My inlaws want to be called Pap and Grandma, which is what our nephew calls them. We hate the name Pap and all we think of when we hear it is Pap smear. I secretly hope our kids will just call them by their first names but that's bc I'm evil.
My MIL flipflops between wanting to be called Nana (no big deal) and Grandma Juju (a play on the first syllable of her name) and I just find Juju to be a tish disrespectful I guess? My mom's husband is Jewish and I shudder to think that our kid will say Grandma Juju in front of him and he'd side eye it. Idk, I'm more of a fan of letting the kid decide what to call people
My family had specific names they wanted to be called. But my DD changed them all when she could barely talk. So like, "Grandpa Bill" became "Bahbo" and Grampy became "bampy" and Grammy became "mammy". And now all the other grandkids call them those hahaha
I don't understand why grandparents just can't be grandma and grandpa. The made up names drive me insane. If the kid can't say it and make up a name then okay. But to ask to be called some funky name is so bizarre to me.
My mom became a grandma before she was in her late 40's and was like NOPE, not being called grandma (my younger sis got KU young) and insisted on being called Nanny. She's British, and that what they call grandmas there. I find it funny when we are out together and my kid says Nanny. We've got some weird looks, like this brown older lady is our actual Nanny. ETA: I hope that didn't come out weird, the brown thing. We are all just really fair skinned and my mom is half white and half Indian.
My mom became a grandma before she was in her late 40's and was like NOPE, not being called grandma (my younger sis got KU young) and insisted on being called Nanny. She's British, and that what they call grandmas there. I find it funny when we are out together and my kid says Nanny. We've got some weird looks, like this brown older lady is our actual Nanny. ETA: I hope that didn't come out weird, the brown thing. We are all just really fair skinned and my mom is half white and half Indian.
I can understand being called something from where you are from or your language. But some lady I know wanted to be called glamy because she was a glamorous grandma.
My mom became a grandma before she was in her late 40's and was like NOPE, not being called grandma (my younger sis got KU young) and insisted on being called Nanny. She's British, and that what they call grandmas there. I find it funny when we are out together and my kid says Nanny. We've got some weird looks, like this brown older lady is our actual Nanny. ETA: I hope that didn't come out weird, the brown thing. We are all just really fair skinned and my mom is half white and half Indian.
That's what I called my dad's grandma. I have NO clue how it came up because I'm pretty sure that they're not British or anything. I think mainly they just wanted to have different names for my dad's grandparents because my mom's grandma's were called granny last name & granny last name. It was just easier as a kid just to say Nanny and Pop Pop.
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I got a lot of text messages from my MIL today, which is odd b/c I am usually only part of group messages. We talked about a few different things and the last message said "I might join you guys in PHX in October". I've been planning a dual-purpose trip 1. to see DH's niece's first baby (due any day) and 2. have a baby moon. I feel guilty because we don't see her very often; but my heart is breaking just a little bit. At least we are planning on staying in a nice resort-type hotel and will have nights to ourselves.
It's probably a stupid pet peeve of mine, but I'm really getting irritated at my MIL for insisting she doesn't want to be called "grandma". She won't take on the title of "Nana" either because she feels that's DH's grandma's title and she can't take it. So she's trying to come up with something for us to call her instead of grandma and keeps flip flopping over what she likes. It's getting to the point where I just want to tell her, "look, you're just going to be grandma *insert last name here*". I just, I know I should respect her wishes, she's my elder, but it's making me batty.
My mom is called GiGi by my son.
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@BeckS13 my mom made a ridiculously big deal out of this. To the point she wanted to keep her "grandma name" (Gigi) a secret until after the baby was born because she didn't want any of her sisters to use it....
all of her sisters were already grandparents. I doubt they would be able to change what their grandkids called them at that point anyway.
Wait, "Gigi"? That was my MIL's first request! She scrapped it because a bunch of cashiers at work insisted she couldn't be called that because she's not a "great grandma" yet(I don't think they were taking spelling into account, just hearing G.G). Honestly you are the ONLY other person I have come across that has anyone who would use that title, it didn't seem common to me when my MIL tried it on for size.
@homemake: Yup, it's the first grandbaby. Luckily not everyone wants a specific title, just my MIL. All the other grandparents are all down for being called Grandma or Grandpa. I am wondering what it's going to be like when the kid starts to talk, I don't think it'll be that hard for him or her to single out one specific grandparent with a specific title, but we'll see. I know I'm not actually going to be malicious and hold up a picture of her saying "grandma, this is GRANDMA", whatever my MIL chooses we'll try to refer to her that way and if the kid decides not to, gets confused, or whatever, so be it.
*Edit* Went through the rest of the posts, and there's even more
grandmas who wanted to be called "Gigi" I've seriously never heard of
it... Is it a nationality thing I haven't heard of?
When I was pregnant with my daughter, my FIL was having a particularly crabby day and I referred to him as "Grumpa". Whenever he is grouchy we like to pull that one out.
RE: Gigi-- my sister calls me Gigi and I f*cking hate it. Like, see red hate it. It reminds me of the movie Gigi which is a "love story" about pedophilia and grooming a child to be a side piece.
I got a lot of text messages from my MIL today, which is odd b/c I am usually only part of group messages. We talked about a few different things and the last message said "I might join you guys in PHX in October". I've been planning a dual-purpose trip 1. to see DH's niece's first baby (due any day) and 2. have a baby moon. I feel guilty because we don't see her very often; but my heart is breaking just a little bit. At least we are planning on staying in a nice resort-type hotel and will have nights to ourselves.
Addendum - Over dinner last night, DH says "so, is there room in our hotel room for my mom to stay with us?". Heart breaking all the way... I didn't actually book our room yet; but now I feel like I have to get a suite type room at a less nice hotel to accommodate this request. And, I DON'T WANNA!
@MLRocha I would sit DH down and tell him you wanted this to be a baby moon, and were hoping to get a romantic room for the two of you. We have a strict separate room policy with the in laws.
No way, you need to tell her that she can't stay in your room. I actually think it's incerdeibly rude of her to just invite herself to join you. How odd. @MLRocha
@Gingersnap - I don't think she invited herself to the room. I think she'd probably want to stay with her daughter, who also lives in Phoenix. But, I think DH wants to be nice and offer it as an option... And, I want to be selfish b/c it'll probably be our last trip as a duo.
@Gingersnap - I don't think she invited herself to the room. I think she'd probably want to stay with her daughter, who also lives in Phoenix. But, I think DH wants to be nice and offer it as an option... And, I want to be selfish b/c it'll probably be our last trip as a duo.
Gotcha. Tell your DH NOPE! If she can stay with her daughter, then there's no need to even feel bad about not offering. Tell him you don't want to ruin the opportunity for 2nd tri sex.
Yep, definitely a conversation that will be had this weekend b/c I want to get plans wrapped up. Even the niece has offered her extra room; so, MIL could stay there as well. The whole reason I was getting us a hotel room was for alone time (aka, 2nd tri sex).
I had a Grandma GG, but that was because she referred to me as GG, for Grandma's Girl when I was small. So like little kids do, it got added onto her name and all my sisters and cousins caught it from me.
@MLRocha men say the darnedest things. I'm sure as soon as you mention sex he will completely drop the idea and not feel the least bit guilty. My inlaws once tried to get the room next to ours while we were on vacation and i almost freaked out. Luckily the hotel was working on the AC so they got a room two floors down.
Luckily my MIL is great. She already has a bunch of grandkids from DH's sisters, but she's super excited. She does say weird/funny things like when we showed her the 13 week ultrasound she kept saying "Look at that little pug nose" and "what a beautifully shaped head" lol. She means it all in the nicest way, so it just makes us laugh.
FIL is another story, I've actually never met him in person even though DH and I have known each other for 17 years! He moved South America when DH was 11, and has never come back to visit. They're not close,and hardly talk. We haven't even told him about the baby.
My MIL is back at it again. Although this time (thankfully) she didn't bring up epidurals. I'm due on Valentines day. She asked if I can fly from Kansas City to Houston in January for a baby shower..... I would rather not. I explained I'll need to save all of the PTO I can at work for my maternity leave. She suggested flying in on a Saturday and back on Sunday. This also sounds absolutely miserable and as expensive as the tickets are I might as well buy my own baby stuff! I wonder if maybe I'm just getting irritated with her stupid idea because I'm still upset about her comments regarding my plan to have an epidural. Maybe I'm taking this This is my first so I don't know what to expect I just think this is an absolutely crazy idea...... No way in hell does it sound like flying at 34-36 weeks sound like a good idea.
My MIL is back at it again. Although this time (thankfully) she didn't bring up epidurals. I'm due on Valentines day. She asked if I can fly from Kansas City to Houston in January for a baby shower..... I would rather not. I explained I'll need to save all of the PTO I can at work for my maternity leave. She suggested flying in on a Saturday and back on Sunday. This also sounds absolutely miserable and as expensive as the tickets are I might as well buy my own baby stuff! I wonder if maybe I'm just getting irritated with her stupid idea because I'm still upset about her comments regarding my plan to have an epidural. Maybe I'm taking this This is my first so I don't know what to expect I just think this is an absolutely crazy idea...... No way in hell does it sound like flying at 34-36 weeks sound like a good idea.
I doubt your doctor will give you clearance (and possibly the airline, too) to fly that far along, I could be wrong though. I would just tell her sorry doc said no go if I were in your shoes. Airlines are unpredictable, so you would also be playing a gambling game to ensure weather didn't delay anything in Kansas City. I am in Nebraska and avoid traveling if I don't have to in the winter months because well the weather is a b word.
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My MIL is back at it again. Although this time (thankfully) she didn't bring up epidurals. I'm due on Valentines day. She asked if I can fly from Kansas City to Houston in January for a baby shower..... I would rather not. I explained I'll need to save all of the PTO I can at work for my maternity leave. She suggested flying in on a Saturday and back on Sunday. This also sounds absolutely miserable and as expensive as the tickets are I might as well buy my own baby stuff! I wonder if maybe I'm just getting irritated with her stupid idea because I'm still upset about her comments regarding my plan to have an epidural. Maybe I'm taking this This is my first so I don't know what to expect I just think this is an absolutely crazy idea...... No way in hell does it sound like flying at 34-36 weeks sound like a good idea.
Yeah, most airlines have guidelines as to when you can/can't fly and since you'll be cutting it close, I'd use that as an excuse to not fly in. And I'm sure your doctor won't give clearance for flying that late in your pregnancy.
It's a nice gesture that she wants to throw you a shower but if it's going to be that close to your due date and you'd have to fly, it's probably not going to work.
@Kaylea31 That sounds like the last thing I'd want to do at 34 weeks. How would you even get the stuff back?
My sister in law is from out of state. They wanted to do a separate shower there but it was too much hassle. Her mom is throwing one together with my mom where we live, and her family is traveling to attend. Any relation that can is coming, anyone who can't, sent a gift.
I think I just heard about a woman delivering on a plane- tell your MIL that it freaks you out and it's too close to your delivery- my water broke spontaneously at 35w5d so it could happen. Are you visiting them during the holidays? Can you have one then? My MIL insisted on throwing me a bridal shower and proceeded to invite everyone she knew even though the majority of them she knew weren't invited to the wedding. Super awkward! With our 1st we told her we were only doing one baby shower. She was pissed but at the same time she was in SC anyway up until a month after our DD was born.
@Eveinshock I have no idea how we would get everything back! I haven't even thought about the logistics of it because I just kind of wrote the idea off......
Fortunately DH was very sweet and told his mom that I couldn't go because he isn't comfortable with me traveling so late. He told her we'll visit for Thanksgiving and she can plan something for that week if she really wants to. We'll see what happens...
Wow! Glad to see this thread is still going strong! Although, I'm sorry that so many of us are having issues with the in-laws. I was thinking to create a new In-Laws thread every Sunday. Or should I just keep this one going? You tell me. Thank you!
So I'm totally late to the grandparents name thread, but I had a story I wanted to share. And if anyone I know if real life is on this board, I'm about to out myself. Because I can't imagine anyone else has the same names for grandparents.
When my BIL/SIL were expecting, they asked my MIL/FIL what they wanted to be called. My FIL said he wanted to be Pop-Pop. My MIL had apparently never heard of that before, because her reaction was "Pop-Pop? What does that make me? Bang Bang?"
And ladies, my MIL and FIL now insist that she be called Bang Bang. Pop-Pop and Bang Bang.
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My mother in law wanted to be called "granmommy" and when they were older "granmom" ........ Sure, just as soon as you go eff yourself honey. I told her straight up no so now she's referred to as Grammy. My friends kids call their grandparents mamu and papu(pronounced like Mamoo and Papoo) it's really cute!
@Tennis11785 I've heard of Pop-Pop but Bang-Bang is definitely a new one to me! My brother is teaching his grandkids to call him Poo-Poo, yes, as in an alternate name for poop.
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and insisted on being called Nanny. She's British, and that what they call grandmas there.
I find it funny when we are out together and my kid says Nanny. We've got some weird looks, like this brown older lady is our actual Nanny.
ETA: I hope that didn't come out weird, the brown thing. We are all just really fair skinned and my mom is half white and half Indian.
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@homemake: Yup, it's the first grandbaby. Luckily not everyone wants a specific title, just my MIL. All the other grandparents are all down for being called Grandma or Grandpa. I am wondering what it's going to be like when the kid starts to talk, I don't think it'll be that hard for him or her to single out one specific grandparent with a specific title, but we'll see. I know I'm not actually going to be malicious and hold up a picture of her saying "grandma, this is GRANDMA", whatever my MIL chooses we'll try to refer to her that way and if the kid decides not to, gets confused, or whatever, so be it.
*Edit* Went through the rest of the posts, and there's even more grandmas who wanted to be called "Gigi" I've seriously never heard of it... Is it a nationality thing I haven't heard of?
Whenever he is grouchy we like to pull that one out.
I actually think it's incerdeibly rude of her to just invite herself to join you.
How odd.
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@MLRocha Yeah, I agree with PP, talk to your husband and let him know what this trip was/is to you. And tell MIL she can't stay in your room.
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Tell your DH NOPE!
If she can stay with her daughter, then there's no need to even feel bad about not offering.
Tell him you don't want to ruin the opportunity for 2nd tri sex.
FIL is another story, I've actually never met him in person even though DH and I have known each other for 17 years! He moved South America when DH was 11, and has never come back to visit. They're not close,and hardly talk. We haven't even told him about the baby.
I wonder if maybe I'm just getting irritated with her stupid idea because I'm still upset about her comments regarding my plan to have an epidural. Maybe I'm taking this This is my first so I don't know what to expect I just think this is an absolutely crazy idea...... No way in hell does it sound like flying at 34-36 weeks sound like a good idea.
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Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
It's a nice gesture that she wants to throw you a shower but if it's going to be that close to your due date and you'd have to fly, it's probably not going to work.
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My sister in law is from out of state. They wanted to do a separate shower there but it was too much hassle. Her mom is throwing one together with my mom where we live, and her family is traveling to attend. Any relation that can is coming, anyone who can't, sent a gift.
Fortunately DH was very sweet and told his mom that I couldn't go because he isn't comfortable with me traveling so late. He told her we'll visit for Thanksgiving and she can plan something for that week if she really wants to. We'll see what happens...
I was thinking to create a new In-Laws thread every Sunday. Or should I just keep this one going? You tell me. Thank you!
When my BIL/SIL were expecting, they asked my MIL/FIL what they wanted to be called. My FIL said he wanted to be Pop-Pop. My MIL had apparently never heard of that before, because her reaction was "Pop-Pop? What does that make me? Bang Bang?"
And ladies, my MIL and FIL now insist that she be called Bang Bang. Pop-Pop and Bang Bang.
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