I'm glad you asked about WFH... my husband currently works from home and he seems to think he won't have a problem watching baby and working at the same time if I end up in another office job. I think he's in for quite a surprise, so Im looking into local daycare centers juuuuust in case
@tinattt23 and @ea301 do your jobs require you to be on the phone with clients - internal or external, or internal meetings by phone? That makes it so much harder.
Has anyone else gotten to the itchy downstairs yet?
It itches to the point I'm almost squirming while sitting, but its sensitive enough that actually scratching - no matter how nicely- leads to pain and/or bleeding.
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@ea301 I think with only one person at home it'd be a lot harder. At least we can tag team it.
@DiFazette We don't do much phone work. Maybe a call or two a week (and 90% internal). And never at the same time. So someone could be on baby duty while the other is occupied.
I I hope it works out. It'll be such a money saver for as long as it lasts. But we'll just have to see how it goes.
After a busy day, is extra campiness normal? I probably overdid it today. I exercised this morning, then spent a few hours in my classroom moving furniture around. I had help for the heavy stuff, so mostly just the desks on my own. But I've felt more cramps than usual tonight. I hate not knowing what pains are normal/not.
@cgss11 I won't say yes or no because I don't know what you're feeling, but the more I do the more likely I have pains and cramps. Doing too much seems to get the RLP flared too.
@tinattt23 and @ea301 do your jobs require you to be on the phone with clients - internal or external, or internal meetings by phone? That makes it so much harder.
Yup, he is usually on conference calls at least an hour every day. I honestly don't see how it could work with just him at home! But maybe we'll have an angel baby who never cries or needs anything
Is it normal to have Braxton Hicks everyday? I've been having them a few times a day since Saturday. I called my OBs office Monday and the nurse wasn't concerned as long as they aren't painful and they go away if I change what I'm doing. But I can't imagine having these daily for the next 18 weeks. It's freaking me out.
Are anyone else's boobs feeling firmer these days? Specifically, my areolas are very firm to the touch. I can't feel any difference within my boobs (like heaviness) or anything, it's only when I actually touch them with my fingers. FTM, not sure if this is normal, but I noticed it in the shower this morning and it kinda weirded me out.
@jandd2014, @BabyRobbinsAdventure, I have the same thing both last preg. and this one. I think it is your milk ducts starting to grow and produce. My OB hadn't cared either pregnancy, but you might bring it up at your next app. just for more peace of mind.
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Did a question quick search about cramping but couldn't find anything. Those of you getting lower abdominal and vaginal cramps or have had them around 19-20weeks, what did you do to ease or stop them? I had to come home early from a family vacation yesterday because they got so bad. I woke up with them yesterday and have not stopped. I've been in touch with My Dr and have my anatomy scan tomorrow morning. Baby is clearly moving but still feel like something is wrong. I'm laying down with feet up, drinking water, eating greens and fruit, took a bath. Any one have any ideas to help the cramps?
sorry obviously only saw the first page of this thread and didn't read the second page. But any one have any ideas besides water? Any body take vitamins or oils that help with this?
@JEM525 are the pains actually in your vagina? Like your labia? You can get varicose veins in your vagina/labia that I hear are terrible. Just a thought if it's literally vagina pain. Glad you have an appt tomorrow.
ETA - new vitamins/oils are a big no no during pregnancy unless approved directly by your OB.
@Kate08Young It may be a yeast infection. If you're itching that bad I would definitely try some Vagisil or something to see if it helps. Any relief is better than none and it is safe for us to use being pregnant and all.
I've got three sort of weird ones that I will have forgotten by Sunday. These are opinion based but I'd like to hear thoughts on them: 1 - I kiss my 16 month old on the mouth. He gives me open mouth smooches sometimes. It seems hilarious and cute. Is it weird though? Is there a point at which it isn't weird and then becomes weird? 2 - I'm naked in front of my son whenever. When does that become weird? what age? 3 - I was at a bbq of friends and babies and one 5 year old. All the babies were naked in the baby pool and the 5 year old was too. 5 struck me as maybe too old to be running around naked outside in the neighborhood. Not because of the kid but maybe because of the neighbors?
I've got three sort of weird ones that I will have forgotten by Sunday. These are opinion based but I'd like to hear thoughts on them: 1 - I kiss my 16 month old on the mouth. He gives me open mouth smooches sometimes. It seems hilarious and cute. Is it weird though? Is there a point at which it isn't weird and then becomes weird?
we still kiss DD...and sadly at 26 months half the time she still licks me. I think about 5/6 is when I'd draw a hard line if it's still going on then. I didn't grow up in a house that showed physical affection (not even hugs) so it's new to me. But she still loves it and goes for my mouth even if I try to turn my cheek to her.
2 - I'm naked in front of my son whenever. When does that become weird? what age?
we also are naked in front of her. She's much more aware now than at 18 months and says (and points out) body parts. She knows boobies, "gina", butt, and penis. I have no problem with it at this age...but probably closer to 4? Idk. We occasionally throw her in the tub with one of us as well.
3 - I was at a bbq of friends and babies and one 5 year old. All the babies were naked in the baby pool and the 5 year old was too. 5 struck me as maybe too old to be running around naked outside in the neighborhood. Not because of the kid but maybe because of the neighbors?
I think 5 is kinda old if there were "strangers" there. Very close family friends that you know aren't creeps would be fine with me up to about 5...but not a bunch of random people. Or even a bunch of people. I know I was running around naked in the pool until I was 6 or 7 but it was only when it was only my family. If anyone else was over, no matter how close we were to them, at least boy swim shorts were required. Currently with DD we let her splash in the pool in just a swim diaper unless others are over. But half the time she throws a fit if she doesn't get to wear her pretty swim suit...so it's a non issue for us.
I've got three sort of weird ones that I will have forgotten by Sunday. These are opinion based but I'd like to hear thoughts on them: 1 - I kiss my 16 month old on the mouth. He gives me open mouth smooches sometimes. It seems hilarious and cute. Is it weird though? Is there a point at which it isn't weird and then becomes weird? 2 - I'm naked in front of my son whenever. When does that become weird? what age? 3 - I was at a bbq of friends and babies and one 5 year old. All the babies were naked in the baby pool and the 5 year old was too. 5 struck me as maybe too old to be running around naked outside in the neighborhood. Not because of the kid but maybe because of the neighbors?
1. I think knit is totally normal and not weird at all. I still kiss my almost 5 year old DS and my almost 2 year old DD on the mouth and it isn't weird.
2. I was wondering this question too as DS will be almost 5. I still pee in front of him since he never leaves me alone. But I do try and get dressed when he isn't in the room. I also plan on nursing this LO and I am not leaving the room every time the baby is hungry so I will still nurse in front of him, he knows that is "baby juice" that the baby needs to drink.
3. I personally hate naked babies running around. I even hate it when they are just wearing a diaper. I absolutely think that 5 years old is too old to be running abound naked.
@sourlemon - that's about what I think I would default at too... age-wise/company wise for all three @ve304856 - that's too funny about the naked babies thing. I absolutely love naked babies running around with their little chubby cherub buns. Nothing cuter!!!
@slartybartfast 1. I probably will never kiss my kids on the mouth. To me it is inappropriate affection. IMHO kissing on the mouth is for lovers/spouses/SOs. 2. I think once the child starts truly noticing and asking about differences between male and female, that is probably the time for me to stay dressed in front of the child. I would still answer questions, but without using my body. 3. I think once the child is old enough to pick out and get dressed on their own (for the most part) then it is time for them to stay dressed.
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@slartybartfast I think mouth kisses are okay. The fact that you're asking questions is indicative that it probably won't ever get to a place that's weird. I would let that sort of thing evolve organically between you and your child as he grows older. No doubt there will come a point where neither of you want to express yourselves that way. I don't however think you should just say okay now you're five, no more kisses like that. That sounds like that might be painful.
My dads parents are very loving but not particularly physically affectionate. My dad was very affectionate and held my hand as long as I needed him to. My grandfather was more afraid of someone misinterpreting his affection and I recall clearly when he pulled away from being physically affectionate and it hurt my feelings. He was and is an amazing grandfather but I wish he had been confident enough to hold my hand a little longer.
Just love your boy in the way that comes natural to the both of you and I think it will organically outgrow the baby stage and you both will begin to express yourselves differently when it's appropriate. You're definitely not hurting him by loving him openly and unreservedly. Nothing inappropriate about that at all.
@caseyewhitaker I didn't mean it in the way like, oh it's your 5th birthday, no more mouth kisses for you!...I meant it like I think that is about the age I think DD would probably be done with it naturally. If not, then I think that age range is probably old enough to explain why it's time to move to cheek/forehead kisses in a way that they understand its not removing affection, just changing how it's expressed.
But I only have a 2 year old so no experience with how it would work. I also know most of my friends who did mouth kisses early on, their kiddos stopped between 4-5 years old naturally. I never inquired on why it changed but the kids directed it. That's when cooties start to exist, right?
@slartybartfast I think Kindergarten age 5/6 is to old for naked in public. Kisses on the lips can be a cultural thing, I'm Hispanic, kisses and effection never end for my family and friends. Not sure about getting naked with your kids? Maybe 5/6 depending on circumstances? I don't have kids old enough yet so take it with a grain of salt
@DiFazette I didn't even think about the vaginal pain being that, I'll ask my OB tomorrow, thank you.
The cramping in the abdomen is probably Braxton hiks but very strong and consistent and I was drinking water all day and night these past few days so I need more ideas how to relieve the stress. More potassium? Vitamins? Not sure if anyone has a go to, when water is being consumed already.
Did a question quick search about cramping but couldn't find anything. Those of you getting lower abdominal and vaginal cramps or have had them around 19-20weeks, what did you do to ease or stop them? I had to come home early from a family vacation yesterday because they got so bad. I woke up with them yesterday and have not stopped. I've been in touch with My Dr and have my anatomy scan tomorrow morning. Baby is clearly moving but still feel like something is wrong. I'm laying down with feet up, drinking water, eating greens and fruit, took a bath. Any one have any ideas to help the cramps?
sorry obviously only saw the first page of this thread and didn't read the second page. But any one have any ideas besides water? Any body take vitamins or oils that help with this?
Water definitely. Because water. And rest. Being on my left side does seem to help most.
But have you ruled out gas? I know. So lame. But my pregnancy gas struggle has been real y'all. And sometimes all I need to do to relieve my cramps and aches is fart like 45 times and it's all good. It gets trapped basically and we have slower digestion so it doesn't work its way through the system the same way. My cramps have been everywhere though and not necessarily JUST in my low abdomen, yet I do feel it there.
My doc also told me this set of weeks for baby is another big growth time. Check your belly pix for example. When I did, I noticed the bump between 19, 20 & 21 was a MAJOR difference. No wonder I hurt! He is growing like mad!!!
Lastly, we have heard the term "vagina lightning" or "lightning crotch" tossed around a few times. It's the sensation of zings and zaps in your lady bits from the pressure of baby. Another reason the growth right now might be a factor. I suggest you google this if you haven't already to see if you may be experiencing it!
@swiddon33 And sometimes all I need to do to relieve my cramps and aches is fart like 45 times and it's all good. It gets trapped basically and we have slower digestion so it doesn't work its way through the system the same way.
This happened to me yesterday. I had a gas pain in the same spot yesterday from morning until midnight when it finally managed an exit.
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It itches to the point I'm almost squirming while sitting, but its sensitive enough that actually scratching - no matter how nicely- leads to pain and/or bleeding.
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@DiFazette We don't do much phone work. Maybe a call or two a week (and 90% internal). And never at the same time. So someone could be on baby duty while the other is occupied.
I I hope it works out. It'll be such a money saver for as long as it lasts. But we'll just have to see how it goes.
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STMs... Is this normal?
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sorry obviously only saw the first page of this thread and didn't read the second page. But any one have any ideas besides water? Any body take vitamins or oils that help with this?
Basically lots of water and I was always told to lay on my left side. Lots and lots of water.
ETA - new vitamins/oils are a big no no during pregnancy unless approved directly by your OB.
1 - I kiss my 16 month old on the mouth. He gives me open mouth smooches sometimes. It seems hilarious and cute. Is it weird though? Is there a point at which it isn't weird and then becomes weird?
2 - I'm naked in front of my son whenever. When does that become weird? what age?
3 - I was at a bbq of friends and babies and one 5 year old. All the babies were naked in the baby pool and the 5 year old was too. 5 struck me as maybe too old to be running around naked outside in the neighborhood. Not because of the kid but maybe because of the neighbors?
2. I was wondering this question too as DS will be almost 5. I still pee in front of him since he never leaves me alone. But I do try and get dressed when he isn't in the room. I also plan on nursing this LO and I am not leaving the room every time the baby is hungry so I will still nurse in front of him, he knows that is "baby juice" that the baby needs to drink.
3. I personally hate naked babies running around. I even hate it when they are just wearing a diaper. I absolutely think that 5 years old is too old to be running abound naked.
@ve304856 - that's too funny about the naked babies thing. I absolutely love naked babies running around with their little chubby cherub buns. Nothing cuter!!!
1. I probably will never kiss my kids on the mouth. To me it is inappropriate affection. IMHO kissing on the mouth is for lovers/spouses/SOs.
2. I think once the child starts truly noticing and asking about differences between male and female, that is probably the time for me to stay dressed in front of the child. I would still answer questions, but without using my body.
3. I think once the child is old enough to pick out and get dressed on their own (for the most part) then it is time for them to stay dressed.
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August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
My dads parents are very loving but not particularly physically affectionate. My dad was very affectionate and held my hand as long as I needed him to. My grandfather was more afraid of someone misinterpreting his affection and I recall clearly when he pulled away from being physically affectionate and it hurt my feelings. He was and is an amazing grandfather but I wish he had been confident enough to hold my hand a little longer.
Just love your boy in the way that comes natural to the both of you and I think it will organically outgrow the baby stage and you both will begin to express yourselves differently when it's appropriate. You're definitely not hurting him by loving him openly and unreservedly. Nothing inappropriate about that at all.
But I only have a 2 year old so no experience with how it would work. I also know most of my friends who did mouth kisses early on, their kiddos stopped between 4-5 years old naturally. I never inquired on why it changed but the kids directed it. That's when cooties start to exist, right?
@DiFazette I didn't even think about the vaginal pain being that, I'll ask my OB tomorrow, thank you.
The cramping in the abdomen is probably Braxton hiks but very strong and consistent and I was drinking water all day and night these past few days so I need more ideas how to relieve the stress. More potassium? Vitamins? Not sure if anyone has a go to, when water is being consumed already.
But have you ruled out gas? I know. So lame. But my pregnancy gas struggle has been real y'all. And sometimes all I need to do to relieve my cramps and aches is fart like 45 times and it's all good. It gets trapped basically and we have slower digestion so it doesn't work its way through the system the same way. My cramps have been everywhere though and not necessarily JUST in my low abdomen, yet I do feel it there.
My doc also told me this set of weeks for baby is another big growth time. Check your belly pix for example. When I did, I noticed the bump between 19, 20 & 21 was a MAJOR difference. No wonder I hurt! He is growing like mad!!!
Lastly, we have heard the term "vagina lightning" or "lightning crotch" tossed around a few times. It's the sensation of zings and zaps in your lady bits from the pressure of baby. Another reason the growth right now might be a factor. I suggest you google this if you haven't already to see if you may be experiencing it!