It is with a broken heart I have to say goodbye. On July 8th around 7:30 I went to use the restroom like usual. When I had wiped There was almost a golf ball sized mucus plug. I hadn't been experiencing any pains so at first wasn't too worried. Called my OB and they said just come down for a quick check. When I made it there they laid me down , and did a quick look at my cervix. I had already dilated to 3. The moment they confirmed it, it was just a complete whirlwind. I was rushed via ambulance to another hospital that had a NICU that would be best for my 24 week son. Once we arrived there they started pumping me with magnesium, and pain killers for the contractions I was now having about every 5 minutes. Within a couple of hours they put in an epidural. We were doing everything possible to halt the labor. I was restricted to bed. Had a catheter.
I was able to hold my son Atreyu in until the 12th. The contractions restarted and were about every 3 minutes apart. When my water broke my little guy was literally reaching out my cervix and grabbing the doctors hand. They tried repositioning him but he just wouldn't cooperate. They rushed me to the operating room for an emergency cesarean. I was put under general anesthesia so wasn't awake to see my son enter the world at 5:05pm. I finally woke up in the recovery room. I was reassured that Atreyu was doing as well as could be expected with how tiny he was. His daddy had luckily been able to see and touch him so it helped settle me a little. They had me rest so that when I was able to move I would be able to finally go visit my son. Around 11:30 that night neonatal contacted us stating we needed to come to NICU immediately, Atreyu was having a complication with his lungs
. By the time I was finally able to move into a wheelchair they said that they had stabilized him once more. I finally was able to see and touch my precious little miracle. He was so incredibly tiny and perfect. Had lots of short dark hair on his head. He had daddy's cute nose and mommy's long toes. He was perfect to me in every way. We visited him for at least an hour, in heaven with seeing our little angel who was fighting like the little warrior he was. Unfortunately the next day, maybe 12 hours later we received the news that once again his lungs were having issues. They had me and daddy sitting outside his room as they tried everything in their power to help Atreyu fight......Unfortunately this time there just wasn't a way. They told me and daddy that we could hold him as he left..... Me and daddy took turns holding our little boy as he left this life to the other. They pulled all his little lines and stickers and tubes so we can put him on my chest skin to skin as I sang to my son for the last time. Everyone there at Providence was incredible with their support. They even set up a professional photographer to come take pictures of our little family.
I wish all you women the best, you and your beautiful babies. Maybe one day I'll be back. Who knows. Best wishes and lots of love to you and yours.
Re: Heartbroken (sorry so long ) possible trigger
Baby GIRL born 9/16/201
BFP! EDD 8/1/2019 CP 4w2d
Fell in love: Dec 2005 // Married: Feb 9, 2013
Little Miss Rosalie Harper--Born Jan 9th, 2014
Married to DH for 6 years (together for 16)
DS born 12.13.14
DD born 10.15.16
BFP 1.24.18, MC 3.13.18
New Bundle of Joy- EDD 10/27/16
I am so sorry. I was also a part of this birth month, but our little girl, Hope, was born in silence on June 17th at 24.5 weeks. I had been diagnosed with an incompetent and dilated cervix at 18 weeks on my anatomy Sono, but was able to keep her safe for 5 more weeks at home with a cerclage and bedrest. Then I was hospitalized because I dilated again (this time 4cm and she was breech and kicking) but kept her safe inside another 1 1/2 weeks. One night, though, I suddenly developed a high high fever and they quickly found an infection (likely spread because I was so dilated) which took our little girl fast to heaven and nearly took my own life. I spent 4 days in the ICU, and now 1 month later I am still recovering physically (in PT to regain the strength I lost) and emotionally.
It is SO SO hard, but it does get easier. I hope you'll join the Late Term Loss group as well. There will be huge ups and downs, but you'll find the ups get longer and the downs get shorter. Those who have walked this road before talk about a "new normal". I haven't gotten there yet, but I'm starting to understand what that means.
Sending love your way!
PCOS baby due October 09, 2016
Beta #1: 22.5
Beta #2: 74
BFP #1 January 28, 2016
Felicity Joy, born September 2, 2016
My Chart
BFP #2 September 11, 2020
EDD May 23, 2021
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
Truly heartbreaking - thinking of you and your husband during this extremely difficult time.
Me: 28 DH: 27
BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016