Thanks @RG1 that is very helpful! And didn't come off judgy by any means. I'm not sure the extinction method would be right for us but I do like the sound of the timer and soothing her for X amount of minutes. Seems like a more doable approach since H is not around too much.
Last night went okay. I went up there right away and told her I would stay with her for 10 minutes then go back downstairs. After 10 minutes I gave her a kiss and hug and started to leave. Instead of crying she just begged for me to stay and watch her sleep and lay with her. After another 10 minute conversation explaining things, I gave her another kiss and hug, tucked her in and bolted out of the door before she could get another word in. After that she slept through the rest of the night.
I asked H to go shopping while he was out of town and bring her back a protection buddy of some sort and give it to her when he gets back. Hopefully by sticking to a plan we can get this under control by the time Ava gets here.
I also think the timer method might work best for you since you have them alone quite a bit. Sometimes something concrete they can see helps them understand how much time is left. Sounds like last night went ok! That's positive
So glad it went well last night, but could you please ask her to not send the "not sleeping" to other kids? DD was up about 12 times last night, crying and crying. I think it's her stupid canines though, my god, come through already you effing teeth and quit hurting my baby.
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