My BF is the stupid bump website won't let me login. Says my password is wrong, when it's not, and won't let me retrieve it either ugh. App works. But I'm trying to be on here at work, and can't really be on my phone
@cjt121413 - did you see my recent posts on TTGPU? You are in good company. I'm sorry that we both feel this way, but don't feel like you're alone. Feel free to PM to vent if needed. Hugs.
@phoenix870509 I feel you on not being able to sleep when you're in a nice hotel bed. That's my situation this week!
My MBF is emotions, in general. I haven't been crying or upset this pregnancy, until the past few days. I'm not normally a super emotional person so it's been a struggle. Just today I cried reading a romance novel (insert huge eyeroll). A few minutes ago DH was telling me that our dog is ready to be best friends with the baby and all I could think about was how awful it will be when she dies and he's like 6 or 7
I keep having migraines, I barf all the time. My dog decided that the rawhide bone she had on Sunday needed to be pooped out all over my carpet right in front of the door. My husband doesn't believe he has a snoring problem. My 3 year old will only sleep in bed with us or she becomes mental and I don't have the energy to argue. She manages to suction cup her body to mine in my king size bed and my husband is left with his full side...still snoring. My birthday is Wednesday, this is also the 10th anniversary year of my mother's death so I feel guilty for having a birthday or something. I keep having insane dreams, I can't breathe, I only want to wear pajamas, I want to have sex all the time but I end up with pressure vagina afterwards and feel like all of my inside are going to fall out. OMG HOLY MONDAY BITCHFEST!!!!!!! and I have heartburn.
@slartybartfast *Fistbump* H and I sleep in separate beds on the reg. He's a pilot and needs good sleep. When baby comes, I'll be in the guest bed with the bassinet next to me. Also, weekend sleepovers are that much better!
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
It's Tuesday but mine is a BF and not a TW. It's a bit petty but still pisses me off. Someone in here-D'16 and TTGPU got me kicked out of TTGPU for posting about things that were on TTGP. So I didn't do a damn thing wrong, but I was kicked out of TTGPU because someone who is on both + a mod didn't fact check. I stayed away from TTGPU for about 10 days so I didn't throw a BF and GBCB then I couldn't get back in. It's been probably a month, but I'm still pissed. ETA:clarity. Bumping at is difficult.
Formerly known as Kate08young August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Me: 28 H: 24 Married: 7/22/14 Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017. Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
@cjt121413 - did you see my recent posts on TTGPU? You are in good company. I'm sorry that we both feel this way, but don't feel like you're alone. Feel free to PM to vent if needed. Hugs.
We're moving pretty soon but my only bf is that it might be a little too close to mil and fill and mil might expect me to babysit her kids still although I don't like her because she doesn't even try to be a parent to her children or a wife to her husband. & her kids have no respect or discipline and don't listen to me or my husband or have any respect for us and feel like they don't have to listen to us so I don't care for them too much either although I know it's not entirely there fault.
@Kate08Young I too got kicked out because I didn't see there was a check in...
Not all boards are created equal. I was part of TTTC, which was a fun, supportive group. I tried another group, I can't remember which one because it was well over a year ago, but it was like I was being attacked. So I left. I'm very happy to part of Dec16 moms, it's been a great group in so many ways!
I know it is Tuesday, but this happened yesterday but I couldn't post yesterday. I was at the hospital the whole day because my fiancé's father was having knee surgery. I was dreading it because I don't particularly like my fiancé's mother. I find her to be very overbearing, pushy, know it all, and controlling. She has to be telling everyone else what to do and how to live their lives. Plus she is a bit of a religious bible pusher.
Of course, I was right. maybe not as much as I anticipated, but there was pushiness and comments. When we went to the hospital cafeteria for lunch, she kept telling me I couldn't have coffee and a sandwich because I couldn't eat caffeine and cold cuts. Okay thanks, already know that. I am 25 week pregnant. I do know a few things. And then when I ordered a turkey burger, she kept yelling at the guy to make it well done, that I was pregnant and it had to be well done. Thanks, if I wanted to eat a burned and blackened burger I would have made it myself. I have a voice, I can tell him how I want my burger cooked, thanks. I don't need my future MIL tell everyone how to feed me.
And later, when we visited my fiancé's father after surgery, she found out I had eaten cilantro lime hummus and she went off on how I should not eat any herbs, that they are bad for pregnant women. I'm sorry, no, they are not bad, and some like basil are good because it is high in vitamins and iron. Yes, herbal supplements can be harmful, but using a small amount to flavor food is not bad or harmful. I can make my own decisions over what I eat, thank you very much. She is not a doctor or a pharmacist. She kept telling me it is was on the internet, to look it up on the internet. Because the internet is always right, of course. I want to tell her to shut up and mind her own business. Can I do that and not offend my fiancé?
A guy friend of ours came over to pick up some models, and he asked how I was doing, which was nice of him. Conversation continues about a new relationship he's getting into, and somehow our friend gets onto a tangent about how he hates kids, that kids are awful, he never wants them, they ruin your life, etc...even though he only dates women with children, and has stated before that he wants children (in the 3 years that we've known him). Then the topic changed and everything was fine and he left--I didn't respond to anything he said. DH was home, btw.
But something about his comments really hurt me. Usually I have no issues with that friend. I know he wasn't directing his comments towards me as he has been very excited about Ashton...but...
There are days that I'm still in shock I'm even here, on a pregnancy board. I never thought I would actually, in real life, have kids. At first because I didn't think I wanted them...but then because doctors were "sure" I wouldn't. Changed everything, my choice being taken away. I knew then I wanted to have a baby so bad that it hurt. So many tears. Lots of guilt and feelings of inadequacy. Regret that I had ever felt I never wanted them and feeling like I caused my own fertility issues. Insomnia.
I know a lot of ladies here can unfortunately relate to that experience (through infertility or loss), but I guess absorbing his comments made me feel angry and hurt---he doesn't know how hard it is to see your spouse cry because children may not be a possibility and you feel like it's all your fault. He doesn't know that even though I seem calm, I had (and still have) nightmares of losing this idea, this person growing in me, because the pregnancy was apparently a biological "fluke." Sometimes this whole pregnancy doesn't seem real, as if December will come and things will still be the same despite the nursery and the onesies and the stroller. It's a strange, complex feeling. Lots of going in between excitement and "don't get your hopes up," If that makes sense.
Anyway, I apologize for the long post. Been processing my feelings and why his comments bothered me so much. It's not his fault, he didn't know--he just doesn't get it, and I hope he never does. Going to revisit the Pregnancy Affirmations thread!
@dmontgo it took us over 2 years to concieve this baby. We pretty much gave up. The doctors said the only way it was going to happen was major expensive invitro. So yes, I understand. I'm scared everyday that something is going to happen and I'm going to lose him. When we reached 24 weeks last week, it was a huge relief, but even then I worry whenever I can't feel him moving around.
So many hugs, love, and understanding sent your way @dmontgo. I have previously suffered a loss before DD. The pain, and constant worry of "what if?" "is this really happening?" never go away. I'll be 26 weeks Thursday, and I still freak out whenever I don't feel Michael move around much.
@yellingbanana@mamax2 Thank you for sharing your stories and being so supportive--it is comforting but also breaks my heart that these feelings and experiences are so common. This board means a lot to me.
@dmontgo You are not alone. I still have nightmares about L being a dream. He is almost 13 months, and I'm still scared that someone somewhere made a mistake and that they will fix it by taking him away. After we had our early losses, before we got married, and I was pregnant with L I had to just remind myself (still do only now for both L&E) that 'Today I am Pregnant/a mom. Tomorrow isn't promised, so I need to enjoy every moment I can.' It has helped some days, and others I am still a sobbing ball of anxiety.
Formerly known as Kate08young August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Me: 28 H: 24 Married: 7/22/14 Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017. Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
I know it's not Monday and I am seriously changing the subject in the thread... but I really need to bitch about how ANNOYING it has been applying for jobs. This is basically what I do all day and it is slowly driving me insane.
So right now I am trying to apply for a job to work for the county I live in, which sounds amazing - close to home, decent pay, good benefits - but the jobs website is broken!!! Every time I go to edit one of the fields, the page freezes up and I can't proceed. I've entered the same exact information 3x now because I have to reload the page and it doesn't save anything I have done so far - which is like 10 pages of info.
UGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH. Now I don't even want to apply because this freaking website is so horrible. Can I go back to bed now?
@ea301 Have you talked to any friends in your field? Maybe they can put in a good word and point their company towards you. I know DC (if I'm remembering correctly is where you are?) tends to have networking events a lot for IT professionals, especially because they can show off their new products.
When I was laid off in May, the only reason I got a job so fast was because of networking. I recently received responses from jobs I applied for online...months after the fact. So it may be that getting your face and name out there may be the ticket for you...unfortunately jobs nowadays are all about who you know, not what you can do.
@dmontgo ou are definitely right - it's usually who you know that will get you hired somewhere. Unfortunately all of my friends who are in my field are either (1) not hiring or (2) SUPER SLOW with hiring. One company in particular I am really excited about and have applied for about 6 different jobs. My friend has been emailing the hiring managers, etc... but they are just slow about hiring for whatever reason. I haven't even heard back from their HR team yet.
And yes, I am right between DC and Baltimore in Maryland - very close to Ft. Meade - good memory! I would love to work for a government contractor - I did this many moons ago and it was boring but fine - but you need a top secret clearance to even be considered at most places right now. All of the bizness with Snowden has led to a significant slowdown in the clearance process (now it takes years instead of weeks/months), so many companies won't even look at you if you aren't cleared at the level they want. Very annoying!!! I'm also working with a local recruiter but he has been slow too. Don't they know I am getting bigger every day and want to start working now??
@ea301 Right? I love how government recruiters act like TS/SCIs just fall out of the sky lol. They are incredibly expensive and time consuming--most companies won't pay for them unless you are essentially the Jesus of IT haha. The government could easily pay for them. Where I am, you can't even set foot on the site without the TS/SCI...there are shoot to kill orders. >.> I have to be escorted EVERYWHERE...even to the bathroom. Nice. Fortunately I don't have to go very often, but it sucks when I do...a clearance would be so much easier. :P
@dmontgo I hear ya! It would be so much easier in this area if I just had that stupid clearance! I used to have a secret clearance but it's expired so I guess now I am S.O.L. unless I can find something in this area that's NOT government related. Good luck to me! I actually think I am going to reach out to my HOA to see if anyone is hiring - how desperate is that? lol
PS: "the Jesus of IT" - I am totally going to use that phrase
@ea301 It's ok...at one point I was so crazed applying for jobs that I applied to Marshall's...I thought, "Ok, I mean, who can't do this job? I totally can..."
Then they called me and was like, "Sorry...you're over qualified...don't be afraid to apply in the future, though!"
@dmontgo that happened to DH. He's a carpenter/home builder and when the economy crashed he applied to work at Home Depot. They never called him back. When he went in to check they said the same thing. Apparently he was over qualified to sell the same tools he uses every single day...
You could always apply for a govt job....by the time it gets through the whole process our babies will be born! I hate how slow the govt hiring process is. Months and months of silence after you apply, then finally am interview, then months of silence, then offer!, then silence for a month for processing. Ick no wonder the govt can't get or keep qualified people.
@sourlemon definitely applying for gov jobs and DEF agree with you on how slow they are! To be honest, I am applying willy nilly at this point just in hopes that something sticks. I am not optimistic anymore that I'll get a job before baby arrives. I've been doing this since the end of May and so far nada! It's hard not to get discouraged but I know I am capable and something will turn up eventually. Not worth stressing out at the moment. Save that for February when things start to calm down on the home front... hopefully
@ea301 We're practically neighbors! I'm in Pasadena. And I work for a gov contractor specializing in Web/IT stuff. I've only ever had a public trust clearance. They're headquartered not far from you if you're near Meade. PM me if you want to chat!
Re: Monday Bitchfest 8/29
ETA: Omg @slartybartfast and now I'm sobbing.
My MBF is emotions, in general. I haven't been crying or upset this pregnancy, until the past few days. I'm not normally a super emotional person so it's been a struggle. Just today I cried reading a romance novel (insert huge eyeroll). A few minutes ago DH was telling me that our dog is ready to be best friends with the baby and all I could think about was how awful it will be when she dies and he's like 6 or 7
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
TTC since November 2015
BFP #1 12/17/15 - MC 1/28/16
BFP #2 4/22/16 - EDD 12/30/16
Me: 33 H: 36
Married: 12/14/13 DS: 1/29/09
BFP2: 10/9/15 MMC: 11/12/15
BFP3: 4/6/16 DD: 12/12/16
Can you swing a weekend get-away? Like just for you? You deserve some space!
I'm very happy to part of Dec16 moms, it's been a great group in so many ways!
I know it is Tuesday, but this happened yesterday but I couldn't post yesterday. I was at the hospital the whole day because my fiancé's father was having knee surgery. I was dreading it because I don't particularly like my fiancé's mother. I find her to be very overbearing, pushy, know it all, and controlling. She has to be telling everyone else what to do and how to live their lives. Plus she is a bit of a religious bible pusher.
Of course, I was right. maybe not as much as I anticipated, but there was pushiness and comments. When we went to the hospital cafeteria for lunch, she kept telling me I couldn't have coffee and a sandwich because I couldn't eat caffeine and cold cuts. Okay thanks, already know that. I am 25 week pregnant. I do know a few things. And then when I ordered a turkey burger, she kept yelling at the guy to make it well done, that I was pregnant and it had to be well done. Thanks, if I wanted to eat a burned and blackened burger I would have made it myself. I have a voice, I can tell him how I want my burger cooked, thanks. I don't need my future MIL tell everyone how to feed me.
And later, when we visited my fiancé's father after surgery, she found out I had eaten cilantro lime hummus and she went off on how I should not eat any herbs, that they are bad for pregnant women. I'm sorry, no, they are not bad, and some like basil are good because it is high in vitamins and iron. Yes, herbal supplements can be harmful, but using a small amount to flavor food is not bad or harmful. I can make my own decisions over what I eat, thank you very much. She is not a doctor or a pharmacist. She kept telling me it is was on the internet, to look it up on the internet. Because the internet is always right, of course. I want to tell her to shut up and mind her own business. Can I do that and not offend my fiancé?
I got it to work on google chrome...don't know why it won't work on firefox. Tried everything!!
But something about his comments really hurt me. Usually I have no issues with that friend. I know he wasn't directing his comments towards me as he has been very excited about Ashton...but...
There are days that I'm still in shock I'm even here, on a pregnancy board. I never thought I would actually, in real life, have kids. At first because I didn't think I wanted them...but then because doctors were "sure" I wouldn't. Changed everything, my choice being taken away. I knew then I wanted to have a baby so bad that it hurt. So many tears. Lots of guilt and feelings of inadequacy. Regret that I had ever felt I never wanted them and feeling like I caused my own fertility issues. Insomnia.
I know a lot of ladies here can unfortunately relate to that experience (through infertility or loss), but I guess absorbing his comments made me feel angry and hurt---he doesn't know how hard it is to see your spouse cry because children may not be a possibility and you feel like it's all your fault. He doesn't know that even though I seem calm, I had (and still have) nightmares of losing this idea, this person growing in me, because the pregnancy was apparently a biological "fluke." Sometimes this whole pregnancy doesn't seem real, as if December will come and things will still be the same despite the nursery and the onesies and the stroller. It's a strange, complex feeling. Lots of going in between excitement and "don't get your hopes up," If that makes sense.
Anyway, I apologize for the long post. Been processing my feelings and why his comments bothered me so much. It's not his fault, he didn't know--he just doesn't get it, and I hope he never does. Going to revisit the Pregnancy Affirmations thread!
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
So right now I am trying to apply for a job to work for the county I live in, which sounds amazing - close to home, decent pay, good benefits - but the jobs website is broken!!! Every time I go to edit one of the fields, the page freezes up and I can't proceed. I've entered the same exact information 3x now because I have to reload the page and it doesn't save anything I have done so far - which is like 10 pages of info.
UGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH. Now I don't even want to apply because this freaking website is so horrible. Can I go back to bed now?
When I was laid off in May, the only reason I got a job so fast was because of networking. I recently received responses from jobs I applied for online...months after the fact. So it may be that getting your face and name out there may be the ticket for you...unfortunately jobs nowadays are all about who you know, not what you can do.
And yes, I am right between DC and Baltimore in Maryland - very close to Ft. Meade - good memory!
PS: "the Jesus of IT" - I am totally going to use that phrase
Then they called me and was like, "Sorry...you're over qualified...don't be afraid to apply in the future, though!"
I actually cried, haha.
Wump wump.