Was looking for this five minutes ago b/c a bunch of people at work are being TW's.
I have to go in the board room this morning, which is generally not one of my favorite things to do. Finding something to wear that hides my bump is getting harder and harder... So, I'm sausaged into a skirt and already feeling crappy.
When I get to work, there is a voicemail waiting for me asking me to change the deck for the presentation. What deck?!? I haven't even seen one and the meeting is in an hour and a half.
My VP is out (who approved all of my financial models & assumptions) and I'm getting requests to change something fundamental to the profitability of this promotional tactic.
And, I haven't even finished half of my one alloted cup of coffee yet.
My dog is a serious TW currently. Last night she was all over the place just looking for trouble to get into and being a downright brat! My fiancé and I had enough and left the room for 45 minutes - where of course she just waited patiently and quietly for us to come back. She is a huge whiner, she whines at everything but she is usually pretty quiet in the car. This morning she whined the ENTIRE way to doggie daycare....all 35 minutes of the drive. And I have a sedan so that was right in my ear. Grrr
My DH is a great guy but lately he's getting a little on my nerves. He asked me to stop taking unisom which I started taking for nausea but it didn't work and I kept taking b/c it helped me sleep. I get his reasoning, I don't want to be addicted to a sleep aid so I agreed but now he's being annoying about my not sleeping. The last 2 nights I've really struggled sleeping and he gets all pissy when he wakes up at 2am and I'm reading my kindle. This morning he's like I don't get why you have to read your kindle at 2am...
Then I'm dry heaving in the bathroom this morning trying not to full on puke and he walks in and is like "So this probably isn't the best time but what were you thinking for dinner tonight?" I glared at him and was like "you're right not a good time!" He waits until I finish and walk out of the bathroom and is like "Well do you have any ideas now?" That time he just got a glare.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
My dog is a serious TW currently. Last night she was all over the place just looking for trouble to get into and being a downright brat! My fiancé and I had enough and left the room for 45 minutes - where of course she just waited patiently and quietly for us to come back. She is a huge whiner, she whines at everything but she is usually pretty quiet in the car. This morning she whined the ENTIRE way to doggie daycare....all 35 minutes of the drive. And I have a sedan so that was right in my ear. Grrr
@marriedhamstermom I'd be frustrated as hell. You do what's right for you to get through your nausea. Our Hs may mean well but they have no way of knowing what this is like.
Mine does the "so have you thought about dinner" thing too. It's his way of signaling that he doesn't feel like cooking on a given night. When I had MS, I would just say "whatever you feel like obtaining for us" and go to the couch.
@becbec28 I'm glad someone does! I don't have it handy but there's a meme and its like "what I thought getting a puppy would be like" and its a picture of a cute little black lab. Then next to it it says "what it's actually like" and there's a picture of a t-rex....accurately sums up my house.
My DH is a great guy but lately he's getting a little on my nerves. He asked me to stop taking unisom which I started taking for nausea but it didn't work and I kept taking b/c it helped me sleep. I get his reasoning, I don't want to be addicted to a sleep aid so I agreed but now he's being annoying about my not sleeping. The last 2 nights I've really struggled sleeping and he gets all pissy when he wakes up at 2am and I'm reading my kindle. This morning he's like I don't get why you have to read your kindle at 2am...
Then I'm dry heaving in the bathroom this morning trying not to full on puke and he walks in and is like "So this probably isn't the best time but what were you thinking for dinner tonight?" I glared at him and was like "you're right not a good time!" He waits until I finish and walk out of the bathroom and is like "Well do you have any ideas now?" That time he just got a glare.
Junk punch. One for having anything at all to say about what you do with your body while pregnant. One for having anything to say about what you do at 2 am while fighting insomnia (hello I'm sure you'd rather be asleep). Another for the "what's for dinner?" comment. I can't even. This would make me so ragey! Grr. My husband is an asshat lately too. Solidarity.
I never usually do these but... My husbands boss is a TW. One of the reasons he accepted this position a year ago and moved us to this awful place was because of the salary they promised him in writing. One bump at 6 months and a second bump at one year. Well here we are at one year and my husband has had to ask for his salary adjustment at least 6 times since his 6 month expected pay bump never happened.
Not only do I hate living here but his job makes him work crazy hours AND they're not paying him what they promised. I'm super bummed about it all right now.
I came on to complain about my DH because he's so stressed and refuses to make a plan to not be stressed. And he gets resentful that I'm not running around to feed the stressmonster.
We have an appraisal today, something that I arranged as part of the refi that will lower our mortgage payment and make it easier for me to transition to a SAHM. I have spreadsheets guys. I have math and a plan. I set it all up and it's been weeks in the making. DH had a few things on his honey do list to be ready for the appraisal that he waited till last night to start. So he was still working on it this morning too. And I am on my normal schedule of going to bed early and getting up early to leave for work and I'm not getting sucked into his crazy. He had weeks. #bitchywife
The wedding hair people for this weekend's events are twatwaffles. They gave me first appointment of the day, 7:15, for a 2:00 pm wedding. I won't be able to nap. I won't be able to participate in the yoga activity that happens around 9:00 am (and I love yoga). I won't even be able to recline. I will just sit there awkwardly, for 7 hours, waiting for my turn to be a wedding prop. Ugh.
They also sent me the most condescending email about how I "better be on time" to avoid "stressing out the bride." Hello! Adult woman here who's paying you a lot of money. You don't need to talk to me that way. I'll be at your ridiculously early appointment, just chill. I'm so annoyed they prepaid our gratuity.
My husband is my twatwaffle nomination this week. His puppy was crying every hour to go out to potty last night. Finally after the fourth time of me getting up to let him out then chasing him around the yard when he didn't want to go back in his kennel, I decided it was dh's turn.
So I wake him out and tell him to let his dog out. He comes back up less than a minute later and climbs back in bed. I ask him if he just left the dogs outside and he says "Jesus, if you wake me up you have to tell me exactly what you want me to do or I'm not gonna do it." So I called him a dick, took care of the dogs, and laid wide awake in bed until my alarm went off an hour later.
Wow! Husbands are major TW today!! Add my husband to the list, too. So, I wear a piece of gauze with Neosporin on the bridge of my nose still because the doctor told me to keep it covered. The longer I can keep it covered, the less likely it will scar. Also, because I wear glasses and if that gauze is not there, my glasses will irritate the new skin. Well, my husband has been asking me repeatedly to stop wearing the gauze. Last night, I found out that he wants me to be stop wearing it because he's sick of seeing me with it!!! I wanted to punch him in the nose.
Also, he keeps pressuring me to eat stuff even though he knows I can't keep anything down!! Garrrrrr!!
My twatwaffle is the secretary at the OB clinic. She cancelled my apointment 3 weeks ago and re-scheduled it for today. On the message she left me, she said it was for 11:30. So I show up here promptly at 11:15 and I'm told it's actually at noon. So now i'm awkwardly sitting between a little girl and her mom and an older woman holding my pee cup for the next 30 minutes.
************* First BFP: 12/16/13 EDD: 08/23/14 Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
@xstatic3333 - I always thought the bride was supposed to be the first appt because she's got so much shit to do and has no time for naps and yoga. You should see if she wants to switch.
@ohstars apparently she has a later appointment so that the photographer can get pictures of it. The thing I don't understand is why I'm about four hours earlier than the MOH, the only other BM who wanted an updo (separated by a few family members). It just makes me feel like I'm getting the short end of the stick, but there have been other issues with this wedding so there's also a very strong chance I'm just being oversensitive.
I think I complain about work every week, sorry guys. My product owner is yet again the TW. He never checks his own crap and sends out condescending emails and never admits he's wrong even when we have it in writing, from him. This kind of crap makes my top 3 of why I will be quitting this job in February. Because everything is obviously my fault. *face punch*
Also, everyone's husbands and the horrible behavior this week is just baffling. Is it a full moon or something?
My son's school is the twat waffles. Apparently Friday two kids were almost abducted outside his school and then other kid was almost taken from the high school right up the street. I found out from a friend posting a news article on facebook. There is a major intersection a block from the school and because it is that distance the school does not have a teacher make sure kids get across it safely. I do not know exatly where the kids were almost taken from, but makes me more angry that there aren't teachers at this intersection for situations like this and making sure kids get across it safely. The school said they sent out emails. We never got one. I'll be calling today to find out why. Their communication this year has been horrible so far and this just sent me through the roof this morning.
We have two sleeping beauties in heaven. Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016. Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015. They will be forever missed.
@ohstars we are life twins!!! I'm currently doing all our refi paperwork and trying to get my H to stop binge shopping so we look like rich people on paper.
My TW is the heat wave....it has been going almost 2 weeks straight now....Gross! And it makes me feel like crap. I've been living by the AC and can't even roll the windows down in the car, so the AC has been cranking on my drives too. The heat storms have been pretty cool to watch though....can't wait until the oppressive heat warnings finally go away
My TW is my steep, wooden staircase from hell! I was carrying my laundry down and slipped and slid on my butt and back all the way down! My whole back and arm is bruised. Thank god I wasn't carrying my son. I'm fine but damn has that ruined my day
@bdesterhouse Can the city/town put a crossing guard there? (If there are enough kids using it to get home)
I would be angry if kids were almost abducted near the school and I had to hear it from someone other than the school. My son's school was so serious about communication I got constant emails and calls about everything. (And he was in highschool)
My son's school is the twat waffles. Apparently Friday two kids were almost abducted outside his school and then other kid was almost taken from the high school right up the street. I found out from a friend posting a news article on facebook. There is a major intersection a block from the school and because it is that distance the school does not have a teacher make sure kids get across it safely. I do not know exatly where the kids were almost taken from, but makes me more angry that there aren't teachers at this intersection for situations like this and making sure kids get across it safely. The school said they sent out emails. We never got one. I'll be calling today to find out why. Their communication this year has been horrible so far and this just sent me through the roof this morning.
So I would make sure they have your right email, so many times I try to email or call a parent and find out we have old info, cause no one updates it.
This is sucks though...
Yeah the district would should higher a school crossing guard, but sadly with budget cuts and no one wanting to pay more in taxes it means a lot of those safety things were cut out and teachers are overworked already, so unless a teach volunteers sadly it will not happen. I know at our school we have of school meetings before the school starts, so a teacher could not even go and do it cause we need to be at that meeting.
TW #1 today is my husband for forgetting to lock his car in the driveway last night. And also for keeping our checkbook in his car TW #2 is the person who went thru his entire car overnight and found the hidden checkbook, probably stealing several checks or at least writing down our account number.
@ohstars we are life twins!!! I'm currently doing all our refi paperwork and trying to get my H to stop binge shopping so we look like rich people on paper.
Sometimes I feel like me and your husband would get along swimmingly
@ohstars we are life twins!!! I'm currently doing all our refi paperwork and trying to get my H to stop binge shopping so we look like rich people on paper.
Sometimes I feel like me and your husband would get along swimmingly
But you buy like a handful of things that are spendy and not 400 bux worth of snack from Costco
@ohstars we are life twins!!! I'm currently doing all our refi paperwork and trying to get my H to stop binge shopping so we look like rich people on paper.
Sometimes I feel like me and your husband would get along swimmingly
But you buy like a handful of things that are spendy and not 400 bux worth of snack from Costco
My TW is my steep, wooden staircase from hell! I was carrying my laundry down and slipped and slid on my butt and back all the way down! My whole back and arm is bruised. Thank god I wasn't carrying my son. I'm fine but damn has that ruined my day
My TW is my friend who is here to visit. I haven't seen this betch in like a year, because she moved like 3 states away. Hubby asks me yesterday if I've heard from her, I said no, and he goes on to tell me that she's apparently been in town for a few days and thought I would've heard from her by now. Fast forward to 10 minutes ago, she texts me and asks when I get off (she knows I get off at 5, I ALWAYS get off at 5, every weekday, for the last 4 years). She's like "Oh, cool, well I want to see you today"
So now I'm really mad, because I want to see her, but I have to go grocery shopping after work, and then it'll be dinner time, and I already have dinner plans...and then it'll be like 8:00pm, and I had other things I wanted to do this evening. Ugh. I guess she's just gonna have to be ok with coming over after 8:00pm, and getting the F out by 9:30 (my bedtime). Why can't people ever give me a heads up to things?! Like, why couldn't she have texted me yesterday and asked if we could hang today?? ugghhh.
My son's school is the twat waffles. Apparently Friday two kids were almost abducted outside his school and then other kid was almost taken from the high school right up the street. I found out from a friend posting a news article on facebook. There is a major intersection a block from the school and because it is that distance the school does not have a teacher make sure kids get across it safely. I do not know exatly where the kids were almost taken from, but makes me more angry that there aren't teachers at this intersection for situations like this and making sure kids get across it safely. The school said they sent out emails. We never got one. I'll be calling today to find out why. Their communication this year has been horrible so far and this just sent me through the roof this morning.
@bdesterhouse this is horrible and so scary. I agree with PP that you should make sure your school and district office has the correct contact information for you. Sometimes the school will have the right number/address, but the district office will have an old or incorrect one, so you'll get some communications and not others.
The other thing I will add is that frequently, the school is not allowed to comment on an ongoing investigation. I teach in a school that is frequently in the news due to tragedy and scandal, and we are frequently not allowed to communicate with parents and students about things that are under investigation. I understand why the parents of our students become upset, but sometimes it's better not to feed the rumor mill, you know?
I'm sorry for all the TWs today, especially all the H's. I have 2 this week.
The first is a friend of mine who I decided to confide in about how low I'm really feeling right now about everything that's going on. I've tried to just keep it light with people IRL, but thought I could trust this person with more of my real feelings. Guess not. Big mistake. "Friend" hasn't spoken to me since and has continued to ignore me even after I sincerely apologized for sharing such intense thoughts (that she obviously couldn't handle.) I'm over it, but it's still disappointing.
The second is my attempt at finding a new therapist. I had a great one for years back where I used to live and she was awesome. It really helped me to be able to talk to her every week. This experience I'm about to describe made me miss her so much more. I was referred to one in this area who I saw only once and instantly felt uncomfortable. Something just felt off. Didn't help that she kept me waiting for an hour to see her without a care in the world, couldn't get my name right and told me she had already lost all of my new patient registration info. Anyway, I found a different one almost immediately (who seems pretty good so far) and politely informed this other one I wouldn't be continuing to see her. She took it personally and was so insulted that I didn't want to see her anymore. So she starting texting me all this crazy crap like how I'm inconsiderate, disrespectful, play the victim role and I have no regard for others. She also told me to "save my drama for make believe." Ummm okay HAHA what a professional.
I know right? I was like wtf? Such a strange reaction. I actually did report her. My PCP referred me to a program who helps pregnant and postpartum moms who are dealing with traumatic situations and already struggling with depression/anxiety and they were the ones who referred me to this fool lol so I contacted the director of the program immediately. She was foolish enough to blast me like that through text messages too so I have it all in writing. Yeah they were NOT happy in the least to hear how she treated me. How and if they will do anything to handle it, I don't know, but I'll be happy even if they simply refrain from referring any other clients to this person. No one should have to deal with that.
School is a TW. I'm trying to finish my bachelors and I have no energy for anything. All of my classes are online but I just want to sleep instead of read a textbook. I don't know how I'm going to do this when the baby comes.
I was thinking the same thing, she seemed unstable herself which was disturbing to me considering the profession she's in. I told her I didn't appreciate her treating me the way she did and that she was really stressing me out at a time when I obviously don't need any additional stress and this is what she said, copied and pasted right from my texts:
"Your stress is a result of being held accountable. You will be fine. A bit of distress indicates that changes in behavior need to happen. You cannot be successful yourself until you show regard for others.
You are being treated just like everyone else.
Develop some self respect, treat others fairly. You will feel better about yourself."
After that I stopped responding and contacted the director of the program.
Re: Twatwaffle Tuesday 8/16
I have to go in the board room this morning, which is generally not one of my favorite things to do. Finding something to wear that hides my bump is getting harder and harder... So, I'm sausaged into a skirt and already feeling crappy.
When I get to work, there is a voicemail waiting for me asking me to change the deck for the presentation. What deck?!? I haven't even seen one and the meeting is in an hour and a half.
My VP is out (who approved all of my financial models & assumptions) and I'm getting requests to change something fundamental to the profitability of this promotional tactic.
And, I haven't even finished half of my one alloted cup of coffee yet.
Then I'm dry heaving in the bathroom this morning trying not to full on puke and he walks in and is like "So this probably isn't the best time but what were you thinking for dinner tonight?" I glared at him and was like "you're right not a good time!" He waits until I finish and walk out of the bathroom and is like "Well do you have any ideas now?" That time he just got a glare.
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Sounds a lot like my dog. I feel for you!
Married: 9/2013
Love my LEO!!
TTC #1: 9/2015
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Mine does the "so have you thought about dinner" thing too. It's his way of signaling that he doesn't feel like cooking on a given night. When I had MS, I would just say "whatever you feel like obtaining for us" and go to the couch.
Not only do I hate living here but his job makes him work crazy hours AND they're not paying him what they promised. I'm super bummed about it all right now.
I came on to complain about my DH because he's so stressed and refuses to make a plan to not be stressed. And he gets resentful that I'm not running around to feed the stressmonster.
We have an appraisal today, something that I arranged as part of the refi that will lower our mortgage payment and make it easier for me to transition to a SAHM. I have spreadsheets guys. I have math and a plan. I set it all up and it's been weeks in the making. DH had a few things on his honey do list to be ready for the appraisal that he waited till last night to start. So he was still working on it this morning too. And I am on my normal schedule of going to bed early and getting up early to leave for work and I'm not getting sucked into his crazy. He had weeks. #bitchywife
They also sent me the most condescending email about how I "better be on time" to avoid "stressing out the bride." Hello! Adult woman here who's paying you a lot of money. You don't need to talk to me that way. I'll be at your ridiculously early appointment, just chill. I'm so annoyed they prepaid our gratuity.
So I wake him out and tell him to let his dog out. He comes back up less than a minute later and climbs back in bed. I ask him if he just left the dogs outside and he says "Jesus, if you wake me up you have to tell me exactly what you want me to do or I'm not gonna do it." So I called him a dick, took care of the dogs, and laid wide awake in bed until my alarm went off an hour later.
Add my husband to the list, too.
So, I wear a piece of gauze with Neosporin on the bridge of my nose still because the doctor told me to keep it covered. The longer I can keep it covered, the less likely it will scar. Also, because I wear glasses and if that gauze is not there, my glasses will irritate the new skin.
Well, my husband has been asking me repeatedly to stop wearing the gauze. Last night, I found out that he wants me to be stop wearing it because he's sick of seeing me with it!!! I wanted to punch him in the nose.
Also, he keeps pressuring me to eat stuff even though he knows I can't keep anything down!! Garrrrrr!!
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
Also, everyone's husbands and the horrible behavior this week is just baffling. Is it a full moon or something?
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
I would be angry if kids were almost abducted near the school and I had to hear it from someone other than the school. My son's school was so serious about communication I got constant emails and calls about everything. (And he was in highschool)
This is sucks though...
Yeah the district would should higher a school crossing guard, but sadly with budget cuts and no one wanting to pay more in taxes it means a lot of those safety things were cut out and teachers are overworked already, so unless a teach volunteers sadly it will not happen. I know at our school we have of school meetings before the school starts, so a teacher could not even go and do it cause we need to be at that meeting.
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TW #2 is the person who went thru his entire car overnight and found the hidden checkbook, probably stealing several checks or at least writing down our account number.
UGH!
My TW is my friend who is here to visit. I haven't seen this betch in like a year, because she moved like 3 states away. Hubby asks me yesterday if I've heard from her, I said no, and he goes on to tell me that she's apparently been in town for a few days and thought I would've heard from her by now. Fast forward to 10 minutes ago, she texts me and asks when I get off (she knows I get off at 5, I ALWAYS get off at 5, every weekday, for the last 4 years). She's like "Oh, cool, well I want to see you today"
So now I'm really mad, because I want to see her, but I have to go grocery shopping after work, and then it'll be dinner time, and I already have dinner plans...and then it'll be like 8:00pm, and I had other things I wanted to do this evening. Ugh. I guess she's just gonna have to be ok with coming over after 8:00pm, and getting the F out by 9:30 (my bedtime). Why can't people ever give me a heads up to things?! Like, why couldn't she have texted me yesterday and asked if we could hang today?? ugghhh.
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
The other thing I will add is that frequently, the school is not allowed to comment on an ongoing investigation. I teach in a school that is frequently in the news due to tragedy and scandal, and we are frequently not allowed to communicate with parents and students about things that are under investigation. I understand why the parents of our students become upset, but sometimes it's better not to feed the rumor mill, you know?
I hope this situation gets figured out soon
The first is a friend of mine who I decided to confide in about how low I'm really feeling right now about everything that's going on. I've tried to just keep it light with people IRL, but thought I could trust this person with more of my real feelings. Guess not. Big mistake. "Friend" hasn't spoken to me since and has continued to ignore me even after I sincerely apologized for sharing such intense thoughts (that she obviously couldn't handle.) I'm over it, but it's still disappointing.
The second is my attempt at finding a new therapist. I had a great one for years back where I used to live and she was awesome. It really helped me to be able to talk to her every week. This experience I'm about to describe made me miss her so much more. I was referred to one in this area who I saw only once and instantly felt uncomfortable. Something just felt off. Didn't help that she kept me waiting for an hour to see her without a care in the world, couldn't get my name right and told me she had already lost all of my new patient registration info. Anyway, I found a different one almost immediately (who seems pretty good so far) and politely informed this other one I wouldn't be continuing to see her. She took it personally and was so insulted that I didn't want to see her anymore. So she starting texting me all this crazy crap like how I'm inconsiderate, disrespectful, play the victim role and I have no regard for others. She also told me to "save my drama for make believe." Ummm okay HAHA what a professional.
Can you report her @Jab3? That's crazy unprofessional.
After that I stopped responding and contacted the director of the program.