@HeatSparks +1 for reporting her! that comment is completely out of line. 1 in 3 women have had an abortion, she doesn't know who she's judging and that is unprofessional to say the least.
That's exactly what I was thinking. So unprofessional and insensitive.
@Gingersnap it may be best to address it as soon as possible. At age 3 she is likely just repeating something she's heard elsewhere, so a little investigation may reveal the "culprits" and a REAL conversation can be had with them about how inapprpropriate it is the feel that way but especially to express it in front of a young impressionable child.
It was chocolate ice cream, so it was brown. It was just such an odd thing to say. H said its just an innocuous thing, which it may be. I just want to be able to have an age appropriate conversation about why our differences are what make us beautiful and unique, or something like that. I think I was more surprised that she was aware of different skin colors, it's nothing that we ever talk about at home.
@NiceyMeany that is absolute bullshit. they should extend the warranty or replace it or something if you've had that many issues! My engagement ring was a pearl and it fell out THREE TIMES before I got married (the last one the night before our wedding!)
OH MY GOD DID YOU CRY EVERYWHERE?????
That's a good call about asking to extend the warranty. I did tell the guy on the phone today that they'd looked at it before when this happened and that I was very frustrated and worried about it continuing to be a problem, and he promised me that they'd look into it at a much deeper level. I'm sure they'll make it right.
@Gingersnap i agree with maybe waiting to have the age appropriate/longer conversation. I was thinking just maybe asking why she said it. If she doesn't have a good answer it may be a clue that eventually the larger conversation is truly necessary. But she may answer, I heard so and so say "fill in the blank" that led her to say what she said this evening.
glad to know that you think our differences are what make us beautiful and unique
Me: 36, H: 37 FTM, 2 Furbabies married 03/17/07 lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC due: 2/15/17
I honestly think the babe was just describing. Maybe she just likes her beautiful porcelain skin! My kids both were not around people of any color or difference. We are in a small almost all white place. I think the elementary school has only 3 black families. My daughter used the word brown to describe black people, and my son used to say they had chocolate milk skin. We just asked them why they used those words and they said because we are white but so and so was not. It wasn't a big deal we just explained to them that people are all different. I googled pictures of people from all different countries and my kids loved it. They were fascinated that we are all different.
@NiceyMeany pretty much! It didn't help that I'd had about 142 margaritas that night... I was lucky, though, my Hubs surprised me on our wedding day with a diamond ring set :-) We found the pearl and I still have the ring for special occasions.
@Gingersnap it might not be that she meant anything "bad" by saying that. Once my son started to get a really good grasp on his colors he started referring to those who have darker skin tones as brown people. Completely innocent, he didn't mean anything by it. Similar to how he would refer to blond haired people as yellow haired. After he yelled out one day at the park, "where did that brown kid go? I really wanted to play with him" we sat him down and tried to explain as simply put as possible that it's inappropriate to describe someone that way. He was literally just seeing it as describing a color. I know this sounds ridiculous and not trying to trivialize anything, but maybe your DD simply doesn't like the color brown itself (I haven't heard many kids exclaim that that's their favorite color.) I think you said she's the same as my DD in age, 3 right? If so, I would go with what others said and just save a more intense in depth explanation of why that's not okay to say until she's a little older.
@jab3 despite the many times I've corrected both my kids, they still call blonde hair "yellow" hair lol. When I first got mine highlighted they both exclaimed "why did you want yellow in your hair"
*snip* Of course depending on the age of the students (I feel like it would be harder on younger kids) and the school atmosphere itself, maybe it's not a good idea for you. We live in a quiet small place and parents here were ok with the teacher being absent for a few months.
Just wanted to mention (and I probably should have said this in my initial post) that I'm a teacher and I don't think it's a problem at ALL for teachers to take maternity leave mid-year; I didn't mean parents would be justified in making that switch. Where I am, all our long term subs are extremely qualified. In fact, they don't call them "subs" because they worry about it implying they're lesser somehow. They're "TTOC" - teachers teaching on call. They've already completed all teacher training and are fully qualified to run their own classrooms. In fact, they're often so happy for the opportunity for a mat cover, and they are fresh and innovative in their practice, that the kids get an enriched experience.
Thanks guys. I'm such a people pleaser/nonconfrontational person, to a fault. I'm definitely going to request to only see the doctor or the other PA from now on.
Thanks guys. I'm such a people pleaser/nonconfrontational person, to a fault. I'm definitely going to request to only see the doctor or the other PA from now on.
Yeah, that chick shouldn't be saying those types of things. Totally unprofessional and rude.
*snip* Of course depending on the age of the students (I feel like it would be harder on younger kids) and the school atmosphere itself, maybe it's not a good idea for you. We live in a quiet small place and parents here were ok with the teacher being absent for a few months.
Just wanted to mention (and I probably should have said this in my initial post) that I'm a teacher and I don't think it's a problem at ALL for teachers to take maternity leave mid-year; I didn't mean parents would be justified in making that switch. Where I am, all our long term subs are extremely qualified. In fact, they don't call them "subs" because they worry about it implying they're lesser somehow. They're "TTOC" - teachers teaching on call. They've already completed all teacher training and are fully qualified to run their own classrooms. In fact, they're often so happy for the opportunity for a mat cover, and they are fresh and innovative in their practice, that the kids get an enriched experience.
This is usually the case for us too. However, I'm currently a little worried. The other chemistry teacher is going to be out in the fall. They advertised for a long-term chemistry sub (which would be perfect because they could do it all year) and there were no bites. So they changed around our schedules. Now I'm dreading telling my principal because she already knows she probably won't find a good chem person - ugh!
*snip* Of course depending on the age of the students (I feel like it would be harder on younger kids) and the school atmosphere itself, maybe it's not a good idea for you. We live in a quiet small place and parents here were ok with the teacher being absent for a few months.
Just wanted to mention (and I probably should have said this in my initial post) that I'm a teacher and I don't think it's a problem at ALL for teachers to take maternity leave mid-year; I didn't mean parents would be justified in making that switch. Where I am, all our long term subs are extremely qualified. In fact, they don't call them "subs" because they worry about it implying they're lesser somehow. They're "TTOC" - teachers teaching on call. They've already completed all teacher training and are fully qualified to run their own classrooms. In fact, they're often so happy for the opportunity for a mat cover, and they are fresh and innovative in their practice, that the kids get an enriched experience.
This is usually the case for us too. However, I'm currently a little worried. The other chemistry teacher is going to be out in the fall. They advertised for a long-term chemistry sub (which would be perfect because they could do it all year) and there were no bites. So they changed around our schedules. Now I'm dreading telling my principal because she already knows she probably won't find a good chem person - ugh!
Oh no! That's such an unnecessary added stress. I'm really sorry to hear that; although maybe by the time mid-year rolls around, an excellent teacher will come available? Maybe someone who's doing a mat cover for the first half the year and will be free for your cover? That really sucks for the other teacher, though. In my neck of the woods, we are so over saturated with trained teachers and no one retiring that it's a bit of an embarrassment of riches when you advertise a position.
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It was just such an odd thing to say. H said its just an innocuous thing, which it may be. I just want to be able to have an age appropriate conversation about why our differences are what make us beautiful and unique, or something like that.
I think I was more surprised that she was aware of different skin colors, it's nothing that we ever talk about at home.
That's a good call about asking to extend the warranty. I did tell the guy on the phone today that they'd looked at it before when this happened and that I was very frustrated and worried about it continuing to be a problem, and he promised me that they'd look into it at a much deeper level. I'm sure they'll make it right.
glad to know that you think our differences are what make us beautiful and unique
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17
@homemake I did buy two boxes!! Lol, but I wanted them both! I'm greedy like that.
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!