My snoogle got delivered today. DH is going to freak out when he sees how big it is. Things are already kind of tight with us and two 45 lb dogs in a queen sized bed (we're not a small people). Also, I'm having a hard time imagining it being comfortable... Maybe because I so much rather sleep on my back? *fingers crossed*
Kicking our dogs out of our best was the best thing we could have ever done!! I suggest it. I really resisted at first but it turns out space is really really nice! And our dogs adapted quickly.
+1 to the crafting thread. I am happy to take on that one if no one else wants to..
I see NO cyber bullying... just saying, I have nothing more to add about the conversation than that.
@silvercamaro77 I tell my daughter the same thing... "throw your fit and I'll be over here when you are done... mmmKay?" The fits are a lot shorter that way.
So I've had pretty life-like dreams my whole life but they ramped up during pregnancy. Wellllll last night I got zero sleep because I had a dream that I lost the baby because of the position I was sleeping in. Needless to say, every way I laid, I was freaking out....
@FishyMom - Our dogs start in their own beds and wait till we are deep in sleep before jumping in with us. I think they know we won't fight them that way... tricky pups. Last night, I realized that the snoogle takes up the space between me and DH; so, their only option is to stay down by our feet. I'll take that as a win!
Also, I was completely wrong: I fell asleep as soon and I settled into the snoogle and didn't toss/turn until I had to pee at 5 a.m.
@jlellis603 I've had crappy vivid dreams like that. I'm sorry it sucks. Last night I was dreaming about paying to do an ultrasound like everyone was talking about , even though mine is going to be pretty early anyway. Now I NEED to know the sex.
@MLRocha- I love the snoogle so much! I've been stalling on busting it out this pregnancy because of the space it puts between me and DH, but I think it's coming out tonight and I'm a little psyched to use it again. If it weren't for separating me from DH I would use that thing all the time even when I'm not pregnant.
@AfKash if you are getting this worried and upset about things you might want to talk to someone. Obviously some worry is normal-- we're all wanting to have happy healthy babies. But I, too, have noticed that you have a lot of worries about things you can't control or that are minor concerns. Maybe talking to a professional would help. PD and PPD is a real thing and it can start with anxiety. Maybe your OB or midwife have some resources?
I'm not as worried about how my teenager will treat me, I am more worried about the STUPID ASS stuff I did back then and how I am still alive. And I was actually good.
I got a snoogle 2 weeks ago. I like it but I am a lifetime side sleeper and I find it makes the perfect little cup for my back and I end up sleeping on my back every night. I guess it's too early to matter but I'm gonna have to make an effort to turn soon. But it's so nice to wake up without the wrinkles I get from side sleeping and smooshing my face!
I think it's helpful to completely ignore people who don't mesh with your personality. There's always going to be a Regina George and she's always going to have a lot of friends.
While I think the term bullying may have been a bit strong, I do think it would be helpful for all of us to remember that we are strangers and text/electronic communication often leads to misunderstandings.
I do not think it is fair to underestimate how someone feels about something and then to pile on and say they deserved it. I think we can all agree that @AfKash is sensitive and has admitted that she and her family are going through a very rough time. Let's help and offer solutions and suggestions like the last few posters have vs. making her feel even worse.
Or better yet, if it bothers you that much ignore.
Me: 36, H: 37 FTM, 2 Furbabies married 03/17/07 lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC due: 2/15/17
Have you ever been bullied? @AfKash I have. I would be absolutely sick to my stomach, to the point of throwing up in the morning because I didn't want to go to school. Because I was systematically taunted by the same group of kids. Later in my school life it happened again when one of my friends decided she didn't like me and I was taunted for MONTHS. They spread vicious, nasty rumors about my family and I, and it was awful. I would never, EVER inflict that kind of fear and pain upon anyone. Accusations of bullying are serious. It's not some buzz word to throw around when someone makes two or three comments that you don't like. Edited for typos.
@Afkash I understand where you are coming from. I have high anxiety and stress about just about the same things as you do. I think for some one who is a worry wart (like me) or has anxiety (also like me) these things are normal. I keep trying to prepare my husband for a teenage daughter, because the idea of having a girl like me stress's me the F out. I'm even already stressing about how we're going to make school work in terms of scheduling...even though that like 5 years away. And what about uniforms and school supplies?? Ugh.
I think some days, people are going to react more quickly to things than others. It's the nature of these boards. But I hope that when it really comes down to it, we can all be respectful of each other. I know that gingersnap isn't bullying. Bullying is a repeated pattern of making someone feel unsafe. But I also know that afkash is very sensitive, and it's hard sometimes to grow thick skin with Internet strangers.
@Xstatic3333 he is spoiled and pretty much gets anything he wants. The top part where he is laying is bigger than the rest. I sleep with the pillow in front so DH can still spoon me
@Gretchypoo Jake is so cute! Although he would tower over my little Gus-Gus
@Gingersnap idk it could be a compliment. Regina George is fierce.
The thing is, none of the initial comments were harsh. At all. Including Ginger's. I'm high stress about my own things and am told to take a deep breath by my H, mom, or coworkers pretty much daily.
The funny thing about this "bullying" accusation is that I have literally said 3 things. That it was ironic and funny to me to hear her telling everyone to relax and take a deep breath, and said "take a deep breath". I mean, come on. It really just proves my original point.
The thing is, none of the initial comments were harsh. At all. Including Ginger's. I'm high stress about my own things and am told to take a deep breath by my H, mom, or coworkers pretty much daily.
agreed. the response was wildly disproportionate to an innocuous comment.
Have you ever been bullied? @AfKash I have. I would be absolutely sick to my stomach, to the point of throwing up in the morning because I didn't want to go to school. Because I was systematically taunted by the same group of kids. Later in my school life it happened again when one of my friends decided she didn't like me and I was taunted for MONTHS. They spread vicious, nasty rumors about my family and I, and it was awful. I would never, EVER inflict that kind of fear and pain upon anyone. Accusations of bullying are serious. It's not some buzz word to throw around when someone makes two or three comments that you don't like. Edited for typos.
Yeah, snark doesn't equal bullying.
Bullying is when me two best friends turned on me and became so mean, that my parents lost a $3,000 deposit on sleep away camp because I refused to go spend the summer with those girls.
Bullying is when someone starts a rumor behind your back that you sent naked pictures to the whole football team.
At her absolutely worst @Gingersnap is doing some light hearted teasing. Nothing has been vindictive, mean, or intended to hurt people. I get being sensitive (I cried last night cause SIL suggested hanging a 16x20 Blackhawks poster in the nursery), but big accusations require big ammo to back them up.
@joyful08 I love both your dog's sassy pose, and his name.
Also, I sincerely thought @Gingersnap meant "take a deep breath" to be a helpful comment. I do yoga, and yoga breathing very much helps me in stressful situations. This is yet another situation in which text-tone is interpreted by our own perceptions...
@AfKash I think this situation could be greatly helped by some input from you here. This seems to be a case of misunderstanding.
Let's fix this and move on! We are all awesome ladies!
I'm not sure that all of you have read what was said in the "PSA....PSC" thread. If you haven't, please read that thread first before making your opinion. I shouldn't have to feel like I shouldn't post something because of what one specific person is going to say to me. Regardless of whether you call it "snarky" or "cyber bullying" she has made me feel uncomfortable enough to consider leaving this board. Especially considering that I never said anything to her. I was just trying to diffuse a situation and she made comments against me. If my "worrying" annoys her, she can easily just ignore me. If my worrying annoys anyone else, you can ignore me, too. But you don't have to be sarcastic or snarky. This was supposed to be a place where we can talk, ask questions, and not feel judged. That's not at all what it feels like.
@srscott3, I'm sorry to hear that your little sister has been treated that way. Seriously wtf is wrong with people? My little sister was bullied relentlessly as a little kid because she was big and I used to get so overprotective of her. As an adult now I'm always thinking what's up with the person who's being a true bully to make them think it's cool to act like that? Sad.
@AfKash, I tend to be super sensitive and quick to overreact or misinterpret what people say to me so believe me, I get where you're coming from. I also think about my kids being teenagers already and wonder what it will be like because boy oh boy are me and H in for it if our kids end up anything like us as teenagers! Payback is a B. hehe But in all seriousness, even I just thought @Gingersnap was joking with you. Like "busting your balls" as people say or some friendly ribbing.
@Gingersnap, I am truly sorry you had to go through that shit in school. People suck. Girls harrassed and bullied the crap out of me in highschool as well and also spread nasty rumors about me and my family. I feel for you. I used to get physically ill over it too just like you said. Back then, I was very pretty and also extremely shy and quiet so people thought I was a standoffish snob when really I was just painfully shy and self-conscious. But yeah real true bullying is NO joke and anyone who's been through it for real knows the difference.
I'm not sure that all of you have read what was said in the "PSA....PSC" thread. If you haven't, please read that thread first before making your opinion. I shouldn't have to feel like I shouldn't post something because of what one specific person is going to say to me. Regardless of whether you call it "snarky" or "cyber bullying" she has made me feel uncomfortable enough to consider leaving this board. Especially considering that I never said anything to her. I was just trying to diffuse a situation and she made comments against me. If my "worrying" annoys her, she can easily just ignore me. If my worrying annoys anyone else, you can ignore me, too. But you don't have to be sarcastic or snarky. This was supposed to be a place where we can talk, ask questions, and not feel judged. That's not at all what it feels like.
I think you are missing the point. I do agree she was being snarky but in no way was she cyber bullying. Those things are very very different. I'm sorry your feelings were hurt but using the word cyber bullying is terrible because that's not what she did. Snarky is not the same as cyber bullying and that's what we are trying to tell you.
@AfKash you've given a ton of support here and I would hate to see you leave. So please take this comment in a helpful way. I've participated on TB for almost a year now and lurked for almost a year before that (weirdo!) and snark and sarcasm are part of the culture here. What happened yesterday was also mild. I guarantee that this will all blow over so fast if you want it to.
I also think that @gretchypoo gave really good, kind advice and I echo it. I encourage you to give it some thought.
On a lighter note, you guys are killing me with all these adorable dog pictures. I just want to squeeze them all. My kids just wrapped our huge yellow lab in a blanket and put a pillow (that I just washed) under his head. They've been hanging and pulling on him all day and his expression is just like "whatever guys." But now, he looks so comfy I'm getting jealous.
Also, my dumbass is just now realizing I need to put the @ symbol in front of people's names.
With the snoogle- DH and I snuggle up to sleep, but we just suck it up when I'm pregnant and need it to get comfortable because he's such a light sleeper that if I'm flipping and squirming to rearrange more snuggle friendly pillows all night he's not going to sleep well anyway. We have found some pretty good ways to twist the snoogle that gives me the support I need, but still lets snuggle up a little.
With back sleeping- until I was pregnant I had never slept on my back so I didn't think I'd have trouble, but wouldn't you know I started waking up like that while I was pregnant. What I found was I could wedge the long part of the snoogle slightly under my back so that I was laying on a slight angle, but it still felt like I was sleeping on my back just without any shortness of breath or numbness.
Repeating something you said seems more like teasing and nothing like bullying. I admit a poster or two here annoy me because they aren't necessarily funny and come across as trying too hard to be snarky. But I just roll my eyes and move on. You don't get to tell people on a public forum to just ignore you if they don't like what you say, of course you could just ignore the comments you don't like too.
@AfKash I went back and read the Cheerios thread (that's the weirdest sentence I've written this week). I see you escalating things very quickly when you feel attacked or hurt. You have (in two threads) attacked and lobbed major accusations against gingersnap for very mild comments/ sarcasm.
I hope you can see that this behavior is inappropriate and really consider what I said earlier. Talking to someone may help.
I'm not sure that all of you have read what was said in the "PSA....PSC" thread. If you haven't, please read that thread first before making your opinion. I shouldn't have to feel like I shouldn't post something because of what one specific person is going to say to me. Regardless of whether you call it "snarky" or "cyber bullying" she has made me feel uncomfortable enough to consider leaving this board. Especially considering that I never said anything to her. I was just trying to diffuse a situation and she made comments against me. If my "worrying" annoys her, she can easily just ignore me. If my worrying annoys anyone else, you can ignore me, too. But you don't have to be sarcastic or snarky. This was supposed to be a place where we can talk, ask questions, and not feel judged. That's not at all what it feels like.
I read the PSA....PSC thread, that's how I know @Gingersnap's joke was funny. You told everyone who is pro-board organization to take a deep breath and then called Gingersnap hormonal (which you apologized for, but you still said it and it was still mean).
You also jumped on @Gingersnap for starting a poll about her floors. Honestly, it seems to me like your on her not the other way around. You can talk and ask questions, but it's a public forum so we can respond however we see fit. Nothing in life is judgement free, how you choose to respond to that judgement isn't in the hands of the people making the judgements, it's in the hands of whoever is being judged. Yes she could "ignore" you, but you posted so she doesn't have to if she chooses not to.
Now that my appetite is back to normal, I want to give meal planning a try. It seems like it'd be a good way to save some money and I like the idea of getting home from work and already knowing what I'm going to cook.
@BumpasaurusRex - are you on the Pinterest? I make a board for each week or month, depending on my ambition. I pin recipes on there, or just general (like, I don't need a recipe for meatloaf for example), and caption it with the day. Like if my board is "September Dinners" if i pin something I have planned for the 10th I will put the day in the caption. At the end of the month/week I pin keepers into my general dinner board and get rid of the ones that were duds. It sounds way complicated but its not. Also, because I don't want people judging how much cheese I consume I keep my meal plan board secret
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Re: Weekly Randoms (8/15)
Kicking our dogs out of our best was the best thing we could have ever done!! I suggest it. I really resisted at first but it turns out space is really really nice! And our dogs adapted quickly.
+1 to the crafting thread. I am happy to take on that one if no one else wants to..
I see NO cyber bullying... just saying, I have nothing more to add about the conversation than that.
@silvercamaro77 I tell my daughter the same thing... "throw your fit and I'll be over here when you are done... mmmKay?" The fits are a lot shorter that way.
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
Also, I was completely wrong: I fell asleep as soon and I settled into the snoogle and didn't toss/turn until I had to pee at 5 a.m.
edit: TB always eats my emojis - insert embarrassed face above
https://americanpregnancy.org/pregnancy-health/depression-during-pregnancy/
That pic does, however, confirm that the snoogle is way too big for my situation. I can't sleep well when separated from H. We're weirdos.
I got a snoogle 2 weeks ago. I like it but I am a lifetime side sleeper and I find it makes the perfect little cup for my back and I end up sleeping on my back every night. I guess it's too early to matter but I'm gonna have to make an effort to turn soon. But it's so nice to wake up without the wrinkles I get from side sleeping and smooshing my face!
I think it's helpful to completely ignore people who don't mesh with your personality. There's always going to be a Regina George and she's always going to have a lot of friends.
(also my quote isn't working....)
I do not think it is fair to underestimate how someone feels about something and then to pile on and say they deserved it. I think we can all agree that @AfKash is sensitive and has admitted that she and her family are going through a very rough time. Let's help and offer solutions and suggestions like the last few posters have vs. making her feel even worse.
Or better yet, if it bothers you that much ignore.
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17
I have.
I would be absolutely sick to my stomach, to the point of throwing up in the morning because I didn't want to go to school.
Because I was systematically taunted by the same group of kids. Later in my school life it happened again when one of my friends decided she didn't like me and I was taunted for MONTHS. They spread vicious, nasty rumors about my family and I, and it was awful.
I would never, EVER inflict that kind of fear and pain upon anyone.
Accusations of bullying are serious. It's not some buzz word to throw around when someone makes two or three comments that you don't like.
Edited for typos.
@Afkash I understand where you are coming from. I have high anxiety and stress about just about the same things as you do. I think for some one who is a worry wart (like me) or has anxiety (also like me) these things are normal. I keep trying to prepare my husband for a teenage daughter, because the idea of having a girl like me stress's me the F out. I'm even already stressing about how we're going to make school work in terms of scheduling...even though that like 5 years away. And what about uniforms and school supplies?? Ugh.
Bottom line, I get it.
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
@Gretchypoo Jake is so cute! Although he would tower over my little Gus-Gus
@Gingersnap idk it could be a compliment. Regina George is fierce.
That it was ironic and funny to me to hear
her telling everyone to relax and take a deep breath, and said "take a deep breath". I mean, come on.
It really just proves my original point.
Bullying is when me two best friends turned on me and became so mean, that my parents lost a $3,000 deposit on sleep away camp because I refused to go spend the summer with those girls.
Bullying is when someone starts a rumor behind your back that you sent naked pictures to the whole football team.
At her absolutely worst @Gingersnap is doing some light hearted teasing. Nothing has been vindictive, mean, or intended to hurt people. I get being sensitive (I cried last night cause SIL suggested hanging a 16x20 Blackhawks poster in the nursery), but big accusations require big ammo to back them up.
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
Also, I sincerely thought @Gingersnap meant "take a deep breath" to be a helpful comment. I do yoga, and yoga breathing very much helps me in stressful situations. This is yet another situation in which text-tone is interpreted by our own perceptions...
@AfKash I think this situation could be greatly helped by some input from you here. This seems to be a case of misunderstanding.
Let's fix this and move on! We are all awesome ladies!
I shouldn't have to feel like I shouldn't post something because of what one specific person is going to say to me. Regardless of whether you call it "snarky" or "cyber bullying" she has made me feel uncomfortable enough to consider leaving this board. Especially considering that I never said anything to her. I was just trying to diffuse a situation and she made comments against me. If my "worrying" annoys her, she can easily just ignore me.
If my worrying annoys anyone else, you can ignore me, too. But you don't have to be sarcastic or snarky.
This was supposed to be a place where we can talk, ask questions, and not feel judged. That's not at all what it feels like.
@AfKash, I tend to be super sensitive and quick to overreact or misinterpret what people say to me so believe me, I get where you're coming from. I also think about my kids being teenagers already and wonder what it will be like because boy oh boy are me and H in for it if our kids end up anything like us as teenagers! Payback is a B. hehe But in all seriousness, even I just thought @Gingersnap was joking with you. Like "busting your balls" as people say or some friendly ribbing.
@Gingersnap, I am truly sorry you had to go through that shit in school. People suck. Girls harrassed and bullied the crap out of me in highschool as well and also spread nasty rumors about me and my family. I feel for you. I used to get physically ill over it too just like you said. Back then, I was very pretty and also extremely shy and quiet so people thought I was a standoffish snob when really I was just painfully shy and self-conscious. But yeah real true bullying is NO joke and anyone who's been through it for real knows the difference.
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
I also think that @gretchypoo gave really good, kind advice and I echo it. I encourage you to give it some thought.
I heard @Gingersnap made out with a hotdog. Her hair is so big because it's full of secrets.
I'm not even due in February, so I DON'T EVEN GO HERE.
Also! Came here to say that I caved at 14 weeks and paid for a gender scan at one of those places. We're for sure having girls!!
Also, my dumbass is just now realizing I need to put the @ symbol in front of people's names.
With back sleeping- until I was pregnant I had never slept on my back so I didn't think I'd have trouble, but wouldn't you know I started waking up like that while I was pregnant. What I found was I could wedge the long part of the snoogle slightly under my back so that I was laying on a slight angle, but it still felt like I was sleeping on my back just without any shortness of breath or numbness.
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
I admit a poster or two here annoy me because they aren't necessarily funny and come across as trying too hard to be snarky. But I just roll my eyes and move on.
You don't get to tell people on a public forum to just ignore you if they don't like what you say, of course you could just ignore the comments you don't like too.
I hope you can see that this behavior is inappropriate and really consider what I said earlier. Talking to someone may help.
You also jumped on @Gingersnap for starting a poll about her floors. Honestly, it seems to me like your on her not the other way around. You can talk and ask questions, but it's a public forum so we can respond however we see fit. Nothing in life is judgement free, how you choose to respond to that judgement isn't in the hands of the people making the judgements, it's in the hands of whoever is being judged. Yes she could "ignore" you, but you posted so she doesn't have to if she chooses not to.
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
Anyone have any tips or tricks?
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17