@SaraRose83 You're not being irrational. I would be upset also if no one had pictures from my baby shower. I'm sorry I could understand how important that would be especially with your dad. Are you sure no one at all has any? Hugs
I'm not much of a crier, but I teared up today when I went home for lunch. I have been having such a hard time not being annoyed about the little stuff with DH lately. I love and appreciate him all the time.. but I keep getting unnecessarily frustrated at so many nonsense things. Que me coming home for lunch today. He has every Monday off and always has lunch waiting for me when I get home. We lightly argue a little about our phone bill (SO STUPID) because neither of us understand it or the explanation for the recent increase. Anyway, I snap at him and he snaps at me yada yada (one of those "where did this even start" silly ones). We don't talk the rest of the time. As I am eating on the couch I look over and he is quietly eating his lunch by himself at the table with his head down. I hate people eating alone.. it just seemed so sad. Why am I such a bitch lately? He is trying and I act like it's not good enough. I hate that we argue and are mean so easily to those people who are closest to us.
@mrsg2390 Thanks, I appreciate that! I guess I felt irrational because I was so hurt by it and so sad thinking about my dad. I think a family friend might have taken a few candids, so I'm going to give her a call. I do feel like it was such a missed moment, though.
I was trying to make a picture frame to frame a puzzle I did, possibly for the nursery later. I cut the wood wrong. Then after buying more and cutting it correctly, the paint looked terrible.
Then I cried because I didn't want to go to the movies with kind ladies that invited me. But then I went because I actually did want to go. And then cried over popcorn butter stains on my outfit.
This morning my husband was teasing me about how much cream cheese (the vegan spread from Trader Joe's is delicious, btw) one is supposed to put on their bagel. He said it's just supposed to be a light glaze. I took that so personally. How dare he judge my bagel spreading life choices! I cried, he was only joking. An apology hug was needed. Apparently you shouldn't tease pregnant me about cream cheese. Yikes.
@caseywhitaker, I used to be in your husband's camp, but have now switched over to loving a nice thick layer of cream cheese on my bagels. Absolutely delicious that way!
The Olympics have had me tearing up, especially during the medal ceremonies and anyone from the U.S. has gotten gold... or just seeing any of the athletes crying. Last night it was gymnastics with Aly and Simone, and then Phelps after he won again and I could see tears starting for him. Just a mess!
This morning my husband was teasing me about how much cream cheese (the vegan spread from Trader Joe's is delicious, btw) one is supposed to put on their bagel. He said it's just supposed to be a light glaze. I took that so personally. How dare he judge my bagel spreading life choices! I cried, he was only joking. An apology hug was needed. Apparently you shouldn't tease pregnant me about cream cheese. Yikes.
I say smear as much cream cheese on bagels as you possibly can, at least that is my motto anyway. There is never enough cream cheese!! I won't have my bagels with cream cheese any other way.
Me: 37 years old
DH: 39 years old
Married: October 17, 2014 TTC Since: November 2015 BFP: March 31, 2016 DS: November 21, 2016
December'16 December Siggy Challenge: Elf on the Shelf Fails **winner**
I was getting ready for the day, just humming some songs. DH asked me if I could come into the living room. When I got there, he just looked at me a moment, then said, "I think you are a beautiful person, inside and out. Some people aren't...but I think you are."
I kind of stood there a second, then started crying. There was no reason for him to say anything so nice--nothing had happened, I wasn't upset--he just said it because he thinks I'm awesome wants me to know.
I just got to thinking that we only get one shot at having the life we want to have, and somehow in our huge universe, our cells and stardust were in the same place, at the same time. We could have missed each other by a million years, and I could have ended up with someone that merely tolerates me. Instead, despite my rough beginnings, loves me just the way I am. Flaws, scars, and all. What could be better than that?
@dmontgo that's awesome. These moments will get even more emotional and meaningful when dynamics and life changes a bit.
For example, things have been stressful at home. My H has been working non-stop and it's just me, exhausted with a strong-willed 2 year old from morning til night. Most of my showers are not alone and relaxing anymore, they are hurried and lukewarm with a toddler spraying the ceiling with the shower head. When he finally got home last night and we got into bed we were having a rather serious and heated discussion about finances (yay). We were talking eachother in circles and I finally just lost it. I broke down in sobs (like Kim K ugly crying) about just how alone I've been feeling and overall inadequate because I don't have the energy to even think about sex let alone entertain the thought. How I feel like he feels I sit home and do nothing all day just because by the time he does see me I'm usually flat on the couch hoping my lady bits will stop hurting after carrying the pressure of this fetus on top of chasing a toddler through parking lots. He pulled me in and hugged me tightly for so long; until I calmed down. He grabbed my face, asked me to look him in the eyes, and he told me how wonderful he thought I was. That I was a good wife and a good mom and that he appreciated the sacrifices I've been making while he's been working so much. Things have changed so much for us after having DD and I know they will change a bunch after DD2 comes along, but as tough and messy as the changes have been, we are so much more real now than we ever were.
Weeelllll I'm having a hormoney day (like literally, I can smell it on myself) and DS brought me this toy phone thing my mom got him. When you press the number 3, a dog comes out and counts three flowers and then sniffs them.
That little dog taking the time to appreciate life, slow down, stop and smell those 3 flowers got me teary. DH was right there and I told him I cannot be trusted with anything today. I'm having one of those pregnant days.
Wow, our DH's have been on the ball with our hormonal selves, haven't they? I had a really bad day yesterday and it started with a hangry DH. So I picked him up from work later in the day and we went to Burger King for .50 cones and I'm telling him what a crappy day it's been, so he tells me to close my eyes. I do and when he tells me to open them he's holding up a necklace shaped like an ammonite shell. He told me he saw it and thought I should have it, so he bought it from the store at work. Right there, in the drive thru, I just started bawling. No reason, just he thought I should have it. He didn't know what a bad day I'd had up to that point and had already gotten over the issue earlier in the morning.
Married 4/12/13 TTC since 6/13 Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016 SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
Ahh, I have serious husband envy! All mine can talk about today is building a dang house for the bats currently in our shutters! (I'm actually glad he's building a house for them - I love bats but they have dropped little bits of poo all over our porch. Ick.)
Just found out DH will be working out of town for two weeks in September, the entire month of October and possibly part of November:( I'm going to be one tired pregnant toddler chaser!
but what really makes me cry? Pretty much any slow motion shot with swelling music while I'm watching the olympics. It's pathetic lets not even mention the commercials i have a problem.
@slartybartfast I'm still laughing about that little dog appreciating life! Awesome!
I was doing a yoga video in the den today, and I started to cry during the cool down. For absolutely NO REASON WHATSOEVER! I can't even identify an emotion that corresponded with the tearing up. Fortunately I had my eyes closed and was able to screw up my face to keep the tears from fully falling. I lied to DH and told him I was suppressing a sneeze. Apparently my body just wants to randomly leak for no reason at all these days. Fun!
DH and I were talking about our bedrooms as kids and he was joking about having a He-Man theme until he was 13, but it was very clearly a joke and I thought he was serious. My mind was blown!! But once I realized he was joking I started laughing so hard I cried.. Like bawling with laughter tears.
@aframe77 I'm having the same problem with crying while watching the Olympics. It's such an emotional event for all the athletes I feel like I'm right there with them!
FI worked his new job all day, got off at 4, we promptly went to his parents house which turned out to be a disaster, we get home, we've been here for a little bit, maybe 2 hours, and then we decide to go to Sonic for a late night drink run. As we're backing out of the drive, his work calls him back in. Now I'm crying at Sonic alone. The preggo lady feels are real.
@ashleaf2018 hang in there! Being pregnant makes feeling lonely much more intense. It's tough not having your support system there. My DH is out of town for work right now so I understand your frustration. Try to get a good night sleep, (easier said then done) In my experience things usually look better in the morning. Hugs and positive thoughts headed your way!
Cried last night because H threw a popsicle and it hit me in the face. Then cried again (but a happy cry) when he got to feel Jace kick for the first time! It was a magical moment! The look on his face made me so thankful.. and then on came the waterworks.
I am getting emotional today trying to think of how we are going to manage to get all this baby stuff we need. I haven't gotten him a single thing yet. It'll all work out right?
@caseyewhitaker no worries lady I didn't finish my nursery for months after my son was born. All you really need in the beginning (especially if your breastfeeding) is a car seat, a few onesies, a place for the baby to sleep, a bunch of diapers/wipes and some swaddling blankets and your golden. Honestly if you over prepare/buy in the beginning you often end up with stuff you never use. Don't beat yourself up, you've got time:)
@aframe77 thanks for the reassurance! After I posted this, my husband reminded me he always gets a Christmas bonus and if baby is born in 2016 (oh please, oh please) we'll get money back on taxes too. So we'll be fine even if I didn't have a single shower. I've just been thinking of all the things they say you need and reeling. You're right though - he really just needs some diapers, wipes, clothes, a carseat and a place to sleep if I'm breast feeding.
@caseyewhitaker I'm in a similar boat - we just can't buy anything for baby right now, and I keep getting freaked out about it. I've been coping by looking at things on Craigslist, it's reassuring to know that once we have some room in our budget, I can get some great stuff there for cheap. And I do keep reminding myself that our needs aren't as big as I might think. DH and I have to remind each other periodically that we won't starve, and our baby won't starve, and that's really the main thing.
@caseyewhitaker no worries lady I didn't finish my nursery for months after my son was born. All you really need in the beginning (especially if your breastfeeding) is a car seat, a few onesies, a place for the baby to sleep, a bunch of diapers/wipes and some swaddling blankets and your golden. Honestly if you over prepare/buy in the beginning you often end up with stuff you never use. Don't beat yourself up, you've got time:)
This. So true. In the long run we'd probably all do much better on only buying stuff when we actually need to use it... there's SO much baby stuff that you don't actually need.
I cried for a good ten minutes because I stripped a screw trying to change the handle on the dryer to the other side, which meant that DH had to stop installing the new garage sink I had to have and go back to Home Depot to get the tool he needed to get the screw out. I was trying to be independent, but failed and felt like such a burden to DH when he was already doing something nice for me. And it was darn hot today!
I've been crying because of the olympics, especially when the athletes hug or thank their mamas but today is for a different reason.
Trigger: infant death
one of the girls on my first bmb posted an update about a little boy on her new bmb. He was diagnosed with various disorders and chds and he passed this morning. I'm ugly crying because I can't fathom that happening. Ds saw me and goes "mama!" And runs over to hug me and wipe my tears so I cried harder because he's so sweet.
So after our initial Babymoon plans were derailed, we decided that we will spend Thanksgiving at the Biltmore Estate. We want to get a nice spa package and celebrate our babymoon and our anniversary. I was getting so excited, and then for no reason my laptop refuses to connect to the Internet. I reset the router...the Internet is working on every device except my damn laptop. I am an IT professional and I can't figure it out. So instead I slam it shut and get emotional and upset because I just want to have a nice babymoon and I feel like it's not happening. DH said we can pick it up again tomorrow and I kicked my feet like a child.
Amazon prime commercial with the dog that gets dressed like a lion. It gets me every time.
Also, this morning a coworker asked how I was doing and I said I was in a lot of pain. I seem to hurt all over, especially when I first wake up and get moving. I then started getting teary thinking about how many more months I have to live with the pain/uncomfortable parts of being pregnant. But then to top it all off, another coworker walks by as I'm starting to get emotional and says "at least you don't have much left, you're like 7 months right?" Cue water works. I don't think I'm THAT big yet!
@jenlynne0624 that is such a sad thing to talk about, and definitely a good reason to ugly cry. *hugs*
I started crying on my way home last night, and didn't stop until I was almost home. I miss my dog, and I hate my job....really that's it. I have no other reasons to be upset. Stupid hormones.
So, I just have to vent this because I can't bring myself to talk about this with close friends yet, and since you are all anonymous, here it goes. My mom has been in and out of the hospital for the last six weeks. She got out most recently this past week, and is still in pain. Has also lost about 20 pounds in that amount of time. We just found out that she has 'suspicious' cells. Which the doctor is not definitively said are cancerous or not, but has told us that they 'probably are'. She has a biopsy next week and an appointment with an oncologist as well. The doctor has given us some information, but very little. All we know is that if it is early enough it would be operable, if it isn't then "other options" would have to be pursued (aka chemo). It's in her pancreas, so it's a super freaky place to be as far as cancer goes. I am freaking out over here. That is all.
Oh no @Amecsey - I am so sorry to hear this. I hope the tests come back with good news, or at least some positive information to help ease your mind a bit. I know how hard this is. (( hugs ))
@caseyewhitaker I'm in a similar boat - we just can't buy anything for baby right now, and I keep getting freaked out about it. I've been coping by looking at things on Craigslist, it's reassuring to know that once we have some room in our budget, I can get some great stuff there for cheap. And I do keep reminding myself that our needs aren't as big as I might think. DH and I have to remind each other periodically that we won't starve, and our baby won't starve, and that's really the main thing.
Hang in there, I know it's a rough feeling.
We've been on a tight budget after paying for our wedding that just happened. Wedding was planned, baby was unexpected after 2 yrs TTC. So I've been raiding my Buy Nothing group on Facebook. It's just people giving away things in your neighborhood. Look up your neighborhood one on Facebook and join! Make a request for baby items and you will be amazed at how your community can help for free.
Depending on where you live, most areas have one. On Fb, search "buy nothing _______" enter your town or city or neighborhood. And request to join! I just got a changing table/dresser from a neighbor who is done having babies! And that.... Made me cry. I was so thankful. I also cried when I got maternity clothes from a few neighbors.
Re: Why my pregnant self is crying...
I'm not much of a crier, but I teared up today when I went home for lunch. I have been having such a hard time not being annoyed about the little stuff with DH lately. I love and appreciate him all the time.. but I keep getting unnecessarily frustrated at so many nonsense things. Que me coming home for lunch today. He has every Monday off and always has lunch waiting for me when I get home. We lightly argue a little about our phone bill (SO STUPID) because neither of us understand it or the explanation for the recent increase. Anyway, I snap at him and he snaps at me yada yada (one of those "where did this even start" silly ones). We don't talk the rest of the time. As I am eating on the couch I look over and he is quietly eating his lunch by himself at the table with his head down. I hate people eating alone.. it just seemed so sad. Why am I such a bitch lately? He is trying and I act like it's not good enough. I hate that we argue and are mean so easily to those people who are closest to us.
PS where the heck is my sex drive?!
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
Then I cried because I didn't want to go to the movies with kind ladies that invited me. But then I went because I actually did want to go. And then cried over popcorn butter stains on my outfit.
DH: 36⎹ Me: 36
I say smear as much cream cheese on bagels as you possibly can, at least that is my motto anyway. There is never enough cream cheese!! I won't have my bagels with cream cheese any other way.
TTC Since: November 2015
BFP: March 31, 2016
DS: November 21, 2016
I kind of stood there a second, then started crying. There was no reason for him to say anything so nice--nothing had happened, I wasn't upset--he just said it because he thinks I'm awesome wants me to know.
I just got to thinking that we only get one shot at having the life we want to have, and somehow in our huge universe, our cells and stardust were in the same place, at the same time. We could have missed each other by a million years, and I could have ended up with someone that merely tolerates me. Instead, despite my rough beginnings, loves me just the way I am. Flaws, scars, and all. What could be better than that?
For example, things have been stressful at home. My H has been working non-stop and it's just me, exhausted with a strong-willed 2 year old from morning til night. Most of my showers are not alone and relaxing anymore, they are hurried and lukewarm with a toddler spraying the ceiling with the shower head. When he finally got home last night and we got into bed we were having a rather serious and heated discussion about finances (yay). We were talking eachother in circles and I finally just lost it. I broke down in sobs (like Kim K ugly crying) about just how alone I've been feeling and overall inadequate because I don't have the energy to even think about sex let alone entertain the thought. How I feel like he feels I sit home and do nothing all day just because by the time he does see me I'm usually flat on the couch hoping my lady bits will stop hurting after carrying the pressure of this fetus on top of chasing a toddler through parking lots.
He pulled me in and hugged me tightly for so long; until I calmed down. He grabbed my face, asked me to look him in the eyes, and he told me how wonderful he thought I was. That I was a good wife and a good mom and that he appreciated the sacrifices I've been making while he's been working so much.
Things have changed so much for us after having DD and I know they will change a bunch after DD2 comes along, but as tough and messy as the changes have been, we are so much more real now than we ever were.
That little dog taking the time to appreciate life, slow down, stop and smell those 3 flowers got me teary. DH was right there and I told him I cannot be trusted with anything today. I'm having one of those pregnant days.
TTC since 6/13
Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change
BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016
SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
but what really makes me cry? Pretty much any slow motion shot with swelling music while I'm watching the olympics.
It's pathetic
lets not even mention the commercials
i have a problem.
I was doing a yoga video in the den today, and I started to cry during the cool down. For absolutely NO REASON WHATSOEVER! I can't even identify an emotion that corresponded with the tearing up. Fortunately I had my eyes closed and was able to screw up my face to keep the tears from fully falling. I lied to DH and told him I was suppressing a sneeze. Apparently my body just wants to randomly leak for no reason at all these days. Fun!
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@aframe77 I'm having the same problem with crying while watching the Olympics. It's such an emotional event for all the athletes I feel like I'm right there with them!
Hang in there, I know it's a rough feeling.
DD- 11/2016
Trigger: infant death
one of the girls on my first bmb posted an update about a little boy on her new bmb. He was diagnosed with various disorders and chds and he passed this morning. I'm ugly crying because I can't fathom that happening. Ds saw me and goes "mama!" And runs over to hug me and wipe my tears so I cried harder because he's so sweet.
He said it's ok if I cry and I'm like stahp.:'(
Also, this morning a coworker asked how I was doing and I said I was in a lot of pain. I seem to hurt all over, especially when I first wake up and get moving. I then started getting teary thinking about how many more months I have to live with the pain/uncomfortable parts of being pregnant. But then to top it all off, another coworker walks by as I'm starting to get emotional and says "at least you don't have much left, you're like 7 months right?" Cue water works. I don't think I'm THAT big yet!
@jenlynne0624 that is such a sad thing to talk about, and definitely a good reason to ugly cry. *hugs*
Depending on where you live, most areas have one. On Fb, search "buy nothing _______" enter your town or city or neighborhood. And request to join! I just got a changing table/dresser from a neighbor who is done having babies! And that.... Made me cry. I was so thankful. I also cried when I got maternity clothes from a few neighbors.