Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: SH!T JUST GOT REAL! Part 2
Also, my little brother was not only able to feel the baby for the first time yesterday, he saw my stomach move. He said it kind of freaked him out, lol.
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+
BFP: 03/10
First Baby: 10/20/2016
@LauraPCOS I was so frustrated, I drug DH to Star Trek and wouldn't let him move his hand from my belly the whole time. The loud noises got baby boy moving and he FINALLY felt it. Lol
Also, talked to a girl in my office today that was due a month before me and she mentioned she's being induced next week. After her, there's only one more person I know IRL that is due before me. It's almost our turn!!!
The **** just got real moment was not there'll be a baby here soon, but in the holy cow does it seem like our son has grown up so much throughout this pregnancy.
And when did baby clothes get so tiny? We washed and folded a bunch of the newborn and 0-3 month clothes and I kept thinking, this must have shrunk, I don't remember this being this small.
Here he was trying out the swing for baby brother last night - when did he get SO BIG?!
My mom watched our dog this weekend while we were out of town. When we got back I said, "The next time you watch Cooper for us will be when we're in the hospital." Holy crap!!
And I ditto all the comments about not feeling prepared. I took yesterday off work so I could move everything out of the office, move the playroom downstairs, and start setting up stuff in the baby's room. I got a lot done, but all that is set up in the baby's room is a changing table and an ottoman. I have a lot more to do!! Moved some toys into my DS room as well. For those of you who don't know what "Paw Patrol" is...you will soon...
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
@RainMira9e - so true! I'm just glad Teletubbies isn't still popular!
@SpaceBurger - I love the Muppets! I think I own all the movies...
Me: 28 DH: 27
Me: 28 DH: 27
And +1 for needing a giant to do list of hair appointment, assemble pack and play, finish up buying stuff (diaper bag, diaper pail...), pack hospital bag(s)... So much to do!
Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
Team Blue!
Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
Team Blue!
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
1 we have company coming into town for my grandpas 80th bday.
1 we have my youngests Bday party
1 we have to take our boat out to its storage slot that is a 4 hour drive one way.
1 he is gone for
which basically gives me actually only 2 or 3 weekends at home with help to get my massive crap list done! I'm feeling the pinch for time already. Also I saw some yellow leaves on the trees today when I was out walking so that really makes fall feel like it's close by.
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
I had to prevent a mini meltdown this week because I was all "I am prepared for a baby, but eventually this kid will be 4! Can I deal with a 4 year old?! Am I ready for that?! Omg I don't think I am!!"