TW Poll Results Posted

Neikoda · July 2016

NamelessAria said:
Also whoever wrote in that if someone is sensitive enough to need a TW they shouldn't be on this board and should move to IF/TTTC/TTCAL/whatever:

@NamelessAria Thank you. I'm glad to know I'm not just crazy and that other people thought that comment was tasteless as well. We have no control over our stories, and it is unfair to ask a community of women who have known each other for months or years to disband because you think the use of a TW is just too difficult.

ETA: TB ate my post.

mrsstuessy · July 2016

Coming from a recent loss I agree with @KirstinH88 and @izza2. I don't think every mention of a loss requires a TW. It seems unfair to me that I need to add *TW* every time I mention the word loss.

MandyBeeSLP · July 2016

I feel like TW's should be reserved for things that have actual been traumatic or tragic. That's the whole point, right? So that someone else who has suffered can avoid that psychological trigger. The mere existence of children are neither of those things. I work in a school, children are a part of my life. Women on this board have children, or have nieces, nephews, friend's children etc. in their lives. It is excessive to have a TW for children. TWs should be for things that cause real suffering, not things that may make us a little sad.

I feel like everyone else has the rest of the stuff covered. This is just one thing that irks me.

beary67 · July 2016

I also agree that mentioning a loss does not warrant a trigger warning. I'm experiencing a loss and seeing others talk about a loss does not trigger me, but I know everyone is different and I want to be respectful of everyone. One thing I've started to do is use the spoiler box so if someone is having a hard day and doesn't want to read a lot my loss, they can just skip over the spoiler box. Using the spoiler box might be a good tool as well.

KirstinH88 · July 2016

@beary67 how does someone put the spoiler box?

beary67 · July 2016

@KirstinH88 you just type out what you want to put in a spoiler and then select that portion and click on the icon that looks like the paragraph symbol and then click on 'spoiler.'

I ❤️ The Bump!

KirstinH88 · July 2016

Oh cool! I have seen a few other people use it previously, but never knew it was so easy!

Nice!

virginiaham · July 2016

Re: not using a TW for every time I mention loss, I feel like there is a sliding scale talking about loss in varying detail, emotional or otherwise. Maybe specific examples would help the discussion?

Specific cases that I feel don't need a TW are filling out the WTO/TWW daily form and mentioning that I am TTCAL, and statements like, "CM has been confusing after my loss." Or, "I didn't get AF for x weeks after loss."

Rants where I am going into more emotional depth, I'll put a TW out of courtesy the those who might not want to dive back into the emotional struggle with me today. Any details of the loss itself I'll always TW.

KirstinH88 · July 2016

Completely agree with you @virginiaham

izza2 · July 2016

I agree with all of the above about when to use/not use TWs - in depth vs just mentioning.

izza2 · July 2016

Bumping this

J1D · July 2016

izza2 said:

I agree with all of the above about when to use/not use TWs - in depth vs just mentioning.

I honestly think you sumed it up best.
Casual mention of something, for example merely using the word, should not require a trigger warning.
Speaking in depth about a subject, giving details of what happened and/or the emotions or physical effects one felt/feels would be a respectful time to use a trigger warning.

I would go so far as to say a clearly titled thread in progress with a sensitive topic already under discussion shouldn't require a trigger warning each time someone posts to respond. For example a thread regarding loss that has a TW in the title and opening post shouldn't require further warning by anyone else discussing loss.
Where as a thread that was previously discussing ice cream flavors and favorite time of year should have a trigger warning on a new post when someone switches topics to discuss loss in detail.

Eta: I hope I didn't just zombie thread this! I didn't check the dates first

Sorry. I *think* this is still an active topic? Hopefully, maybe, yes?

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