@AshleyGemini24 omg. That's horrible. I'm so sorry. I know how stressful it's been for me to try and plan my maternity leave with limited resources. I can't imagine handling such a last minute change. Is there any way that they can transfer you to private short term disability (with no concerns of pre-existing conditions) because they discontinued your coverage?
@Schell2013, check out the spinning babies website! It has easy daily exercises that can be done to help get baby into position. It recommends starting them after 32 weeks. It is worth a shot! FX for you!
@AshleyGemini24, I am so, so sorry. That sounds incredibly stressful. Do you plan to use any sick/vacation time so that at least some of it is paid? I hope they will work with you to help you figure something out!
Wtf brain? I saw all these WTF Wednesday posts and was like "Why so many new comments on this thread?" And then I remembered it's still Wednesday. I was thinking it was Monday or something.
@AshleyGemini24 That is truly awful and I'm so sorry. Have you tried discussing the issue with HR or your superiors? It might be worth a shot if they would consider honoring the old policy, since your maternity leave is so close!
WTF DH... Really, he belongs in TW Tuesday, but it's Wednesday sooo. He got pissed off with me mid-way through a walk (because he was executing a command for the dog incorrectly and consistency is important right now) and literally just rushed ahead and left me and the dog. Meanwhile, I end up getting some sort of cramping in my belly and need to just stop and give my body time to fix itself. He doesn't look back or check on me even once! He knew, before hand, that I was hurting some and still didn't take a moment to look back. Didn't come back looking for me when he had probably been home 10 mins before me. I'm so pissed and hurt. And now I feel like a raging b*th bc of it and want to freak out every time he takes a loud effing sip of his mixed drink. Partially because I need a drink and can't have one and partially because if you just open your damn mouth and tilt the glass, the drink will come to you. No loud slurping required.
@bnsmith85 So funny that you say that because I almost punched H in the face tonight for chewing SO DAMN LOUDLY.
I'm so glad you said that! I replaced punch him in the face with freak out because I didn't want everyone to think I'm crazy. But really, I want to punch him!
also, you know how I feel about loud chewing. It's the worst! Lol
@bnsmith85 My H's eating and drinking noises irritate me to no end too, and I would be even more pissed after that stunt. Hope he gets some sense knocked into him! Has your cramping stopped?
@ashleyp625 he has no damn sense tonight. Now he's mad at me bc I'm ill with him. Whatever. But, yes, cramping has stopped. It wasn't like BH bc it was only on one side but it was really bad. Now that I'm sitting it's so much better. Thank you for asking
**Sorry this is long, I have a lot on my mind tonight...
WTF DD's dad. He's passed her off to family and friends the last 2 times they've been together so he could pick up extra shifts (I wouldn't be critical if he really needed the money; he just likes to live extavagantly). Now she's getting ready for bed full of tears because she pretty much hasn't seen her dad in 2 weeks. I HATE when he puts work over her (one reason why we split - work trumps all).
THEN he calls me just now to tell me he can't pick her up early on Friday because, guess what, he picked up some hours. Oh, and it's his girlfriend's birthday party that night so she's being shipped off yet again. If she wasn't going to his mom's, who I know hasn't seen DD in a while, I would have had him bring her home.
I'm so livid right now. I'M the one who spent 30 minutes comforting her because she missed her dad and felt like she never saw him. And I get to pick up the pieces yet again after this weekend. She finally fell asleep, but all I want to do is pull her big 7 year old body into my bed and snuggle her and love her and try to suck some of this pain from her.
I I just can't believe how selfish he is sometimes. He has no idea how he impacts her, and I don't know how to tell him without sounding like I'm guilting him (although I'm almost past caring at this point).
And WTF to my mom. I have been trying to figure out our Disney trip in Feb and what to do with LO. I somehow just now realized that if he isn't with us, I'll have to pump to keep up my supply. My travel agent has been in contact with the resort already but they aren't willing to do much (like store my milk or anything) because it is considered a food item and therefore it's a safety issue on their part. Fridge/freezers are only available in expensive villas. So I'd have to pump and dump for 9 days just keep my supply up, and he'll be draining any stash I had put aside at home. So it seems to make more sense to take him with us (we were considering leaving him with my mom).
So I said something to my mom about it today, how we're now leaning on having him with us. Her response? "Oh, he'll be 4 months? Let's see if he's even breast feeding still by then." Me: "Why wouldn't he be...?" Mom: "Because I couldn't with you." Ok... And that's a benchmark for me? I pumped with DD until I was supplementing with more formula than breastmilk, and that was just because I was on bad birth control for breastfeeding. So now I feel I'm going to take him regardless, out of spite. Maybe I want my whole family together, regardless of what he's eating? Is that ok? Ugh.
I'm just so done with other people trying to control what I do with my kids.
/rant
Countdown to Baby H! Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
Wtf brain? I saw all these WTF Wednesday posts and was like "Why so many new comments on this thread?" And then I remembered it's still Wednesday. I was thinking it was Monday or something.
I was seriously about to come write the same thing. My brain is gone.
@Kaytee1087 first, I have no words for the first part of your post. I was almost in tears thinking about your dd and the situation. I don't know what I would do in that situation but some part of me would want to record it and be like 'next time think about this when you decide what is more important in your life'.
As as for the second part, it does seem like only the dvc villas have fridges (and to be fair they ARE the only ones with full fridges) but almost all of the resorts have mini fridges in the rooms. It's not really listed in the amenities but Art of Animation suite have mini kitchens and I have personally been in moderate resorts that have mini fridges now. So truly, there are options if you try to pump and can store in a fridge. Let me know if you need anymore help with that. I swear I'm not a travel agent, just a Disney fanatic.
Edit to add: I didn't fully read the second part with the wanting to bring him, and I would say hell yes if you want to bring him, do that. I'm sorry but people should understand you guys are a package deal. Either way, that part should be your call.
@Schell2013 that's me too. Last baby was breech till 37 weeks and now the one is too. Mine flipped but I was constantly stressed and religiously did exercises, chiropractor etc. I really resent having to do all that again. hope yours flips!
@bnsmith85 I felt sympathy rage for you while reading that! I've dealt with a few similar scenarios like that with my H during this pregnancy & it has just made me both so sad and angry, at the same time. He usually comes around eventually, but by then my feelings are so hurt it's wayyyy too late to fix it. I so sorry you're having to deal with that!
@ashleyp625 The whole conversation started because I texted him about picking her up early on Friday, saying "She's missing you something fierce tonight so some extra time on Friday might help with that." That's when he called me to tell me about his stupid girlfriend's birthday party and asking to move some days later in the month so he and his GF can go on a little trip together. @maf9866 Funny you should mention recording it, I said something to DH about that this morning, how I'm so tempted because he doesn't see these meltdowns usually. I know he does sometimes, but he thinks he's doing right by her somehow by making all this money. He's the spitting image of his father, who also worked like 24/7, but all he used to do is complain about his childhood and how he never saw his dad. He just seems to be clueless that he's repeating the cycle, and the times I've brought it up to him, I'm just his crazy ex.
I'm feeling much better this morning though, and DD seems to be too. I'll just love on her so much she won't notice. And I know the grandparents she's going to see spoil. her. to. death. so with any luck, she won't notice he's not around...
Countdown to Baby H! Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
I know this is a day late but reading the symptoms thread reminded me of something I wanted to complain about. SIL's shower was Sunday and when my mom and I were getting ready to leave, I went to thank SIL's mom for having us and blah blah blah and she said 'I'm sorry you are having just as crappy a pregnancy as (SIL)'...
I thought that was so weird. 1. I rarely ever bitch about my pregnancy except to you lovely strangers, my mom, my closest sister or my dh. In fact when my SIL messaged me the other day asking if I was 'as done as she is' I said no! I need this baby to stay put as long as possible to make sure we are completely moved into the new house. Then she commented on how she is so miserable she won't do this again and I told her that is totally fine, she shouldn't do anything she's not comfortable with, but I'm still hoping to have another one or two. So at no point have I complained to my SIL that I'm having a 'crappy' pregnancy.
and 2. I barely have interacted with my SIL's mother. I've been around her maybe 5 times since my brother started dating her daughter. They went from dating to married in a little over a year so they have t really been together that long (4 years total?) and they live in a different state so its not like we all get together really ever. I just thought it was weird that she even would say that. I was kind of like 'oh yeah thanks?'
@Kaytee1087 I'm pretty disappointed in exH for similar reasons today. DD's first day of school is today, and he said he'd be there to see her this morning when I picked her up from his house, but nope. Didn't show. Didn't even text =/ He also said he'd go to her open house a few nights ago, but didn't show that to either or even shoot me a message that he wasn't going. I'm just glad that DD and FI adore each other, and she doesn't really notice her dad missing that sort of thing.
@Kaytee1087 PS, keep doing what you're doing Mama, you're awesome. Hopefully he pulls his head out his butt and sees he's breaking that little girl's heart and tries to fix it. But if not, at least she has a great mother like you to help heal those booboos.
@AllyTheKidI'm sorry your DD is suffering at the hands of her dad too. Hopefully they both shape up and realize how they're hurting their babies.
I I have another WTF. My shower is Saturday. It was going to be an outdoor "BabyQ" but there's predicted 80% chance of storms, so we're moving to a family friends house. I post the new address (same time) on Facebook. Then the following conversation commences between FIL and I.
Now he would have found out the location change BECAUSE OF FACEBOOK but he still texted me instead of looking it up himself. Thank god the shower is this weekend. I can't take much more.
@Kaytee1087 UGH. that is THE WORST. and my mil to a T. Hubby and I are always very good about providing any details they'll need if we meet up somewhere, and leaving it somewhere easy to reference (fb message, email). but like clockwork dh gets a text the night before asking for the address, place name or time. it drives me crazy!!!
I have tried to encourage DH to not reply for several hours (or at all) in hopes they'll figure it out on their own, but he's too sweet and always just tells them. which is nice and all but they're pretty much never gonna change.
Re: WTF Wednesday (Aug 10)
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
@AshleyGemini24, I am so, so sorry. That sounds incredibly stressful. Do you plan to use any sick/vacation time so that at least some of it is paid? I hope they will work with you to help you figure something out!
Rant over.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
also, you know how I feel about loud chewing. It's the worst! Lol
@bnsmith85 My H's eating and drinking noises irritate me to no end too, and I would be even more pissed after that stunt. Hope he gets some sense knocked into him! Has your cramping stopped?
WTF DD's dad. He's passed her off to family and friends the last 2 times they've been together so he could pick up extra shifts (I wouldn't be critical if he really needed the money; he just likes to live extavagantly). Now she's getting ready for bed full of tears because she pretty much hasn't seen her dad in 2 weeks. I HATE when he puts work over her (one reason why we split - work trumps all).
THEN he calls me just now to tell me he can't pick her up early on Friday because, guess what, he picked up some hours. Oh, and it's his girlfriend's birthday party that night so she's being shipped off yet again. If she wasn't going to his mom's, who I know hasn't seen DD in a while, I would have had him bring her home.
I'm so livid right now. I'M the one who spent 30 minutes comforting her because she missed her dad and felt like she never saw him. And I get to pick up the pieces yet again after this weekend. She finally fell asleep, but all I want to do is pull her big 7 year old body into my bed and snuggle her and love her and try to suck some of this pain from her.
I I just can't believe how selfish he is sometimes. He has no idea how he impacts her, and I don't know how to tell him without sounding like I'm guilting him (although I'm almost past caring at this point).
And WTF to my mom. I have been trying to figure out our Disney trip in Feb and what to do with LO. I somehow just now realized that if he isn't with us, I'll have to pump to keep up my supply. My travel agent has been in contact with the resort already but they aren't willing to do much (like store my milk or anything) because it is considered a food item and therefore it's a safety issue on their part. Fridge/freezers are only available in expensive villas. So I'd have to pump and dump for 9 days just keep my supply up, and he'll be draining any stash I had put aside at home. So it seems to make more sense to take him with us (we were considering leaving him with my mom).
So I said something to my mom about it today, how we're now leaning on having him with us. Her response?
"Oh, he'll be 4 months? Let's see if he's even breast feeding still by then."
Me: "Why wouldn't he be...?"
Mom: "Because I couldn't with you."
Ok... And that's a benchmark for me? I pumped with DD until I was supplementing with more formula than breastmilk, and that was just because I was on bad birth control for breastfeeding. So now I feel I'm going to take him regardless, out of spite. Maybe I want my whole family together, regardless of what he's eating? Is that ok? Ugh.
I'm just so done with other people trying to control what I do with my kids.
/rant
Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
Team Blue!
@Kaytee1087 aww poor girl
As as for the second part, it does seem like only the dvc villas have fridges (and to be fair they ARE the only ones with full fridges) but almost all of the resorts have mini fridges in the rooms. It's not really listed in the amenities but Art of Animation suite have mini kitchens and I have personally been in moderate resorts that have mini fridges now. So truly, there are options if you try to pump and can store in a fridge. Let me know if you need anymore help with that. I swear I'm not a travel agent, just a Disney fanatic.
Edit to add: I didn't fully read the second part with the wanting to bring him, and I would say hell yes if you want to bring him, do that. I'm sorry but people should understand you guys are a package deal. Either way, that part should be your call.
@maf9866 Funny you should mention recording it, I said something to DH about that this morning, how I'm so tempted because he doesn't see these meltdowns usually. I know he does sometimes, but he thinks he's doing right by her somehow by making all this money. He's the spitting image of his father, who also worked like 24/7, but all he used to do is complain about his childhood and how he never saw his dad. He just seems to be clueless that he's repeating the cycle, and the times I've brought it up to him, I'm just his crazy ex.
I'm feeling much better this morning though, and DD seems to be too. I'll just love on her so much she won't notice. And I know the grandparents she's going to see spoil. her. to. death. so with any luck, she won't notice he's not around...
Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
Team Blue!
I thought that was so weird. 1. I rarely ever bitch about my pregnancy except to you lovely strangers, my mom, my closest sister or my dh. In fact when my SIL messaged me the other day asking if I was 'as done as she is' I said no! I need this baby to stay put as long as possible to make sure we are completely moved into the new house. Then she commented on how she is so miserable she won't do this again and I told her that is totally fine, she shouldn't do anything she's not comfortable with, but I'm still hoping to have another one or two. So at no point have I complained to my SIL that I'm having a 'crappy' pregnancy.
and 2. I barely have interacted with my SIL's mother. I've been around her maybe 5 times since my brother started dating her daughter. They went from dating to married in a little over a year so they have t really been together that long (4 years total?) and they live in a different state so its not like we all get together really ever. I just thought it was weird that she even would say that. I was kind of like 'oh yeah thanks?'
I I have another WTF. My shower is Saturday. It was going to be an outdoor "BabyQ" but there's predicted 80% chance of storms, so we're moving to a family friends house. I post the new address (same time) on Facebook. Then the following conversation commences between FIL and I.
Now he would have found out the location change BECAUSE OF FACEBOOK but he still texted me instead of looking it up himself. Thank god the shower is this weekend. I can't take much more.
Mommy to Elizabeth (6/18/09), preemie at 34 weeks
Team Blue!
I have tried to encourage DH to not reply for several hours (or at all) in hopes they'll figure it out on their own, but he's too sweet and always just tells them. which is nice and all but they're pretty much never gonna change.