@joyful08 I kinda feel the same way. I send Thank You cards...but I hate doing it. I feel like they sound so stupid and forced, I already thanked you in person...why do I need a follow up?
"Dear so and so,
Thank you so much for the BLANK. We have used it frequently."
....Why do I need to send that? I just feel fake writing it.
Exactly and I feel the same way reading it. It just feels forced. I know people are thankful so I don't need a card that I'm going to throw away in 5 seconds.
I have another one. I love Christmas decor, and if H would let me I would put it up in October.
DITTO! Our tree doesn't have ornaments, we put up frames with family pictures-- I'm already planning how to make it better this year. also, I want a Christmas maternity shirt BAD.
UO: I don't like the signature challenges. Inevitably there is one that turns me off and I have to quickly scroll past in in every thread where that person comments.
Me: 1979 * Husband: 1976 * Little girl: 2010 * Little guy: 2013 * MMC: 2016 * Last baby: EDD 2/11/17!
Regarding SAH: it's not the life for me. I work outside the home at a university, but moonlight as a doula and would like to eventually make that my FT job. I'm fine being a working mom, but the people in my neighborhood can't wrap their freaking heads around it. I get texts all the time during the work day about this and that (our neighbors are very busy bodied) and I'm like, hey I'm at work can't help with xyz or go for a walk or blah blah blah. They always forget.
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
My understanding of the TY note rule is you don't have to write one if you opened the gift in front of the giver and thanked them. Gifts that are mailed or taken home to open require TY notes. I guess this applies more to birthdays and holidays than showers - they do seem to be required for showers... Maybe it's your penance for having a gift-grabby party!
My understanding of the TY note rule is you don't have to write one if you opened the gift in front of the giver and thanked them. Gifts that are mailed or taken home to open require TY notes. I guess this applies more to birthdays and holidays than showers - they do seem to be required for showers... Maybe it's your penance for having a gift-grabby party!
Yea I'm not sure why it's required at showers but like at weddings no one opens the gifts then it's later. Like I don't send out thank you notes at Christmas or my birthday if you were there when I opened it and I thanked you but if I got it in the mail then I send one and probably also call to say I got it and thank them.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
I love being home with a baby/toddler/little kid. But in the summers when I have say, a 5, 8, and 10 year old home all day... You can find me in the corner in the fetal position when DH gets home. They just become more and more work I swear!
I have another one. I love Christmas decor, and if H would let me I would put it up in October.
YES. My husband's favorite holiday is Thanksgiving and he insists I cannot put up Christmas decorations before that day - ugh!! But I'm hoping this year I can pull the "I'm going to get bigger and bigger so I need to start putting up everything early or else you will have to do it all"
Maybe it's a regional or circle thing, but I feel like around here being a SAHM is definitely the minority. Women put a lot of emphasis on not giving up their professional lives just because they had a baby, and in a lot of ways look down at others for "just" being a mom.
Idk, damned if you do, damned if you dont.
I'm fortunate in that I can still take care of my dad and soon a baby at the same time, so in my opinion thats the best balance for me between working and parenting. However I do love household tasks and have zero qualms about being in charge of cooking/cleaning/organizing/parenting efficiently. We'll see how all that goes with a new baby in the mix lol.
I just hate the judgments that one path is better than the other, because everyone has different needs and wants, and every family functions differently
I agree with so much of this. I'm a SAHM and I know maybe 4 others tops, every other mom I know is a working parent. I often find myself avoiding situations where people I don't know well might ask what I do for work, because I don't want to deal with possible judgement.
A girl I went to HS with recently had a baby about 2 months ago and complains weekly about how she can't wait to get back to work and wants to return from mat leave early. The other day she posted something about how she can't understand how women can sit home all day "doing nothing" and "living off of handouts/ someone else supporting them". At that point I just unfriended her. I'm not judging you for wanting to rush back to work and give up what little precious bonding time most working moms get before having to return (as I have no idea the reason behind those feelings), so why do you feel the need to publicly judge what anyone else chooses to do? SAH is not for every mom and that is perfectly fine, the judgement of either choice is just beyond stupid.
I think I missed some posts in here, but I love seasonally decorating. I do love my Christmas decorations but I actually have Thanksgiving decorations so they need to have time to be up too.
Married - 7/29/06 Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09 Mia - 6/16/11 Surprise! due 2/23/17
I've been working since I was 15. I always thought that I'd continue working after having kids but now that I'm here....I have absolutely no f--king desire to work. It's mainly because of my last two jobs where people have treated me like shit even though I'm excellent at what I do. I'm just over it. Now, when I watch TV shows, I find myself complaining to my husband "now, why can't I work in an environment like that where people value me and my work and genuinely care about me and I don't have to constantly watch my back because some shit face lazy ass bitch doesn't like that I'm good at my job!?"
Late to the game, but I hate when places advertise their "big BOGO sale" and it's like "BUY ONE ITEM GET THE NEXT FOR 25% OFF!" No, STFU. BOGO is buy one get one free. drives me bananas.
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
Late to the game, but I hate when places advertise their "big BOGO sale" and it's like "BUY ONE ITEM GET THE NEXT FOR 25% OFF!" No, STFU. BOGO is buy one get one free. drives me bananas.
Late to the game, but I hate when places advertise their "big BOGO sale" and it's like "BUY ONE ITEM GET THE NEXT FOR 25% OFF!" No, STFU. BOGO is buy one get one free. drives me bananas.
Yeah I don't know when the rules changed for BOGO, but I don't approve. BOGO means boy one get one free. Period. Everything else is false advertisement in my book.
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Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
A girl I went to HS with recently had a baby about 2 months ago and complains weekly about how she can't wait to get back to work and wants to return from mat leave early. The other day she posted something about how she can't understand how women can sit home all day "doing nothing" and "living off of handouts/ someone else supporting them". At that point I just unfriended her. I'm not judging you for wanting to rush back to work and give up what little precious bonding time most working moms get before having to return (as I have no idea the reason behind those feelings), so why do you feel the need to publicly judge what anyone else chooses to do? SAH is not for every mom and that is perfectly fine, the judgement of either choice is just beyond stupid.
Oh, yeah, THOSE...
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
Now, when I watch TV shows, I find myself complaining to my husband "now, why can't I work in an environment like that where people value me and my work and genuinely care about me and I don't have to constantly watch my back because some shit face lazy ass bitch doesn't like that I'm good at my job!?"
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!