I'm interested in Facebook, though to be honest, I will probably be slow to respond to friend requests... As long as nobody hates me for that, I'd like to join. Do I just need to PM any of the admins here?
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Not trying to stir up anything.. is/was there any selection process for the facebook group? I'm surprised we are over 80 members already and seeing people listing Bump names that do not at all ring a bell to me. Not a huge deal, I'm not a super private person just couldn't remember and didn't feel like reading through 9 pages of discussion to find if rules were ever set up to try to keep the group to semi-regulars?
@AnnaS930 The admins have been using a set of rules to screen people. There are 7 of us and you need a yes vote of recognition from at least 4 to get an invite. We also look at people's post histories if we are on the fence or aren't sure if we recognize you. We don't have a hard rule for number of posts per month or anything, but we look at how people usually contribute - is it more than the occasional short one-liner, do you try to give as much as you get, are you active on a variety of threads, etc. That said, we have generally been pretty generous about what constitutes regular, supportive posting, given that some people have more time to get on/read/participate than others.
@Jabreen - thanks! Again, really wasn't asking to make a stink about it, just wasn't sure where things had settled whether it was a free-for-all until a certain cap, or a review process as it seems to be. I know that some have easier access to FB and may be more regular there than they could be here.. I'm not complaining just seems to be transitioning from "oh yea! that person made it over to FB, cool!" To.. who is this name? I wonder what their Bump name is.. then it's posted and Nope, never heard of that (but obviously not taking the time to look at history, etc as you all are).
I'd be way more interested in a FB group than The Bump group. I think it's because I get notifications on my phone for FB, and it's just easier to keep up with since I'm in several groups on there already for different stuff. Although, after reading the criteria to be granted access... I'm not sure I qualify?
For all you ladies who got "denied" or don't meet the criteria, it really is nothing personal. It's just that a group of us ladies really participated on a daily basis and we've gotten to know each other on another level these last 8 months. The thing about FB is that you give away more personal information such as your real name and people like myself enjoy a level a privacy.
This isn't a mean girl situation. It's just that the ladies who made the move to FB are more comfortable with each other then with people who post just a few comments on a thread in 8 months.
y'all are more then welcome to make your own FB group and go from there
Not confession time/board BUT- Too nervous to send email for fear of rejection.
We're not rejecting people, so to speak. Instead we're asking less regular posters who want to join the FB group to try joining in on conversations on TB, offering more support, so we can get to know you better. As @seitzy said, we are a group that have had steady conversation for the last 8 months, we are comfortable with each other enough to let each other in on a more personal level. It's not a rejection, we just want to give you an opportunity to be more active so we can get to know you better so we feel comfortable sharing that with you as well.
I haven't sent anything but feel like an active poster. I started reading posts from all different months prior to pregnancy as I wanted to be pregnant so much then joined tb much later on and always feel hesitant when posting. Don't feel as though my posts may be viewed in the same light as others due to being a FTM. I have way more questions than answers. But to the ones who don't get included but want to be may indeed feel rejected. Nonetheless, in consideration of privacy, that's fine. Hopefully the board won't die, although it very well may.
I haven't sent anything but feel like an active poster. I started reading posts from all different months prior to pregnancy as I wanted to be pregnant so much then joined tb much later on and always feel hesitant when posting. Don't feel as though my posts may be viewed in the same light as others due to being a FTM. I have way more questions than answers. But to the ones who don't get included but want to be may indeed feel rejected. Nonetheless, in consideration of privacy, that's fine. Hopefully the board won't die, although it very well may.
Don't let being a FTM deter you from asking questions. I think this group generally is super friendly. Sure, there's some snark but that's just part of the interwebs. There's a whole thread for asking questions so ask away.
I haven't sent anything but feel like an active poster. I started reading posts from all different months prior to pregnancy as I wanted to be pregnant so much then joined tb much later on and always feel hesitant when posting. Don't feel as though my posts may be viewed in the same light as others due to being a FTM. I have way more questions than answers. But to the ones who don't get included but want to be may indeed feel rejected. Nonetheless, in consideration of privacy, that's fine. Hopefully the board won't die, although it very well may.
I totally get that, I felt the same when I started posting (also a FTM). In the end I found it was a great way to connect with the other FTM's on the board because we were in a similar situation, and the STM+'s are such an amazing source of support and information that it was hard not to take advantage of their experience! And it's great to have questions. It's hard to jump in and give support at first, but sometimes just saying "Hope you feel better" or following up with how someone has been doing after an event is just the right kind of support! We hope you feel more comfortable getting to know us, and it never hurts to ask us if you can join. Remember, even if we say no, it's not a forever no, it's a no for right now and and an indication that we want to get to know you better.
I sent an admin a PM here, but never got anything on Facebook about the group or in email... I just assumed I wasn't accepted into the Facebook group, I hadn't heard anything back either way though.
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Along those lines, if you PM'd an admin and haven't heard anything back, please be sure to check your Spam, Junk, or Social tabs/folders in your email. We have about 15 unanswered invites for the group, although I think a couple of those might be people who were invited by two of us. If you can't find it, please PM the admin again. You would have received a PM back if your acceptance was deferred!
To be honest the long threads, this one and the August random I haven't kept up with the last week and a half or so and Daaannngggg I missed the start of the FB group!!! I only mobile so keeping up with long threads is such a huge PITA! I'm curious to see what the FB group looks like. Are y'all having difficulty recognizing who is who in the group feed?
To be honest the long threads, this one and the August random I haven't kept up with the last week and a half or so and Daaannngggg I missed the start of the FB group!!! I only mobile so keeping up with long threads is such a huge PITA! I'm curious to see what the FB group looks like. Are y'all having difficulty recognizing who is who in the group feed?
We are still mostly signing with our SN which is helping the transition, but it's definitely taken a bit of time to learn who's who. I have the regulars pinned down at this point for sure.
I sent @yellowrose314 and @Jabreen messages. I was MIA for awhile during 2nd trimester, but as things get closer I am trying to be more active. It would be much easier on FB since that is my first go to place. I am in the birth boards for my other two on Facebook and it is such a great support. The groups started out large at first but as time goes on people leave, etc.
I hope I will be considered for the group. I had a hard time posting on the Bump after my history of losses, but did try to keep up with everyone's posts. I have such great relationships from my son's birth month group--I would hate to miss out on that for my daughter.
Married my best friend 03/2012 BFP#1 06/2012 ----Luke John born 03/2013 BFP#2 06/2014 ----MMC 8w4d D&C 07/2014 BFP#3 10/2014 ----Chemical BFP#4 01/2016 ----Due 09/10/2016
After discussion with the Facebook group membership, we have decided that we will be closing the group to new members. The consensus among members was that the Facebook group should be limited to regular, recognized posters. Since Bump board participation has dropped off recently, we no longer have a practical way of getting to know new potential members. Many of us are still active on both sites, though, so there will continue to be a community of support here for anyone who visits!
I find this unfortunate. I started in the TTGP boards and joined this one right when I found out when I was pregnant. I posted on here from time to time and always tried to be supportive. I was denied admission and it really stung. I actually cried to my husband last night because this board has played a central role in my pregnancy. I read the site every single day and now I am not being allowed to continue on this journey with people I feel I have grown attached to even though you may not know me yet.
I mostly stayed a lurker because I feel that despite using avatars, I felt the bump was too open for me to be a regular poster. My mom and mother in law would tell me they would check out these boards. I had girlfriends also due in September. I held back for fear of having them come across a post or vent that they would be able to recognize. Facebook would have been a place for me to be more open and able to contribute because I could could confirm who I was actually speaking to.
I know this isn't going to reverse any opinions about letting me or other ladies in, but I just wanted to offer up another viewpoint for why some women are reluctant to post. If I could do things differently I would, but hind site is always 20/20.
@Laraeq I was also a lurker for quite a while for the same reasons, coworker due at same time, etc. I haven't asked to join the fb group and not sure I would, but I think there will be more people jumping in here as time goes on, and hopefully more and more discussions will pop up again. It is a bummer that its not even the end of Sept and most people have already bailed, but I know for me, it's definitely harder to keep up on anything internet related now that my baby is here. Hopefully the board will pick back up again with new regulars!
You could always start another Facebook group and open it up to people who didn't make it onto the first one....some people might even want to be members of both...
If anyone is interested in this, forming a group that is about answering questions and providing resources/support, (I ask as a FTM who has been up all night with a gassy/demanding baby) PM me.
This is really sad. Not that I have anything against anyone on this thread but I won't be joining the Facebook group. The way it sounds I'm not sure I would have been accepted anyway. So sorry you cried over it :-( I do hope that this group continues because my Facebook page is dedicated to my very closest friends and family only.
Married my best friend 03/2012 BFP#1 06/2012 ----Luke John born 03/2013 BFP#2 06/2014 ----MMC 8w4d D&C 07/2014 BFP#3 10/2014 ----Chemical BFP#4 01/2016 ----Due 09/10/2016
Re: FB Group- Discussion Thread
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Great job!
Even miracles take a little time - Cinderella
This isn't a mean girl situation. It's just that the ladies who made the move to FB are more comfortable with each other then with people who post just a few comments on a thread in 8 months.
y'all are more then welcome to make your own FB group and go from there
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16
DD 10/4/02
DS due 9/28/16
FORMER USERNAME: @runningisrad
To be honest the long threads, this one and the August random I haven't kept up with the last week and a half or so and Daaannngggg I missed the start of the FB group!!! I only mobile so keeping up with long threads is such a huge PITA! I'm curious to see what the FB group looks like. Are y'all having difficulty recognizing who is who in the group feed?
I hope I will be considered for the group. I had a hard time posting on the Bump after my history of losses, but did try to keep up with everyone's posts. I have such great relationships from my son's birth month group--I would hate to miss out on that for my daughter.
BFP#1 06/2012 ----Luke John born 03/2013
BFP#2 06/2014 ----MMC 8w4d D&C 07/2014
BFP#3 10/2014 ----Chemical
BFP#4 01/2016 ----Due 09/10/2016
@mrsvoorhees you better be doing a happy dance right now
I mostly stayed a lurker because I feel that despite using avatars, I felt the bump was too open for me to be a regular poster. My mom and mother in law would tell me they would check out these boards. I had girlfriends also due in September. I held back for fear of having them come across a post or vent that they would be able to recognize. Facebook would have been a place for me to be more open and able to contribute because I could could confirm who I was actually speaking to.
I know this isn't going to reverse any opinions about letting me or other ladies in, but I just wanted to offer up another viewpoint for why some women are reluctant to post. If I could do things differently I would, but hind site is always 20/20.
BFP#1 06/2012 ----Luke John born 03/2013
BFP#2 06/2014 ----MMC 8w4d D&C 07/2014
BFP#3 10/2014 ----Chemical
BFP#4 01/2016 ----Due 09/10/2016