R/R: I have been feeling exactly like AF is on her way for a couple days now. I'm just annoyed it hasn't started yet. Let's get on with it and get to next cycle.
CS/Q: Nope
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? I'm not awake enough to think this through enough. I'll come back later and fill in a good story.
Baby #1: Nixson Thomas - Born 3/11/14 @ 4:32pm, 7lbs 10oz, 21.5"
Baby #2: Emma Haley - Born 7/2/15 @ 7:09am, 7lbs 9 oz, 21"
Baby #3: TTC (hoping for a due date of spring / summer 2017)
GTKY: H isn't a super romantic person in general, but he definitely shows me he loves me in his own way all the time. I guess our proposal story, which is too long to type here, but the short version is that he completely caught me off guard, and it was wonderful!
Me: 26, H: 28
Married since 2012
TTC #1 since July 2015 **TW**
Laparoscopy and Endometriosis dx February 2016
HSG and SA all clear! September 2016 Testing with RE October 2016 BFP 11/5/2016 ~ EDD 7/19/2016
Timing: I actually think O is today so....-4, IUI on -1, O. If it was yesterday, -3, IUI on O, +1(HIO tonight per doctor's orders!)
Testing: Nope x 10
R/R: As I said above, I'm not sure if I O'ed yesterday, or today. You can O anywhere between 12-36 hours after the trigger shot. I took the trigger shot Monday night at 9:30, so that would put me around 35 hours post trigger. So late end of the spectrum but I'm having some tenderness in that region today, and I'm not convinced it's still from the cramps from the IUI yesterday. I guess at this point it doesn't really matter as the IUI is over. I would feel better though if I did in fact O today. That would mean we did the IUI ahead of time and the sperm is there waiting. Which is the ultimate goal.
CS/Q: Anyone with IUI experience? My previous two IUI's never left me tender/crampy. I did feel more pressure yesterday during the IUI than my previous two. Anyone else felt tender afterwards?
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? MH is hardly romantic. He's practical. He likes to do practical things for me, which in a way is his taking care of me and I find that romantic. He's a mechanic by trade so he's always making sure my car is up to speck. Oil changes, new tires, windshield wipers etc. One time I was cutting up zucchini for dinner and I mentioned how much easier it would be with a mandolin slicer. The next week I got one in the mail. He had ordered it offline as soon as the words had come out of my mouth. It's the little things like that.
Testing: This changes everyday. Either not at all. Or 11dpo (Monday). Who knows if my resolve will keep up. But at this point I'm not even excited about testing. And I don't have a lot of faith in this cycle.
R/R: Not having faith in this cycle hasn't stopped me from SS. Ute cramps yesterday at 5dpo?! I'm totes KU. JK. But am I? Nah. I imagine it will keep going like that.
CS/Q: None
TW: Loss mentioned GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? The day after he found out I was KU, he went out while I was at work and bought a blanket he knew I wanted to a future LOs nursery. He gave it to me when I got home. He was so excited. I know it's small. And he's done way grander gestures. But that one will stick with me forever. Not to take a depressing turn about it but since the loss, I don't think he would do anything like that again. Neither of us have the same 'excitement' we did prior to the loss. So I think it has even more meaning because of that.
Testing: Trying to wait until Sunday at 10dpo if i'm not spotting by then.
R/R: Feeling a real lack of motivation at work today. I've been so busy these last couple weeks and today I'm just kinda like meh. I have one project that will need to get finished, but after that, I may or may not be spending a larger than normal amount of time on the internets...
CS/Q:
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? Wow, there have been several it's hard to think of just one. This last time I had CD1, i texted and told him and when he got home he had stopped and gotten me chocolate and a really sweet card just saying how much he loves me. That was awesome. But there was also this time when he was a freshman in college and i was in my senior year at high school and he was planning on driving home for the weekend to visit me. Well he technically had class on friday so he told me he'd be leaving friday evening like usual. So plus 4 hours drive time and I wasn't expecting to see him until Saturday morning. But on Friday at about 4:30 the doorbell at my parents house rang and i answered it and there he was to surprise me As a high schooler, that was super romantic to me!
Me: 30 DH: 31 Married 2010 TTC since Nov. 2015 BFP#1: 2/8/16 MC: 3/19/16 BFP#2: 9/3/16 EDD: 5/17/17
R/R: so I've been really trying to lose weight, I've been dieting for two weeks and doing light exercise and hadn't lost any weight. So for the last 4 days I've got on vigorous hour and a half long hikes each day.. Well I weighed myself this morning and I gained a pound!!!!!! Ughhh
CS/Q:
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? we're obsessed with the movie "the Royal tenennbaums"- he set up a whole tent room (like Richie's in the movie) and so we go in there and just talk- it's our special place :-)
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? MH is hardly romantic. He's practical. He likes to do practical things for me, which in a way is his taking care of me and I find that romantic. He's a mechanic by trade so he's always making sure my car is up to speck. Oil changes, new tires, windshield wipers etc. One time I was cutting up zucchini for dinner and I mentioned how much easier it would be with a mandolin slicer. The next week I got one in the mail. He had ordered it offline as soon as the words had come out of my mouth. It's the little things like that.
I love that. I think movies/TV/Twilight have distorted romance. It's not always candles and flowers and an acoustic guitar under your window (and certainly not telling you who you're allowed to be friends with, Edward!). It's showing he cares about you by making sure you car is safe and you don't run out of gas, or taking care of things for you before you even have to think about it.
Testing: BFN yesterday, temp drop, heavy spotting, just waiting on AF to come in full force.
R/R: I talked to H yesterday and I didn't realize the pressure to perform hits him harder than others, it seems. It sounds like he's as frustrated with himself as I am with him, and my being frustrated really upset him. I'm glad we worked it out and are fine now, but I don't know what we can do next cycle to increase our frequency without adding pressure. He just really, really hates forced sex. Hell, so do I.
CS/Q: Nope.
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? After yesterday I needed this question to remind me how lucky I am. Like I said above, it's the little things he does without my asking that show love to me. E.g. yesterday morning H woke up at 4 and of course, so did I by default. I was cranky and of course pissed about a temp drop and let loose. Last night H tells me he moved an appointment he had this morning to 8 so he'd wake up at his normal time and I could sleep later. Sometimes I still feel like an insecure teenager and I'm shocked every time H shows me how much he loves me, like "Is this guy for real?" But yeah, he is. This gif doesn't have much to do with this but it warms my cold, little heart
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
@tripledaggerWed95976 DH and I were Margot and Richie for Halloween a couple of years ago!
Month/Cycle: 2/2
CD/DPO: 27/10
Timing: All of the FW days other than -1.
Testing: Probably not anymore.
R/R: I was crampy all last night, woke up to some spotting, and CD1 is supposed to me tomorrow. So, I'm pretty sure this is the end of the road for me. This next cycle is our last chance in before TTA until December or later. How do all these people around me get pregnant without even trying (all of my siblings, multiple times)?! It seems like I won't be pregnant for my 30th though. Bring on the cocktails. All of them.
CS/Q:
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? Much like @mrsdaddario 's DH, mine isn't much into grand gestures, so I don't necessarily have a good "story". I wouldn't trade a good story for all of the little things he does for me though. I get plenty of I love yous, little smooches, and the occasional butt pat when we're out and about, even with we're with a bunch of his dudes. He sends me lots of cute Snapchats/texts throughout the day when he's thinking of me. He will surprise me with things I've randomly mentioned wanting (a record, a certain t-shirt). He attempted to buy the sign from the bar we met at along before we started dating. Stuff like that. He's a gem.
Testing: I tested yesterday with a BFN and then the Ovia app told me today that I should test and I thought 'well if the app says I should'...and then I felt stupid and didn't. I will 'plan' not to test again unless AF doesn't come this weekend.
R/R: I feel like I will never get pregnant. I'm peeing on sticks and taking my temp every morning and trying to BD at the right times but I don't feel like anything is ever going to work. Sorry, a little deeper and darker than I usually go. I think I'm PMSing.
CS/Q:
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? H isn't all that romantic but when he proposed he had a friend waiting to take photos. He doesn't care about photos but knew that would mean a lot to me.
2016 - dx with super low ovarian reserve; failed cycle with clomid, failed IUI, 2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks May 2020 FET; BFN July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate Oct 2020 BFP!
R/R: Ugh, cramps starting. Guess I'll be seeing AF in a few days.
CS/Q: Nope
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? On our 3-year anniversary he surprised me with a trip to Disneyland, where he proposed in front of the castle and managed to get someone there to catch it on video.
DD born PPROM preemie at 36 weeks on 10/1/17 after over a year TI, then 3 failed IUIs, and finally a successful IVF FET.
Due with #2 5/2/19 after HIO once in my FW, because apparently that's how life works now. Team Blue!
@eggplantface I am so glad you and H talked about everything!
Month/Cycle: 3/3
CD/DPO: 20/7
Timing: -2,-1,O
Testing: trying to hold out as long as possible
R/R: So I definitely had a dream that I was pregnant last night. It was SO realistic that when I woke up I was beyond disappointed. I wanted to go pee on a stick so bad but it's still way too early and logically I know it would be negative. Ugh. Stupid subconscious.
CS/Q: Mmmm not today
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? Like pretty much everyone else, my DH isn't overly romantic in the traditional sense. However he does super sweet little things all the time to let me know he loves me. He always brings me home little "treats" like my fav candy bar or a coffee (my fav thing in the world). Or if I've had an exceptionally stressful day, he'll take me somewhere to eat so I don't have to cook dinner. Basically if you can't tell, food is the way to my heart.
Testing: No testing unless AF doesn't arrive in about a week.
R/R: I think I had the worst night of sleep I have had in such a long time. Like I felt like my stomach was a hot air balloon. I just could not get comfortable. Also, in just ridiculousness, I fell asleep with my contacts in and woke up (one of the half a dozen times) to realize that I had them in still. I have been wearing contacts for 20+ years and never have done this, like ever. Now I have the driest and scratchiest eyeballs ever and had to resort to my glasses, ugh.
CS/Q: Nope.
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? I am going to mimic what PPs have said. My DH is not overly romantic, nor is he very vocal in expressing his emotions. But he is steady and supportive and allows me to go off on a lark and do the things I need to do to stay sane which to me is romantic enough. If I had to think of one "romantic" gesture (like movie romantics) was on our first dating anniversary. He had a whole weekend planned to Newport, RI including cliff walks, hotel stays and cheesecake etc.
R/R: we're in the van now on our way to visit the in-laws. We stopped twice within the first hour and a half b/c a certain 7 yr old drinks a ton of water. A typical 3 1/2 hr trip usually ends up being 4+. Everyone's happy now though, two being asleep, so I'm good.
CS/Q:
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? DH has done a lot of sweet/romantic things for me over the years. Once he hid a ton of little sweet notes around the house for me to find which was so cute. But like most pps, he shows me in little ways every day. He works at home and watches the kids while I exercise in the morning, and gets up at 5:30 with the lo and let's me sleep in on the weekends. And right now I'm sitting in the back and have my legs stretched out on the console and dh is rubbing them. I didn't even have to ask. He's the best.
CD/DPO: 29/ 8 or 9...I always forget this and have to go to the previous day posts to check.
Timing: everyday +1
Testing: trying to hold out until Monday or Tuesday of next week.
R/R: ....and the symptom spotting has commenced (more like the phantom symptom spotting). I keep having to mentally talk myself down and remind myself that any symptoms that I even am having are typical pre-AF. I am tempted to test early (like this weekend) instead of waiting until next Tuesday like I promised myself. But I don't think I can bring myself to test on say, a Sunday, because if it's positive DH will be in the house and I won't have time to compose myself and tell him in some cute/clever way. Why am I even thinking like this when I'm 99% sure I'm not pregnant? Why do I do this to myself?
CS/Q:
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? He's not normally a grand gesture kind of guy, so I was going to initially say this beautiful Tiffany & Co necklace he sent to my hotel room while getting ready on our wedding day but then I read some of your ladies' wonderful posts and was quickly reminded that the little things mean so much more. He's wonderful to me. I have a past with food/body image issues and on bad days he is willing to scrap our initial dinner plans for a meal that feels safer/like less of a trigger for me. He does this without question and is incredibly patient with me. On my days off, if he knows I haven't been sleeping, he will wake up a little earlier and tidy the house (clean the kitchen up, take out trash, or do some laundry) so that I can sleep in and wake up to one less thing to do that day. These are just the first things that come to mind but there is more...I am lucky to be with him. Oh! And he keeps a fortune in his wallet that says "happiness is sitting right beside you," which is from our 3rd date together. I didn't even know about it until after about 2 years of dating.
@jatwal128 I've been in a real work rut these last two days, also. I'm working from home, so the distractions/temptation to get off track is everywhere.
@juliebeannn sorry about CD1...I may not be far behind you.
Testing: probably starting Friday because I love disappointment in the morning.
R/R: work is exceptionally crappy today. Between an imbecile for a boss, month end closing, & an HR department that lives to make you miserable- I'm ready to leave.
CS/Q: Temps keep climbing. I'm still nauseous. Boobs still hurt. 1000 other reasons for these things, right?
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? I'd say finding out that I had cancer a month after we started dating & never leaving my side (every appointment, surgery, & treatment). Since then, it's all the little things that he does, like anything he can realistically do to make my life happier. *sigh* he has step kids from a previous marriage. I always them them that their goal in life is to treat their future girlfriends/wives like DH treats me. & that's a pretty cool thing to be able to say.
*TW loss mentioned* I hope you guys will have me back! I was pretty active before MC, and right after, and then I kind of got overwhelmed and quit bumping. I tried to become active again and life got in the way! I am posting today and trying to become more active now! I love this board
Month/Cycle:10/9- 5th cycle since loss
CD/DPO: 24/8 ( I think. I havent started temping again yet, we decided not to track as much to relieve some stress)
Timing: Meh, not the best.. only twice in fertile week. I'm still trying to be hopeful though
Testing: Not till AF is due. two cycles ago I went a little POAS crazy.. so trying to chill out
R/R: I've been a little dissapointed in DH this cycle. Last cycle he was like "Ok! We are going to HIO ED in FW!" and he was super excited to give it a go (we took a month off) again... And like I said, it only happened twice in FW. Ugh. I dont want to stress him out and make him feel bad, but its really frustrating
CS/Q: Nope
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? Everyone has such cute DH romantic stories!
Hes a pretty romantic guy when he feel like it.. His proposal was pretty romantic. He took me on the same hike we had our first date and did it at the top. So that was really sweet. And one year for my birthday he had an entire secret weekend planned out where he took me up to seattle, stayed in this AMAZING hotel and took me to a show (teatro zinzanni to any one in my area). He put a ton of thought into it and made it a compete suprise, so that was really special.
R/R: Got fabric to make curtains for my dining room and they shorted me 5 inches on one cut and 4 on the other! Of course we didn't realize until we cut the other lengths and got to those remainders. I'll never buy fabric from Walmart again!
CS/Q: *TW* Being 3DPO I'm assuming all my symptoms can't actually be pregnancy related. But my stomach is still a hot mess. I remember feeling this way at the very beginning of my last pregnancy before I got a BFP and was near tears in the airport because I was so bloated and cramping.
GTKY: *TW* What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? Last pregnancy ended on my birthday. We had spent the whole morning in the hospital. Once we got got home and DH (BF at the time) got me settled in bed, my best friend "showed up" (Found out later that he called her), and he said he had to "run out for a minute". I was pissed. He was gone forever (It felt like) and my best friend had to leave for work. He finally got home and I was in tears and started yelling at him for being gone all afternoon. He apologized and handed me a diamond pendant. He said it took him a long time to decide because he had never bought a girl jewelry before and really didn't want to get it wrong. He went to 4 different jewelry stores. I wear it everyday and wore it on my wedding day.
Me: 28 DH:33 Dating: Sept 2009 Married: April 2014 NTNP/TTC Since Dec 2015
@magnolia131 oh i know how the working from home can go! I had an almost 3 year period where i worked from home half the time and apparently in my mind taking my laptop to the couch and turning the TV on was bad but sitting at the kitchen table with the TV off and surfing the internet was acceptable lol. As long as we meet any deadlines, we're fine, right?
Me: 30 DH: 31 Married 2010 TTC since Nov. 2015 BFP#1: 2/8/16 MC: 3/19/16 BFP#2: 9/3/16 EDD: 5/17/17
Edited because I'm dumb and get letters wrong...oh, and @SDSwenson I'm so sorry for your loss. FX you're not back for long
Hugs for all the BFNs and hard TTC days going on.
Month/Cycle: 8/8
CD/DPO: 23/7
Timing: -4, -3, 0
Testing:
R/R: I guess I'm having a hard TTC day, too. I'm grumpy and impatient, and less than optimistic. All for no particular reason. I have been going to bed way too late, so it's probably mostly fatigue. And a lot of meh.
CS/Q: Nope
GTKY: I'm in the "he does little things" boat, too. When he was working way out of town before we were living together, seeing each other required planning. A couple of different times he just showed up at my door to surprise me because he loves to do that. Also, when he was working locally, he loved to make big dinners to send me with leftovers for lunch the next day.
Me: 45 OH: 42 Beloved SS: born 12/2011 TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016 **TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW** August 2016 - dx with DOR Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T May 2017 - began freezing sperm June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks
**lurking from WTO** @magnolia131 I don't know if you've ever seen Gilmore Girls, but the fortune is a very Luke Danes thing to do and I love it. @GiddyUp82 I legitimately teared up. That is the sweetest thing. I can't even.
@berg I love Gilmore Girls! Especially the earlier seasons of the show. I actually think of the show everytime we order too much Chinese food and I'm still hungry after lol. Now that you say it, I could definitely see Luke pulling a move like that.
@eggplantface I'm so glad to hear that you and DH were able to talk about what has been bothering you both. I'm sure you two will be able to work something out about the pressure he's feeling.
Month/Cycle: 1/1
CD/DPO: 26/11
Timing: -2, -1, +1
Testing: I caved this morning because I was hoping for good news to share. BFN.
R/R: Today is DH and I's second anniversary so we have a date night scheduled at a restaurant neither of us have tried before, so I'm excited! Rant: I still feel like AF is about to make her appearance. The least that biotch can do is hold out until tomorrow.
CS/Q: Nope. Temp went up a bit today but I will not be fooled.
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? Seems silly but I'll never forget it: DH is really into four wheeling (which is a big thing here) so we went out one time with his best friend riding up front with him and my best friend hanging out with me in the back of his rig (DH and I had been best buddies for about a year at this poiny). When we were headed back to the highway after an afternoon of mud bogging, he went clear up on the side of this hill, reached out his window to pick me a fireweed flower and reached back and gave it to me, in front of his friend and everything. My friend's jaw dropped and I couldn't stop smiling the rest of the night.
@eggplantface My DH and I went through something really similar a cycle or two ago. We figured out that me being more physically direct with initiating instead of telling him it's my FW works much better. Haha. Telling him that I'm ovulating wasn't all that sexy apparently haha. I hope things get easier for you guys!
Together 2007 | Married 2011 | Me: 36 | DH: 38 Adopted Furbaby: 2014 TTC#1 : 1/2016 | IUI #2 - BFP 12/24/16 -- born 9/8/17 TTC#2: 11/2019 | Dx DOR (AMH 0.3), AMA IUI #2 - BFP 7/1/20 -- EDD 3/14/21
@eggplantface and @juliebeannn My OH operates the same way. If I keep it fun and make him feel like I just want to jump his bones because he's irresistible, he's good. But if I even hinted that it's FWP, I think he would struggle. As it is, he stops me when I get too detailed about any of what I'm doing to get KU, unless I can make it sexy, LOL.
Me: 45 OH: 42 Beloved SS: born 12/2011 TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016 **TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW** August 2016 - dx with DOR Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T May 2017 - began freezing sperm June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks
@aurora1973, @eggplantface, and @juliebeannn - my DH is the same! Can't handle much talk about getting KU and forget mentioning the FW or OV! then he is "not feeling well" a lot that week. Jumping in the shower with him always does the trick!
Me: 28 DH:33 Dating: Sept 2009 Married: April 2014 NTNP/TTC Since Dec 2015
Testing: probably tomorrow; DH doesn't want to know until after vacation is over, and AF may show up before then
R/R: bloated and having to pee nonstop is annoying...maybe it's the pools and ocean time, maybe it's all the drinks...
CS/Q:
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you?
I'd like to say proposing on a scenic overlook where we hung out (separately) as kids, but I think our second date where he asked me what my favorite food was may have been better. I threw him for a loop and said cheese. He planned an awesome fondue, Rockefeller tree, and Radio City Christmas Spectactular date and we had our first picture taken under the tree. Most of the time he's an every-day little things kinda guy.
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
R/R: so I've been really trying to lose weight, I've been dieting for two weeks and doing light exercise and hadn't lost any weight. So for the last 4 days I've got on vigorous hour and a half long hikes each day.. Well I weighed myself this morning and I gained a pound!!!!!! Ughhh
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? He's not normally a grand gesture kind of guy, so I was going to initially say this beautiful Tiffany & Co necklace he sent to my hotel room while getting ready on our wedding day but then I read some of your ladies' wonderful posts and was quickly reminded that the little things mean so much more. He's wonderful to me. I have a past with food/body image issues and on bad days he is willing to scrap our initial dinner plans for a meal that feels safer/like less of a trigger for me. He does this without question and is incredibly patient with me. On my days off, if he knows I haven't been sleeping, he will wake up a little earlier and tidy the house (clean the kitchen up, take out trash, or do some laundry) so that I can sleep in and wake up to one less thing to do that day. These are just the first things that come to mind but there is more...I am lucky to be with him. Oh! And he keeps a fortune in his wallet that says "happiness is sitting right beside you," which is from our 3rd date together. I didn't even know about it until after about 2 years of dating.
R/R: I think I'm getting sick! I had a feeling after not feeling well on Sunday, and now it's setting in. Blah. However that means time in bed with the new HP book and kittens!
CS/Q:
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? He isn't much of a romantic kind of guy. But he does all the little things and will do whatever he can to make me happy, or to make me smile. It's all the little things that add up to me.
Re: TWW Wednesday
CD/DPO: 27/11
Timing: Decent
Testing: Another BFN today
R/R: I have been feeling exactly like AF is on her way for a couple days now. I'm just annoyed it hasn't started yet. Let's get on with it and get to next cycle.
CS/Q: Nope
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? I'm not awake enough to think this through enough. I'll come back later and fill in a good story.
CD/DPO: 50/10
Timing: -2, O
Testing: not unless AF doesn't show up
R/R: Is it Friday yet? Lol.
CS/Q: none today
GTKY: H isn't a super romantic person in general, but he definitely shows me he loves me in his own way all the time. I guess our proposal story, which is too long to type here, but the short version is that he completely caught me off guard, and it was wonderful!
**TW**
Testing with RE October 2016
BFP 11/5/2016 ~ EDD 7/19/2016
Month/Cycle: 11/8
CD/DPO: 2dpt, 1dpiui
Timing: I actually think O is today so....-4, IUI on -1, O. If it was yesterday, -3, IUI on O, +1(HIO tonight per doctor's orders!)
Testing: Nope x 10
R/R: As I said above, I'm not sure if I O'ed yesterday, or today. You can O anywhere between 12-36 hours after the trigger shot. I took the trigger shot Monday night at 9:30, so that would put me around 35 hours post trigger. So late end of the spectrum but I'm having some tenderness in that region today, and I'm not convinced it's still from the cramps from the IUI yesterday. I guess at this point it doesn't really matter as the IUI is over. I would feel better though if I did in fact O today. That would mean we did the IUI ahead of time and the sperm is there waiting. Which is the ultimate goal.
CS/Q: Anyone with IUI experience? My previous two IUI's never left me tender/crampy. I did feel more pressure yesterday during the IUI than my previous two. Anyone else felt tender afterwards?
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you?
MH is hardly romantic. He's practical. He likes to do practical things for me, which in a way is his taking care of me and I find that romantic. He's a mechanic by trade so he's always making sure my car is up to speck. Oil changes, new tires, windshield wipers etc. One time I was cutting up zucchini for dinner and I mentioned how much easier it would be with a mandolin slicer. The next week I got one in the mail. He had ordered it offline as soon as the words had come out of my mouth. It's the little things like that.
CD/DPO: 30/6
Timing: -4, -3, -2, -1, +1
Testing: This changes everyday. Either not at all. Or 11dpo (Monday). Who knows if my resolve will keep up. But at this point I'm not even excited about testing. And I don't have a lot of faith in this cycle.
R/R: Not having faith in this cycle hasn't stopped me from SS. Ute cramps yesterday at 5dpo?! I'm totes KU. JK. But am I? Nah. I imagine it will keep going like that.
CS/Q: None
TW: Loss mentioned
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you?
The day after he found out I was KU, he went out while I was at work and bought a blanket he knew I wanted to a future LOs nursery. He gave it to me when I got home. He was so excited. I know it's small. And he's done way grander gestures. But that one will stick with me forever. Not to take a depressing turn about it but since the loss, I don't think he would do anything like that again. Neither of us have the same 'excitement' we did prior to the loss. So I think it has even more meaning because of that.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
CD/DPO: 20/6
Timing: -3, -2, O
Testing: Trying to wait until Sunday at 10dpo if i'm not spotting by then.
R/R: Feeling a real lack of motivation at work today. I've been so busy these last couple weeks and today I'm just kinda like meh. I have one project that will need to get finished, but after that, I may or may not be spending a larger than normal amount of time on the internets...
CS/Q:
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? Wow, there have been several it's hard to think of just one. This last time I had CD1, i texted and told him and when he got home he had stopped and gotten me chocolate and a really sweet card just saying how much he loves me. That was awesome. But there was also this time when he was a freshman in college and i was in my senior year at high school and he was planning on driving home for the weekend to visit me. Well he technically had class on friday so he told me he'd be leaving friday evening like usual. So plus 4 hours drive time and I wasn't expecting to see him until Saturday morning. But on Friday at about 4:30 the doorbell at my parents house rang and i answered it and there he was to surprise me
Married 2010
TTC since Nov. 2015
BFP#1: 2/8/16
MC: 3/19/16
BFP#2: 9/3/16 EDD: 5/17/17
mommy to the cutest rescue mutt ever.
my chart
CD/DPO: 16/5
Timing: -3,-2,-1
Testing: forcing myself to wait until 12dpo
R/R: so I've been really trying to lose weight, I've been dieting for two weeks and doing light exercise and hadn't lost any weight. So for the last 4 days I've got on vigorous hour and a half long hikes each day.. Well I weighed myself this morning and I gained a pound!!!!!! Ughhh
CS/Q:
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you?
we're obsessed with the movie "the Royal tenennbaums"- he set up a whole tent room (like Richie's in the movie) and so we go in there and just talk- it's our special place :-)
@AngelaPlus3 Sorry for the BFN! I feel your pain.
CD/DPO: 33/13
Timing: -4, -2
Testing: BFN yesterday, temp drop, heavy spotting, just waiting on AF to come in full force.
R/R: I talked to H yesterday and I didn't realize the pressure to perform hits him harder than others, it seems. It sounds like he's as frustrated with himself as I am with him, and my being frustrated really upset him. I'm glad we worked it out and are fine now, but I don't know what we can do next cycle to increase our frequency without adding pressure. He just really, really hates forced sex. Hell, so do I.
CS/Q: Nope.
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you?
After yesterday I needed this question to remind me how lucky I am. Like I said above, it's the little things he does without my asking that show love to me. E.g. yesterday morning H woke up at 4 and of course, so did I by default. I was cranky and of course pissed about a temp drop and let loose. Last night H tells me he moved an appointment he had this morning to 8 so he'd wake up at his normal time and I could sleep later. Sometimes I still feel like an insecure teenager and I'm shocked every time H shows me how much he loves me, like "Is this guy for real?" But yeah, he is.
This gif doesn't have much to do with this but it warms my cold, little heart
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
Month/Cycle: 2/2
CD/DPO: 27/10
Timing: All of the FW days other than -1.
Testing: Probably not anymore.
R/R: I was crampy all last night, woke up to some spotting, and CD1 is supposed to me tomorrow. So, I'm pretty sure this is the end of the road for me. This next cycle is our last chance in before TTA until December or later. How do all these people around me get pregnant without even trying (all of my siblings, multiple times)?! It seems like I won't be pregnant for my 30th though. Bring on the cocktails. All of them.
CS/Q:
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you?
Much like @mrsdaddario 's DH, mine isn't much into grand gestures, so I don't necessarily have a good "story". I wouldn't trade a good story for all of the little things he does for me though. I get plenty of I love yous, little smooches, and the occasional butt pat when we're out and about, even with we're with a bunch of his dudes. He sends me lots of cute Snapchats/texts throughout the day when he's thinking of me. He will surprise me with things I've randomly mentioned wanting (a record, a certain t-shirt). He attempted to buy the sign from the bar we met at along before we started dating. Stuff like that. He's a gem.
CD/DPO: 19/12 ??
Timing: fine
Testing: I tested yesterday with a BFN and then the Ovia app told me today that I should test and I thought 'well if the app says I should'...and then I felt stupid and didn't. I will 'plan' not to test again unless AF doesn't come this weekend.
R/R: I feel like I will never get pregnant. I'm peeing on sticks and taking my temp every morning and trying to BD at the right times but I don't feel like anything is ever going to work. Sorry, a little deeper and darker than I usually go. I think I'm PMSing.
CS/Q:
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? H isn't all that romantic but when he proposed he had a friend waiting to take photos. He doesn't care about photos but knew that would mean a lot to me.
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP! baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!
Take a look at my blog
Adopted Furbaby: 2014
TTC#1 : 1/2016 | IUI #2 - BFP 12/24/16 -- born 9/8/17
TTC#2: 11/2019 | Dx DOR (AMH 0.3), AMA
IUI #2 - BFP 7/1/20 -- EDD 3/14/21
Sorry about CD1. I'm pretty positive I'll be seeing you over there tomorrow.
CD/DPO: 31/10 or 11
Timing: EOD in FW
Testing: Nope
R/R: Ugh, cramps starting. Guess I'll be seeing AF in a few days.
CS/Q: Nope
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? On our 3-year anniversary he surprised me with a trip to Disneyland, where he proposed in front of the castle and managed to get someone there to catch it on video.
then 3 failed IUIs, and finally a successful IVF FET.
Due with #2 5/2/19 after HIO once in my FW,
because apparently that's how life works now. Team Blue!
@tripledaggerWed95976 My Baumer!
Edit: Sized down the massive picture I added from m phone.
Month/Cycle: 3/3
CD/DPO: 20/7
Timing: -2,-1,O
Testing: trying to hold out as long as possible
R/R: So I definitely had a dream that I was pregnant last night. It was SO realistic that when I woke up I was beyond disappointed. I wanted to go pee on a stick so bad but it's still way too early and logically I know it would be negative. Ugh. Stupid subconscious.
CS/Q: Mmmm not today
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you?
Like pretty much everyone else, my DH isn't overly romantic in the traditional sense. However he does super sweet little things all the time to let me know he loves me. He always brings me home little "treats" like my fav candy bar or a coffee (my fav thing in the world). Or if I've had an exceptionally stressful day, he'll take me somewhere to eat so I don't have to cook dinner. Basically if you can't tell, food is the way to my heart.
Married: October 2014
TTC#1:May 2016
BFP: 11/16/16 EDD: 7/30/17
4 fur babies
CD/DPO: 22/5
Timing: -4, O
Testing: No testing unless AF doesn't arrive in about a week.
R/R: I think I had the worst night of sleep I have had in such a long time. Like I felt like my stomach was a hot air balloon. I just could not get comfortable. Also, in just ridiculousness, I fell asleep with my contacts in and woke up (one of the half a dozen times) to realize that I had them in still. I have been wearing contacts for 20+ years and never have done this, like ever. Now I have the driest and scratchiest eyeballs ever and had to resort to my glasses, ugh.
CS/Q: Nope.
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? I am going to mimic what PPs have said. My DH is not overly romantic, nor is he very vocal in expressing his emotions. But he is steady and supportive and allows me to go off on a lark and do the things I need to do to stay sane which to me is romantic enough. If I had to think of one "romantic" gesture (like movie romantics) was on our first dating anniversary. He had a whole weekend planned to Newport, RI including cliff walks, hotel stays and cheesecake etc.
My Ovulation Chart: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/CallMeMrsChaos/
Month/Cycle: 13/13
CD/DPO: 19/3 or 4
Timing: not good
Testing: no plans
R/R: we're in the van now on our way to visit the in-laws. We stopped twice within the first hour and a half b/c a certain 7 yr old drinks a ton of water. A typical 3 1/2 hr trip usually ends up being 4+. Everyone's happy now though, two being asleep, so I'm good.
CS/Q:
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? DH has done a lot of sweet/romantic things for me over the years. Once he hid a ton of little sweet notes around the house for me to find which was so cute. But like most pps, he shows me in little ways every day. He works at home and watches the kids while I exercise in the morning, and gets up at 5:30 with the lo and let's me sleep in on the weekends. And right now I'm sitting in the back and have my legs stretched out on the console and dh is rubbing them. I didn't even have to ask.
DS 4/2009
m/c 11/12/2010 ~ 7 wks
m/c 7/4/2012 ~ 6 wks
DD 12/2013
mmc Baby Girl 7/12/2015 ~ 14 weeks
Twin girls! 8/26/2017
CD/DPO: 29/ 8 or 9...I always forget this and have to go to the previous day posts to check.
Timing: everyday +1
Testing: trying to hold out until Monday or Tuesday of next week.
R/R: ....and the symptom spotting has commenced (more like the phantom symptom spotting). I keep having to mentally talk myself down and remind myself that any symptoms that I even am having are typical pre-AF. I am tempted to test early (like this weekend) instead of waiting until next Tuesday like I promised myself. But I don't think I can bring myself to test on say, a Sunday, because if it's positive DH will be in the house and I won't have time to compose myself and tell him in some cute/clever way. Why am I even thinking like this when I'm 99% sure I'm not pregnant? Why do I do this to myself?
CS/Q:
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? He's not normally a grand gesture kind of guy, so I was going to initially say this beautiful Tiffany & Co necklace he sent to my hotel room while getting ready on our wedding day but then I read some of your ladies' wonderful posts and was quickly reminded that the little things mean so much more. He's wonderful to me. I have a past with food/body image issues and on bad days he is willing to scrap our initial dinner plans for a meal that feels safer/like less of a trigger for me. He does this without question and is incredibly patient with me. On my days off, if he knows I haven't been sleeping, he will wake up a little earlier and tidy the house (clean the kitchen up, take out trash, or do some laundry) so that I can sleep in and wake up to one less thing to do that day. These are just the first things that come to mind but there is more...I am lucky to be with him. Oh! And he keeps a fortune in his wallet that says "happiness is sitting right beside you," which is from our 3rd date together. I didn't even know about it until after about 2 years of dating.
@jatwal128 I've been in a real work rut these last two days, also. I'm working from home, so the distractions/temptation to get off track is everywhere.
@juliebeannn sorry about CD1...I may not be far behind you.
CD/DPO: 34/8
Timing: -4, -1, 0
Testing: probably starting Friday because I love disappointment in the morning.
R/R: work is exceptionally crappy today. Between an imbecile for a boss, month end closing, & an HR department that lives to make you miserable- I'm ready to leave.
CS/Q: Temps keep climbing. I'm still nauseous. Boobs still hurt. 1000 other reasons for these things, right?
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? I'd say finding out that I had cancer a month after we started dating & never leaving my side (every appointment, surgery, & treatment). Since then, it's all the little things that he does, like anything he can realistically do to make my life happier. *sigh* he has step kids from a previous marriage. I always them them that their goal in life is to treat their future girlfriends/wives like DH treats me. & that's a pretty cool thing to be able to say.
Month/Cycle:10/9- 5th cycle since loss
CD/DPO: 24/8 ( I think. I havent started temping again yet, we decided not to track as much to relieve some stress)
Timing: Meh, not the best.. only twice in fertile week. I'm still trying to be hopeful though
Testing: Not till AF is due. two cycles ago I went a little POAS crazy.. so trying to chill out
R/R: I've been a little dissapointed in DH this cycle. Last cycle he was like "Ok! We are going to HIO ED in FW!" and he was super excited to give it a go (we took a month off) again... And like I said, it only happened twice in FW. Ugh. I dont want to stress him out and make him feel bad, but its really frustrating
CS/Q: Nope
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? Everyone has such cute DH romantic stories!
Hes a pretty romantic guy when he feel like it.. His proposal was pretty romantic. He took me on the same hike we had our first date and did it at the top. So that was really sweet. And one year for my birthday he had an entire secret weekend planned out where he took me up to seattle, stayed in this AMAZING hotel and took me to a show (teatro zinzanni to any one in my area). He put a ton of thought into it and made it a compete suprise, so that was really special.
CD/DPO: 16/3
Timing: everyday but one
Testing: trying to stay strong and wait til DPO10
R/R: Got fabric to make curtains for my dining room and they shorted me 5 inches on one cut and 4 on the other! Of course we didn't realize until we cut the other lengths and got to those remainders. I'll never buy fabric from Walmart again!
CS/Q: *TW* Being 3DPO I'm assuming all my symptoms can't actually be pregnancy related. But my stomach is still a hot mess. I remember feeling this way at the very beginning of my last pregnancy before I got a BFP and was near tears in the airport because I was so bloated and cramping.
GTKY: *TW* What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? Last pregnancy ended on my birthday. We had spent the whole morning in the hospital. Once we got got home and DH (BF at the time) got me settled in bed, my best friend "showed up" (Found out later that he called her), and he said he had to "run out for a minute". I was pissed. He was gone forever (It felt like) and my best friend had to leave for work. He finally got home and I was in tears and started yelling at him for being gone all afternoon. He apologized and handed me a diamond pendant. He said it took him a long time to decide because he had never bought a girl jewelry before and really didn't want to get it wrong. He went to 4 different jewelry stores. I wear it everyday and wore it on my wedding day.
Dating: Sept 2009
Married: April 2014
NTNP/TTC Since Dec 2015
Living on a little farm!
Married 2010
TTC since Nov. 2015
BFP#1: 2/8/16
MC: 3/19/16
BFP#2: 9/3/16 EDD: 5/17/17
mommy to the cutest rescue mutt ever.
my chart
Married 2010
TTC since Nov. 2015
BFP#1: 2/8/16
MC: 3/19/16
BFP#2: 9/3/16 EDD: 5/17/17
mommy to the cutest rescue mutt ever.
my chart
Hugs for all the BFNs and hard TTC days going on.
Month/Cycle: 8/8
CD/DPO: 23/7
Timing: -4, -3, 0
Testing:
R/R: I guess I'm having a hard TTC day, too. I'm grumpy and impatient, and less than optimistic. All for no particular reason. I have been going to bed way too late, so it's probably mostly fatigue. And a lot of meh.
CS/Q: Nope
GTKY: I'm in the "he does little things" boat, too. When he was working way out of town before we were living together, seeing each other required planning. A couple of different times he just showed up at my door to surprise me because he loves to do that. Also, when he was working locally, he loved to make big dinners to send me with leftovers for lunch the next day.
Beloved SS: born 12/2011
TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016
**TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW**
August 2016 - dx with DOR
Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T
May 2017 - began freezing sperm
June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T
July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba
July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks
@GiddyUp82 I legitimately teared up. That is the sweetest thing. I can't even.
@eggplantface I'm so glad to hear that you and DH were able to talk about what has been bothering you both. I'm sure you two will be able to work something out about the pressure he's feeling.
Month/Cycle: 1/1
CD/DPO: 26/11
Timing: -2, -1, +1
Testing: I caved this morning because I was hoping for good news to share. BFN.
R/R: Today is DH and I's second anniversary so we have a date night scheduled at a restaurant neither of us have tried before, so I'm excited!
Rant: I still feel like AF is about to make her appearance. The least that biotch can do is hold out until tomorrow.
CS/Q: Nope. Temp went up a bit today but I will not be fooled.
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you?
Seems silly but I'll never forget it: DH is really into four wheeling (which is a big thing here) so we went out one time with his best friend riding up front with him and my best friend hanging out with me in the back of his rig (DH and I had been best buddies for about a year at this poiny). When we were headed back to the highway after an afternoon of mud bogging, he went clear up on the side of this hill, reached out his window to pick me a fireweed flower and reached back and gave it to me, in front of his friend and everything. My friend's jaw dropped and I couldn't stop smiling the rest of the night.
Married: October 2014
TTC#1:May 2016
BFP: 11/16/16 EDD: 7/30/17
4 fur babies
Adopted Furbaby: 2014
TTC#1 : 1/2016 | IUI #2 - BFP 12/24/16 -- born 9/8/17
TTC#2: 11/2019 | Dx DOR (AMH 0.3), AMA
IUI #2 - BFP 7/1/20 -- EDD 3/14/21
Me: 29 DH: 35
Married: 9/29/12
DS #1: 3/8/15Me: 29 DH: 35
Married: 9/29/12
DS #1: 3/8/15Beloved SS: born 12/2011
TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016
**TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW**
August 2016 - dx with DOR
Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T
May 2017 - began freezing sperm
June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T
July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba
July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks
Jumping in the shower with him always does the trick!
Dating: Sept 2009
Married: April 2014
NTNP/TTC Since Dec 2015
Living on a little farm!
CD/DPO: 30/9
Timing: -2
Testing: probably tomorrow; DH doesn't want to know until after vacation is over, and AF may show up before then
R/R: bloated and having to pee nonstop is annoying...maybe it's the pools and ocean time, maybe it's all the drinks...
CS/Q:
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you?
I'd like to say proposing on a scenic overlook where we hung out (separately) as kids, but I think our second date where he asked me what my favorite food was may have been better. I threw him for a loop and said cheese. He planned an awesome fondue, Rockefeller tree, and Radio City Christmas Spectactular date and we had our first picture taken under the tree. Most of the time he's an every-day little things kinda guy.
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
CD/DPO: 29/12
Timing: -2/-1
Testing: On Friday.
R/R: I think I'm getting sick! I had a feeling after not feeling well on Sunday, and now it's setting in. Blah. However that means time in bed with the new HP book and kittens!
CS/Q:
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you? He isn't much of a romantic kind of guy. But he does all the little things and will do whatever he can to make me happy, or to make me smile. It's all the little things that add up to me.
CD/DPO: 19/3
Timing: -4, -1x2
Testing: noooo
R/R: finally here and not happy with our timing but better than past months.
GTKY: What's the most romantic thing your SO/DH has done for you?
He is sooo not romantic! He planned a vacation a few years back and it was so nice to not think much!