Pretty much how I felt this morning. Let's hear em!
*American lady living in Tanzania, East Africa, since 2013
DH - Tanzanian
BFP #1 - MC Dec 2, 2015 (@ 9weeks)
BFP #2 - Feb 2, 2016 --EDD 10/10/16 --Abigail- October 6, 2016. Heart warrior- OHS at 7 months old
October 2017- Began fostering to adopt T, (DOB: November 19, 2013)
March 2021 - Bonus daughter, N, moved in with us (DOB: June 6, 2014)
BFP #3 - April 25, 2024 -- EDD December 31, 2024
Re: Monday Bitchfest (August 1!)
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
Baby GIRL born 9/16/201
BFP! EDD 8/1/2019 CP 4w2d
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
One of the biggest problems is even though I love my sister, she's still young and with her bf being there I don't trust her to really keep an eye on my dd in the water (I don't do any bodies of water since they freak me out). my dh took a day off this week so he can go and that way dd will be safe. And of course, now it's supposed to rain and have storms. So my sister is pouting again but dh can't switch days and can't take off another day to go.
I honestly can't take it right now. She's 17 but she's the baby of the family so has basically always gotten her way. I love her, but she's a brat. She has always had so many opportunities that we never had (there are two 'groups' due to 2 marriages. Oldest brother is 16 years older then youngest sister). But she's making this out to be such a big deal. It's a freaking lake!!!
Oh I should add that other days we've offered they have also been busy so it's not entirely like I chose the last possible date and screwed her out of the trip.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
He doesn't lay in bed all morning by any means, and once he's up he's super helpful. But, he's just slow to get up. If I ask him to get DS, he says he will, but then lays there for 5-10 more minutes, all the while our toddler is yelling for me. So, I cave and get him, change him, get his milk, etc. then I'm late for work.
On Saturday night, he went to bed the same time as me (10:45). When DS woke up at 6:10 a.m., he acted like he could barely function he was so tired. Umm...welcome to my life, sir. Literally. That was a normal, adult amount of sleep, so buck up and get out of bed. Happy Sunday!
It's never ending.
My younger brother and sister have had such a different life then us but I feel like they take soooo much for granted because they just have had everything. My stepfather is a wonderful man, but I don't think he did his kids any favors. They never even say thank you and they have always been back talkers (which drives the older kids crazy because still to this day I can count on one hand the times I've talked back to my mom)! But that is seriously my only fault with them. They really are great kids, it's just different worlds.
I feel like I am having the most stressful pregnancy ever. My OB keeps having to call me and keeps saying "I know, I know, I wish I didn't have to call you this much either! What other bad news can I give?" Ugh.
Throughout the pregnancy I have:
first, gotten a call saying I have HPV (was a virgin until I married DH this January, so...thanks for that, DH!)
Then gotten a call saying I am a carrier for cystic fibrosis and we need to test DH. (He is not a carrier, so thank goodness for that!)
Then gotten a call saying I have O- blood and need to test DH. He has B+ blood, so I'll need to get the rhogam shot at 28-30 weeks. But no big deal.
Then gotten a call saying one of my tests showed a high level of something and got sent to the MFM doc to have two separate ultrasounds to make sure Baby's spine and brain are okay. They are, so that's good!
Then last week I got a call saying my blood came back positive for antibodies, so somehow in the last couple months since my last antibody screen my blood has mixed with Baby's blood and that's not good. Had an emergency OB visit on Thursday for an US and everything looked great. But now I need to go back to the MFM for the special high risk ultrasounds and might need them every week. If they show issues, then I'll either have to have a blood transfusion for Baby in utero, or I'll have to be induced early.
How? How did our blood get mixed? No car accident, no punch or kick in the stomach, no fall down a flight of stairs, no skydiving or rick climbing or parasailing. Placenta looks good, uterus looks good, amniotic fluid looks good, so no one has any idea what happened.
OB just says to make sure I have no bleeding and that Baby continues to move and kick. She said she's only had one other patient that has had this issue and they had to induce around 34-35 weeks. DH keeps saying to stay calm and everything will be okay and "if he comes early, he comes early," but then the OB keeps saying things like "Baby will become anemic and could die," and how can I not be worried about that?
Ugh. Has anyone else experienced their negative blood mixing with the baby's positive blood? Any advice or stories about what your OB did with your pregnancy would be great.
Yowza. Sorry this was so long!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
Try to remember that the doctors have to inform you of the worst case scenario, which, in reality, will likely never happen.
Thanks for the encouragement, y'all! I'm still living my normal day-to-day life, but every now and then I'll be sitting there and have a daydream about waking up in the middle of the night bleeding to death and heading straight to the emergency room. So. That's no fun. But I'm trying to just not think about it until I have to.
The doc basically said that the baby WILL become anemic, it's just a matter of how quickly and how badly. Could be that it's a slow thing that doesn't affect him that badly... or it could happen quickly and really mess with his heart and blood pumping. So we'll just have to keep checking.
I guess on a nicer note, we've had way more ultrasounds than normal so we get to see his little face a lot more. Last week he was opening and closing his mouth a lot and moving his chest up and down for breathing practice, so that was really cool to see!
I hope all you RH negative mamas get through to your shots okay! No bungee jumping or secret Fight Clubbing until your shots!
My Monday bitch: last week it was my sister, this week it's my dad. He just actually had the nerve to say in a roomful of people - a roomful of men, actually - that if I think being pregnant is difficult, just wait until the baby is out. Mind you, I've had very few complaints during my pregnancy. And I wasn't even complaining at the time! My dad's friend had just asked how motherhood was treating me and I told him that everything was great so far. I've been blessed that it's been so easy, actually. I'm under no illusion that parenthood won't be different, and difficult, and life-changing...all those things and more. That said, I am looking forward to sleeping on my back again and not having to pee every 10 minutes and not feeling tired for no apparent reason all the time (even though I realize that's because I'm growing a human) and not feeling like a damn invalid who can't lift more than 10 pounds and saying goodbye to this stupid carpal tunnel...I could go on. All I said was, "I'm pretty sure I'm the only person in this room who can say that, in fact, some things are definitely more difficult." Please, men, keep your opinions to yourself when it comes to pregnancy.
Edited because words are hard.
@bamacoop That's super scary, I'm sorry to hear you're going through all of that. Have faith that the doctors will do everything they can to keep you and your LO safe. I had my Rhogam shot at 28 weeks, no problems so far. Beware, ladies who have not yet had the pleasure--it's given in the buttock. Fun stuff.
Baby GIRL born 9/16/201
BFP! EDD 8/1/2019 CP 4w2d
@BluMommy Yes, you should get it this pregnancy, too.
Baby GIRL born 9/16/201
BFP! EDD 8/1/2019 CP 4w2d
I have grown to have no patience for friends that are never there for me like I am there for them. I have this friend who I have been friends for about 20 years at this point, and up until a few years ago I probably would have considered her one of my best friends (I was MOH at her wedding, she was a bridesmaid in mine, etc). In the last few years, we have obviously been growing apart but not through anyone's fault, just time and circumstance have made us not see each other or talk as often as we used to. But we have been through a lot together - we both lost our moms, who were also friends, to cancer in our early 20s and had always relied on each other about mom stuff since we know the other understands what it's like. When she was pregnant with her daughter, I made a point of being really excited for her and texting her for every milestone and appointment because I know those are the little things that often go overlooked when you don't have a mom to do them for you. I fielded lots of crying phone calls about missing her mom and how hard it was going through it without her, came to the hospital right after the baby was born, all the things a friend does in these situations.
Since I've been pregnant, she has legit texted me a total of twice. Both times were her checking in to see if I had gestational diabetes (?????) and then barely responding to texts after. I send her occasional text updates after appointments and just get very short responses with no conversation starting. Today, I checked in with my SIL to see if she needed me to chase down any RSVPs for my baby shower, which is less than 2 weeks away. Who has not responded? Yupp, this friend. Like wtf?
Thanks for this info!
Also, dangit. I was hoping I wouldn't have to fight with my insurance over this happiness again. Ugh!
@BluMommy I'm sorry you have to fight your insurance for a RhoGAM shot. It's medically necessary.
My Monday BF - I took my son to the park and the grocery store this morning, but when I got back, the new neighbors' moving truck was blocking the driveway. I had to go around the block and park across the street, which meant I had to carry three heavy grocery bags and a 35 lb toddler across a very busy street. I (very politely) scolded them, but then I immediately felt bad about it because there really wasn't anywhere else for them to park. Ugh.
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