***General TW that this thread can and will mention MC and loss.***
This is a place for those of us who have already started TTC, but have hit a roadblock and are delaying for whatever reason. You can express your thoughts, feelings, and frustrations on not TTC and connect with others who are in the same boat. TTC can be a long journey, and having to wait makes it feel even longer- even if it is for a good reason. Feel free to resurrect this thread at any point in the week if you have something to say, and treat this like an ongoing conversation.
Benched = involuntarily not NTNP/TTC and are "out of the game," usually due to medical reasons
TTA = avoiding pregnancy by using protection or FAM, usually for non-health-related reasons __________________________________________________________________
Are you benched or TTA?
What brings you here?
How long do you think you'll be here?
How have things been going?
Any R/R/CS?
GTKY: What's the first word that just popped into your head? Google it and share a gif or pic!
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
Me: 36 DH 35
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
Re: Weekly Benched / TTA Discussion - Week of August 22
What brings you here? Need to do a hysterosonogram this week for insurance approval for my FET
How long do you think you'll be here? 1 month
How have things been going? Better this week since AF is winding down and I can finally button my pants again.
Any R/R/CS? Had a 3am wake up call from 2 family members and an emergency alert on my phone for a tornado warning in my town. Seems reasonable? No... I live in MA. 'Tis but a gust. Now I am le tired at work.
GTKY: What's the first word that just popped into your head? Google it and share a gif or pic!
What brings you here? Miscarriage 2 days ago
How long do you think you'll be here? Well, with us PCSing in October and me being annovulatory without meds, probably for 2ish months... maybe I'll go to WTO in a few weeks to be hopeful.
How have things been going? Meh. Still crying.
Any R/R/CS? No one knew that I was pregnant other than my older sister. So today I called my mom and talked to her about everything. She had 3 miscarriages in the span of 4, healthy pregnancies so she knows the feelings unfortunately. I took off work today since I originally was going to go in late since today was supposed to be my 7 week ultrasound at the RE, but instead I went in yesterday after substantial bleeding and it showed that I had already miscarried. I didn't know if I should come back to TTGP right away but since I know how supportive and amazing this community can be, I wanted all the support that I can get.
What brings you here? Got my IUD out at the beginning of the month, waiting to have my first period so that I know my cycle and it was advised by my OBGYN to wait for my first real cycle.
How long do you think you'll be here? Hopefully not too much longer! - Three weeks have passed and it seems like an eternity. I am not going to do well with the TWW....
How have things been going? Oh just la dee dah...
Any R/R/CS? Its MONDAY
GTKY: What's the first word that just popped into your head? Google it and share a gif or pic!
Period. Talk about some messsed up gifs haha - this was my favorite.
Me: 29 DH: 35
Married: 9/29/12
DS #1: 3/8/15Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
What brings you here? Honeymoon to a place with active Zika
How long do you think you'll be here? about a month
How have things been going?
Waiting is hard, especially since FW for this cycle is supposed to start today. I go to PT several times a week for my back and it isn't getting better. I'm trying to focus on that before TTC so I don't go nuts, but I'm getting reminders from the staff about how much worse it will get when I'm pregnant because of how ligaments loosen up and how I need to let them know when we start because they can't do a lot of the procedures because they involve electricity or other waves that can be harmful to a fetus. I did some acupuncture today and he suggested cupping, which was really weird feeling. He said that the ones he uses rarely leave marks, but I told him I have sensitive skin. Now this is how I look!!!
Sorry about our terrible bathroom. We are going to hopefully renovate soon and this is the only way I could get a pic!
Any R/R/CS? Nope. Today's temp is ridiculously low (96.47) and I'm wondering if it's because I misread the thermometer in the dark at 5 am even though I shined the phone light on it and put it in FF right away. It could have been 96.97... When I turned it on, it said 97.7. Then I did it again and got the same followed by Lo. I am only that high post-O and it's about a week too early for that. Of course I don't have a temp for yesterday because we unexpectedly stayed at SIL's house, but I'm doing OPKs and I know the recall temp isn't right.
GTKY: What's the first word that just popped into your head? Google it and share a gif or pic!
My word was change since I'm going to change my last name today. :'(
@mokay19 So sad to see you here! FX you are on your way again soon. We are all here for you!
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
What brings you here? Waiting until vacation to start so I do not have any symptoms on vacation if I got pregnant right away
How long do you think you'll be here? 20 more days! (not that I am counting)
How have things been going? Good, except I just started my FW and my lovely husband is trying to get me to break my will-power and just start. Its proving difficult to say no.
Any R/R/CS? I am so excited for vacation! I need to get out of work. Its been 3 months since my last vacation and clearly that is too much time to be at work without a trip. Im spoiled.
GTKY: What's the first word that just popped into your head? Google it and share a gif or pic!
@mokay19 I am so sorry you are back here
@NYTino24 I wanna try cupping! Mostly because I am curious how it feels/what it does.
https://www.natural-health-for-fertility.com/cupping-therapy.html
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
What brings you here? ***TW - here and for the rest of the post*** MMC - diagnosed 8/16 and corpus luteum cyst
How long do you think you'll be here?
I'm hoping it won't be too long. I know that some people need to take some time afterwards to heal their hearts but my heart needs to get this show back on the road. Plus, we're frigging old. Plus, Zika. The goal was and now is to get KU before H picks it up at work.
How have things been going?
I started the medication Tuesday night and did another dose Wednesday night. Saturday I was feeling physically okay. I ran some errands and then came home and planned to just sit down for a little while before going to the gym. Then the cramps started. So I took one of the 800mg ibuprofen and gave it an hour to get to work. Then I took a hydrocodone and in the space of a couple hours went from thinking I'd go to the gym and work out some feelings to being in the worst pain I've been in the whole time and curled up in a ball on the couch. Meanwhile, I thought the dog was being so sweet to be such a good dog. Nope, turns out he was in the back yard trying to dig to China. Follow-up with the doctor is tomorrow. I'm just hoping the cyst is resolving itself and I don't have to repeat the drugs. I still just want to smash and break things.
BUT - S.O. to my doctor's office: I've read a lot of stories about people getting some pretty screwed up, positively unacceptable treatment while experiencing MCs. My initial US was done by my doctor with compassion, kindness, and an immediate DX and path to move forward. I can't believe the treatment some women have gotten.
I also spent the weekend ordering cute maternity clothes off of Zulily like a crazy person.
Any R/R/CS?
What about me today is giving of a vibe that invites people to talk to me. One of my coworkers keeps coming over to talk to me. I wasn't rude but nothing about my reactions today have said that conversation and all of this other crap is welcome. I'm putting off a strong leave me alone vibe and he won't. GO AWAY.
GTKY: What's the first word that just popped into your head? Google it and share a gif or pic!
I cheated and didn't think of a word. Just picked a gif I liked.
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
What does your DH do that he's at such high risk for Zika? We live on the panhandle of Florida and my DH treated all his uniforms with some insect repellent stuff (I can't remember the name now but it's supposed to last a few cycles in the was even), would that be an option for your DH to help?
PS: I didn't even go into work today because I didn't want to deal with people #noregrets
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Me: 29 DH: 35
Married: 9/29/12
DS #1: 3/8/15What brings you here? Status post loss a week ago today.
How long do you think you'll be here? I'm hoping maybe a month. I have everything crossed that my body rebounds quickly.
How have things been going? They're going. I'mma be like @Kiki75 because gifs work better than words.
I'm still heartbroken and angry, but trying to accept all of my feelings as normal and part of the grieving process. Now that the bleeding seems to have stopped, I feel like I have something to start looking forward too in terms of waiting for AF and starting over.
Any R/R/CS? Nothing right at this moment. I didn't get to temp this morning because DS was a grumpy, sleepless little bugger last night.
GTKY: I thought "soap" for some reason, but the gif I want isn't working and that makes me angry. But then I thought "Snape" because I love him and found this. Kind of appropriate for me right now.
What brings you here? Travel to an area with active zika virus
How long do you think you'll be here? 5 more weeks
How have things been going? All right. I can't complain.
Any R/R/CS?
GTKY: What's the first word that just popped into your head? Google it and share a gif or pic!
I thought the word copy.
DD 1 10/2012
CP 9/2013
DD 2 6/2014
CP 3/2016
BFP 12/8/2016
I'm benched from a SCH and emergency D&C on 8/6.
My bleeding finally stopped last night and I had EWCM today! Whaaaaaat?
Word: Bungee Jumping. I'm watching running wild with bear grylls, and they are bungee jumping.
Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T
Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16
BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17
My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog
My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast:
Juicebox Podcast Episode 118
A1Cs:
1/12/16 6.7%
5/25/16 6.0%
11/2/16 6.1%
3/22/16 5.8%
4/27/17 5.4%
6/13/17 5.3%
"Sugar Fancy Tutu"
This lotion was effective and didn't smell bad. We got these bands too.
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
What brings you here? Moving and switching IF clinics
How long do you think you'll be here? Who the eff knows.
How have things been going? Still can't even get confirmation from the new RE that they got my referral. Really inspiring confidence in them
Any R/R/CS?
GTKY: What's the first word that just popped into your head? Google it and share a gif or pic!
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
@LadyMillil good luck!
@kiwi2628 ((hugs))
Are you benched or TTA? TTA
What brings you here? Gotta lose all the weight
How long will you be here? at least until end of 2016
Hows it going? Meh. Switched to water from soda, making small changes, started walking
R/R/CS. This week was tough because it's my FW, but I've been sick so TTA want all that Tough
First word?
TTC #2 - August 2016
MFI
IUI #1-3 BFN
BFP 4/21/18 MMC 6/11/18
What brings you here? *TW through post* Loss on 8/4
How long do you think you'll be here? Mid-October was recommended by Dr.'s. We'll see how we (I) feel at that point, emotionally.
How have things been going? After the MC, I registered for a class to keep my mind off things (I work full time and I'm about 1/2 way done with my M.S.). So now I'm stressed and I am continuing to have all the feelings. I'm not loving it. My hormones must still be working themselves out.
Any R/R/CS? It's 11 am and I'm ready for wine.
GTKY: What's the first word that just popped into your head? Google it and share a gif or pic!
Flobot. My husband calls phlebotomists this for some reason.
Me: 35 | DH: 38
Met: 2007
Married: 2013
BFP #1: 06/21/16 MMC: 08/04/16
BFP #2: 01/08/17 DD: 09/23/17
BFP #3: 06/10/20 EDD: 02/11/2021
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
TTC #2 - August 2016
MFI
IUI #1-3 BFN
BFP 4/21/18 MMC 6/11/18
What brings you here? Going through a loss
How long do you think you'll be here? In talks with my doctor - depends how long this will take to pass then I will know more
How have things been going? Pretty awful, but they are going. I was diagnosed with PCOS and my cycles are super irregular to begin with, so completely in the dark on what to expect after this
Any R/R/CS? ...........
GTKY: What are you looking forward to this week? I just want Friday afternoon to be here so that I can no longer be at work (sorry to be a downer ladies)
[spoiler]
Me: 28 Him: 30
Married: 11/15/14
TTC: 02/2016
IF DX: MFI (low count & morphology) & mild PCOS
June 2016 BFP - MC @8w2d
August 2016 BFP - MC @6w1d
June 2017 - 50 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP 7/6/17!!
Beta #1 = 422 (14dpo), Beta #2 = 810, prog - 12.3 (16dpo), Beta #3 = 5023, prog - 18.9 (20dpo)
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TTC #2 - August 2016
MFI
IUI #1-3 BFN
BFP 4/21/18 MMC 6/11/18
Hopefully I'll be back to comment before next year.
Me: 28 DH: 35
Dx PCOS May 2015
Baby #1 due 12/7/17
What brings you here? Blighted Ovum--D&C on July 20th.
How long do you think you'll be here? I took my last dose of Provera this morning. Just waiting to start my first period post D&C.
How have things been going? I just hate uncertainty of not knowing when I will get my period. Also, I am stressing about how the dates will fall for our IUIs. The month of September will be fine, but in October, my husband and I are supposed to go out of town for 4 days with a bunch of friends for a trip he has planned. He has said if the September IUI does not work and the next one falls on the dates we will be gone, he will not go on the trip. I hate for him not to go, so I think I will explore either using frozen sperm or seeing if I can delay when I take my Femara by a few days if the days I might need an ultrasound/IUI fall on the days we will be gone. Just thinking out loud, here
Any R/R/CS? NA
GTKY: What's the first word that just popped into your head? Google it and share a gif or pic! I thought of a person because in the "How have things been going" part of my post, I said "thinking out loud" so the Ed Sheeran sound automatically popped in my head:
TTC#1: October 2015
dx: PCOS & MFI
IUI #1 w/Femara + Ovidrel June 2016 ~ BFP
July 2016: Blighted Ovum
IUI #2 w/Femara + Ovidrel September 2016 ~BFN
IUI #3 w/Femara + Ovidrel October 2016 ~BFN
IUI #4 w/Femara + Ovidrel November 2016 ~BFN
IVF with ICSI January 2017 ~BFN
FET February 2017 ~BFN
IVF with ICSI March 2017 ~BFP--Twins Due 12/8/17
Team Blue X 2!
@mokay19 I just wanted to check in and see how you are feeling? I'm glad you told your mom--sometimes it just helps to have that support IRL and for someone else to know what is going on.
@NYTino24 how are the marks on your back now? I've never done cupping, but I'm intrigued by it! Do you notice a different with your back?
@Kiki75 I feel the same way as you in terms of starting to try again. My RE only recommended waiting until I get my first period after the D&C so that's what we are doing. I hope you will be able to start trying again soon if that is what you want to do!
@Scarlett830
@jmn1985 taking a class is a great idea to stay occupied. What type of class are you taking?
@GG620 I am so sorry for your loss. I also had a loss and I have PCOS. Make sure you work closely with your doctor and if you go too long without a period after your loss, see if s/he will prescribe Provera to induce your period.
TTC#1: October 2015
dx: PCOS & MFI
IUI #1 w/Femara + Ovidrel June 2016 ~ BFP
July 2016: Blighted Ovum
IUI #2 w/Femara + Ovidrel September 2016 ~BFN
IUI #3 w/Femara + Ovidrel October 2016 ~BFN
IUI #4 w/Femara + Ovidrel November 2016 ~BFN
IVF with ICSI January 2017 ~BFN
FET February 2017 ~BFN
IVF with ICSI March 2017 ~BFP--Twins Due 12/8/17
Team Blue X 2!
@soemthingclever I'm so sorry you're feeling stressed and bummed about your cycles right now. Does your doc have any advice/info about why you aren't ovulating right now, or a plan to try to kickstart your body? More hugs for you, too!
Also, we were in Jamaica in May for literally less than 48 hours for a wedding. I got bit a lot (I always do) and my OB had submitted information to the local CDC about whether I needed blood work after I got my BFP in June. I am still waiting to hear back from them, and honestly have no clue if there was active Zika transmission there when we were there.
Also, I'm doing better. My bleeding has slowed to just spotting and the cramping has stopped. DH has been gone all week and out of communication so I cannot wait for him to come home tonight just to have some comfort for the weekend. I get blood drawn on Monday to check my hcg levels so I'm glad to have that planned and hopefully I won't run into anymore bumps.
The worst part about this for me is the waiting. I'll have to wait until my next period (or until they'll give me Provera) and then we have to wait until we move to see the new doctor and then we have to wait until that doctor is satisfied and ready to do a medicated cycle. I hate waiting.
@beary67 The cup marks are all still there. A few are mostly dark one the outside and faded on the inside. The rest are still decently dark. There are a lot of factors that affect my back - weather, amount of time commuting, how long I sleep, how much I sit, and how much exercise I get. I'm out of chiropractic visits until I switch to DH's insurance. My SS card should come next week and then I can get all of that rolling.
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
I hate to see so many losses. My heart goes out to you guys.
@mokay19 My heart broke when I saw you were posting in this thread. Take care
@beary67 That Provera is taking its sweet time. I'm sorry you're still in limbo
@LadyMillil Your RE needs to get their freaking act together. I'm sorry.
@Scarlett830 That's crazy that it took so long. Hopefully you get your results soon. I have PCOS, so I ovulate maybe 3 times a year if I'm lucky. I had an OBGYN appt this month to get a referral to a RE, but it got pushed to a month from now. I've gained a TON of weight, so my regular doctor is pretty convinced my PCOS is because of my weight. That just adds to my depression and guilt. If I was a stronger person, I could lose weight and get KU. But since I'm a weak failure, I'm never going to get KU. I'm told I have some control so I feel like a freaking jerk when there are other people with IF and they can't do anything about it. It's so discouraging,
Me: 28 DH: 35
Dx PCOS May 2015
Baby #1 due 12/7/17
Are you benched or TTA?
Benched
What brings you here?
D&C June 18. Still no period. It's day 70 something. I hate looking, it's depressing.
How long do you think you'll be here?
I started Provera today. So I guess however long that takes to do its job!
How have things been going?
DH and I had a great trip this week! It was so nice to relax and spend so much time together. We were at a fishing cabin in the middle of no where just the two of us. Beautiful and quiet all week. Perfect way to end summer! I'm a teacher and have to start going back in this week. School doesn't start here until after Labor Day though!
Any R/R/CS?
Nope.
GTKY: What's the first word that just popped into your head? Google it and share a gif or pic!