I'm tired of being sick and tired and in pain. Most of my close friends already have children. I've watched first hand so many of them through pregnancy and they were such troopers. One of my girlfriends worked until labor, another ran a half marathon 2 weeks before delivery, almost all the girls I've done aerial silks training with trained through their pregnancies. I feel like a giant baby. I can't even vacuum without getting winded. I have these shocking pains in my pelvis, my hips hurt so bad my husband's attempts to massage them leave me in tears, I'm tired and unmotivated, and I feel like I can't do even a fraction of the things I used to do all the time. I miss my aerial silks training and I can't decide if I'm just expecting too much of myself, or accepting too little
or better yet I got one who told me that if their home country's team is on during the Olympics they would be late because they have to watch. STOP. I CAME IN EVERY DAY THROUGH MORNING SICKNESS FROM HELL AND FOUGHT FATIGUE. THIS IS A RESIDENTIAL FACILITY AND THEY NEED SUPERVISION JUST STAHP.
DVRs exist exactly for this. Nooooope. (As another millennial in a management position I share your frustrations with our generation big time.
@themuffinman16 I hope it helps! You always have the very excellent resource of coming here to vent and get support. You'll get support over there, too, but it's always support geared toward ACTION. You can come here for all the "She said WHAT??" you need
A few weeks before I found out I was pregnant I got accepted to run the Chicago Marathon this October. I've been planning on deferring it to next year but I just got the email that deferment only holds my spot, I'll have to pay the entry fee again. That's $185 wasted for this year's race, plus whatever they charge for next year's. Bitches.
Most white whine MBF ever but: I cannot for the life of me figure out how to comfortably sleep with a pregnancy pillow in a way that does not result in me waking up with a headache. I don't even know what's causing the headache. I did something magical last week and they went away, but then I did laundry and washed all of our bedsheets and had to rearrange things on the bed and the stars are not in perfect alignment and now the headaches are back. I can't figure out if it's a neck support issue, too many pillows going on, OR totally unrelated to the pillow situation entirely and just something stupid like not drinking enough water before bed.
My MBF is along the same lines as @BrennansMom2012 I swear if one more person asks me if I'm hoping for a boy based solely on the fact that I happen to have a DD already, I'm going to lose my shit. What the hell is so wrong with two girls (or two boys)? When did having two kids of the same sex become so undesirable? I have a sister and we are very close and always have been. I'd love to give my DD that gift. Would it be cool to have one of each? Sure. Would it be cool to give my DD a BFF for life? Absolutely. Would it be cool if everyone would STFU and stop telling me what I must want? Ya damn straight it would.
Preach.
As a PGALer, I just can't really fully get behind preferring a particular sex. I literally just want a healthy, happy baby. It's not like I plan to treat it any differently if it's a male or a female. I called my mom over the weekend to tell her the sex of the baby and was like, "You gotta guess first before I tell you." And she was like, "Well I was hoping for a little girl but I know you wanted a boy..." and I had to butt in and say, "No, I wanted a healthy baby. I don't care if it's a boy or a girl." Then when I told her it was a boy, her reaction was "Aw." not like "Awwwwww yay!" but like "Aw, that sucks."
If we have a second, I don't even want to think about how she'll react if it's another boy. I wanted to ask, "Why do you want it to be a girl so badly" but I just wasn't ready for the answer because I was sure it was going to be something really stupid and gender-normative and drive me insane.
@TinaBelcher do you ever feel like a little old lady sometimes? "These kids today have no respect!" Lol I complain about "those darn millennials" all the time.
@themuffinman16 oof. So sorry that you're going through all that! I hope your mom calms down. Thank God you have your step mom, it sounds like she has been a really wonderful figure in your life!
@sherrera92 My problem is the huge RANGE of Millennials. I'm right at the beginning of the "Millennial" age range, and sometimes feel more GenX; I hate being lumped in with folks just entering university...
I just thought of something that has been bothering me about the Bump lately! I cannot STAND the "You May Like" recommendations to the side of the screen. I cannot count the number of times I have seen one particular thread about Birth Injury with a picture of a baby wired up to all kinds of monitors. And on Friday they kept showing this awful picture of C-section bruising and trauma. Ugh ugh ugh. Even the sweet pictures of babies were salt in the wound when I was mainly lurking the Miscarriage boards.
@canavara I had a headache the first few days too. I washed it thinking the plastic smell could be affecting my pregnant nose. Then I realized I had the pregnancy pillow on my pillow. That little elevation was enough to cause a headache. Now when I go to bed, I have to make sure it's completely flat and I sleep far enough down into it (almost as if I were snuggling with DH). I also have to make sure I'm drinking enough water too (I'm blaming pregnancy drooling on severe water loss).
I can't get rid of these headaches and Tylenol doesn't do anything for me. Tried a cold wash cloth over my eyes, but trying to do that in a quiet place is impossible with a 2 year old. Hoping to get to the chiropractor this week because everything else has been useless.
@christac1010 Ooh, that might be what's happening. I still have my other pillows on the bed (behind the pregnancy pillow though) but it might causing it to be elevated slightly because it's all kind of cramped together. Thanks for saying that, I don't think I'd have thought of that otherwise!
I've been saving some of this stuff up for a week, so hold on to your underwear: 1. I hope I don't offend any of you about this rant. BUT while I'm all for people becoming independent reps through Plexus, It Works, 31 Bags, Mary Kay, Advocare, LuLa Roe, or whatever my friends' hearts desire, I am sooooo tired of them using social media on their personal accounts to hustle their product. I do have one friend who created a completely different media account for selling her product and then invited friends to follow her page. That is great to me. She is giving us an option to buy or even she all the stuff she is marketing without coming off obnoxious. I can even unfollow the business account without unfollowing my friend. 2. It's my last week of summer vacation with my daughter before I go in for preschool week. All we have wanted to do for weeks was to go to the beach, but every day it rains or is super dark/cloudy. I'm really hoping for us to catch a break sometime this week, but the forecast doesn't look in our favor.
3. I figured out that I can't eat my favor fruit, pineapple, anymore because it gives me really bad indigestion. -_-
4. Went to a birthday party for my daughter's daycare friend. Another mom (who is super tiny) asked if I was 5 months along.... Nope only 3 1/2, but thanks for that.
@canavara That is exactly how I feel about being asked about my gender preference. I just want to scream at people when they ask me do you not remember what I went through last year??!?? This baby's genitals are the LEAST important thing about it. Im team green and hoping no one is stupid enough to make a disappointed comment about the sex the day the baby is born.
themuffinman16, hugs to you. I have my own share of family drama and know how much it can eat you alive. Your mom's issues are HER issues. You are in the right 100%
@MandiB07 #1 is one of my biggest pet peeves of all time! And I hate hate hate those stupid online parties; I think they are the laziest, moochiest concept ever and when people host them I seriously judge them for it. At least 10 years ago when people held these kinds of parties they were actual parties with yummy food and, if you were really lucky, drinks and fun games instead of these lame online fill-in-the-blank things, not to mention the fact that you could actually physically see and hold the products being sold so you could decide if you actually wanted to spend your money on them. But hardly anyone does them anymore because online parties are so much easier.
Ugh. Clearly I have a lot of of pent up frustration over these dumb things lol
@BrennansMom2012 wow they sound really self righteous. I'm sorry to hear that that's your experience with your inlaws. You have every right being upset.
@Lkatz1826 please please tell your husband a million thank yous. Two days ago the fire was so bad that ash was falling like snow in our backyard and we're an hour away. The whole sky was purple around 4pm. Many people lost their homes and we are hearing orlf potential horse ranches being affected. Your husband is a true hero.
My SIL just posted on Facebook that they went and bought a bunch of school supplies for a local shelter (which gag, way to toot your own horn, but whatevs) and my MIL commented on it that's she so proud to be her mom. Um lady, you're not her mom, she married your son. Stop acting like you were responsible for anything she does. I'm sure my SIL loves it, she thanks her publicly for being a great MIL all the time (she's not, she's a passive aggressive brat) but ughhhhh it makes me twitchy. Just stop it. PS she's another to lay claim to my fetus and call it her baby. My only comfort is the my DD haaaaates her and it hurts her feelings which frankly she deserves.
Mine is more MIL drama which I feel is common around here...
So on top of calling our LO her granddaughter every time we see her she has insisted she will continue because she "knows" it's a girl even after my DH kindly and then not so kindly explained how offensive we find it and how it makes us feel like they won't love it as much if it's a boy.
I still correct her and say he or she every time she says she but it's getting frustrating!
We have told everyone we are team green but we decided today we actually want to find out...we just won't tell anyone.
On the millennial note - I just refuse the label lol. I'm on the earlier side but always included no matter whose marking the boundaries (87) and I don't feel I have much in common with those born in the late 90's or early 2000's. I feel like there is for sure a distinction between people who remember life before the Internet was available in homes and remember using dial up and people who have always had access to high speed internet at their finger tips. We are familiar enough with technology to not be intimidated by it (like older generations) but we are also fully capable of getting along without it.
I feel like I might as well be raising my first and screaming get off my lawn lol.
On the millennial note - I just refuse the label lol. I'm on the earlier side but always included no matter whose marking the boundaries (87) and I don't feel I have much in common with those born in the late 90's or early 2000's. I feel like there is for sure a distinction between people who remember life before the Internet was available in homes and remember using dial up and people who have always had access to high speed internet at their finger tips. We are familiar enough with technology to not be intimidated by it (like older generations) but we are also fully capable of getting along without it.
I feel like I might as well be raising my first and screaming get off my lawn lol.
@poetryandoceans I gotcha. I didn't think about the boundaries thing. My sisters and I say this to each other about each other's children (this is my first and they've both called it "their" baby already). Without really realizing it, our family has taken on the idea that "it takes a village" so everyone is contributing to the children's lives in one way or another. At the same time, we do respect the real parents parenting choices/lifestyle and try to stay within those boundaries when speaking with/interacting with their children. One of my sisters has a parenting style that I REALLY (like REALLLLLLYYYYYY ) don't agree with but at the end of the day those are her children and I respect that. I will get to raise my children the way I want to and I know she will shower my children with the same love and affection she shows her children. I guess I'm lucky in that regard.
Thank you for sharing that with me though. I would be super annoyed if my sister (the one whose parenting style I don't agree with) called it her baby then decided to guilt me or second guess me into parenting her way. The hammer would fall and fall hard.
Ugh. So my wallet was stolen a few weeks ago, which had basically everything in it. License, student ID, cards, etc. Well, got the license and cards figured out no problem. I go today to get my new student ID, which is how I get into all buildings on campus, access my classrooms, get to the animal facility, etc, because the card center on my campus is only open on Tuesday from 11-1. Of course, the officer who took my incident report said I only needed to take my case report card for them to reissue my ID, but noooo - it can't be that easy. I have to have a hard copy of a police report to give them. So, I'm supposed to go to the other campus on the other end of town, fill out a form, give the form to them in person. Then wait for an undetermined amount of time (2 days - 1 week) for it to be ready, then go back to the other campus, pick up the form, then go get my ID made. I called begging for a way to turn the form in without having to truck down to the other campus (using my broken foot and pregnancy to my advantage - no shame), and they are kindly letting me email the form in. So only one trip to the other campus, but SHEESH! They do not make it easy you. I just want to give a huge f*&# you shout out to the person who needed my ENTIRE wallet for $6.
I think DD is starting to transition to only 1 nap a day. This is the second day in a row that she started her morning nap a little later than usual and then napped for a crazyyyyy long time, waking up way too late for a second nap to really happen.
Super bummed about this for 2 reasons - 1) booooo I loved having a break in both the morning and afternoon! & 2) she's getting soooo big
@karaelaine1991 I dreaded DS transitioning to 1 nap, but it actually ended up fitting into our schedule a lot better. It freed up our mornings to do something fun without worrying he would be getting overtired. Now we are able to do an activity and get lunch before he goes down for his nap. Now he's usually a 1-3 napper so I still get some time to myself! It took some getting use to, but it works now. I do hate though that it means they're getting bigger!
@karaelaine1991 I dreaded DS transitioning to 1 nap, but it actually ended up fitting into our schedule a lot better. It freed up our mornings to do something fun without worrying he would be getting overtired. Now we are able to do an activity and get lunch before he goes down for his nap. Now he's usually a 1-3 napper so I still get some time to myself! It took some getting use to, but it works now. I do hate though that it means they're getting bigger!
I hope that's how it will be for us! I had to fight for her to do 2 1 hour naps (6 months ago she'd only nap for 20 minutes at a time ) so I'm really hoping that if we're really doing the 1 nap thing it'll at least be a good nap. But the free mornings will definitely be nice!
@karaelaine1991 I dreaded DS transitioning to 1 nap, but it actually ended up fitting into our schedule a lot better. It freed up our mornings to do something fun without worrying he would be getting overtired. Now we are able to do an activity and get lunch before he goes down for his nap. Now he's usually a 1-3 napper so I still get some time to myself! It took some getting use to, but it works now. I do hate though that it means they're getting bigger!
I second this! It's really nice to have one big chunk of time to work with for errands and outings, then a nap after. My 4 yr old still naps from 3-6pm and so help me he will go to college napping. I won't give it up without a fight.
Losing the morning nap wasn't too bad. It actually freed up a lot of time for activities or errands in the morning which was nice. Losing the afternoon nap was a killer though. My 4.5 year old will still occasionally take one, but for the most part he is done with napping.
@themuffinman16 I'm so sorry you have to deal with this! Like another pp said (sorry going through to see who it was takes effort:) it sounds like your step-mom is a genuinely caring woman who understands and loves you. Your mother sounds like her issues cloud out her better judgement. I can only imagine the hurt she causes. Try to do what's best for you and your family. Much love and prayers for calm coming your way!
@TexasGal24 my college girlfriends call my DS their little guy or buddy. My Aunt calls him her boyfriend and my best friend calls him his boy just as I call his girls mine but when it comes down to it they know he's my son. They respect the boundaries of mother and child. This doesn't bother me in the slightest and like you, I feel the love they give my son. My MIL does not respect the boundaries and acts/says things inappropriately frequently. I agree with you it does take a village to raise a child but my MIL is one villager I don't want a lot of assistance from.
@ceclarlinetlo I too refuse the millennial label, '84 birth over here! I want to shake people who are my age and tell them to wake up and stop being a drain on society. I am the crazy old lady who has yelled at kids for being on my lawn! Lol
@TinaBelcher I can only imagine what you go through! My 21 year old BIL is unemployed, uneducated, living at home and has no ambitions to get a job because his last job "disrespected him" and he "doesn't deserve to be treated like that". Btw, he was a server at a restaurant! *eyeroll*
@cjs260 thankful they're letting you email it in! Getting your wallet stolen is no joke and so time consuming! Hopefully everything gets sorted out soon!
Sorry to complain when it's not Monday, I feel like it's cheating, but I need to get this off my chest. I feel like I'm so behind on all the planning! All I did was wait for the first trimester to pass, but we already can't find daycare with no waitlists, and the Centering Pregnancy program that I wanted to do through Kaiser has no open spots for my due date anymore. I'm so annoyed at myself for waiting
What happened today was the essential equivalent of being told you have a hiring budget, you interview and tell people they have the job, then before the day of the interview is over, find out the budget fell through.
Its such a long and complicated story, but that's the short, uncomplicated version of what happened. Now I have bad news to deliver and I'm praying a miracle will happen. We could lose two great employees if something doesn't change, like, now.
@adorebella I'm in mourning over here thinking that my 21 month old is quitting naps. Today is day 6 of no naps. We switched her to her toddler bed (not by choice but nothing kept her in her crib) last week and she will not stay in. And she does dangerous things like climb on top of the dresser. She's so tire but she will not stay in her bed and nap. She does great at night though!
Holy rage today guys. It's 8:30 here. I've been up for 2 hours and have already muttered "for fucks sake" more times than I do in a typical week I'm sure. Plus I hopped up to save my carpet from DD spilling milk and ended up knocking my daily diet coke over onto the couch and spilling a good 90% of it. Can I quit today yet?
Re: Monday Bitchfest- 7.25.16
I cannot for the life of me figure out how to comfortably sleep with a pregnancy pillow in a way that does not result in me waking up with a headache. I don't even know what's causing the headache. I did something magical last week and they went away, but then I did laundry and washed all of our bedsheets and had to rearrange things on the bed and the stars are not in perfect alignment and now the headaches are back. I can't figure out if it's a neck support issue, too many pillows going on, OR totally unrelated to the pillow situation entirely and just something stupid like not drinking enough water before bed.
As a PGALer, I just can't really fully get behind preferring a particular sex. I literally just want a healthy, happy baby. It's not like I plan to treat it any differently if it's a male or a female. I called my mom over the weekend to tell her the sex of the baby and was like, "You gotta guess first before I tell you." And she was like, "Well I was hoping for a little girl but I know you wanted a boy..." and I had to butt in and say, "No, I wanted a healthy baby. I don't care if it's a boy or a girl." Then when I told her it was a boy, her reaction was "Aw." not like "Awwwwww yay!" but like "Aw, that sucks."
If we have a second, I don't even want to think about how she'll react if it's another boy. I wanted to ask, "Why do you want it to be a girl so badly" but I just wasn't ready for the answer because I was sure it was going to be something really stupid and gender-normative and drive me insane.
1. I hope I don't offend any of you about this rant. BUT while I'm all for people becoming independent reps through Plexus, It Works, 31 Bags, Mary Kay, Advocare, LuLa Roe, or whatever my friends' hearts desire, I am sooooo tired of them using social media on their personal accounts to hustle their product. I do have one friend who created a completely different media account for selling her product and then invited friends to follow her page. That is great to me. She is giving us an option to buy or even she all the stuff she is marketing without coming off obnoxious. I can even unfollow the business account without unfollowing my friend.
2. It's my last week of summer vacation with my daughter before I go in for preschool week. All we have wanted to do for weeks was to go to the beach, but every day it rains or is super dark/cloudy. I'm really hoping for us to catch a break sometime this week, but the forecast doesn't look in our favor.
3. I figured out that I can't eat my favor fruit, pineapple, anymore because it gives me really bad indigestion. -_-
4. Went to a birthday party for my daughter's daycare friend. Another mom (who is super tiny) asked if I was 5 months along.... Nope only 3 1/2, but thanks for that.
Ugh. Clearly I have a lot of of pent up frustration over these dumb things lol
@Lkatz1826 please please tell your husband a million thank yous. Two days ago the fire was so bad that ash was falling like snow in our backyard and we're an hour away. The whole sky was purple around 4pm. Many people lost their homes and we are hearing orlf potential horse ranches being affected. Your husband is a true hero.
I'm sure my SIL loves it, she thanks her publicly for being a great MIL all the time (she's not, she's a passive aggressive brat) but ughhhhh it makes me twitchy. Just stop it.
PS she's another to lay claim to my fetus and call it her baby. My only comfort is the my DD haaaaates her and it hurts her feelings which frankly she deserves.
So on top of calling our LO her granddaughter every time we see her she has insisted she will continue because she "knows" it's a girl even after my DH kindly and then not so kindly explained how offensive we find it and how it makes us feel like they won't love it as much if it's a boy.
I still correct her and say he or she every time she says she but it's getting frustrating!
We have told everyone we are team green but we decided today we actually want to find out...we just won't tell anyone.
I feel like I might as well be raising my first and screaming get off my lawn lol.
BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
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Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
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BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
Due 1/21/17
Thank you for sharing that with me though. I would be super annoyed if my sister (the one whose parenting style I don't agree with) called it her baby then decided to guilt me or second guess me into parenting her way. The hammer would fall and fall hard.
Super bummed about this for 2 reasons - 1) booooo I loved having a break in both the morning and afternoon! & 2) she's getting soooo big
Jan17 Sept Sig: Pumpkin Spice gone too far
@TexasGal24 my college girlfriends call my DS their little guy or buddy. My Aunt calls him her boyfriend and my best friend calls him his boy just as I call his girls mine but when it comes down to it they know he's my son. They respect the boundaries of mother and child. This doesn't bother me in the slightest and like you, I feel the love they give my son. My MIL does not respect the boundaries and acts/says things inappropriately frequently. I agree with you it does take a village to raise a child but my MIL is one villager I don't want a lot of assistance from.
@ceclarlinetlo I too refuse the millennial label, '84 birth over here! I want to shake people who are my age and tell them to wake up and stop being a drain on society. I am the crazy old lady who has yelled at kids for being on my lawn! Lol
@TinaBelcher I can only imagine what you go through! My 21 year old BIL is unemployed, uneducated, living at home and has no ambitions to get a job because his last job "disrespected him" and he "doesn't deserve to be treated like that". Btw, he was a server at a restaurant! *eyeroll*
@cjs260 thankful they're letting you email it in! Getting your wallet stolen is no joke and so time consuming! Hopefully everything gets sorted out soon!
What happened today was the essential equivalent of being told you have a hiring budget, you interview and tell people they have the job, then before the day of the interview is over, find out the budget fell through.
Its such a long and complicated story, but that's the short, uncomplicated version of what happened. Now I have bad news to deliver and I'm praying a miracle will happen. We could lose two great employees if something doesn't change, like, now.