@MrsLittleMac You might also want to mention that you're pregnant, and that you're not ok with putting your and your baby's safety at risk by breaking up dog fights.
I hate that when people just let their dogs wander all over like that or approach you with their dog on leash because the dogs "want to meet". They always say that too, "it's ok, he/she is nice!" One of my dogs has had several unfortunate incidents with stranger dogs (one example is when a neighbor's dog jumped the fence into our yard and attacked her, leaving a gash in her side). She is terrified when another dog approaches her whether they're nice or not. Luckily her instinct is not to fight, but we have to have a serious harness on her whenever we walk her because her instinct is to wiggle out of her collar and run for her life.
@MommaBean yep, I've told her and she for sure has seen it with her own eyes. She also tries to encourage when my dog barks at other animals (cats down the street, etc.) I've actually yelled at her over that one, just everything about this lady boils my blood.
@MrsLittleMac Irresponsible dog owners are the worst. Our last dog had severe anxiety and would freak out when people or dogs got near. never attacked but barked and jumped all over. I hated when people STILL tried to pet him or let their dogs "say hi" can't you see he's telling you to go away? walk away!
TW of the week for me is all of the people who find out I'm pregnant with a boy and then immediately say "That's perfect! One of each! You're done now" (we have a 1 year old girl already). First of all, what makes them assume we only want to have two kids (we actually are planning to have more)? Second of all, what makes them assume that we wanted exactly one child of each gender (I actually was hoping for another girl)? They just assume they know everything about our reproductive choices and hopes. Maybe it's my pregnancy hormones but I'm about to respond "What makes you assume that?" the next time someone tells me it's perfect and we are done.
Another TW are the people that keep asking how I'm feeling, I say I'm tired, and they have to say "oh you just wait". I hate it. Yes, I know things will be very different when the baby comes. But making the baby is exhausting and after sleeping like crap all this weekend I'm just wiped out and want to punch them.
I was just emailing with a girlfriend of mine who recently had a baby. I did the whole "oh man, so tired" thing, but followed up with "I know it's going to be harder once the baby's here!" because, like you, I've heard it a million times.
And she said "Honestly, pregnancy tired was harder than "baby's not sleeping through the night" tired" ... so, your milage may vary, this may actually be the hardest it gets. I just keep telling myself that...
@MrsLittleMac honestly? That's infuriating. I know it's hard but I think you should file a complaint, for the safety of all the dogs and people involved. You are being the responsible owner here, and in a couple of months breaking up dog fights just won't be safe for you. They won't take her dogs away for something like that, just scare her with a ticket.
I have a reactive dog too and my patience for people like this is so low. Baxter is only leash-reactive, but when an off-leash dog charges at him while he's leashed he feels cornered and really lashes out. They ALWAYS say "don't worry, he's friendly!" Every. Time. I'm usually pretty chill but I actually yell at people now when this happens.
Lol @ @glitterdragon. To me, "baby isn't sleeping through the night" and the whole um, first year of life is 100x more difficult and tiring than "pregnancy tired".
Being pregnant with 3 kids (3, 5 & 6) feels like a walk in the park right now compared to what I know is to come! Maybe it's just me...
@GlitterDragon I giggled a little in my head at the "pregnancy tired is worse than baby not sleeping through the night tired" being uncomfortable at night from pregnancy is nothing compared to not ever actually sleeping an entire night only taking a bunch of naps for what feels like an eternity, until the day you are overjoyed and feel like a new person because the baby slept "a whole 4 hours" the night before lol! although @poetryandoceans I will say that I too loathe it when people say "oh just wait" blah blah blah. It's like you already know that I don't understand? I usually just say yeah pregnancy is hard, because it is hard, stating the newborn stage being harder than being pregnant is irrelevant
Having never done this before, I have no horse in this race. I was just passing on my friend's experience, which was that all the constant "just you wait, it'll be worse" was not true for her. Either way, the "it'll be worse" sentiment does nothing to validate what women are experiencing in the moment.
DH is a mailman and because he's so efficient, he gets abused and overworked. He works 10-12 hour days, 6 days a week and always helps out the slower mail carriers. His day off gets changed without warning the night before. It's a nightmare.
Well, I'm so pissed because my husband requested October 5th off for our anatomy scan and gender reveal and his boss denied it. Wtf, are you kidding me??? He bends over backwards for them and doesn't complain when they jerk him around. I'm sure the damn post office can function for one day without him. Ugh.
@jennpearl007 THIS. I totally get you. My sisters and I are very fast and efficient in our respective fields. While other people mosey around their jobs. But yes, I get abused too because I get my shit done quick.
@poetryandoceansMeh. I guess I'm the twatwaffle here because I think that "just you wait" stuff is trite because it's true.
FWIW I did avoid those kind of comments with my first because whenever someone asked me how I was feeling (and I mean anyone) I would just say fine or good. I only shared symptoms with my SO and my OB. I do apologize if my earlier comments offended.
I'm fully expecting to feel exhausted for the first several months, I don't have a glittery unicorn of hope that postpartum is a uniformly rosy experience. I do think for most people, it is worse in the newborn phase than it is in pregnancy. But apparently for some people it isn't. I did tell my girlfriend to watch who she said that to, because I'm sure most new moms would have some choice words for her. But I just chipped in her experience to counterbalance the overwhelming doom and gloom message most of us get in our "real lives."
I don't think it's what happened here, but I more think people are twatwaffles for asking a question about how someone is feeling, receiving an honest answer, and then immediately shutting down that person openly sharing their experience by saying it only gets worse. I tend to think it's that kind of experience one-upmanship that leads to people not expressing how they're feeling when they need help.
It's different on the internet, because there are always other threads to provide advice and support, and because it's a community built on supporting each other and a healthy dose of snark. But if I'm out with my friends and I say "oh man am I exhausted" and a girlfriend says "oh, that's nothing, just you wait," I'm going to be way less likely to go to her if I'm struggling and need advice or help.
Anyway, those are my completely unorganized and slightly scattered thoughts, because, appropriately enough, pregnancy exhaustion is kicking. my. ass. today.
I'm fully expecting to feel exhausted for the first several months, I don't have a glittery unicorn of hope that postpartum is a uniformly rosy experience. I do think for most people, it is worse in the newborn phase than it is in pregnancy. But apparently for some people it isn't. I did tell my girlfriend to watch who she said that to, because I'm sure most new moms would have some choice words for her. But I just chipped in her experience to counterbalance the overwhelming doom and gloom message most of us get in our "real lives."
I don't think it's what happened here, but I more think people are twatwaffles for asking a question about how someone is feeling, receiving an honest answer, and then immediately shutting down that person openly sharing their experience by saying it only gets worse. I tend to think it's that kind of experience one-upmanship that leads to people not expressing how they're feeling when they need help.
It's different on the internet, because there are always other threads to provide advice and support, and because it's a community built on supporting each other and a healthy dose of snark. But if I'm out with my friends and I say "oh man am I exhausted" and a girlfriend says "oh, that's nothing, just you wait," I'm going to be way less likely to go to her if I'm struggling and need advice or help.
Anyway, those are my completely unorganized and slightly scattered thoughts, because, appropriately enough, pregnancy exhaustion is kicking. my. ass. today.
SITB.
This, exactly. It's not a freaking competition. You asked how I was, I told you, don't dismiss what I said because you're some all knowing twatwaffle who has more experience.
But at the same time, I know people are generally good natured and trying to relate, and maybe can't think of something else to say. So I'll smile and quietly criticize.
@Patience7150 I agree; it totally is, in most cases, a ham-fisted attempt to relate. However, I think 9 times out of 10, the attempt falls completely flat because, without meaning to, that person is essentially saying "your experience doesn't matter. Now MY experience, MY experience matters"
@jennpearl007, oh man that's terrible for you and your H. I believe it though because I used to be a window clerk for the USPS and worked very closely with all the carriers and... it was just like you're describing. You are literally not allowed to have a life outside of that job. Especially if you actually know what you're doing!
Re: Twatwaffle Tuesday 8/30
I hate that when people just let their dogs wander all over like that or approach you with their dog on leash because the dogs "want to meet". They always say that too, "it's ok, he/she is nice!" One of my dogs has had several unfortunate incidents with stranger dogs (one example is when a neighbor's dog jumped the fence into our yard and attacked her, leaving a gash in her side). She is terrified when another dog approaches her whether they're nice or not. Luckily her instinct is not to fight, but we have to have a serious harness on her whenever we walk her because her instinct is to wiggle out of her collar and run for her life.
I've actually yelled at her over that one, just everything about this lady boils my blood.
Sorry, couldn't resist..
I have a reactive dog too and my patience for people like this is so low. Baxter is only leash-reactive, but when an off-leash dog charges at him while he's leashed he feels cornered and really lashes out. They ALWAYS say "don't worry, he's friendly!" Every. Time. I'm usually pretty chill but I actually yell at people now when this happens.
Being pregnant with 3 kids (3, 5 & 6) feels like a walk in the park right now compared to what I know is to come! Maybe it's just me...
@lap018
Having never done this before, I have no horse in this race. I was just passing on my friend's experience, which was that all the constant "just you wait, it'll be worse" was not true for her. Either way, the "it'll be worse" sentiment does nothing to validate what women are experiencing in the moment.
DH is a mailman and because he's so efficient, he gets abused and overworked. He works 10-12 hour days, 6 days a week and always helps out the slower mail carriers. His day off gets changed without warning the night before. It's a nightmare.
Well, I'm so pissed because my husband requested October 5th off for our anatomy scan and gender reveal and his boss denied it. Wtf, are you kidding me??? He bends over backwards for them and doesn't complain when they jerk him around. I'm sure the damn post office can function for one day without him. Ugh.
I do apologize if my earlier comments offended.
I don't think it's what happened here, but I more think people are twatwaffles for asking a question about how someone is feeling, receiving an honest answer, and then immediately shutting down that person openly sharing their experience by saying it only gets worse. I tend to think it's that kind of experience one-upmanship that leads to people not expressing how they're feeling when they need help.
It's different on the internet, because there are always other threads to provide advice and support, and because it's a community built on supporting each other and a healthy dose of snark. But if I'm out with my friends and I say "oh man am I exhausted" and a girlfriend says "oh, that's nothing, just you wait," I'm going to be way less likely to go to her if I'm struggling and need advice or help.
Anyway, those are my completely unorganized and slightly scattered thoughts, because, appropriately enough, pregnancy exhaustion is kicking. my. ass. today.