All these snowflakes are really my bitch for today should we make a thread that says NO SNOWFLAKES AND YOUR OWN THREAD PLEASE LOOK FOR INFO BEFORE YOU POST BEFORE YOU BECOME THE TARGET OF OUR HORMONES lmao sorry for the caps but damn they are starting to get annoying AF
So this is probably going to be a long rant... I went to brunch with a group of friends this past Saturday morning, we all knew each other from the singles group at the church we attended way back when. I was the first of the group to get married and have babies (well, one member had a daughter from a previous marriage who is now 16) and most of the others have followed suit as many single people do...
One friend (who happens to be the friend that set DH and I up on our first date) is getting married soon. She will have a step son who I have been really apprehensive to talk about around her because she calls herself his mom, and it makes me annoyed because she started calling him her son after dating his dad for literally a month and a half. Just no. The dad has his son every other weekend and in the summers most of the time. Turns out, they end up getting him a lot of weekends because his single mom has him stay there for whatever reason.
So the part that pissed me off to high heaven was when she literally said "She's just not a good mom." Then she went on to list reasons why she's a bad mom. I was FLOORED. The reasons included "she works, but whatever..." no crap she works she's a SINGLE MOM. She has BILLS. She said she's not the touchy feely type and she never trims the kids finger and toenails (cue me feeling bad about my daughters unclipped fingers and toenails because who knew that something that trivial makes you a bad mom.) She then described his mom's schedule-- she has him to daycare by 6:45, and picks him up by 6 or so. He's in bed by 8. Here's me "Holy crap, she can get her kid to daycare by 6:45 (he's 6, but still) and be on time and be a single mom!? Thats amazing. Also, HOLY crap you can get your kid to bed by 8 so he can get enough sleep for school the next day. THATS AMAZING". I was and am still beyond pissed that someone who has never actually had a child, never lived with a child, never been a mom or step mom, would judge a mother like that so harshly. I sat over on the other side of the table in a rage. How DARE someone judge a mom for doing what they can to take care of their kid.
So, I can barely get my kid ready to go by 7:30 when my mom picks her up. I am never on time to work. Finger and toenails get trimmed when I can get a moment where we're sitting quietly and I have access to a clipper (it was actually a huge blow to my mommy ego when I asked my mom to try to clip them when she has a chance.) Because she usually gets dirty out on the farm daily my mom gives her most of her baths. I work. I can't get her to bed before 9 (usually 10) to save my life. I am not a single mom, far from it DH is an amazing dad and he helps me out A LOT. I DARE someone to call me a bad mom. We are all just doing what we can to survive and screw her if she thinks she's better than someone who has no husband (regardless of circumstance) and has to make it on her own.
End rant.
TL; DR: My friend who doesn't have kids is a sanctimommy and she pissed me off.
@texasmama2014 I barely have the energy to clip my own fingernails. This "mom" needs a reality check. I hope when we have our Facebook group you keep us updated on how perfect her mom skills are when she has a child of her own.
Women I consider bad moms would be more of the, "I hit my child when I'm angry and belittle them" kind. Clipping fingernails, that's laughable really.
My BF is that my car is going to cost a lot more to fix than we anticipated. I hate unexpected costs, which is why we have a savings. It still doesn't make it suck any less though.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
My B-fest goes out to my cervix. I'm at 41 weeks and my cervix is apparently hard as a rock and shows no signs of softening anytime soon. So... I'm being induced Wednesday. Yay... not.
Mine is that I am way too pregnant to be dealing with these allergies. They have been horrible for 4 days. My eyes are itchy, nose is stuffy, and breathing is harder than it was already. My cranky two year old is just making everything worse. At least I get to get away to the dentist so they can temporarily fix the filling I lost this weekend. I'm so done with this month.
@texasmama2014 - You are so much nicer than me. Church group or not I would have said some unkind words. I don't deal with people like that very well.
My bitchfest is my body. I can feel myself getting more uncomfortable with each day. Today we cleaned the house again and it was so much harder on me than when we did it last week. I have a dull ache in my back and sides. Again I say, is it Thursday yet?
@texasmama2014 I would have been sitting there in a silent rage too.
I chose midwives intentionally, but I'm grumpy that my practice doesn't offer checks or sweeps until you're overdue. I kind of want to know where things are at, even though I know it is meaningless. #theTypeAitburns
I'm really feeling done. 38 week appointment tomorrow and I'm hoping the check will make stuff start to happen. I'm somehow still getting bigger and bigger. My heartburn is killing me. And I'm so over being at work. Getting dressed and putting on makeup in over 100 degree temps is so useless at that point. I'm such a sweaty mess.
@LWC1112 East TX heat is no joke. For real. I haven't worn make up to work in like a month and I've stopped trying to control my cankles. Kudos to you for even attempting make up!!!
@texasmama15 Wow. I must be the most terrible mom. I haven't clipped DDs fingernails or toenails in ... maybe months? I honestly can't remember. We just tear them off when they break (she's 15 months and they're still super soft).
My BF is to my back. It's so out and I can hardly walk, let alone pick up DD to put her in her high chair/ car seat/ crib. I'm probably not going to make it to the chiro until Thursday.
Recent searches include: Pregnancy small gushes of pee pregnancy back labor pain while sitting pregnancy 38 weeks less movement And hard top of belly, soft bottom engagement?
wow, anxious much? Glad I didn't have a smart phone with my DD.
Recent searches include: Pregnancy small gushes of pee pregnancy back labor pain while sitting pregnancy 38 weeks less movement And hard top of belly, soft bottom engagement?
wow, anxious much? Glad I didn't have a smart phone with my DD.
Dr Google and I are always best friends at about 4am when I've been up for 2 hours and need to know if what I'm feeling is going to mean labor is imminent within the next 5 minutes. Of course I already know the answer, and usually I end up clicking on ridiculous snowflake posts on other websites. At least it's entertaining.
My bitch today is bilirubin....We're back at the hospital, and my poor little Nate is in his baby tanning bed. I'm making light, but I'm all emotional about it. I got to go home a day early, which I was so happy about because I wanted to get home to DD, but here we are back again making this jaundice our bitch. Hopeful that we're not here too long!
My BF is a coworker who is a bitch and gives customers incorrect information, yet thinks she knows it all and is better than everyone else. I wanted to throat punch her today! I'm counting down my last 3 days before leave!! Thankful tomorrow is a half day, and debating asking my OB for a membrane sweep at my appointment, in hopes that labor comes sooner so I don't have to work my last 2 shifts.
Mine is kinda long because it carried through the weekend to today. But... Friday I had to go to the oral surgeon so they can send in info to my insurance for my wisdom teeth to be pulled. I waited 3 hours. I was thirsty and hungry. I'm finally called back I sit down and they tell me that my insurance won't cover the consultation and it's gonna be 112 dollars. Yes let me pull that out of thin air. I was so upset and pissed. I called my insurance and they said there is no reason for the oral surgeon notes for my teeth to be pulled they just need dentist notes and xrays. So they basically just wanted money. I went back in and questioned them. They tried to say the lady I talked to didn't know what they were saying. This whole time they were putting my insurance info wrong. So I have to come back in Friday to see her again. And they told me to come in at 9am. I got a confirmation email today for 10:40am....wtf?!? I hate this place. But I hate my wisdom teeth more. And then today at my DS baseball practice. They were at the batting area, and there were two adults hitting balls. Well one ball went through the net and almost hit me in the face!!! They didn't stop to see if I was ok or to say sorry. I know it wasn't intentional but still. I wanted to grab their bat and practice swinging on their balls. Ugh
Apparently I decided to do labor backwards. I started with strong regular contractions. Then the baby dropped. Now finally I'm making progress. The doctor said even if we hadn't absolutely had to induce early because of the health issues.. We probably would have had to induce in a couple weeks anyways. She said it was like I've been trying to ride a horse out of the stable but forgetting to open the barn door, and my body may or may not have sorted the correct sequence of events out on its own. First time mom... I guess I missed that memo.
Apparently I decided to do labor backwards. I started with strong regular contractions. Then the baby dropped. Now finally I'm making progress. The doctor said even if we hadn't absolutely had to induce early because of the health issues.. We probably would have had to induce in a couple weeks anyways. She said it was like I've been trying to ride a horse out of the stable but forgetting to open the barn door, and my body may or may not have sorted the correct sequence of events out on its own. First time mom... I guess I missed that memo.
Hang in there!!!! Before you know it that sweet boy will be in your arms and believe me all of this will be sooo worth it! Big hugs momma it's almost over!
@LWC1112 I feel the same way! I have my 38 week appointment today also and am going to beg for a sweep. I have been having contractions since Thursday. It hurts to walk, I cannot sleep, and I am still having to work since the doctor hasn't officially taken me off.
@jamiesc58 Yup, everything hurts. Especially after my check this morning. My doctor did tell me I can have a small glass of wine at night to help me get some rest. I may take her up on that. No sweep
@LWC1112 did they even offer a sweep? I know my regular doctor did mine at 38 weeks last time, but she is off due to the fact that she had surgery. I hope the partner doctor that I see today will do the same thing.
@jamiesc58 no she didn't offer. Since I've progressed a good amount since last appointment, I think she wants to see if I start on my own. I think she offers it next week at 39 weeks from what I can remember with DD. All of my dating sonograms have had baby measuring 7 days ahead, but they never updated my due date. I'm hoping the 17th is more accurate though
I have been measuring a week ahead every time also. I just got a call from the doctor's office that they need to reschedule my appointment that is supposed to be at 2:30 today. The doctor got called out to do a delivery. Seriously????? They better have someone that can do it today.
I have been measuring a week ahead every time also. I just got a call from the doctor's office that they need to reschedule my appointment that is supposed to be at 2:30 today. The doctor got called out to do a delivery. Seriously????? They better have someone that can do it today.
I would tell them that. See what they can do for you!
Re: Monday Bfest 8.8.16
I went to brunch with a group of friends this past Saturday morning, we all knew each other from the singles group at the church we attended way back when. I was the first of the group to get married and have babies (well, one member had a daughter from a previous marriage who is now 16) and most of the others have followed suit as many single people do...
One friend (who happens to be the friend that set DH and I up on our first date) is getting married soon. She will have a step son who I have been really apprehensive to talk about around her because she calls herself his mom, and it makes me annoyed because she started calling him her son after dating his dad for literally a month and a half. Just no. The dad has his son every other weekend and in the summers most of the time. Turns out, they end up getting him a lot of weekends because his single mom has him stay there for whatever reason.
So the part that pissed me off to high heaven was when she literally said "She's just not a good mom." Then she went on to list reasons why she's a bad mom. I was FLOORED. The reasons included "she works, but whatever..." no crap she works she's a SINGLE MOM. She has BILLS. She said she's not the touchy feely type and she never trims the kids finger and toenails (cue me feeling bad about my daughters unclipped fingers and toenails because who knew that something that trivial makes you a bad mom.) She then described his mom's schedule-- she has him to daycare by 6:45, and picks him up by 6 or so. He's in bed by 8. Here's me "Holy crap, she can get her kid to daycare by 6:45 (he's 6, but still) and be on time and be a single mom!? Thats amazing. Also, HOLY crap you can get your kid to bed by 8 so he can get enough sleep for school the next day. THATS AMAZING". I was and am still beyond pissed that someone who has never actually had a child, never lived with a child, never been a mom or step mom, would judge a mother like that so harshly. I sat over on the other side of the table in a rage. How DARE someone judge a mom for doing what they can to take care of their kid.
So, I can barely get my kid ready to go by 7:30 when my mom picks her up. I am never on time to work. Finger and toenails get trimmed when I can get a moment where we're sitting quietly and I have access to a clipper (it was actually a huge blow to my mommy ego when I asked my mom to try to clip them when she has a chance.) Because she usually gets dirty out on the farm daily my mom gives her most of her baths. I work. I can't get her to bed before 9 (usually 10) to save my life. I am not a single mom, far from it DH is an amazing dad and he helps me out A LOT. I DARE someone to call me a bad mom. We are all just doing what we can to survive and screw her if she thinks she's better than someone who has no husband (regardless of circumstance) and has to make it on her own.
End rant.
TL; DR:
My friend who doesn't have kids is a sanctimommy and she pissed me off.
edit: Fixed the gif
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
Women I consider bad moms would be more of the, "I hit my child when I'm angry and belittle them" kind. Clipping fingernails, that's laughable really.
My BF is that my car is going to cost a lot more to fix than we anticipated. I hate unexpected costs, which is why we have a savings. It still doesn't make it suck any less though.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@texasmama2014 - You are so much nicer than me. Church group or not I would have said some unkind words. I don't deal with people like that very well.
I chose midwives intentionally, but I'm grumpy that my practice doesn't offer checks or sweeps until you're overdue. I kind of want to know where things are at, even though I know it is meaningless. #theTypeAitburns
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
end rant. Thanks for letting me get that out.
My BF is to my back. It's so out and I can hardly walk, let alone pick up DD to put her in her high chair/ car seat/ crib. I'm probably not going to make it to the chiro until Thursday.
Recent searches include:
Pregnancy small gushes of pee
pregnancy back labor
pain while sitting pregnancy
38 weeks less movement
And hard top of belly, soft bottom engagement?
wow, anxious much? Glad I didn't have a smart phone with my DD.
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
Friday I had to go to the oral surgeon so they can send in info to my insurance for my wisdom teeth to be pulled. I waited 3 hours. I was thirsty and hungry. I'm finally called back I sit down and they tell me that my insurance won't cover the consultation and it's gonna be 112 dollars. Yes let me pull that out of thin air. I was so upset and pissed. I called my insurance and they said there is no reason for the oral surgeon notes for my teeth to be pulled they just need dentist notes and xrays. So they basically just wanted money. I went back in and questioned them. They tried to say the lady I talked to didn't know what they were saying. This whole time they were putting my insurance info wrong. So I have to come back in Friday to see her again. And they told me to come in at 9am. I got a confirmation email today for 10:40am....wtf?!? I hate this place. But I hate my wisdom teeth more.
And then today at my DS baseball practice. They were at the batting area, and there were two adults hitting balls. Well one ball went through the net and almost hit me in the face!!! They didn't stop to see if I was ok or to say sorry. I know it wasn't intentional but still. I wanted to grab their bat and practice swinging on their balls. Ugh
The doctor said even if we hadn't absolutely had to induce early because of the health issues.. We probably would have had to induce in a couple weeks anyways. She said it was like I've been trying to ride a horse out of the stable but forgetting to open the barn door, and my body may or may not have sorted the correct sequence of events out on its own.
First time mom... I guess I missed that memo.