that I have this perfectionist nature and so if I'm going to do something by the plan, I've got to do that plan by the letter. If not? Ugh, chest constrictions.
I'm not ridiculous and refuse to make plans (my dad is though, he's the type of person who instead of making a lunch date will call you when he's ready to leave and meet you), but I'm also kind of an "okay, I'm just going to take my hands off the wheel and let life happen" type of person. I have a tendency on trying to focus on the big, BIG picture and then panic from overthinking if I don't just chill and...not plan.
My husband's the total opposite. He's got to have a plan for everything. It makes him very uptight about running errands. I could abandon the errands list halfway through because I just want to go home. That would be a misery for him. He has a list of places he needs to go, he's picked the most efficient route, the order each place must be visited, and it all must be done before he returns home.
I think we balance each other out. He's pretty chill about the things I over-worry about too.
From what I've seen, boy mom and girl mom culture are both alive and well. It's not really a competition; I mean how could it be? It's incredibly rare that you choose your child's gender, you get what you get for the most part. One is not better than the other and some people are both.
My niece and I this 4th of July - check out my hat!! It is awesome and I LOVE IT. Cause guess what? I am a boy mom. And in Dec, I'll be a girl mom too!
My niece and I this 4th of July - check out my hat!! It is awesome and I LOVE IT. Cause guess what? I am a boy mom. And in Dec, I'll be a girl mom too!
+1 to being both after this birth. I have whole heartedly adored being a boy mom. I am scared to be a girl mom, because I am not really into many feminine things, and I'm scared I will get a 'pink princess' little girl.
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Boy mom, girl mom, none of that bothers me. Even if the person saying it intends to invoke superiority. Being a mom is hard no matter what the gender and I salute you!!! Hop up on that pedestal for a moment, sure as hell someone's going to knock you down in just a minute (probably your toddler, telling you he peed all over the dog) the term "baby mama", "baby daddy" however...that makes me want to vomit. That shit's gotta go. Why people use that title to seem cool (especially if they are in a healthy, committed relationship) is beyond my understanding.
Yeah, I will have 3 boys. That's it for us. Boys will be the only life I know. I will play superman, swords and trucks for he next umpteen years of my life and know nothing of the tea parties and princesses. I'm already navigating farting at the table, sweaty stinky socks and potty talk. I guess I don't get it. My life will be different than a mom of all girls, or a mom with both sexes. Not better or worse, just different. Why can't I identify with that?
Eh, whatever... Unpopular opinion, indeed! You win!!
@DiFazette this is how I feel, but from the Girl Mom point of view. Not to say all I'll know are tea parties and princesses because we have our fair share of trucks, dinos and dirt. But I'll never know the "Boy Mom" thing. I'm ok with that.. I applaud mothers of sons while people usually look at me and say, "oh, God bless you.... 2 GIRLS?!" But I wouldn't change a thing. This is what we will know and I'm grateful.
I'm a boy mom and a girl mom and I have never played princess or Barbie, though I have played tea party...with one of my boys. I have cleaned gallons of pee off the toilet seat, but that's not only from my boys. Girls can miss too, especially when they decide that they can do anything their brothers can do, including standing up to pee
My issue is I never hear people calling themselves "girl mom". I don't see them wearing shirts that say "girl mom". How about you're "a mom". I have boys and girls what am I?
whitneyp26 I actually get what you're saying . We're having a girl, and I have received multiple reactions like this: "Oh you're having a girl? I could never do that! I'm such a boy mom! Girls are too emotional/dramatic/fragile/prissy/etc for me." Even mothers who are pregnant with their first child have said things like, "I was so relieved when we found out we were having a boy. I was born to be a boy mom. I could never handle all the drama of a girl." I know I take it more personally than I should, but the general theme seems to be "you got the short end of the stick." I think it's wonderful to love being the mother of boys! I think saying "I love being a boy mom!" is great! But if you're going to use the phrase "boy mom," don't follow it up with something hurtful about girls. And even if you honestly believe in your heart that girls are more dramatic/emotional/harder/etc, please, please, please keep that to yourself when I tell you that I'm having a girl. I don't say things like "Oh you're having a boy? Did you know that 97% of murderers are boys? I hope you're saving some bail money!" ;-)
I think I can understand to a certain degree. It's not being a mom of boys or girls, it's the ignorance of assuming what you have is better than the others in the junk department and making offhand comments about it
Though, I still do feel that being a boy mom is the absolute best. Not because my kid has a penis and does masculine things, but because I have a son, and soon to be 3 sons and that's the only version of being a mother I know. If I had a girl, I would feel that was the absolute best - because it's all I know.
I'd now like to sum up my comment with a very important quote - 'People aren't against you, they're just for themselves'. I think that comes into play with this kind of thing. It's not against anyone (unless the person is a jerk) and more expressing love for their situation.
I think I can understand to a certain degree. It's not being a mom of boys or girls, it's the ignorance of assuming what you have is better than the others in the junk department and making offhand comments about it
Though, I still do feel that being a boy mom is the absolute best. Not because my kid has a penis and does masculine things, but because I have a son, and soon to be 3 sons and that's the only version of being a mother I know. If I had a girl, I would feel that was the absolute best - because it's all I know.
I'd now like to sum up my comment with a very important quote - 'People aren't against you, they're just for themselves'. I think that comes into play with this kind of thing. It's not against anyone (unless the person is a jerk) and more expressing love for their situation.
You've been freaking killing it with the beautifully appropriate quotes lately
dh and I just had the convo that some people quote poetry or great literature or inspiring leaders. We just find ourselves constantly quoting children's books and then laughing to each other knowingly
There. I said it. I'm a southern belle living in the country and I don't like football. Never have. I don't watch it. DH doesn't watch it. We are not a football house and never understand when friends can't make proper Fall plans because of some game schedule.
*prepares self to be stoned...and not the fun kind...*
@swhiddon33 the only thing I like about football season is going out when everyone else at home watching the game. That's a serious thing here in AL. You can get a table so much faster at a restaurant or stand in way shorter lines at the grocery. DH and I aggressively don't care either so we take advantage of the game times to do fun things.
@swhiddon33 I hate football season too. Mostly because DH monopolizes the TV, the computer, and the tablet all at once to keep up with his fantasy teams and he won't hold a conversation. But sometimes I'm motivated enough to make good snacks that make it bearable.
I agree "boy mom" is probably more about being "yay me!" Which is totally ok in my book. Gosh being a mama is hard, adding all of one gender (or considerably more of one than the other) adds dementions to the struggle. My SIL has 4 sons... I feel for her. I will say however as a mama of 4 daughters... Even though I have 2 sons... I feel the need to find validation of how challenging that can be at times.
Holy hormones (and drama)! So much freaking pink (I'm not a fan) and all the girly stuff. And in my experience... My boys are cleaner.
That said... Both are a great gift. How's that for straddling the fence on all sides!!! Haha!
Re: UO- 9/1
My UO: Ok, I finally have one for this week. I see a lot of planning type conversations and I was just sitting here thinking about it, and I really don't like plans. They actually stress me out. I think the deal is that I have this perfectionist nature and so if I'm going to do something by the plan, I've got to do that plan by the letter. If not? Ugh, chest constrictions.
I'm not ridiculous and refuse to make plans (my dad is though, he's the type of person who instead of making a lunch date will call you when he's ready to leave and meet you), but I'm also kind of an "okay, I'm just going to take my hands off the wheel and let life happen" type of person. I have a tendency on trying to focus on the big, BIG picture and then panic from overthinking if I don't just chill and...not plan.
My husband's the total opposite. He's got to have a plan for everything. It makes him very uptight about running errands. I could abandon the errands list halfway through because I just want to go home. That would be a misery for him. He has a list of places he needs to go, he's picked the most efficient route, the order each place must be visited, and it all must be done before he returns home.
I think we balance each other out. He's pretty chill about the things I over-worry about too.
My niece and I this 4th of July - check out my hat!! It is awesome and I LOVE IT. Cause guess what? I am a boy mom. And in Dec, I'll be a girl mom too!
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August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
the term "baby mama", "baby daddy" however...that makes me want to vomit. That shit's gotta go. Why people use that title to seem cool (especially if they are in a healthy, committed relationship) is beyond my understanding.
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Eh, whatever... Unpopular opinion, indeed! You win!!
I have cleaned gallons of pee off the toilet seat, but that's not only from my boys. Girls can miss too, especially when they decide that they can do anything their brothers can do, including standing up to pee
Though, I still do feel that being a boy mom is the absolute best. Not because my kid has a penis and does masculine things, but because I have a son, and soon to be 3 sons and that's the only version of being a mother I know. If I had a girl, I would feel that was the absolute best - because it's all I know.
I'd now like to sum up my comment with a very important quote - 'People aren't against you, they're just for themselves'. I think that comes into play with this kind of thing. It's not against anyone (unless the person is a jerk) and more expressing love for their situation.
dh and I just had the convo that some people quote poetry or great literature or inspiring leaders. We just find ourselves constantly quoting children's books and then laughing to each other knowingly
I. Don't. Like. Football.
There. I said it. I'm a southern belle living in the country and I don't like football. Never have. I don't watch it. DH doesn't watch it. We are not a football house and never understand when friends can't make proper Fall plans because of some game schedule.
*prepares self to be stoned...and not the fun kind...*
Holy hormones (and drama)! So much freaking pink (I'm not a fan) and all the girly stuff. And in my experience... My boys are cleaner.
That said... Both are a great gift. How's that for straddling the fence on all sides!!!
Haha!
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