@jessjoelmasse I get that, and I don't tolerate that and bullying on these boards, but this time March is in the wrong. Our members keep beating the dead horse here and eventually one of our moms said something very inappropriate.
Part confession/party UO- Confession: I love stalking the boards that already have the delivery threads up and seeing everyone announce their babies and share their story! UO: I don't understand why people post pictures of their babies (to any public forum) immediately after they're born instead of waiting until they've been cleaned and dressed! Seeing pictures of other people's babies still covered in vernix gives me the heebie jeebies!
I either did not see it either, or was the cause of it and it was pretty dramatically misconstrued. Did not know anyone was a loss mom so maybe this isn't about me -- but this all escalated a little quickly and at this point I'm not going to sift through it all and figure out if that's a reference to me. Yesterday I thought we should back off (or at least that I would put down my pitchfork) because the girl whose comments irked me the most said she was depressed and, man, I've been there. Today that's been taken to mean that I somehow said she was depressed because she was mean? Or made fun of mental health issues, not sure which one. Hurtful to me because my point was..."she's going through her own sh*t so whatever," and as someone who has gone through sh*t I'm going to give it a pass and that others should think about that too.
Not going to tag anyone because this should probably be shut down, tempers are clearly blazing and it's getting out of hand.
Came her to post potentially devastating news I got at my scan today, but posting this instead because I feel like everything is so turned around that this maybe isn't the place to open up about my personal issues right now. Which sucks, because I've so loved our community.
@anonellis we are still the same supportive board we have always been. I am so sorry to hear you got bad news today. We are all here for you if or when you are ready to talk about it! Creepy hugs and I am thinking about you!
I am just trying hard to shut this down, we have been talking about it for days and it's done. No point to keep talking about it since regardless of when we are due we are all in the same boat and here for support and encouragement not drama.
Married DH 12/31/13 BFP#1 1/21/14 ended in loss DNC 3/5/14 BFP#2 7/2014 Baby Girl born 4/15/15 BFP#3 2/10/2016 natural mc 2/27/2016 BFP#4 6/25/2016 Due 3/2/2017
@meq124 -- thank you. I appreciate that. I'm sure I'll post about my appointment eventually, I'm just feeling really vulnerable right now and having my words so twisted makes me hesitate to share very much. I'll come around.
My UO is that I've never seen Game of Thrones and don't get the hype AT ALL.
Michael Gambon's Dumbledore (second one) > Richard Harris' Dumbledore (the first one)
Most die hard Harry Potter fans I've talked to insist that Richard Harris WAS Dumbledore. But, Michael Gambon's version is way more spot on for how I always imagined Dumbledore to be.
@anonellis I read your comment and I think people misunderstood. If it's the one I'm think of then I didn't see anything wrong with it. Please know we are here for you when you are ready to talk.
I'm going to say this vague calling people put, but not saying names is lame. I think if you're going to call someone out then do it.
@NurseMama if you are talking about me not calling someone out by name it was for two reasons. 1) at this point the initial thread is kind of buried and i didn't feel like digging it up and 2) I was specifically addressing the people here who were calling out the April mom who used to be a March mom (not just some internet stranger) for getting mad. She was really hurt but those comments regardless of the initial meaning of them and we can't discount that. She has been through a hell of a lot recently and if comments our members say hurt then we are in the wrong. It was a topic that really shouldn't have been brought up in the first place. I feel like continuing to tag people is not going to squash this issue, and I really don't want to fuel it any more.
Like I said before I am trying to put this to bed and frankly this should never have gotten to this point. I am ready for our happy and supportive board back. If you have noticed the majority of our members have been pretty silent over the past few days. Too much drama all around! I am ready for these threads to fall into the abyss and all of this be forgotten about.
UO: the board is always quiet. I am glad to see new content being posted this week and an actual busy randoms thread, even without the drama.
Married DH 12/31/13 BFP#1 1/21/14 ended in loss DNC 3/5/14 BFP#2 7/2014 Baby Girl born 4/15/15 BFP#3 2/10/2016 natural mc 2/27/2016 BFP#4 6/25/2016 Due 3/2/2017
I wish there was a place where it was Fall all year I'd move in a heartbeat!! Reason why I could never leave North East, the Fall here is too gorgeous!!
Part confession/party UO- Confession: I love stalking the boards that already have the delivery threads up and seeing everyone announce their babies and share their story! UO: I don't understand why people post pictures of their babies (to any public forum) immediately after they're born instead of waiting until they've been cleaned and dressed! Seeing pictures of other people's babies still covered in vernix gives me the heebie jeebies!
@sienaC - This is not just you. I totally do this and completely agree! (Also - glad I'm not the only one that stalks those boards.)
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I wish there was a place where it was Fall all year I'd move in a heartbeat!! Reason why I could never leave North East, the Fall here is too gorgeous!!
On the contrary @CanadianintheSouth I would rather go to a gender reveal than a shower. I love watching videos on people finding out the sex of their baby. We had one and just had our families and best friends. No gifts and we fed them. Everyone seemed to love it.. they wouldn't have to us if they didn't though haha
UO - I don't like the idea of "gender" reveal parties. I think they are a bit AWish, considering most people also do a baby shower too.
I can appreciate this UO. I'm going to be one that does the gender reveal as a compromise to the DH. He wants to find out and I don't, so I said for this one (our first) that we can do the reveal. Caveat: we are only inviting immediate family (parents, siblings) and maybe best friends to the gender reveal, and requesting no gifts. The baby shower will be more inclusive, but the reveal I want it to be intimate.
UO - I don't like the idea of "gender" reveal parties. I think they are a bit AWish, considering most people also do a baby shower too.
I think of a gender reveal party the same way I think of looking at a family members vacation photos. Immediate family and a few super close friends will want to be included. The rest just want the cliffs notes version.
UO - I don't like the idea of "gender" reveal parties. I think they are a bit AWish, considering most people also do a baby shower too.
I think gender reveal parties are seen as AW-ish because the only ones we see (or that I see) are on FB where naturally the parents want them to be publicized. The hoopla is exactly what turned me off about them. Now I'm wondering if I'm viewing these parties in the same way I initially viewed bachelorette parties. Getting drunk and wearing a penis hat is not my thing. Luckily, my BFFs know me well, and my bachelorette party was getting massages and then sushi at a favorite local restaurant. I wouldn't have wanted to celebrate my last night of singlehood any other way! Similarly, I'd be okay with a gender reveal that - like other PPs have said - involve only a small number of immediate family and friends whom we are close to. And no one else outside of that circle will know until the birth. If anything, I see reveals as just a step up from simply telling people at dinner and doing something cute like cupcakes or something.
I totally judge people who are manipulative and I can typically sense them a mile away. UO because I think being judgemental is frowned upon?
For example, when someone acts like an aggressive asshole, then takes something critical said about their asshole behavior and twists it completely out of context to garner sympathy. I think it's really weak and gross behavior.
UO - I don't like the idea of "gender" reveal parties. I think they are a bit AWish, considering most people also do a baby shower too.
Completely agree. I know some of you ladies said you're keeping it with immediate family and that makes sense. But I've been to a few "gender reveals" and it was super AWish. Gifts and like 30+ guests... Then a baby shower... Then a meet the baby.
Like, I can't wait to hold your baby and bring you a meal. But how many parties do you expect me to attend and come bearing gifts?
@ihateusernames* I've never even seen gender reveal parties where the guests are supposed to bring gifts. Odd to me.
Ha I don't think they were asked to, but they did. Many brought a gift for either sex then returned the one that baby wasn't... I just said I was waiting for the baby shower. No shame since I made a bunch of the food for two of the parties...
Along the same lines of reveal party with more gifts... UO I think baby showers for your second, third kid etc ((Especially if it's the same gender)) are crazy. I get having a sprinkle with diapers, or if it's a diffent gender-but I hate going to my friends parties and feeling like--you already have all this same crap!! Why are we spending more money on you?
Along the same lines of reveal party with more gifts... UO I think baby showers for your second, third kid etc ((Especially if it's the same gender)) are crazy. I get having a sprinkle with diapers, or if it's a diffent gender-but I hate going to my friends parties and feeling like--you already have all this same crap!! Why are we spending more money on you?
Yeah I hear you! though I still wanted to celebrate our second baby some way, so we did a sip N see party. Where you get to hold baby and to sip on some beer or wine or whatever (in that order too
Along the same lines of reveal party with more gifts... UO I think baby showers for your second, third kid etc ((Especially if it's the same gender)) are crazy. I get having a sprinkle with diapers, or if it's a diffent gender-but I hate going to my friends parties and feeling like--you already have all this same crap!! Why are we spending more money on you?
Dare we start discussing who is supposed to throw the baby shower? i.e. the expectant mother or anyone except the expectant mother?
UO - not only do I not like the idea of having a gender reveal party, I also dislike the idea of having a baby shower. I'm all for other people having them if they want though & think some of the gender reveal ideas out there are really cute, but showers & things like that make me feel uncomfortable since I don't like being the center of attention & especially hate opening gifts in front of others.
It took me a long time to figure out why so many people dislike "gender" reveals. It's because apparently somewhere in the U.S. it's now a thing to have a party?! With gifts?! I was raised Mormon and have been to a lot of baby showers. I have a friend who just had her 6th and she's 28. But of all the babies I've helped welcome to the world I have never known someone to have a party to reveal the sex. That is just weird to me. It must be a regional or cultural thing on the east coast or some other part of the country than where I am. I plan to take a picture involving either a pink or blue pumpkin and send it to my immediate family. That's it. It seems way over the top to have two baby related events in one short pregnancy.
Along the same lines of reveal party with more gifts... UO I think baby showers for your second, third kid etc ((Especially if it's the same gender)) are crazy. I get having a sprinkle with diapers, or if it's a diffent gender-but I hate going to my friends parties and feeling like--you already have all this same crap!! Why are we spending more money on you?
Dare we start discussing who is supposed to throw the baby shower? i.e. the expectant mother or anyone except the expectant mother?
ETA - or too soon?
Ughhh!! YES. I know a girl who was throwing herself one... Made a FB invite, and posted a few weeks before the shower about how she was checking the registry and not enough people had purchased items from it yet. Where is the class...are people really this clueless these days about etiquette?
Re: UO Thursday 8/25
Confession: I love stalking the boards that already have the delivery threads up and seeing everyone announce their babies and share their story!
UO: I don't understand why people post pictures of their babies (to any public forum) immediately after they're born instead of waiting until they've been cleaned and dressed! Seeing pictures of other people's babies still covered in vernix gives me the heebie jeebies!
Me: 26 Hubs: 28
Married: 6/6/15
Baby Girl: 3/22/2017
Not going to tag anyone because this should probably be shut down, tempers are clearly blazing and it's getting out of hand.
Came her to post potentially devastating news I got at my scan today, but posting this instead because I feel like everything is so turned around that this maybe isn't the place to open up about my personal issues right now. Which sucks, because I've so loved our community.
Unless someone wants to tell me who said what then things seemed pretty equal on both sides.
I am just trying hard to shut this down, we have been talking about it for days and it's done. No point to keep talking about it since regardless of when we are due we are all in the same boat and here for support and encouragement not drama.
BFP#1 1/21/14 ended in loss DNC 3/5/14
BFP#2 7/2014 Baby Girl born 4/15/15
BFP#3 2/10/2016 natural mc 2/27/2016
BFP#4 6/25/2016 Due 3/2/2017
My UO is that I've never seen Game of Thrones and don't get the hype AT ALL.
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
I'm going to say this vague calling people put, but not saying names is lame. I think if you're going to call someone out then do it.
SaveSaveLike I said before I am trying to put this to bed and frankly this should never have gotten to this point. I am ready for our happy and supportive board back. If you have noticed the majority of our members have been pretty silent over the past few days. Too much drama all around! I am ready for these threads to fall into the abyss and all of this be forgotten about.
Now to address your UO - If you've never seen the show, how could you possibly understand the hype? I think that's a silly statement.
Samantha - 4/5/2017
BFP#1 1/21/14 ended in loss DNC 3/5/14
BFP#2 7/2014 Baby Girl born 4/15/15
BFP#3 2/10/2016 natural mc 2/27/2016
BFP#4 6/25/2016 Due 3/2/2017
Married in April 2007
One Furbaby - Adorable Pitt Mix
15 Months TTC....2nd Cycle of Letrozole - Success!
Expecting our first two little miracles - Boy/Girl Twins! - EDD March 3, 2017
High Risk Pregnancy - Type 1 Diabetic; Hypothyroidism; Di/Di Twin Pregnancy
Me too. Fall in the Midwest is wonderful!
Baby Boy: coming March 2017
Me: 26 Hubs: 28
Married: 6/6/15
Baby Girl: 3/22/2017
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
For example, when someone acts like an aggressive asshole, then takes something critical said about their asshole behavior and twists it completely out of context to garner sympathy. I think it's really weak and gross behavior.
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Like, I can't wait to hold your baby and bring you a meal. But how many parties do you expect me to attend and come bearing gifts?
though I still wanted to celebrate our second baby some way, so we did a sip N see party. Where you get to hold baby and to sip on some beer or wine or whatever (in that order too
and NO GIFTS!
ETA - or too soon?
I'm all for other people having them if they want though & think some of the gender reveal ideas out there are really cute, but showers & things like that make me feel uncomfortable since I don't like being the center of attention & especially hate opening gifts in front of others.
Me 28 DH 28 Married 2012
TTC #1 since March 2015
Metformin + Femara + Gonal F + Trigger = BFP 6/24/16
EDD 3/3/17
Found out it's a girl! 9/23/16