My four year old got admitted to the hospital yesterday for pretty severe dehydration after havING vomiting and diarrhea. Now his legs hurt and he won't walk.. I'm sure they do hurt, he's been laid out for a few days, his electrolytes are completely out of whack and he's crazy stubborn.. I just want him to walk so we can go home.. and I feel terrible like I'm trying to force him to walk when it legit hurts! Blah. I just want my sweet boy to feel better
My BF seems so petty now but aaaaah it's just annoying. I spent the last two weeks with a good friend who just had gastric surgery and wouldn't. Stop. Talking. About her weight, and about how she could only eat small portions. I understand this is a big thing for her and I support her and am proud of her but it just NEVER stopped. Also, she eats more than I do, both in overall volume and in caloric intake. Anyone who has read through my posts has probably gathered that I am NOT a dieter. I intentionally cooked a lot of healthy meals that could easily be reheated and she was constantly asking me to leave out certain ingredients (cream, salt, etc), then putting half a bag of cheese on her food. I am not the kind of person to judge someone for their eating habits but after two weeks of watching the hypocrisy I was gritting my teeth not to say anything. Also she kept wanting to compare weights. I am 7 months pregnant and already having some negative thoughts about my weight gain and having someone gloat that they finally weigh the same as me was emotionally difficult. So petty, I know, but thanks for letting me get it off my chest!!
Speaking on the weight gain, my stepmom kept going on and on about how big my legs have gotten during pregnancy. I haven't gained much weight (only 9lbs so far), and I was already over weight pre-pregnancy, but I've been swelling like crazy in my legs and hands. I know she's trying to be concerned, but hearing, "you're really going to have to hit the gym hard after the baby," is not the way to go about it.
@nataliemaephotography- I'd be so mad if someone made those kind of comments to me. Don't listen to to your crazy pants stepmom... You look great and can't help the swelling
@books&icecream - it must be something her gastro doc told her bc I worked with a lady who had lap band surgery and she was the same about cheese. Would literally pour shredded cheddar onto a plate and just eat it with her hands. She said it was the protein in the cheese that made it a good snack. The weight comparison though, not cool. I'm sure she didn't mean it in a bad way, but still
I know it's Tuesday but I was having a great sleep last night until hubby (accidentally) elbowed me in the boob. A good shot too! Of course it woke me up, which meant I had to pee, but then I realized my stomach was extremely upset. I was dreaming about my stomach being upset but it was while I was asleep so I didn't care. It took me 2 hours to fall back to sleep. Now I'm exhausted and really not wanting to be at work. 4 day week!!
@bnsmith85 Thanks for mentioning that. She DID say that, due to the fact that she could only eat a small amount, her small meals had to have more calories and protein. That makes perfect sense. Now that she's gone I feel bad about complaining. I think I was more bothered by the fact that it was a constant topic and not so much by what she actually ate. The true b*tch here was probably my hormonal self.
@nataliemaephotography That would make me a but upset, your step mom shouldn't be making those comments. I'm sure you look fabulous.
Much like Natalie, I've only gained 9lbs so far and my OB told me that was on the high side and a bit too much. I just nodded but in my head I was thinking, my sister gained 50 lbs with her daughter and she turned out just fine, so I'm not too worried about 9lbs. Also, my SO feels the need to mention how everything about me has gotten bigger every time he see me and how he thinks I'll have trouble or won't take it off (which like I said i've only gained 9lbs but i have some swelling and yes, things do get bigger when your pregnant..), next time I probably going to be a single mom because he mysteriously died. ;P
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+ BFP: 03/10 First Baby: 10/20/2016
I CAN'T BELIEVE people have the audacity to talk about a pregnant woman's body to her face. I don't know what I've gained, I turn around on the scale at my OB office and told her to just tell me if it get's out of control. At my first appointment she made it a point to tell me that I'm going to gain and that not only is it ok, it's normal. @Ashleymn I don't understand why your OB would be concerned about 9 lbs. I gained 9 lbs by the end of 1st tri and my OB didn't say a word. They say 25-35 lbs is normal, I would be elated at only 9 lbs. Keep baking those babies girls and let the haters hate.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@Ashleymn@books&icecream @nataliemaephotography Ignore anyone who makes comments on your weight. While I was pregnant with my son, I put on a good 40lbs from start to finish. My boy came out just fine and while getting the weight off took some work, it did come off and then some. Looking forward to seeing some pics of ALL the lovely new mothers on here starting the END of next month! (Lots of light and love that no one goes too early)
Well, I've officially already gained my 35 pounds. I think the majority of it is boobs and belly but this ass has definitely taken on some of the burden too. Not that I'm complaining, it had gotten too small and flat for my own taste pre-BFP, and FI is certainly happy with the new curves and wants to keep them haha I'd rather not gain more than a few more pounds from here on out though.
The midwives don't seem concerned with the weight and they said the swelling is normal, so I'm not that worried and like you ladies already said, I need to just ignore her comments.
I've gained like 25 lbs (after gaining nothing for the first 15 weeks.. sooo in the last 16 weeks I've managed to do that kind of work ) .. thankfully I've only had one stranger comment on my size, but with this being number four I know it's just something that's going to happen.. let the haters hate, and move on knowing you're growing a sweet healthy babe! I say this as I'm sitting on the table at my obs office dreaming of the fries and frosty I'm going to stop and get on the way back to the hospital!
RE: the weight issue. I've gained probably 20lbs so far, but I was pretty small to begin with (don't know how much stock to put into BMIs, since they don't really measure health level, but my BMI was always on the border of the normal and underweight categories) so no one has really noticed or cared about my weight gain (except my mom who loves to say "I can see your face is getting bigger!!" Ugh. Thanks, mom!).
But I get comments in the other direction, as I've mentioned before: "You look so small!" or "You're HOW far along? You're tiny!" or "Is the baby growing okay? I thought you'd be much bigger by now."
Both hurt. To tell a woman she has gained too much weight with her pregnancy is mean. To tell a woman she hasn't gained enough weight with her pregnancy is mean. These people are not our doctors, have not been with us through the whole journey, do not know what we eat or how much we exercise or what we worry about.
For some people, they're just being snotty or rude or stupid. But I know for most people they're just trying to be nice or helpful. But having dealt with so many issues in this pregnancy so far, it gets hard to smile and laugh off the "you're so small, is the baby okay?" comments. What do these people want me to say? There are only two possible answers: either a.) baby is fine, but thanks for telling me I'm not gaining a healthy amount of weight to take care of him; or b.) baby is not fine, and thanks for reminding me and oh, maybe I don't want to talk about my or my baby's health problems with you, mere work acquaintance!
Seriously. Whatever happened to "You look great!"???? Ugh. People are the worst.
Thanks @bamacoop! I'm one of those 'carrying small' ladies and in fact baby is a bit on the small side but I'm doing everything I can over here!
What I've learned during this pregnancy is just to not mention anything about size at all- just "you look great and beautiful" is what a pregnant lady wants to hear!
I have a coworker who is pretty much an idiot, but one thing she actually gets right is if she's going to say something about how I look, it's you look so good! She's actually the last person I thought would be so positive about my pregnancy. As long as your doctor isn't worried, I say you do you!
It didn't bother me much, but at my shower we played the string game where everyone cuts a piece of string that they think will fit around the belly. Most everyone was way over except my mom, MIL and one of DH's aunts. I could see how that game would be very hurtful sometimes and I vow to never make someone play it at a baby shower!!
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
I might just be a spoilsport though, because I don't like most shower games. I don't like the string game, or the one where everyone wears a clothespin and people take it off you if you say the word "baby," or the one where you put melted candy in the diapers.... those just aren't me.
I just wanna sit around, open presents, eat cake, and mingle.
I might just be a spoilsport though, because I don't like most shower games. I don't like the string game, or the one where everyone wears a clothespin and people take it off you if you say the word "baby," or the one where you put melted candy in the diapers.... those just aren't me.
I just wanna sit around, open presents, eat cake, and mingle.
Oh I hate all shower games. But I had never noticed how offensive that one could be to a pregnant woman until I'm the pregnant woman. I grinned and laughed like I enjoyed all the games.
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
@ibabyloveb87 That's a shower game?? That's awful! I'm calling my mother and making sure that we do NOT do that. Lol
My shower is actually a co-ed BBQ, so hopefully we won't be doing any of that. My guy friends are cool with anything, they let us dress them up in toilet paper wedding dresses at my wedding shower, but more of my husband's friends will be here this time and I don't think there's any baby shower games they'll want to play. Lol
I might just be a spoilsport though, because I don't like most shower games. I don't like the string game, or the one where everyone wears a clothespin and people take it off you if you say the word "baby," or the one where you put melted candy in the diapers.... those just aren't me.
I just wanna sit around, open presents, eat cake, and mingle.
Same. I told my hosts that I felt this way too.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@annabenanna it took her nearly 24 hours to even text me back to say "Oh sorry I forgot, but I'll be there" so I think she's just changed as a person. At this point, I don't even care if she shows up. If she can't be happy for me, I don't need her wasting space in my life.
Re: Monday Bitchfest (August 1!)
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
My BF seems so petty now but aaaaah it's just annoying. I spent the last two weeks with a good friend who just had gastric surgery and wouldn't. Stop. Talking. About her weight, and about how she could only eat small portions. I understand this is a big thing for her and I support her and am proud of her but it just NEVER stopped. Also, she eats more than I do, both in overall volume and in caloric intake. Anyone who has read through my posts has probably gathered that I am NOT a dieter. I intentionally cooked a lot of healthy meals that could easily be reheated and she was constantly asking me to leave out certain ingredients (cream, salt, etc), then putting half a bag of cheese on her food. I am not the kind of person to judge someone for their eating habits but after two weeks of watching the hypocrisy I was gritting my teeth not to say anything. Also she kept wanting to compare weights. I am 7 months pregnant and already having some negative thoughts about my weight gain and having someone gloat that they finally weigh the same as me was emotionally difficult.
So petty, I know, but thanks for letting me get it off my chest!!
DS#2 due 25 April 2019
@books&icecream - it must be something her gastro doc told her bc I worked with a lady who had lap band surgery and she was the same about cheese. Would literally pour shredded cheddar onto a plate and just eat it with her hands. She said it was the protein in the cheese that made it a good snack.
The weight comparison though, not cool. I'm sure she didn't mean it in a bad way, but still
DS#2 due 25 April 2019
Much like Natalie, I've only gained 9lbs so far and my OB told me that was on the high side and a bit too much. I just nodded but in my head I was thinking, my sister gained 50 lbs with her daughter and she turned out just fine, so I'm not too worried about 9lbs. Also, my SO feels the need to mention how everything about me has gotten bigger every time he see me and how he thinks I'll have trouble or won't take it off (which like I said i've only gained 9lbs but i have some swelling and yes, things do get bigger when your pregnant..), next time I probably going to be a single mom because he mysteriously died. ;P
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+
BFP: 03/10
First Baby: 10/20/2016
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Ignore anyone who makes comments on your weight. While I was pregnant with my son, I put on a good 40lbs from start to finish. My boy came out just fine and while getting the weight off took some work, it did come off and then some. Looking forward to seeing some pics of ALL the lovely new mothers on here starting the END of next month! (Lots of light and love that no one goes too early)
@bamacoop, the stress of hearing all those things from your doc must be awful. I'm so sorry, I'm just hear to send you internet hugs.
@scostel2, that sucks. Could she be jealous?
@SpaceBurger and @Ashleymn, your DHs/SOs need to be smacked! Hard. Like really hard.
RE: the weight issue. I've gained probably 20lbs so far, but I was pretty small to begin with (don't know how much stock to put into BMIs, since they don't really measure health level, but my BMI was always on the border of the normal and underweight categories) so no one has really noticed or cared about my weight gain (except my mom who loves to say "I can see your face is getting bigger!!" Ugh. Thanks, mom!).
But I get comments in the other direction, as I've mentioned before: "You look so small!" or "You're HOW far along? You're tiny!" or "Is the baby growing okay? I thought you'd be much bigger by now."
Both hurt. To tell a woman she has gained too much weight with her pregnancy is mean. To tell a woman she hasn't gained enough weight with her pregnancy is mean. These people are not our doctors, have not been with us through the whole journey, do not know what we eat or how much we exercise or what we worry about.
For some people, they're just being snotty or rude or stupid. But I know for most people they're just trying to be nice or helpful. But having dealt with so many issues in this pregnancy so far, it gets hard to smile and laugh off the "you're so small, is the baby okay?" comments. What do these people want me to say? There are only two possible answers: either a.) baby is fine, but thanks for telling me I'm not gaining a healthy amount of weight to take care of him; or b.) baby is not fine, and thanks for reminding me and oh, maybe I don't want to talk about my or my baby's health problems with you, mere work acquaintance!
Seriously. Whatever happened to "You look great!"???? Ugh. People are the worst.
What I've learned during this pregnancy is just to not mention anything about size at all- just "you look great and beautiful" is what a pregnant lady wants to hear!
It didn't bother me much, but at my shower we played the string game where everyone cuts a piece of string that they think will fit around the belly. Most everyone was way over except my mom, MIL and one of DH's aunts. I could see how that game would be very hurtful sometimes and I vow to never make someone play it at a baby shower!!
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Oh, I hate that game!!!
I might just be a spoilsport though, because I don't like most shower games. I don't like the string game, or the one where everyone wears a clothespin and people take it off you if you say the word "baby," or the one where you put melted candy in the diapers.... those just aren't me.
I just wanna sit around, open presents, eat cake, and mingle.
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
My shower is actually a co-ed BBQ, so hopefully we won't be doing any of that. My guy friends are cool with anything, they let us dress them up in toilet paper wedding dresses at my wedding shower, but more of my husband's friends will be here this time and I don't think there's any baby shower games they'll want to play. Lol
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16