Olive has to be held, worn or boobed into a nap. If she's boobed into a nap, she wakes up soon after and cries.
She can't self-soothe. We bedshare and she raises holy hell if i try anything different.
I realize i have to be firmer with her but when it comes to daytime sleep, her father and grandmother (who care for her during the day) do whatever is easiest. And it's just her and I going at it alone at night. I work full time and to transition her to a crib would mean nights without sleep for either of us, meaning that dad and grandma would just nap her all day to make their days easier and to catch olive up on her sleep. When i tried before, she began to reverse cycle because of all this so it had to be scrapped.
I'm taking a month unpaid family leave between november and december of this year and, if all else, fails, I'll just buckle down and get it done then, when i don't have to work in the morning. But it's a long time to wait while habits continue to build.
Are there any single mothers who have sleep trained successfully? I'm not single yet but my (as of now) husband has made no daytime effort to introduce the crib and, of the nighttime sleeping, has said "You got yourself into this, you get yourself out." My mother in law is wonderful but she ALSO works full time (fuller time than me - she owns her own restaurant) and it would be a huge ask for her to help out for a week of sleeplessness. And she will NOT miss work because she's overtired.
EDIT: I actually didn't search to see if other single or single-ish parents had any advice. Because i couldn't find the search bar. That's how tired i am.