@annabenanna AMEN!!!! I'm tired of comments from strangers, friends, DH, anyone.
Im tired of ordering a sandwich and someone automatically asking if I want it heated. I make DH pick up our COOKED sushi because I don't wanna be judged for eating it.
Everyone wants to comment when u r pregnant and it sucks
@annabenanna I ended up at a formal event Saturday night with half my doctors office. They all told me to have a glass of wine. I chickened out. Maybe later on....I can't wait, and I say you enjoy those couple sips of wine!!
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
RIght @MKJeffrey2002? Especially from friends and people WHO KNOW US. I'm tempted to sometimes say "are you kidding me? you know I've done my research and I know what the heck I'm doing. back off!"
It's not just hormones that makes a pregnant woman crazy and hormonal... it's the people around her!!!
@annabenanna Word! That's been my bitchfest a few times too, and it will probably continue to be until I have the kid. Then it will be all the unsolicited advice about my baby probably.
@ibabyloveb87 - wow, I need an OB who will make me feel good about drinking a few sips for wine.
@SpaceBurger, OMG. I didn't even think about all the unsolicited advice we are going to continue to get when this baby is here! I don't know what is worst!!! The pregnancy comments or the parenting comments. LOL
I'm tired of suffering hurtful comments about my size and weight from my own parents. It's bad enough that strangers and co-workers make comments, but my parents should know better. They were over for dinner last night and my aunt made a comment about someone's bump looking like a basketball. My dad turned to me and told me that I had a whole basketball court. WTF? Who says that to someone they care about?
@annabenanna I was too stunned to say anything but I plan to let him know that he's not allowed to talk to me that way in my own house. He won't be welcome here for the rest of this pregnancy if he can't keep that crap to himself. I just don't understand what is wrong with people. I NEVER make comments about other people's bodies, pregnant or not, unless it is to complement their appearance.
@ball4768 Family can be the absolute worst! They think they're being helpful, but it's really incredibly rude and hurtful.
@annabenanna I was thinking that exact thought today, I can't wait until my body is mine again. My cousin is sending me some baby clothes and there's a onesie among the mix that says, "my mom doesn't care what you think." I may dress the kid in that every single day.
Surprisingly, I haven't gotten a single comment or dirty look regarding my food or drink choices. I was very good with DS about everything that went in/on my body, and ended up with listeriosis at 40 weeks anyway from mother-effing ICE CREAM. Which led to tons of IV antibiotics for both of us and a 5 day special care nursery stay for DS. I guess they did make me stay on the IV 5 days too.
So this time I've (more or less) thrown caution to the wind and I eat raw fish and have ordered wine several times at restaurants. I drink about 1/2-1/4 glass (depending on the pour) but I've still expected someone to do or say something.
@annabenanna - yes, listeria is the bacteria and listeriosis is the illness caused by it. Uncontrollable vomiting...like every 5-10 minutes for hours. Luckily (?) symptoms started for me one day before my due date, because the vomiting put me into labor. It sucked- they had to take DS away pretty much right after I delivered and kept him in the nursery on IV fluids and IV antibiotics. I had a high fever, the antibiotics were hard on my veins...it was not ideal. But everyone turned out ok.
my monday bitchfest is directed at SO. I bought him Paul McCartney tickets as a gift and now he can't go... it's this Thursday and these cost me and arm and a leg....here's hoping I can resell
@annabenanna hahaha I love that picture. In my house we call that face the spider face because it's the face you make when you see a giant spider. It originated from this MASSIVE spider outside my college dorm room that ATE CEREAL that we had thrown into its web. It was so nasty.
yuck @spiders. I have had an unreal number of spiders in my house recently. The bigger house spiders...seriously you guys I find 1-3 per day, mostly in my entryway but lately in my bathroom too. In fact we used to spray for ants & spiders 4x/year because it was so infested when we moved in years ago, but we backed down to 2x/year because things improved. Usually we would spray next month but I am delaying until after DD gets here (also because DS won't be playing outside as much).
Spiders make me shiver. We also get them in our bathroom. Like in through drains or something? Either way, I wish they and their earwig friends would stay out.
Ugh, spiders are my nemesis. I am terrified of them. And why do they always show up in the shower, right before I step in all bleary-eyed from sleep and not wearing my glasses. *shudder* oh! now I have goosebumps all over just thinking about it.
I also just recently attended my last show too (LCD Soundsystem) so I feel your pain! I would be super upset if the same thing happened!
My BF today is for my own self! I have zero libido but I miss sex so much. I can't even understand why I have those two contradictory feelings. My pelvic spasms do not help - I'm sort of scared that any action will hurt like heck. I could tell DH wanted some last night but I couldn't do it. ...
@sportiegrl1213-so glad you're okay! I fell a couple days ago and luckily landed on a large pack of T.P. I was carrying - otherwise would have landed on my belly! The rolls are no longer "rolly" - now they're oblong, but they saved me!!!
@Blonde1817 & @CopperBoom86- I too have struggled with anxiety and panic attacks, but have discovered that running was my cure (after trying a HUGE variety of psychoactive meds). I haven't been able to run in a while (round ligament pain), but I'm walking and meditating and so far so good. I send you good vibes and wishes for anxiety-free days!
@annabenanna- I plan on imbibing in a bit of vino here and there now that I'm in my 3rd tri. It is just such bullshit when others judge us for (educated) decisions that WE make. A small amount of wine or beer later in pregnancy is NOT something to get upset about... I can't wait to belly-up to the bar and order a glass and DARE someone to say something!!!
My BF is simply fart-related. They are trapped and they hurt! That is all for today. = )
Update on my fall... Was feeling ok all day... Knees were sore but not horrible.... But now I can hardly move or bend my left knee. It's so sore and painful. Ugh. Again grateful, because it could have been worse!!!
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
My BF is Monday in general. This work day was so hectic, I had to be at two different offices, then my team had a million questions, followed by an afternoon client meeting that I sat through with a migraine. Got home put on sweats and ordered in. Told DH no adulting tonight, no talk of work, our upcoming move or his classes he's taking! Ugh nothing overly bad just one of those days!!
@annabenanna I usually just take a joking tone and ask them when they got their MD in obstetrics. That usually shuts them up.
I have more of the same bitchfesf of DH basically not seeing anything that needs done. Tomorrow is DD's first day of 2nd grade. We had her laundry to put away after her open house and she was having tummy troubles (either nerves or heartburn or both) so it took over an hour to get her to bed. Meanwhile all of our clean laundry from last week is sitting in baskets on the bed and DH was watching was TV. Wth dude! Do you not see all those clothes to put away? Do you think the magic laundry fairy comes by and folds them? Ugh.
Then I stepped in dog piss and was done. I finished getting ready for bed with zero fucks and started bumping. DH has tried to talk to me about random stuff but I'm still just too ticked off to care.
Countdown to Baby H! Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
My BF is about my mom, who has been taking about throwing me a shower for the past several months and has yet to choose a date...!! I texted last week asking if she still was wanting to do one, and if so what date she had in mind so I could book it off work (I work every day but Sunday). I also asked if it was possible to be before Sept 26, as that's a month before my due date & I don't want to be uncomfortable... she replied "that's totally fine sweetie! Yes of course that makes sense! I'll let you know this week!"
She texted me back yesterday, saying "Wow, I literally have one free day to do it in that short of a window! How about Friday, September 9, at 8:00pm?"
,..........
My mom is RETIRED. my dad works from home. She literally had nothing else going on in her life. Besides that, who has a baby shower on a Friday night at 8?! Will it be an hour long?? I'm in bed by freaking 9:30. And she lives in the middle of nowherere!
Of course it bothers me that this is bothering me at all, cause it's an honor to have a shower thrown at all, so I feel like a selfish bitch. So here come my other selfish thoughts. i was engaged for a year before deciding to elope in 2015, and no one ever suggested throwing me a bridal shower or bachelorette party. I didn't even really mind that much, but now that I'm pregnant, and we could really use some support, it just makes me feel like I am not worth being blessed with something like that from anyone. To make matters more complicated, I'm an event planner, and host several showers/parties a year for these people just cause i love to do it! I DON'T feel like anyone owes me a party -not what I'm saying-, it just adds to the weirdness of feeling like something is missing or one-sided.
@Kittens22... All of that sucks. For your friends... Maybe they're worried about throwing a shower that isn't good enough for an event planner? I'd be open/honest with your mom and let her know that's not a typical time for a shower and, given the short notice for guests, are there any daytime activities that have a flexible schedule she could move to accommodate a daytime shower. I'd hope if you let her know that you're stressing about all the stuff that needs purchasing and know y'all need help, she'd try a little harder to accommodate more dates. Also, re: the short notice comment... That would annoy the shit out of me. Your 6+ months pregnant. That's not what short notice looks like lol
@sportiegrl1213 I'm glad you and baby are ok! Sorry you're in pain but hopefully that goes away soon.
I feel the other day down my front porch steps but I landed on my butt and I was more embarrassed than hurt because I had neighbors outside talking to SO at the time.
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+ BFP: 03/10 First Baby: 10/20/2016
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
@annabenanna you just reminded me of my gf at my shower. She lost a bunch of weight (personally I think a bit too much) but she comes to me and asks me what exercise I'm doing, which I response "does sitting on my ass count?!" And she started giving me this speech about how I should be exercising which I laugh and pointed to my seriously swollen feet. But nope she wants me to go frolic in a pool with her - which I said fine cause at that moment I was over heating so a cool pool sounded nice. Seriously woman though - do you honestly think it is safe for me to start working out 32 weeks pregnant when I haven't done anything before or during??? Uh no!
@NoraAurora ugh we had the same problem when we moved into our house. DH even just sprayed again a couple weekends ago but we've still been finding spiders in the bathroom. We've been having A LOT of rain here, I think the dampness makes them come out. So gross.
@annabenanna Ohhh I just had empathy rage for you! What is wrong with people?!
My (late) bitchfest. DH & I had a marriage counseling appt yesterday and when I asked if he was coming, I got "Crap babe, I forgot. I'm at the dealership." So....he missed our appt because he "forgot" and instead went to look at a new truck. Because obviously that is what we need right now.
@Alikvasnok, i heard/read that in NY, it is now illegal to REFUSE a pregnant woman a drink at a bar. When I go to restaurants, I still feel that little bit of guilt when I ask for a glass of wine.
@Kaessi, i'm sorry, that sucks. Maybe DH has pregnancy brain too?
@sportiegrl1213, ijust read back a few pages, omg, i'm so glad you're okay and the baby is okay!
@bnsmith85 thank you!!!! Thank you for replying and making me feel better especially when I feel so selfish and stupid... i do need to have an honest conversation with her. I guess I've been scared to reply cause I don't want my annoyance to come through especially if I'm not sure it's 100% justified. But I will though. Lol@ the "short notice" too... we told them in April we were pregnant!!
@sportiegrl1213 are you feeling any better? I hope your ok!!
@kittens my left knee is very sore but I'm hoping with continuing to ice and elevate it, it'l be better soon. I really don't want to have to get it checked when there isn't much I can do about it right now. Other than that I'm feeling better. I went home yesterday and napped and relaxed. That definitely shook me up. Thank you for asking!
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
@kittens22 - I can kinda relate with the shower thing. I'm due Oct 1st and 3 days ago my aunt was talking about throwing a "sprinkle" (2nd baby) and that she really wants to plan it for September 24th. As in, one week before my due date. I have been perfectly happy knowing that I'm not going to have a shower this time around, and we've been saving money since first tri to buy the necessaries for number two. But we were at a family get together and my mom and aunts seemed to really be into the idea, so I said yes to just a family brunch thing - and it actually sounds nice (and bonus if I get some help with the registry stuff).
So she texts me yesterday and tells me that actually the 24th won't work because my mom works (at 3 pm! eff you mom) and no other dates in September work. So now I'm a little disappointed, and of course irritated with my dumb mom (we aren't close...). And I was totally happy with no baby event in the first place. Ugh.
@bnsmith85 - probably but my aunt would be worried about my mom's feelings being hurt. The dumb thing is that my mom doesn't leave to go to work until 2:15-2:30 at the earliest, and I'm assuming "brunch" would mean 11-12 start time. And my mom lives 5 min from my aunt's, which is 10 min from her job. I really am cool with not having anything so it's not a subject I'm even willing to push for, it's just annoying because I was warming to the idea (even though it's a week from my due date) and then I get a BS reason for it not happening. First world problems
Re: Monday Bitchfest 8/15
Im tired of ordering a sandwich and someone automatically asking if I want it heated. I make DH pick up our COOKED sushi because I don't wanna be judged for eating it.
Everyone wants to comment when u r pregnant and it sucks
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
It's not just hormones that makes a pregnant woman crazy and hormonal... it's the people around her!!!
@SpaceBurger, OMG. I didn't even think about all the unsolicited advice we are going to continue to get when this baby is here! I don't know what is worst!!! The pregnancy comments or the parenting comments. LOL
@annabenanna I was thinking that exact thought today, I can't wait until my body is mine again. My cousin is sending me some baby clothes and there's a onesie among the mix that says, "my mom doesn't care what you think." I may dress the kid in that every single day.
So this time I've (more or less) thrown caution to the wind and I eat raw fish and have ordered wine several times at restaurants. I drink about 1/2-1/4 glass (depending on the pour) but I've still expected someone to do or say something.
@nataliemaephotography, I may just do this from now on every time I feel like someone is about to say something.
I have no fear of spiders....but I fear cockroaches to the highest level. I cannot stand them!
I just saw him in St. Louis on Saturday, and Cincy last month. And another 15 or so times over the last 10 years.
Sadly, not going to anymore shows this summer. Are they good seats? I'd try posting in the Facebook event page for the show.
But, make it clear to your husband that he's really, REALLY missing out.
My BF today is for my own self! I have zero libido but I miss sex so much. I can't even understand why I have those two contradictory feelings. My pelvic spasms do not help - I'm sort of scared that any action will hurt like heck. I could tell DH wanted some last night but I couldn't do it. ...
@sportiegrl1213-so glad you're okay! I fell a couple days ago and luckily landed on a large pack of T.P. I was carrying - otherwise would have landed on my belly! The rolls are no longer "rolly" - now they're oblong, but they saved me!!!
@Blonde1817 & @CopperBoom86- I too have struggled with anxiety and panic attacks, but have discovered that running was my cure (after trying a HUGE variety of psychoactive meds). I haven't been able to run in a while (round ligament pain), but I'm walking and meditating and so far so good. I send you good vibes and wishes for anxiety-free days!
@annabenanna- I plan on imbibing in a bit of vino here and there now that I'm in my 3rd tri. It is just such bullshit when others judge us for (educated) decisions that WE make. A small amount of wine or beer later in pregnancy is NOT something to get upset about... I can't wait to belly-up to the bar and order a glass and DARE someone to say something!!!
My BF is simply fart-related. They are trapped and they hurt! That is all for today. = )
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
I have more of the same bitchfesf of DH basically not seeing anything that needs done. Tomorrow is DD's first day of 2nd grade. We had her laundry to put away after her open house and she was having tummy troubles (either nerves or heartburn or both) so it took over an hour to get her to bed. Meanwhile all of our clean laundry from last week is sitting in baskets on the bed and DH was watching was TV. Wth dude! Do you not see all those clothes to put away? Do you think the magic laundry fairy comes by and folds them? Ugh.
Then I stepped in dog piss and was done. I finished getting ready for bed with zero fucks and started bumping. DH has tried to talk to me about random stuff but I'm still just too ticked off to care.
Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
Team Blue!
She texted me back yesterday, saying "Wow, I literally have one free day to do it in that short of a window! How about Friday, September 9, at 8:00pm?"
,..........
My mom is RETIRED. my dad works from home. She literally had nothing else going on in her life. Besides that, who has a baby shower on a Friday night at 8?! Will it be an hour long?? I'm in bed by freaking 9:30. And she lives in the middle of nowherere!
Of course it bothers me that this is bothering me at all, cause it's an honor to have a shower thrown at all, so I feel like a selfish bitch. So here come my other selfish thoughts. i was engaged for a year before deciding to elope in 2015, and no one ever suggested throwing me a bridal shower or bachelorette party. I didn't even really mind that much, but now that I'm pregnant, and we could really use some support, it just makes me feel like I am not worth being blessed with something like that from anyone. To make matters more complicated, I'm an event planner, and host several showers/parties a year for these people just cause i love to do it! I DON'T feel like anyone owes me a party -not what I'm saying-, it just adds to the weirdness of feeling like something is missing or one-sided.
I'd be open/honest with your mom and let her know that's not a typical time for a shower and, given the short notice for guests, are there any daytime activities that have a flexible schedule she could move to accommodate a daytime shower. I'd hope if you let her know that you're stressing about all the stuff that needs purchasing and know y'all need help, she'd try a little harder to accommodate more dates.
Also, re: the short notice comment... That would annoy the shit out of me. Your 6+ months pregnant. That's not what short notice looks like lol
I feel the other day down my front porch steps but I landed on my butt and I was more embarrassed than hurt because I had neighbors outside talking to SO at the time.
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+
BFP: 03/10
First Baby: 10/20/2016
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
My (late) bitchfest. DH & I had a marriage counseling appt yesterday and when I asked if he was coming, I got "Crap babe, I forgot. I'm at the dealership." So....he missed our appt because he "forgot" and instead went to look at a new truck. Because obviously that is what we need right now.
@Kaessi, i'm sorry, that sucks.
@sportiegrl1213, ijust read back a few pages, omg, i'm so glad you're okay and the baby is okay!
@sportiegrl1213 are you feeling any better? I hope your ok!!
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
So she texts me yesterday and tells me that actually the 24th won't work because my mom works (at 3 pm! eff you mom) and no other dates in September work. So now I'm a little disappointed, and of course irritated with my dumb mom (we aren't close...). And I was totally happy with no baby event in the first place. Ugh.